 And to combat all men, we have black men don't cheat, which is usually a sentiment that black men say, right? So those things kind of obviously, they clash. But do you know why black men even say that? Enlighten me. Enlighten us. Black men, first of all, it's like Jovial. It's kind of like light-hearted, something like that. But I think the more academic piece of it is like... Listen, it's the message right here. Black boy, tell me how you really feel, because I just want to build with you. Black girl, tell me how you really feel. I want to keep it real with you. I want to live better, eat better. I want to love better, sleep better. Yeah, I want to feel so aligned. I want to talk about Fall Men Cheat. Why Men Cheat? If Fall Men Cheat. That video that we watched the other day. Oh, it's... With Anthony O'Neill. Yeah, I watched it. Yeah. He's asking me, do all men cheat? And I know we've had this conversation before, and I've heard this from you before. This isn't going to be anything new. But yeah, I want to talk about that, because that's going to be another... What's the incentive of a long-term relationship with someone that's going to cheat on me anyways? Do I feel safe? I'm sorry, really quickly. Go ahead, guys. Can I feel safe? Because, I mean, the thought of having a husband is cute. The wedding is cute. Well, that's cute. Being like, oh, my husband, that's cute. It feels good, blah, blah, blah. But in reality, you hear people's reviews, married people's reviews on marriage, and they don't really look all that happy. And so it's like, is that the road that I want to go down? So that's another, I think, barrier to entry of, is it just easier for me to stay single? And I guess I just want to talk about a female perspective, because I'm obviously not a man. But if I'm an attractive woman, getting my itch scratch won't be an issue. Like you said, I can go and I can pay for services. What's the incentive? So yes. Do you think all men cheat? Okay. Do you think married people are really happy in relationship? All of the same. These are two different things. Let's start with do men cheat. Do all men cheat? No, but the ones that you won't do. And that's because 90% of women want that same dude. So this whole expectation of male fidelity is relatively new. And I think it's part of, and I don't think it's necessarily bad, but I think it's part of female empowerment and things like that. Like at the core, the message, or my message to women is like, the guy who's absolutely not going to cheat is not the guy you want. Right? Because when you're naming stuff, you're naming stuff, oh, you want him to be six-foot and you want him to be, have money and you want him to be charismatic and you want him to be attractive to a slew of women, but not be attracted to any of them. So it's either he's going to be gay, a monk, or there's a likelihood that he's going to cheat. Now, I've said it before, I think cheating is more so about, it's more so about opportunity and maturity. Okay. Right? I think men's biology, we're biologically predisposed to spread our seed. That's the reality. And we don't have the same cost that women have. Right? Right? Like, yeah, we can both get STDs, but only one of us leaves here with another human being inside them that they could potentially die carrying to full term. So the consequences are different. And even like we talk about the chemicals released in the male brain versus the female brain and at what levels, right? Like women, there's an biological incentive for a woman to want to bond because not only does she need to bond with her child's father, she also needs to bond with the baby. So like women thinking that these things don't matter and I can do the same thing men can do and it should be weighed just as heavily. It's not consistent with biology. So for women who cheating is a huge deal for women who like they just can't get past that, I would have them reevaluate their list and realize that, okay, that's six foot thing. Maybe I need to compromise that. That six-figure thing. Maybe I need to compromise that. Some women, oh, he got to be in the NBA, he got to be this, he got to be like, get real. Yeah. Get real. Right? So, you know what I'm saying? All men do not cheat. There are some men who even like fit those things that women want, who won't cheat maybe because of religion, maybe because of just self-control and discipline and it's a kind of self-imposed principle of his. But those types of men are even a smaller minority and a very small minority. And that I think should be the biggest conversation because it's interesting that we have all men cheat, which usually is a sentiment that women have, and to combat all men cheat, we have black men don't cheat, which is usually a sentiment that black men say, right? So those things kind of obviously, they clash. But do you know why black men even say that? Because they remind me, remind us. Black men, first of all, it's like Joe Vio, it's kind of like lighthearted. Yeah, it's funny. But I think the more academic piece of it is like, stop branding us as the face of infidelity. Okay. Stop, stop branding us as like, we're the mascot of not just misogyny, but also male infidelity. Yeah. That's historically inaccurate. Okay. So maybe it should be black men don't cheat any more than anybody else. So I'll have a question. What's the difference between black women are abrasive, they don't smile, they're not kind, and then soft girl life, compared the two, between the black men don't cheat and the soft girl life. Because you said black men don't cheat is don't, brand us as that. A woman might say, I want to live a soft girl life, this or that, because I'm tired of being branded as abrasive, mean, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Is it not kind of similar? I can see how that could be a little bit complex to put together. Well, I think the difference though, generally is like, men are expected to pay the price of admission into relationships, right? Like women for all intents and purposes just need to show up. I think you can make the argument, well, my makeup costs this much, my outfit costs this much, this, this and that, but like, the expectation is I'm paying for the date. But is it not, don't do men not, aren't men not the ones to like initiate committed relationships or initiate those things? And that's the point. So like, if we were to use like the college analogy, you're the university. I'm the one seeking admission. So it's my resume that matters. Like the idea is that you are already valuable. I have to prove my value to you to gain access to you. I feel differently in modern relationships. And to bring it back to what I was saying previously about when men my age are confronted with committed relationships, men really do hold a lot of the cards when it comes to the relationship. The relationship. So if we're going with the analogy of the university or technically the men not the university and women, the ones being like, Hey, so are we, what are we doing? You have the first right of refusal. And before we even get to that point, there's a bunch of, I understand that, but there's a bunch of shit I have to even do to get in proximity to you to then disappoint you that I don't want to be in a relationship. So it seems as though this at some point, the scale, that's what I've been saying. And I think that is also a biological thing because we talk about rose-colored glasses. Men walk around with rose-colored glasses. We walk around pedestalizing women that we want. And then when we get in proximity with her and we realize her breasts think in the morning, we realize that, you know what I'm saying? She's not as fashionable as we thought. Her skin don't look like that. That's Instagram filters and makeup. And she falls off that pedestal. And especially if sex has been involved, now the roles are flipped. I had to prove myself to you. Now you have to prove yourself to me. Is that where we're missing the mark then? We're missing the mark because women don't think they have to. Women expect the effort that it takes for me to get into proximity to you, but women don't expect that there's any effort necessary for you to prove to me that it's worth taking the risk on you and entering a relationship and things like that, especially marriage in the modern day. Because from a legal system, women hold all the cards. So if women's soul men is valuable, if women's soul black men is humans, there might be a little bit more consideration about our hesitation with jumping into a relationship. There's a lot for us to lose. There's a lot. Thankfully, there came a point where we have, now, relationship is in my hands. Yeah, shit, I'm going to be. Women are doing 90-day challenges for the part that they hold. But it's like, you should have married me six months ago. Like, no, I need some time. Okay, so do you think that, I don't know if this is kind of going right a little bit, but I need some time, Comet. Do you think that women are not giving men the time or the space to really get to know them in the beginning? Or do you think that black women are rushing and that's what's causing that feeling of pressure, that feeling of, oh, now I have to ghost her. Now I can't leave this situation in an eloquent manner because she pressured me. And I feel like.