 Make sure we're live. Kick in. Nice. Hi everyone. This is Chicho. Welcome to my channel and welcome to another live stream and today is February 4th, 2020 and we're doing an open discussion on relationship, the dos and don'ts of human interaction. And we've done a couple of these so far. I believe two three, four maybe. I'm just gonna pop up the chat and basically the discussion here today is just gonna be our societies, ourselves, the way we interact with other people, friends, family. It could be on a group basis, even global. It could encompass geopolitics as well because those are relationships, right? But in general, these discussions have been about our own personal interactions and they're fun. We learn a lot and we try to figure things out. As most of us know if you've lived long enough, we realize that most of the intense feelings you have in life, some of them anyway, both positive and negative are because due to our interaction with other people. Again, positive or negative, right? So we're putting some time aside to talk about it. It usually takes a little bit of time for people to pop in. I still have a little bit of cough left. I've been talking a lot lately so that's stressing out the vocal cords. Let me show you, I got my tea as always, as almost always, right? Got a glass of nice big glass of water and I got some homemade mum-made cookies. Look at this. What's that stuff called on top? Icing sugar or something like that? These are almond cookies. They're very delicious. Very good. They're moon-shaped. There's like four left out of all the box we got. So I've been munching on these going crazy with that stuff. Yesterday or yesterday, two days ago, we had our current events live stream. Tomorrow we're gonna have a live stream on mathematics, a couple hours from 2 to 4 p.m. PST. We're gonna open up the, have a two-hour session and talk about high school math if you need help. You can pop by, ask questions and we'll try to help you out. There's some people that pop in that know their mathematics very well during those math streams. Most of them better than better than I. And then the next day we're doing live stream, evening stream on the coronavirus. Okay. Where I put out a video already. During a math stream it came up. Let me bring that video up. It just came up. I'm not sure why we ended up doing the stats for that. It just popped up right? And we sort of just basically put the data that we had. We graphed the growth of the coronavirus and did a sort of estimate of what might be, might, what might not be where things are going. And we have more data since we did this stream. And I've already created a spreadsheet and graphed some of the data just to see what it looked like just to give myself a visual. Okay. Let's see what it is. So we're gonna continue on from that. I really want to take a look at the data. That to me is the interesting part about it. Just to see what the growth factor is and whatnot. I hope it dies out soon. And it looks like it's going linear. Right? It's start-off exponential. It looks like it's going linear. The infection rates anyway. Okay. As I learned that I'm gonna have a little bit of cookie while we chill. And we can talk about stuff. I'm okay just random, going off on random topics, right? But nice. Like a wet napkin. Race or kill, how are you doing? These cookies are addictive. I've pounded back a few so far. Very good. Very delicious. By the way, earlier today I released the Julien Assange WikiLeaks live stream that we did part six in December. The live stream we held in December. I forget what it was December 9th maybe. But I'm only releasing it on Pitchute. I didn't release it on YouTube. It was a little bit on the... It won't pass the YouTube sensors. The video will get nailed and will be flagged on YouTube. So it's only available on Pitchute. That one that went through part seven. And that one is okay to load on YouTube. So we'll be loading that on YouTube as well. It will go on Pitchute and will go on YouTube. And I'm cutting out one segment from part seven to load up. So low as long as the processing works out. It should be up tomorrow. Okay. Just give them one a heads up. And then we'll figure out what we're gonna do for the next Julien Assange WikiLeaks live stream. Lonely Piggy, how are you doing? Yo yo. Hope everyone's doing solid this week. So far, I think people are coming out of the insane January that we had. I know a lot of people that are burnt out. Me included to a certain degree. Right? Me included to a certain degree. I have students that are like exhausted. They can't wait till summer and January just started. Just because of like the... In my part world anyway, because we're a hub for Asia, I have students that are going to school and many of the kids are wearing masks. Right? So that for teenagers, for adults, it's traumatizing. Adults, kids are being traumatized now. Right? I agree it's the same here. January was a crazy way to start the new year so much so quickly. Yeah. El Rapido. It was like boom, boom, boom, boom. You couldn't even... People weren't even take a breath. Right? I had students at the beginning of January talking about World War 3 and all the memes that they were sharing about World War 3 and then as soon as that sort of died down and you had the zombie apocalypse. Linux master. Linux master. Are you trying to be a bad boy? If you are, I might time you up instantly. I'm very chill mode right now but I like to stay that way. You're welcome to chill out. I just show pictures of me. No Linux. No links allowed. No links allowed. You should create a what do you call it? Twitch channel and live stream. Live version of you. Why? Why? Why pics? Hi cutie. Hey Zoot, how are you doing? Still getting things back in order from the Superbowl party? Oh my god, what a chaos. Just going to lurk which is probably a good thing. Probably. Maybe. It's pretty quiet right now. Sparkle, how are you doing? How's life? He's very chill right now. It's funny. Some of these streams we get like a crazy amount of people popping in and some of the streams are like la la la la la la. Which is fantastic, right? Which is fantastic. They're both great. Love both of them, right? It's like X. How are you doing? Linux, don't don't don't don't trim your bear. Your bear might not appreciate being trimmed. Oh no, it looks good. Start live streaming. Linux, you're on Twitch. Start live streaming. Yo Dante, how's it going? How's life? We starting off today with a laugh. Fantastic. We like it. Starting with a laugh is great. Maybe because I'm eating cookies. I took a bite out of this one already. I'm going to pop the rest of it. These are homemade cookies. Mum made them, almond cookies. I got the recipe for these. I know how to make this but I haven't made for 10 years. But I am going to pop this. I no longer have a torso. This is my troll. I tried to trim my bear yesterday. I no longer have a torso. Delicious. It's like the best biscuit style of cookie with tea. It would go amazing with coffee as well. Actually it does go amazing with coffee as well. Once we get into making pastries, I'm going to show you guys how to make these as well. Linux, check this out. I'm going to time you out brother. What did I do? I brought out a thingamajig. Time out. I timed you out brother. We can do silly talk another day. Okay. Garlic cookie I see. No. Almond cookie. I'm not popping garlics but I should be actually. Hola. Hola Gavin. How are you doing? I wouldn't mind. I actually wouldn't mind finishing off the jar of pickled garlic that I started. I just got to do it when I don't have students. Can't eat a jar of pickled garlic and go teach them mathematics to kids. Never hard enough time paying attention when they're learning math. Let it all with the tutor, the teacher talking to it with a garlic breath. They go crazy, right? Como esta. Bueno. Gracias. I think that's all I know. A cerveza. And hola. That's right. On topic though. I've been trying out the various dating apps these last few months since I haven't really had the time or honestly the will to go out. I'm not a big club guy and the slightest bit of drinking gives me headaches. The apps work fine but conversation never really goes anywhere. It's a struggle. I did a little bit of app online stuff way way back. When was it? Oh God. I can't remember. 20 years ago. When they came up, right? It was okay. It was for socializing. Made some friends, short-term friends and stuff. Yeah. There's a barrier, right? When you meet people initially, there's very few people that that's why a lot of, just so people know in the western world, I'm not sure where everyone's from, but in the west, in Canada anyway, and the United States. Clubs are huge because that's the place where you people drink and stuff like this and socialize and whatnot. But listen to music and what not. But when people start drinking and reduces your inhibitions, right? So people open up more. So what needs to happen is people need to spend a little bit more time together and really don't be in a rush to allow people to drop their barriers. It's a tricky thing. It's a tricky thing. It's a tricky thing trying to meet people. I mean you can join clubs and stuff, but again, that's very focused on that one thing. You are not your entertainment, right? You are who you are. You have multiple things that you like to participate in. It just takes time and luck. You know what I found out? Finding the right person to chill with for a while or indefinitely has a lot to do with luck as well. Be a lot to do with luck. I'm persistent sometimes. Interesting topic today. We all admire traits we don't have. I can still admire others because I'm not stuck in my own vision. That's a great way of putting it for sure. And one thing I've been lucky. I don't, you know, whatever it is. I've been lucky, but the luck that I've had with relationships is I've, for a lot of my important relationships, I've taken a lot, learned a lot through those relationships, right? So one thing I look for in relationships is what Zoot mentions here, where they have something that you don't have or they have something that you admire, you like, and you like being around. Because slowly you're incorporating some of their loves into your life. So you're taking that on and hopefully they're taking on something from you. So it's all about sharing and growing, right? So any any long-term meaningful meaningful relationship you've ever been may it be on a friend level, a family level, on an intimate level, whatever on a work level, social, whatever it might be. Try to learn through all of those relationships, right? It's incredible. It's living life, right? That goes into your resume of the experiences you've had, the type of people you're able to interact with and whatnot. And if you're a male, and if you can grow facial hair, I highly recommend living life, both with and without facial hair, right? And sometimes go large and sometimes take it all off, right? Because your outward expression really decides what doors are open to you or whatnot, right? Really, living life with a goatee is different than living life with a full beard and living life without any facial hair. Yeah, I feel cozy today. Today is, today I've been working early on editing, processing, doing the stuff. I was doing a lot before the stream started because during the stream, I wanted to be nothing on my mind, just taking care of business, right? Just chill chill. And then after this, I'm not sure what I'm gonna do, but I got more work to do. That's for sure. Right? Function AB goes to A, A plus B equals zero is Z times Z to Z is not injective, but surjective. So it's an injective. It's not bijective. Just goes, I don't know. I found some of that hilarious, but I have a, I have, I'm hoping that there's a really intricate mathematical layered joke in there as well that it's above me. But that cracks me up, right? More in depth. Lonely piggy, I'm not a shy or timid person either. I can talk to anyone about anything, both in person and online. There's definitely a lot of people on dating apps who it seems aren't super willing to meet up. I've, you know, what lonely piggy I encountered that as well back then, right? I can't really blame them either. Our social society sees a lot of paranoia. My last relationship was found through an app, but it didn't last long since both of us were mostly in it for the action. Don't think I'll be finding anything worthwhile on an app. Lonely piggy, I found whenever I say, whenever I've said, I said, oh, I give up or it's not going to happen, it happens, right? So I wouldn't be good level, even though I do as well, right? Just a little thing of encouragement. I agree with you. I don't blame people for being, you know, cautious. We live in a pretty crazy world right now, right? With a lot of, a lot of, I don't even know what you call it. Like I've personally, I'm glad I went through a lot of the dating experiences that I've had during a different period in our societies where people were more chill, more relaxed, people were more, a little bit more open. Less superficial, less about image, more about content to a certain degree. From the first get-go anyway, right? You know, people didn't have pages of themselves with lots of pics and stuff like this. You had to work at it a little bit. There wasn't a history of someone online that you could look at, right? Before meeting up with them and talking with them and, you know, forgetting about the small talk and getting into the deeper conversations, right? I think a lot of this initial exposure of people saying who they are, what they like and all this jazz is, is preventing a lot of people from digging deeper into why some of these things are what made them so, right? It's, there's a lot of noise to go through. Hey Chih-chou, long time no see. Did you happen to hear about the passing of the, yeah, I heard about Neil Perth and Trapid Brother? Oh, sad, sad, sad. Brain tumor, right? If I recall correctly, brain tumor. I didn't know he was sick. I didn't know he was sick. He was one of the greatest musicians and lyricists in rock and roll history, in music history, really. Like Neil Perth's lyrics, he wrote most of the lyrics for those of you who don't know. Neil Perth was a drummer for Rush, Canadian band, and progressive rock band, I guess you could call it, but they had, you know, they went all over the place and they were, they went around for 40 years, right? And Neil Perth was the drummer for Rush, and Rush was a three-member band, Neil Perth, Stuart Copeland, and Alex Lifeson. And Neil Perth was a drummer, sorry, Geddy Lee, jeez, I'm giving the police name. Neil Perth, Geddy Lee, and Alex Lifeson. Geddy Lee was the bassist and the singer, and Alex Lifeson was the guitarist, right? So three-piece band, bass, synth, Geddy, stay away from the synth, right? And guitar with drums, right? All three of them were considered to be three of the greatest musicians of our generation. For the last, however long they've lived, right? Since the 1970s, up to now they were considered to be three of the greatest musicians in their fields, right? With guitar. There are others, but there were no top five of anyone, right? Neil Perth not only did he do the drums for the stuff, and you, you watch Neil Perth play the drums, you'd be blown away. He wrote most of the lyrics for Rush. You read the lyrics for Rush, it will blow you away, right? Amazing, amazing, amazing. Neil's lyrics changed my heart, yeah, for the better, right? It's insane how great they were, being only made of three people, yeah. Agreed, hell, I've been on the fence about meeting with a few matches myself too. Then again, you don't go around asking a complete stranger to found through an app to meet up right away, yeah. Like you said, a lot of noise to go through first. You can, you can easily tell what a person is looking for through that first bit of conversation. Some Rush, others take their time, yeah. The first meet-up, the first meet-up you realize, yes or no, you could have read everything they did, you could have talked for online, you could have talked for weeks, and then when you meet in person, it's just not there, right? So you spend all that time getting to know each other, which is okay, but you could have interacted with others as well, right? What was wrong with me? Linux. What did you say before? I forget what you said, Linux. You said, what did you say if I wanted to see pics of you or something? I'm just not, you know, the conversation we're having right now is more chill, more general. There's a lot of places, Linux, a lot of places you can go to to have the conversation you want from the looks of it online. They're countless places to go to, really, really. Some places will love it if you want to show show them your pics. That is a ban. Linux you're out. See, we have Auto Mod running too, so it zaps things, right? Yeah, Intrepid, very sad, but you know what man, I found out you wanted to be called Pirt. I call him Pirt all this time, but I'm gonna call him Pirt, Neil Pirt. He lived his life to the fullest. Dude, the guy did well, right? He had one life to live and he lived it well. No one can ask for more, no one can ask for more, right? We have almost 8 billion people on this planet, 7.9 billion of them probably would be ecstatic to have to be able to say that. We had one life and we lived it well, right? Surely, talking to people online lets you meet the real person rather than what people display in public, no? Atomic? Great, atomic. Atomic? Yes, it can, I agree. I have friends that have met people online where they're together, they're intimate, they've been together for a long time and stuff like this. For sure, for sure, for sure. Not talking down on online meaning I've done it myself. I've had amazing relationships where I've met people online, right? Or they've contacted me online and we've met and conversation takes off and we hit it off. For sure, for sure. But you have to put in a lot of time, right? Finding, going through the noise and being selective, if you are selective, if it's not just on a kink or superficial or whatever it is, if you want an in-depth understanding of who the person is you're going to be interacting with, it takes a lot of time to go through a lot of profiles to find people you want to reach out to, right? It really depends. Zoot. Eduardo, how are you doing? Welcome, welcome. Zoot, how mathematically quantified life comes movie creator? Think about how many times you think about that other person in a day, subtract the number of times you think about yourself. If it ends up a positive number, that's love. That's like Zoot. That's blackjack card counting. When it's positive, do you pound the bet? That's love. Here, here. I'm 23 now. I've been dating on and off since high school. Long distance, open with benefits. Don't think I really know what I want yet, which I feel might be keeping me from meeting the right people. Lack of will to go out most days to surely. Lonely piggy, you're 23. Brother, I have, I tell people this, right? I say like 20s for most people that I know is a blur. For me as well, blur, right? I could honestly say I had my head up my ass in my 20s, even in my 30s, right? So my thing that I tell people, I don't know if it's a joke or I mean it or what not, but I do mean it, right? So, but don't take everything I say with a grain of salt. For me, I generally, I tell people that no male is ready to commit to a long-term relationship unless they're at least 35. So for men, 35 or more is when they're almost grounded. They know what they want and what not, right? For women, I say 30 or more. So 30 plus, 35 plus, that's when, if you want to get it really serious, settle down with someone and stuff like this, sure. Before then, do as you will, right? Within reason, of course. We're still growing during that period. Coming out of our education system, people graduating high school, you have no idea who you are. Zero. You have to spend the next 10 years trying to figure out what it is that or how it is you want to interact in the world. Yeah, I guess. And being online also opens you up for people to like more pathologically than in person. And it becomes, your imagination sometimes take over, you expect too much before you meet people, you talk to them. So you create your own persona to a certain degree. I'm literally losing my mind. They are rigging the primers. Yeah, Dante. Dante. You know, I feel everyone. I feel, you know, I feel the pain. I feel like really majority of people want, want our societies to be what we think they can be, right? But man, we talked about there's there's no way the DNC is is a legitimate institution, the Democrat is a legitimate institution that gives rats ass about the American people. It's run by oligarchs, technocrats, whatever you want to call them. There's no, like, they're going to try to rig it again. They rigged it in 2016. That didn't rouse people up. People thought that was a one off event. Hell no, we talked about this. Of course, the Bernie Sanders, Tulsi Gabbard. Okay, we'll deal with this right now just because it's come up. For me, the best results coming in coming out of these elections to 2020 elections would be if the Democratic Party splinters creates two different parties. And if the Republican Party splinters and creates two different parties, the most ideal situation, the best case scenario, right? For the 2020 elections, everything else is garbage, right? The best case scenario would be in 2021. We see four parties in the United States of America. That would be ideal. The rest of it? No. Sleepy waves. How are you doing? 28 to 34 for women. Yeah, I would say above 30. A lot of Anuj, a lot of women, females, I don't know what the correct terminology is anymore. You know, I really don't. It blows my mind. I cannot speak English on this on this level, right? But for me, 30 or more for women, because for men in the late 30s, they get antsy in the late 20s, they get antsy. For women, there's a lot of women getting antsy in the late 20s and late 30s as well, right? So transitioning from 20s to 30s and 30s to 40s gets people really anxious. Both men and women, right? There's a timeline for women, for sure, the biological timeline. So theirs is much more intense to a certain degree. But both men and women feel that. So I would say not the late 20s. I would say early 30s is okay. Early 40s is okay. Late 20s and late 30s dangerous, right? There's a lot of chaos there. You're right about it. It takes 10 years after call. It takes 10 years. Yeah. But some people are naturally so mature. They are. But our world, our society is whack. Atomic. Thank you very much for the Twitch Prime sub. Appreciate it. Lonely piggy. Man, the crazy times for me were 18 to 21, did lots of stuff, experienced different vibes. Now I'm much calmer with my goals set straight and trying to carve myself a path of ended relationships that I had going since the very beginning of high school. Cool. Burn some bridges. Some I regret, but don't see myself moving backwards only for awesome lonely piggy. The burning bridges I did as well when I was younger. And then as I got older, I burn less bridges because you have less bridges to burn, right? You've probably been a whole bunch of burning already, right? But it's always nice to clean house. It's always nice to clean house. Like you can't keep a ton of relationships from high school. Everyone grows and changes and stuff, right? Four party system, which that's the ideal thing coming out of elections. Sleepy waves. Chicho. What advice would you give for trying to figure out what you want need in relationships? I am in a current situation where a friend of mine are occasionally hooking up and she isn't available emotionally with with a friend of mine or occasion. However, I can't tell if if truly require that emotional bond to continue or dynamic. Talk to your partner, sleepy waves or talk to your friend, ask them what they want as well, right? You can't a relationship is a two way thing, right? So whatever you want your relationship to be with your friend, friend benefits partners, stuff like this, really important to communicate. Don't be overwhelming. Don't don't force your opinion. Say, I want this, and I don't want anything else. Right? If I can't have this, I don't want any, like, don't put yourself in a corner where you're forcing the other person to either commit or move away, right? If you care for them, and hopefully if they're their friends, your friends before you hooked up, then you like them for who they are, not for the benefits you have, being more than friends, right? So don't burn your bridge by putting yourself in a corner to a certain degree and don't burn your bridge by making them feel extremely uncomfortable. Just ask them if they're willing to go deeper or not, right? Or if they're okay with this, some it might freak some people out, right? So be gentle. Know your audience, know the person you're talking to. Sausage, chicho, good to see you on. Awesome Sausage. Good to have you here. Sausage, Rossy double or 07, not 007. I think to be honest, the biggest issue issue when you're young, you believe love is the key factor. But what you want is to be content and love each other that way, which comes with age. Yeah, and one thing regarding that atomic, atomic mentions as well, in any relationship, going to the relationship in the mindset that you're going to try to make their life better. And hopefully they're doing the same thing for you. So that might, that might mean you're going to take on some of their burdens, that might mean you're going to help them out when they're in a jam. So what your intention should be going into any relationship, of course, is to learn to grow, to, to be intimate, to, to have people have someone to listen to and share your emotions and stuff. But one of the key factors should be, you're there to make their life easier, right, to help them out. And if you go into that relationship with that mentality, initially, your partner might not feel the same way. Or, you know, if you're just starting out, they might be hesitant, or they might not understand what it is that you're doing. But slowly, if it's not being reciprocated, right, if you're, if you need help, they're not there. If you explain to them, listen, one of the key factors in your relationship is for you to be there for them. And you would appreciate it if they were also there for you, right? So for sure, it's not, and people just say, Oh, love, love, there's, love is one emotion. It must also, it's got to be a mix of everything, right? And some people confuse the lust with love as well, right? Hi, Chicho. Gian, Millie, Millie. Can I call you Millie? Hey, Chicho, I love your How to Read a Textbook video. Nice. It was a good video to do. I liked it. I've been meaning to do that video for so long. Going to, going to the topic, I know myself two long term. I know myself two long term couples which first met using Tinder. I used to look at date apps suspiciously, but now I changed my mind a little bit. Yeah, for sure, Millie. We talked a little bit about it's already come up a little bit regarding dating apps, right? They're a good source. They're a good place to start if you want to start, right? If you don't know where to start, it's not a bad place to start. And you get out of it what you and one thing about the dating apps, be honest. If you if you're just looking for benefits for intimacy, say so, right? If you're looking for casual say so if you're looking for long term say so, right? It cuts out the noise. It cuts out. It allows people to decide if they want to be there or not. And if you think everybody's looking for long term intimacy, you're wrong. There's a lot of people both male and female that are looking for short term pleasure, right? So whatever you're looking for, be honest to yourself, fill out the forms, explain yourself and for the ones that you know, you require writing something, write something legit like don't go generic, speak from the heart if that's what you want, right? If you're into just pleasure, explain what it is that you want pleasure from, right? And man, you'll get hits, right? According to what you're looking for. Be honest, basically. Chico, any tips for handling, handling anxiety and or panic attacks? Ah, saucy Rossy. For me, I've been in situations where I need to get away, right? I need an escape and I leave, right? Situations where your heart's pounding like mad. I usually breathe it out. I usually realize I tell myself that, you know, I don't have enemies here. And by the way, this is this is in a safe space that you're in. If you're in a bar or a club, and there's serious encounters happening, aggression being shown, you should feel anxiety and anxious, your heart should be pounding, you should be on your guard and get yourself out of those types of tight situations, right? So we're not talking about situations that come up that really deserve for your anxiety to go up because that's, you know, what is a fight or flight mode kicks in, right? But if you're in a situation of social setting that you're feeling anxious and nervous and stuff like this, just realize that everybody we're all the same, everybody's feeling the same damn thing, right? Chill, breathe. Like I don't, I really, it has varied for me so much, right? And I don't think I get anxiety attacks the way some people do, right? And I've been around people, some people only get anxiety attacks or they start sweating and they freeze up and whatnot. I think when the time to stop it is way before then when you're starting to feel the anxiety, find a corner or find somewhere where there isn't so much motion and breathe a little and maybe listen to listen for that music in the background playing or something like this, right? I'm not sure if this is good advice or not, man. Because anxiety and stuff I know a lot of people deal with it in a big way. I don't think I'm one of them, right? Even though I've had times where the heart's pounding, man, the sweats kicking in, right? Communication is key. But sometimes that's not the easiest thing to do. No. No, it's the hardest thing to do actually. Hey, Chichohana, how are you doing? Not sure I told you, but I got a new job with a Microsoft vendor. So excited. I started Monday. Nice. You did say you got a new job a while ago. I think this is the one you said the previous bosses weren't training you while and stuff and you found this new job where I got confused. I thought these were the bad people. That's cool, man. Congrats. So you don't give people like me much of a chance. Married and started popping out midgets in college. Not the big 30 yet. I don't care about the sexual act involved in cheating. What I care about is the reason why you need to do it. I agree. Right. And that is all about the communication you have with your partners, right? Popping out little midgets straight out of college. Atomic is difficult because no matter your age, love really clouds every man who is judgment. Yeah, we're all, we've all been there, right? If that person, after all, the basic relationship stuff doesn't doesn't make you happy, then your life will not be fulfilled. Yeah, it'll become miserable. There are times there's people that I've seen that love each other, but man they should not be together, right? They're just destructive together, right? I think I need to take a Bill Hicks break. Saucy Ross, Bill Hicks break. That's one thing that definitely does it for me. I haven't had to, I haven't not had to. I've had to take one but I've been so busy. I haven't had the opportunity to take one. I will be this year though. I will be this year though for at least a couple of weeks. Bill Hicks breaks are the best. And well, I can't say how can a person engage in love making with multiple partners without offending the original partner? Hannah, it's easy. You can communicate. There's open relationships all the time. Some people don't like them. Some people swear by them, right? Breathing helps so much. Yeah, it sounds like you're looking for polyamorous. Yeah, I got so jinks writing that long comment and you missed it. Brother, I hope someone got some use for it. It was for the for the heart. Nicky, what did you write? Nicky, your comment didn't pop up. Ah, did we miss a comment? It didn't show. Hey, Chico, sleepy waves. Is there is there an emotional exercise tool that can help, that can be helpful in identifying what you need for a relationship? Meditation. Meditation. Spend time alone. Spend time alone. Think. Deal with the noise. Clean out your house. Clean out the garbage. Get rid of clutter. Get rid of all the things that are high frequency, right? In your life. And spend time alone, solo, walks, beach. Just looking at people. Go sit somewhere in the city, buy yourself and just watch people. People watch. See how people interact. Figure out what it is that you're interested in. I'm in a space where I have capacity to share my life with someone else, but I'm also working on my self-career. Awesome. I am dating with the intention of it being casual, not looking for a long commitment, but I do require some emotional intimacy. But I'm not sure how much. Like what kind of emotional capacity I would expect from a partner. Hope that makes, yeah for sure it makes sense. Sleepy waves. My recommendation would be reduce the amount of casual dates you're going on. Really. But it's hard to meet someone that you're looking for in a longer term thing, right? But if you know something is just casual when you're dating someone, reduce the frequency that you're meeting up with them. That's going to open up time, space, freedom for you to maybe start encountering people that you want a longer term relationship, right? A lot of people are afraid to let go of something that they're enjoying to possibly make room for something that they really want to immerse themselves in, right? So if you're busy every night, exaggerated, but let's say every night you're going out on a casual relationship, how can you meet someone on a more longer term relationship? Unless you guys are just going out as friends and mingling with other people, right? So it's all a matter of timing, budget, right? Do a to-do list. What do you have time for? What don't you have time for? If you don't have time for this and you want to make it a part of your life, reduce the amount of, you know, you have to compromise, you have to sacrifice a little, right? I guess it wasn't meant to be. Oh, it wasn't meant to be Niki. Do you think it's better to spend more time around the lover to get to know them or time apart? Time together for sure. Initially time together, 100%. But if you spend too long together, you start taking over granted and you might get in a bunch of others' nerves, so you do need the solo time. But if you're starting out to get to know someone, I'm a full firm believer in gobalistic. Like I've known people that, you know, they're really interested in a person, both of them, right? And they date for five years, like two, three, you know, one to two to three nights a week they're together, right? I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum. If I find someone interesting, you immerse yourself, you see them a lot, way more than two or three times a week, right? And that way if you don't mesh well together, at least you found out in six months instead of three years, right? So I'm full believer in jumping in. How can I find out of my company drug tests? I want to smoke recreational cannabis, but don't know if they drug test. Most tech companies don't. Look in their website. If their website doesn't say anything, talk to a co-worker that you trust, or talk to your boss, say, hey, listen, because you're in Washington, Hannah, cannabis is legal. What you could say, you don't have to say that you smoke cannabis, you could say, oh, I go to parties and there's people smoking and, you know, have friends that smoke, you know, I'm still breathing in the air, that stuff might get into them. My bless is when you guys test. If you guys test, then I'll stop going to those parties, right? Then they can't hold you against it, right? I'm not the biggest fan of open relationships myself, even though I've been in one in the past. It always keeps me on the fence thinking, what if a lot? I tend to be a pretty jealous partner, but I'm working on that part of myself. Cool. And there's nothing wrong with wanting a monogamous relationship. I think that's fantastic. Most people do. Most people don't want polyamorous. I think it's polyamorous, right? I honestly got told I was laid back and carefree as a criticism. What do you think would be the best way to contradict that? I want to say things. Maybe that's just too carefree, right? Carefree and too laid back and carefree. Yeah. Ask them what you want them to be pissed on, pissed off about, right? Tell them what really gets your blood flowing, right? I don't know. I don't take that as a criticism, right? I don't even know how that could be given as a criticism. Oh, you're too laid back and too laid back and carefree. I would just turn to them laugh and say, I care about things, right? Open relationships aren't for everyone. I was asking to be in one and decline because it's not for me. Always best to be upfront. Always best to be upfront. 100%. I'm not yet hired so I don't know any co-workers. I just don't know how they could bust me since it's legal. They can't. I don't think so. Unless you're operating heavy machinery and stuff like this, for heavy machinery you need to be clean, right? I'm not doing any illegal drugs, i.e. agra, cannabis, which is legal. But, you know, for example, alcohol is legal in most places in the world, right? But you're not going to drink and then go go to work, right? Or go operate heavy machinery and stuff. You shouldn't, right? That rule holds for anything else, right? You could search online, Hannah. I agree, man. What do they want from a carefree person to be stressed out in your mind? Crazy, crazy, right? Ask them what you want them to care about. What do they care about, right? Or what are they passionate about? It's also work from home position on the computer so no machinery. That's good. How many years until all drugs are legalized? Right? Oh, man, I don't know. Hannah, it's going to be a while. Gicho, any advice on not idolizing? I feel like I am attracted to big, bold partners and I tend to put them on pedestals currently trying to cut the short circuit and not project so much on the other. Sleepy waves? If you like something, then you like something. Do you call it idolizing? Is that what it is? Or is that the type of... A lot of people have this belief that we shouldn't be attracted to a certain type of people. But you are. One of the best things I ever heard. One of the best things I ever heard. I don't know where I heard this. It might have been a show. It might have been real life. It might have been a movie. It might have been a book. It might have been a comic book. I don't know but someone mentioned something. The conversation went Picasso, all three long-term partners of Picasso, tried to kill themselves. Right? And the person turned around and said, so what? So he had a type. Right? There's nothing wrong with having a type. Right? Maybe... I'm pretty sure Picasso was pretty depressed too. Maybe he was attracted to other people that were depressed. If you like people that are... What did you call that? Big, bold partners? There's nothing wrong with that. Right? That is what you're attracted to. We all have things that we're attracted to. Right? It doesn't necessarily have to be physical. It could be emotional. It could be intellectual. It could be anything. Right? I don't know why... If you're idolizing him, if they're your kink, then yeah, you don't want your kink to rule you. You want to rule your kink. Right? Your kink is your tool. So you have to draw a boundary there. Right? I've looked online many times. Haven't been able to find anything. Anna, I don't know. I've never been in that situation Anna. So I don't know how to deal with that. If you always have weed, it can stay in your system for one to two months. I guess if you're worried, don't have it for for that long. Yeah. Atomic. Great advice Atomic. Thank you. Right? Yeah. Just when are you going to start working? Take a break from cannabis. Right? There's nothing wrong with taking a break. Right? Stop drinking alcohol for a while. You'll feel amazing. Right? Give your time, body time to recoup. And as Atomic says, don't partake for a few months until you get into the rhythm and you show to the company that you're really good. Right? You're worth your weight in gold. Right? You're producing phenomenal work for them. And then see how things go. If they require testing after that, there are kits you can buy that purge that stuff out of your system. Cookie. The second cookie. Any addiction is bad addiction. If you find that's a problem, then look for someone to help you. That's what I would say. Yeah. Great advice Atomic. Great advice. I want to do it tonight. Though I enjoy using cannabis one to two days a week, I barely even use alcohol since I started using cannabis. Hannah, it's up to you. It's your life, how you want to live it, right? If that's the way you want to live it and the work doesn't allow you to be able to live your life the way you want to live it, then maybe you should find new work. If your work is important and cannabis, if you're addicted to it, then maybe it's time to reconsider your predictions, right? When cannabis may lose weight, I eat watermelon when I get the munchies. Cool. Oh man, my comment doesn't show up. Is it too long? I try writing. Oh no. Nikki, I don't know. Maybe don't do it so long when the text is too long. The comment I think should tell you that is too long. So do it in chunks. Write a couple of sentences posted. Write a couple of sentences and post it. I'll read it all in one shot. Oh, I'm sorry if it's doing that. Dwych. What type of cookie is that? It looks great. This is homemade. My mom made this. It's almond, very crispy, and it's got icing sugar. Is it icing sugar? What is that? Powdered sugar on top. Okay, it's really good. I know how to make this. I used to make it in the 2000s when we had a farmers market going on. We'll try. Thanks. Okay, Nikki. I'm not addicted to it. I don't use it daily or depend. I can only handle one to maximum otherwise. But Hannah, if this is going to interfere with your work and if you need to stop doing this to make sure you keep your job, a job that you, I'm assuming you really like, that you need, then you need to stop that if that job is on the line. I don't know what your job is. Since you brought it up, it might be a concern for you. Have you ever found yourself being too self-conscious in a relationship and then having an effect that is, oh yeah, for sure, Intrepid. For sure. 100%, right? We all go through periods where our self-esteem is low, right? Where we might have made mistakes or we're anxious or we think we're under the lights or we're questioning our decisions. That affects your relationship with your partner. If one of those things, if work is important, then don't do it as simple as as you know. Yeah. I met my wife as she served me beer during a festival. I had been in a lot of relationships by then, all unique and different, but none like her. Nice. Nice. So I have some, some of my closest friends or people that I met that they were either bartenders, servers, or working in the industry, right? I moved in with her, married her, had kids with her, and I still feel like we're barely beginning to to get to know each other. Awesome. Awesome, Nicky. Sleepy waves. What kind of tools are helpful when carving out boundaries with people? For instance, last time working through boundaries with someone, we talked about physical, emotional intimacy, work, mutual circles. What else can be helpful in considering, that's a lot of stuff right there. Sleepy waves, emotional intimacy, work, mutual circles, health. Health would be important. Food, diet, just and everything, but that stuff should come up slowly. Entertainment is important. The type of music you enjoy, the type of movies you like watching, the type of shows, the type of books. What you do on your past time is really important. Okay, it's okay to have different loves, right? That your partner doesn't want to do and the odds are she does stuff or he does stuff that you don't want to do, right? But it's really important to mesh in the middle somewhere that have similar loves where you want to spend your time. It's so strange, Nicky says. I sometimes can't believe she's real, not because she's so amazing per se, but because she's so different from the type of person I usually enjoy. Nice, Nicky. Dude, sounds like you're an amazing relationship. Hannah, but they haven't started whatever I can do it or not per company policy. They never stated it in the interview. Hannah, if you're worried about it, stop doing it. So you don't, you know, you don't start off on the wrong foot with the company. If they haven't said anything, it's up to you. Really? You got two choices. You got to do one, right? You either continue the way you are or stop this, solidify this for a few months and then start this again if you enjoy it or look somewhere else, right? Or look somewhere else. Today I'm getting the cough more. I'm not sure why. I've been dealing with a lot of students and for those of you who don't have kids in school, have never dealt with education system or forgotten how the education system works, the second half of the school year is busy time for students, for parents, for everything, right? Coming out in the winter because people are trying to get their marks up and they're realizing they're failing something and they're trying to do a lot of work and stuff like this. So school season just picks up, picks up, picks up, goes crazy. Insane. Don't get this online dating thing. How hard is it to find where like-minded people congregate? Zoot, very difficult. Really? Very difficult. When it comes to dating, never date anybody you are not sexually attracted to. I disagree because sometimes you can start dating someone and then slowly start becoming sexually very attracted to them, right? And who knows when you will find the best friend or the other sex of the other sex? You get what you put time into. Yeah, I agree with that, Zoot. But a lot of people live busy lives. A lot of people, because of the internet, because of the information, free-form information, people could be living in a community where there aren't too many like-minded people around them, right? So you have to be online to meet like-minded people. People are interested in the same things you are, to possibly arrange a date where you meet somewhere and get to know each other in person more. I think it's difficult. I think it's difficult. Advice for letting go, particularly when you will mostly like see the person again. Mostly will most likely see the person again, I'm assuming. That's what I'm saying. Time, it's just time, right? Coronavirus, coffee, no. But mind you, I did get it. The flu I got was the first day of January, right? That's lingering around, but it was a virus going around in this part. But sleepy ways, I would say time. No matter how bad you feel, like how much you hurt, how painful it is, how much of a void is left in your life when a relationship breaks up, right? Give it time and slowly that pain subsides. Slowly you will meet amazing people because you have a vacuum, right? You'll meet amazing people and get to know them and fall in love again and have amazing relationships. Just don't be bitter about it, right? Nikki, let's check it out. Continuation of the story, we like this. I was coming out of a spiritual and psychological metamorphosis when I met her and I am very grateful that I was able to put aside expectations to begin a journey to a land unknown with this person. Pay attention in life. We don't always know what we want. Nikki, very well said. And pay attention because sometimes an amazing thing crosses your path and if you're not aware you might accidentally miss it, right? You can't catch every amazing wave that comes your way, but catch some of them anyway. An amazing people. Well said, Nikki. Twitch was killing this beautiful message. Did I hear a school? Hello, peeps. Just call me, Hund or Lurky please. Okay, Hund. Welcome to our stream. I think it's fair to say that those you love don't have to love what you like, but have to appreciate that you love what you do and they should be happy with that. Yeah. Terms and conditions apply. Terms and conditions apply for sure. And one thing I could say, and I'm guilty of this as well, in when you have relationships your partner might like something that you find silly. Don't make fun of your partner's loves, right? Because what they'll do, they'll slowly stop sharing that love that they have for this thing, whatever it might be, and that's something you're missing out of their lives, right? So whatever they love, whatever they like, right? Even though you might think it's silly or stupid or whatever it is, don't put them down for it. Let them appreciate it and sometimes appreciate it with them if you get the chance. You'll get to know them better, right? And if they, if you care for them, if you think they're intelligent and you love their character and stuff like this, if they love something, man, there's got to be something there to love, right? So enjoy it with them. Okay. Hello. Hellfire. 1212. After 25, I no longer felt hurt from relationships. It's like I don't care anymore. Hellfire, how old are you right now? Right? It could be just a wave you're going through, right? The life is a wave. Sometimes you feel this way, sometimes you feel that way, right? Lurky. How are you doing? I like the little puppy you got, the emote. Gorgie. Hey, this community brings it out of me. Nice. Thank you for sharing it with us. Really, 28. Yeah. Hellfire. After 25, you've only lived three years after 25. You're 28. I can honestly tell you, you're going to get, you're going to fall in love and someone's going to break your heart and man, it's going to hurt. Congratulations. You felt love so hard that it hurt, right? That's a good thing. I feel like it's really hard to form relationships with people if you don't really know why you want need in life, especially in other areas of life. So you're meeting people from a place of strength instead of need. You don't have to be meeting people in a place of strength or need. You're meeting people through your life cycle, right? Sometimes you're riding high, sometimes you're low. That wave hopefully is not going to last in one location, neither high or low, right? Hopefully you're going to go through waves. Sleepy waves don't overthink the relationship too much, right? Just put it out there saying, okay, you want someone to enjoy shows with and see where that takes you. You would like someone to go for walks with, to share food with, to cook with, to hold hands with, to be intimate with. Just slowly put it out there and see where it takes you, right? It's not a business venture. If you're going to get married, it's a business venture. You're signing a contract, you're forming a corporation. It's a business venture. You should go into it as a business venture, right? Hate to say it, but if you're going to officially do paperwork at the government or religious institution or whatever involved in your business, then it's a business venture. But if it's two people you're in a relationship and you care about each other, just spend time together. Just spend time together. If you find that they're not introducing anything delicious into your life, then maybe you can move on if you like, right? But if you find that you're enjoying a lot of things that you wouldn't be enjoying, if you weren't in this relationship, then man, it's not a bad thing, right? I don't know about everyone else, but think if anyone loves something, it's a beautiful thing. It doesn't matter what it is. Yeah, atomic. Well said, right? Well said. I'll put a little disclaimer in there. There is disclaimers in there, right? For sure. But well said, for the most part. We all likely love something that's really silly to someone else anyway. Yeah, I mean, try to explain to people you love reading comic books when you're a full-blown over the over the top adult, right? They're like, what? I love it when people enjoy whatever they they are doing and are passionate about it, whether I understand it or not. Like two of my friends studied physics and work with lasers now and whatnot. They often explain stuff to me and I enjoy listening because they just seem to light up spark joy on that point. Yeah, it's great, right? We need a lot more than our lives. Amazing people have amazing friends. A lot of guys hate when they fall into the friend zone. If the guy only cares about getting in your pants, he is not all that amazing. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Even though they may be amazing or suck really badly in the intimacy part, right? Really depends what they want, right? If they just want it in your pants, then that's what they want, right? They don't really care about the whole other part of a relationship, right? I don't know if I agree with this 100%, but I love that song that Idris Ilba sings in Prometheus, quote, if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with, you're trapped on an alien planet, so hilarious. I don't know if I agree with that. I think that's that's something they were selling to generations in the past that there was a lot of people from previous generations that got married out of necessity, right? Or arranged marriages and stuff like this and they end up loving the one they're with, right? Because they can't have the one they love or haven't found them. You know, one thing I don't really put out there on my dating apps profile is my growing collection of statues and action figures. I'm big on those. Spent a lot on that hobby these past few years, but it's not something I think women my age will get per se. Not too confident about that hobby yet. Lonely piggy. One time, actually twice, I was starting dating people and I, one of them appreciated, one of them didn't get it, right? I took them comic books. I said, hey, look, read this. One of them was like, actually the word like both, like what the hell? One of them thought it was funny, right? And it was appreciated, right? The kink or the hobby, right? But they didn't really get into it. And I never mentioned on any of my pages on dating stuff that I had a comic book collection, right? So that's more something to come out during conversations where you can laugh and explain. I mean, I'm a programmer, sometimes I find myself explaining something I find cool, but I see their eyes glaze over and I know like planes to abort. That's funny, Tom. Yeah, for sure, for sure. Some people, it is what it is, right? It is what it is. Like I get into politics hardcore, right? I love politics. I love economics and when I go off on this stuff and link up a few different things, I can see people are like deer eyes, right? They're like looking at me like, what? It's hilarious. And then once I started something, I'm going to flow and it takes me a little bit of time to sometimes look at a goal. They totally lost me. I'll bring it back. I'd like to discuss the advantages of virtual C++ destructors. I hope the coughing is not too loud. This is a surprise for those I do eventually meet up with or just hook up with. This is the action figures. My room is full of them displayed everywhere. Definitely very awkward more times than not. Some just brush it off. You just see people when I had comic books on my wall, they come in a comic book. So what's going on? I put them, I put, if you see some of the comic books I have, I put them in big frames now, right? So there's like legitimate expensive frames. I put them in some of the comic books like $1 comic books. So the frame gives them more of an artistic feel. So people don't go, what the hell? It's funny. It's funny. I'm a C++ programmer and even I'm a boarding. Fun. What are we in? We're an hour and 20 minutes or so. Fun conversations gang. Good laughs, good laughs. I think this is what we all need, right? That is drink water. That bot just gave me an ultimatum. Thanks for the conversation. It's been great. Hope to catch you all again soon. Peace, Nicky. Thank you very much for sharing your story and typing it out three times. A beautiful story. Your partner is very, very lucky. Very, very lucky. As are you. As are you, as you stated. Fun. Definitely fun. What are we doing tomorrow? Tomorrow we're doing mathematics. Lots of love right back, brother. Lots of love right back. We're doing mathematics tomorrow, by the way, from two to four. Two hours high school math. You got questions, pop in. We'll answer whatever we can, right? And Thursday evening from 8.30 p.m. to 10.30 p.m. Pacific time, my time. We're going to look at the coronavirus, look at the data. Atomic. What kind of math are we doing? We're doing, basically, I'm making myself available for a couple hours to help people in high school. So high school mathematics. Pre-calc. Very little statistics. I'm not really going off on the stats too much. But basically, high school mathematics. High school taught in Canada, which is way lower caliber than high school taught in certain other parts of the world, and probably higher caliber than mathematics taught in other parts of the world, right? So pre-calculus. We go as high as basically doing trick functions, trick ratios, logarithms, exponentials, and graphing, and stuff like this. It's definitely funny because you wouldn't think I collect that kind of stuff. I'm being on anime, so fans of that tend to understand it a lot better. Yeah. By the way, lonely piggy. I get the previews catalog every month from the comic book store because I have a poll box there, right? So Elphire math is math. Interesting. Yeah, for sure. From 2 p.m. to 4 p.m. tomorrow. Pacific time, my time. Okay. Contra. How are you doing? Welcome, welcome. But what I do on the back of previews, most of it is comic books, but on the flip side, there's about this much of action figures and stuff like this. So I always flip through that. A lot of cool things in there math, and some of it ridiculously expensive. Like action figures that are like $450. I see some that are like $800. It's like, oh my god. That's lovely, that is. The terminology is different from the UK, but sounds good. Yeah, the terminology is a little different. In the UK, you call it maths. We call it math here. No s at the end. Google it. There are even pure virtual destructors. Makes sense. Really? I gotta get it. One day I'll get into programming. Maybe, maybe. Ridiculous, expensive indeed. Yep. I know that feel all too well now. Yeah. I've, I only bought one action figure from the previews that I've ordered in the last, I don't know. I've only, like I don't have a toy collection. I don't have an action figure collection, but I ordered this. And that was the action figure from the, what was it called? It was the live action show that had a cartoon in it as well. It was a barbarian. I forget what the character is called. And I knew the show was going to be canceled. Like there's no way that that was going to last more than one season because it was too amazing, right? Too niche. So I ordered that action figure. That's the only one I got. And I have other toys from previous years. When we were childhood like transformers, He-Man and stuff like this. 4F4 figurines are beautiful. If you like video games, statues. Cool. But also very expensive, very expensive. I've seen some of the video game statues as well. Wow. Wow. They look beautiful though, right? They look beautiful. If someone wants to learn programming, I recommend Python. C++ is how, is it? Okay. C++ is powerful though. C++ has been around forever now. Like so long now. I don't, I doubt you. I doubt you not. But I work 12 hours plus a day and CBA to think of programming during these times. There's a reason a lot of games are written C++. Are they? Most gaming is C++. I've been putting paychecks on these things a lot. There's crazy work put into them. I love it. I hate what it does to my bank account. But love the hobby all the same. I did have to cut back quite a bit compared to when I started though. Yeah. I go through waves with comic books as well. Not most, but a lot, but a lot. Okay, contrast. C++ for gaming. By the way, Lonely Piggy, these statues, are they increasing the figurings? I'm assuming some of these are increasing in value, right? They have good resale value. Yeah. Modern games in Unity are written in C hashtag. Much nicer than C++. C number sign. I don't even know about that language. Learn Julia if you want to do scientific computing. Julia. Really? I've never heard of that either. Electritor. Electritor. Red as C sharp. Is that what it's called? C sharp? Wow, that's cool. I didn't, I don't, never heard of that. C sharp. That tells you, tells you almost the last time I looked into it. Modern games in Unity are written in C++. False. It's funny because it's true. The boxed ones tend to, tend to, yeah. Oh yeah, not open. Problem is, I collect out of box. Display it in cases and stuff. Cool. So if you take him out of box and display it, the value drops, yeah? That's unfortunate. I would want to display it too. I was just watching a funny and interesting video on games that literally can't be beaten. Back in the 80s and 90s, devs did that to get more money out of people trying, huh? That's funny. The video games, the arcade games, yeah. Some of those games were ridiculously hard. So hard. Donkey Kong. Was it Donkey Kong? That was one of them? Ridiculously hard, man. Ridiculously hard. Once you open them, value tends to dip a bit. Okay. Chicho, do you have a partner? Yeah. Contra. Yeah. This book shelf is mainly hers. It's my longest relationship ever by long shot. What sort of books do you have on your shelf? A lot of these are food, health, nursing, crystals, esoteric stuff. I got lots of math and physics and construction books, comic books, science, science fiction, some politics, philosophy. Oh, Gambit. It is C-sharp because of the musical term of going up from C to C-sharp. Oh, that's what it is. That's cool. Cool. That's super cool. Green tech. How you doing? Yeah. Sometimes in order to fit the game on the machine, they would delete the ending altogether, thinking nobody's going to get this far anyway. Crude, but also sort of funny. Is that what happened? 64-bit games. They got 66. Oh, gotta take out the last two-bit. Oops. Any advice for someone who finds it difficult to be vulnerable to people, meet people? Contra, my first bit of advice, don't try to be vulnerable to everyone. Like for me, I think I have a hard time with that personally or I'm very selective or vulnerable too. I met people that are just everything on their sleeves, as they say. They're hearts on their sleeves, their emotions on their sleeves, and it gets too much. Like, oh my god, this emotional role of those are Jesus, Luis. And some other people, be solid and with the right person, you can let loose. That being said, we all go through periods where we're wearing our hearts on our sleeves, that world is too much, and we have to let it out, right? So it really depends. It really depends. I would say be selective, personally. And once you find the right people, don't overwhelm them in one shot and share as well. If you're being vulnerable to them, don't use them as a doormat to wipe your feet, and every time you see them, be vulnerable to them. Allow them to show their vulnerability to you as well, right? It's a two-way thing, otherwise it won't work. Wish I could show you my main books. I have a random array of C plus book and physics books. I don't have a bookshelf, so it's just piled on the floor. Ah, atomic. I got videos out. I got two or three videos out. At least three, I'm pretty sure at least three videos out of showing you my book collections. There's more I have to make. There's a couple I have where we're actually filling up because I built this bookshelf. So I built the first phase of this bookshelf. We fill up this bookshelf, or show you the books that I put on this bookshelf, and then I put a top layer on it, and I showed another video of unboxing books and stuff. I have a fair bit of actually programming books as well. C plus plus and some of the other ones and C and Fortran and Pascal and whatnot. I don't know why I kept those. I'm only vulnerable when I'm around my best friends and some family members, okay? That's a lot of people though. Best friends and family. I'm not vulnerable around all my best friends or all my family members. There are only less than five. Less than three, maybe. Green deck. I don't know. Less than five, for sure. I think for me, I did better when I stopped actively trying. If you are trying to be vulnerable or make a relationship you have with someone serious, you are kind of barreling towards a goal rather than being in the moment and natural, you know. Okay, cool. That's a good way of putting a green deck, for sure. That's cool though. Serious. You're kind of barreling towards a goal rather than being in the moment. That's cool. I think if a woman doesn't know you enough, being vulnerable with her will make you appear weak and hence non-desirable. To some, maybe. To some, maybe. Depending on their age, by the way. Is there a collectible channel on Discord? I show you some of my pieces. I don't know. On our Discord page, you can put it in the comic books, because I'm assuming some of these are related to comic books. That'd be awesome. Post pictures in the comic book section, lonely piggy, for sure. Or we have an anime section as well. So if you have anime, oh dude, for sure. If you have anime action figures, post them on our anime Discord page. I thought initially you said on Twitch, is there any collectible channels on Twitch? Collect on our Discord page, for sure. So anime page folder and comic book folder definitely fit that category. And if you have action figure movie TV shows, post them in the film folder. Right? And if people want, we'll create a whole folder for action figures and stuff. Like figurines. That's called figurines, I guess. And if you want, let me know. I'll create a folder if you want a specific folder for figurines. I'm 23 and haven't really been in a serious relationship while my peers are getting married and whatnot. If they're getting married when they're 23, they're idiots. They're too young. Okay. Most of my life up to this point has been my focus on making a living. I'm not really a sociable person in general. So I never really have sought out a relationship other than just physical needs. Contra, 23 is young. I can honestly tell you I never got into any major serious relationship until I was older than 23. Well, much older than 23. Right? So don't be in a rush. I knew people too that they got married when they were 19, 20. Man, what a nightmare that would have been for me or anyone that would marry me if I was 20 or 20, you know, 19, 20, 23. If I was in my early 20s, I would have felt sorry for anyone that would have married me. Right? It wouldn't have lasted. It would have been a nightmare. Evening all. Mick Silva, how are you doing? Hope all is well. Doing good, doing good. Yeah, me too. I don't have a lot of best friends. Are you man or woman, Contra? I'm a guy. All relationships take a lot of work. The not dating unless you are sexually attracted to them gets me in trouble, especially with my gay friends. To many of my single male friends, tell me many women are just looking for a free meal queue. A way to a woman's heart is not through her stomach. Actually, if you cook for them, you'd be amazed. Cook for them. That gets a woman or anyone falling in love with you so fast. I don't know if it's a cultural thing, but I notice American people are lots of friends where I'd say they're just people I know. Yeah. Yeah. And it's, and I think to a certain degree, it's the whole internet culture, you know, all have friends, like some of these social men, but how many friends do you have? A thousand? A thousand friends? That's crazy. You can only remember like 125 of them. Right? Oh, we got a troll. A long, hundreds of years of chat with people. I'm watching Good Streamer. Wait a second. Are you guys going to spam this chat with your dog? Okay, time out. Time out. I don't want to grab it, but I'll time out anyway. Harden travel agency. Time out. Life isn't cut and dry. You just need to live and find someone who makes you happy rather than lustful and keep your self going. The marriage is a one off, but like people moving in together, years of being together, et cetera, it makes me feel kind of lonely. Contra, I've gone through the same periods. Really? I've gone through the same stuff. We all do. Right? Time solves it. You will meet someone. I've gone through periods where I couldn't communicate with anyone. It wasn't messing with anyone. You get lonely. And then all of a sudden, when you're not looking, wow, what was that? And then you're in an amazing relationship for however long it lasts. Sometimes you break apart and break your heart and get lonely and when I was 23, I was a romantic kind of an idiot. It takes time to learn those things. Yeah. Yeah. Me too. I had two main relationships. One childhood from 14 to 19 and 19 to 23. Now I'm 25. Many people are also getting married and having children. And I couldn't think of anything worse. Right now for me, it's just having fun, building my life, portfolio, by working, securing security. Until then, I'll pass. You'll find someone too. Yeah. Contra, seriously, don't be in a rush. I know sometimes you just need that connection. Most of us, almost everyone has been through that. Right? I would say sometimes enjoy the lonely periods because once you get in a serious relationship and connect up long term, you won't have that sensation. Right? Sometimes those lonely periods get you reading books that you would have never read. Going out to places where you never would have gone. Right? So use it as a catapult to get you more life experience. I can only cook pasta then cook it well. Right? Learn how to make nice sauces. Have a little salad on the side. Right? Bipster. Hey, Chico, I need to speak out loud about how I feel about my father. Alzheimer's is too fucking taught. Yeah, brother. By the way, guy, girl, no matter family matter. What? By the way, guy, no matter family matter. Yeah, brother, Alzheimer's. I've known people with dementia, Alzheimer's, Parkinson's, MS. MS is different than Alzheimer's and the mind. Right? Giving way. Brutal. Brutal. Brutal. Yeah. Like, there's no other word for it, man. Left up is right. Oh, for sure. I probably have a have a have an in real life circle of like 15 or so friends. But I consider three of them true friends that if I was really in a tough spot, I know they drop anything to help me. Nice. I think you have to realize sometimes just because you would you would go so far for someone doesn't mean they would go just as far for you with friendships and romance. And that's something to consider. And that is something to consider. For sure. For sure. Thanks, everyone. Contra says our pleasure, Contra. Really, we've all been through it, man. And for sure, as Green Tech says, during hard times is when you find out who your friends truly are, right, who you can count on. And that's a good thing. When you go through hard times, everyone thinks it's all bad. It's not all bad. You find out who your true friends are. You find out which family members you can rely on. You find out your own finances, your own abilities, your own powers, right? And then when you build yourself back up again, you're so much more powerful. Your vision is so much grander and you've cleaned house, right? Being single is the best all the time for yourself. You do dress, live in any fashion you want, and you don't have to listen to several hours or talking about problems, work with her friends every day. You just feel like a king. And to the degree I agree with you, being single is amazing, right? As is being in a relationship, right? Single life is, if you use your singleness properly, it's brilliant, brilliant, brilliant, right? Just have the feeling that I'm wasting my youth. I realize I'm really young, but Contra, youth wastes youth. Did I waste my youth? I don't know. Was it wasting my youth doing all the stupid stuff I did, thinking all the stupid things I thought, right? Wasting all the time that I did? I don't know. It's made me who I am now. So enjoy your solo time, read books, go to events, go to movies by yourself, like really go to shows by yourself. Just appreciate your own time. There might be coming a time where you will know half time for yourself, right? The biggest thing that most people in relationships, especially those who have children, say is they have no time for themselves, right? They're just constantly busy. It's very difficult, right? I'm a very cynical person, but I found helping other people I know has really brought me out of my thinking. I think finding a bit of hope is always nice. I agreed with you, Atomic, for sure. Helping others brings some of the greatest, has brought some of the greatest joy of my life, really. I was described as someone so cynical that if they were in front of me, I wouldn't believe they were atomic. Make 100%. Personally, a long time in my eyes isn't lonely. It gives you an incredible amount of time to be with yourself. The only person deep down you can ever truly trust, to focus solely on yourself along with expanding your thoughts on everything you're surrounded by. Once you come out of the other side, you'll be better for it. It certainly was anyway. I certainly was anyway. Yeah, Mik, I tend to agree. There's a couple of things I would say sometimes you might be alone for too long and you do need that social interaction and stuff, but in general, solo time is not a bad time if you use it properly. Okay, Chicho, thanks for your knowledge. I really needed this right now. Awesome, Bipster. Thanks for popping in. Thanks for being here and the conversations, right? Twice cooking, cooked pork, how are you doing? Would like to clarify that I love being alone. Just see a mismatch between friends being in relationships where I haven't even been in one. That's serious. A contra, I wasn't in a serious relationship until my late 20s. So don't be in a rush. Message how long we're going to allow this. Zut you got zapped. I had to allow it manually. All I regret about my youth is the worrying and sadness. Yeah, but there's a lot of it, right? There's a lot of it for sure. And by the way, Contra, here's one thing. If you're single and all your friends are couples, stop hanging around them as much as you do. Really. There's three levels, four levels of relationships, really three levels, but two of them you can put together. Let's say four levels. There's a single life, right? There's the, which involves dating, right? There's a relationship life. There's the married life without kids, which is sort of relationship, but it's a little bit more. And then there's a married life with kids. The single person interacting with married people with kids, it shouldn't occur too much, right? You have friends that are married that have kids, you hang around with them, have a great time and stuff, but their thoughts on their kids and your thoughts are something else, right? Single person with married people, it's okay, right? But if all their friends are married and couples and you're going to all, not mad, pull out, go by yourself, sit in the bar, have a drink, meet some other single people, right? That's one of the, again, take my advice as a grain of salt, please go to a movie by yourself. You don't have to go sit in the bar and drink. You could go to a cannabis cafe, you could go to a bar, you could go to a movie, you could go run, you could go play pool by yourself. I used to go play pool by myself and meet people, right? Fantastic time. For sure, some people can be surrounded by others 24-7 and actually still feel lonely, yeah. Others can be alone and not feel alone. It's all about balance and how you relate to those that are around you. 100% agree green tech, right? Interesting new phenomenon where the males take over the household cooking duties. Mine knows his way around the BBQ, but is always having meat or cheese waiting to go again. Nice. Yeah, for me, most of my relationships, I've been the main kitchen person. Actually, all of my relationships, I've been the main food person, right? And I wouldn't have it any other way, really. I love it. I'm gonna say, I'm gonna say good night for now. Okay, Atomic, good night. I have a meeting tomorrow at AM and it's at 12 PM. I don't like it. Okay, have a fantastic sleep, Atomic. Thank you for popping in. Have a good night, good night. That's good advice, Contra says. My relationship definitely changed when a close friend had a kid. I'm happy to be honoring Uncle and play with the little dude, but it's not like when we were one-on-one hanging out at 4 AM with McDonald's and gaming and smoke. He has responsibilities now. I understand that. Yeah, and I have very close friends that have kids and we still hang around, but it's not the way it was before. I love Spider-Man. How are you doing? We're talking about relationships. We are talking about relationships. We're almost at the end of the stream, too. I know this might feel extreme, but I stop hanging around with college friends right after graduation. This way I can be entirely myself and stop comparing myself and my life progress with them all the time. Now I am my own customized person, nice Hellfire. And yeah, if you're out of college hanging around college, college kids, it's a nightmare. When I was in university, there's a period I didn't party. I was just focused on school, school, school, school. But there's a period I did. Doing the period that I did, I can't even imagine me hanging around someone like that now. What a nightmare. Good evening, Gicho. Lucky, how are you doing? Hope you're doing well. What helped me realize a lot of things were Aristotle and others, ancient Greek virtual ethics. Then you see why many people act the way they do, while also opening your eyes to evaluate yourself. I suggest it to anyone. Truly fascinating, really, Mick. So Aristotle, ancient Greek, I don't know what K-E-K-W is. You laugh, but have a read and you'll see yourself. What's K-E-K-W? I gotta look this up. I've never seen that acronym before. Let's look it up. Let's look it up. What is that? Okay, someone's gotta tell me what it is. Because I can't find it. Not Speedy Gonzalez. It's an emote in many other channels. Is it an emote in many other channels? Okay. Now we know it's like laughing at someone. Okay. Yeah, you can't laugh at someone that mentions this, mentioning Greek ancient Greek philosophy. That's the foundation of most of our societies. Like laugh out loud. That's ridiculous. Yeah, that is definitely not ridiculous. Ancient Greek philosophy is really the foundation of our political social structures in the western world in a big way. And that reflects all to our societies and the way we interact with each other without a doubt. Lookie, lookie, someone else coding Aristotle today. Don't ever laugh at me again. You should check out Eastern philosophy as well. Like Daoism Zen. Yeah, for sure Hellfire. Yeah, for sure. All ancient philosophies, right? All of them. Sufism. Look into Persian poetry. Oh my God, the depth of four lines. There's some poetry in Persian poetry. It's just four lines. You read that, you're like, oh, heavy. You need to go for a while to try to absorb it all, right? It's good to expand your mind and see different perspectives. 100%. 100%. It's beautiful, actually. Fun. What do you think about social hierarchies and group dynamics when it comes to dating and mate pairing? I don't get involved in that social hierarchy stuff. For me, the social status of someone doesn't mean crap to me. It really doesn't. I wouldn't date anyone from the royal family if that's what you mean. I've dabbled in a little, but it's definitely on the list. Oh, that's Eastern philosophy. Hey, Chih-chou, just an idea. Book club stream. You assign reading and discuss it with chat. Yeah, Contra, we've done some book videos, book clubs. We did some readings for skin in the game. You know what? I've been meaning to do more stuff. That was a plan, but just caught up on everything else. So we did a book reading, live stream, reading of this, and I put out a couple of videos on this. Recommend reading this. And we did one for Wilhelm Reich's Mass Psychology of Fascism. We did a reading of it and talked a little bit about it. I mentioned that I was going to introduce more books, but this is the book that I'm reading right now, and I haven't finished it yet, so I haven't started on the book yet. And I believe we did... I don't know if we did or not, but I mentioned that we looked at this during the textbook reading, how to read a textbook, days of destruction, days of revolt, and I'm pretty sure we put another video talking about this and reading a little bit about this, if I recall correctly. So book clubs is definitely something I plan on doing, and we have done, and we did The Magician by... Oh, I forgot his name. All right, the fantasy books, right? You're not involved... talking about books, you're not involved, so you have a clear view on it, is my point. Even shorter readings, like the Sufi poems, you were taught, yeah. Contra, I have one that I've been planning... it's not here, it's up top. I've been planning to do a reading of, and it's a hard cover book that we brought from Iran from the 19... the book is from the 1970s or 1960s, and it's beautiful artwork, and it's got the four line poetry, and I've been meaning to do a reading of it, just the way we do the comic books, put the book up and start reading it, and it has it printed the poems in six different languages on the same page, right? As soon as... a lot of my plates, right? 1984, 1984, 1984 would motivate me to read in general, and I love talking about books. You're not involved, so you have a... even shorter... Okay, so I missed the other one. All right, I need to head out. Okay, Lonely Piggy, thanks for sticking around. We're almost done the stream as well. Thank you for the conversations. Awesome stream as always, Chicho. Posted a few of my collectibles in the anime channel on Discord. Nice, too. My phone's camera is pretty crappy, but hey, it is what it is. It is what it is. Enjoy your evening, you too, Lonely Piggy. Thanks for popping in. I'll check those videos out. The books look so huge. Nice. Some of these are... this one's big. Something to look forward to. Nice. Is that a singing bowl in the background? Yeah. What should we do? I feel like Alan Watts. What is your point of view in the studying of relationship within what they call game? The game theory? I don't know. I don't know if I have any point of view in the study of relationships within what they call game. I don't know. I don't know what that refers to, Hellfire. What do you think about World War III? World of Warcraft III or World War III? That's a political stream. We had that two days ago. About two years ago, a streamer, then no longer streamer, did a semi-book club and covered 1984, and it was so fun to watch the reaction from chat as they read and understood and related to the world. Really? Okay, Mac, 1984, maybe that's a good idea. We do have a book club on the Discord page. Put a recommendation. Maybe we would do a little bit of reading on it. We've done a reading of also one of the books, which is General Smedley Butler's War as a Racket. I read the whole thing. We also did a reading of Krishnamurti's Education and the Significance of Life, segments of it. I do have a book club playlist. I shouldn't mention that as well. If you go to my YouTube channel, go to Playlist. This should be a book club playlist, and everything we've done regarding books is in that playlist. Don't end the stream. I'm so sad. I missed most of it. Oh no, your streams are like a medication to my depression. Oh, Spiderman. I'm sorry. We have to end it. I have some work I gotta do. I gotta go see some students and stuff. I'll be back tomorrow, two to four again. Okay, and the video will be, you can watch the video, by the way, on Twitch, right? On the replay. And I don't know how many days from now we'll have it up on YouTube and Bitshoot. So yeah, sorry. And my voice is maxing out at these two hour streams. This is the first time since coming off the flu for 2020 that I'm putting four streams together in a row. We'll see how my voice holds out tomorrow and the next day. Okay, first stream I ever saw of yours was about a book we both read. You had a lot of patience with me when I disagreed with you. Don't remember the book. Ah, really, Zoot. I wonder which book it was. Which book was it? I don't know. Game like in Mysteries and Neil Strauss Methods. Neil Strauss, Neil Strauss. I don't know Hellfire. If you link something up on Discord, I can read it up and I'll give you my take on it. Yeah, Smetley Butler was also the guy who exposed the business plot, the lech political conspiracy 1933. Yeah, Mick, right? They came up to him and they tried to get them to overthrow the government. Get all these people, right? It's okay. I appreciate it and I love watching the videos. Awesome. I love Spiderman students. I had no idea you were a professor. That's awesome. I'm not a professor. Not a professor. I don't even have my teaching certificate. The Go team might make you think I'm a professor. No, I don't can't do the centralized institution systems. I'm not an academic, right? And not that you have to be an academic to be a professor, but I haven't gone that route. I do solo as private, private business that I have that I've had for 20 years working with students and whatnot, right? And I focus on elementary, high school and a little bit of university or college. How about we call it a stream gang? Okay, that was fun. Thank you for being here. Thank you for the conversations. You've been an awesome professor. Maybe I'll play one on a TV show. Thanks for being here, gang. Thank you for the conversations. If you can make it tomorrow from two to four math stream and Thursday from 8.30 pm to 10.30 pm, we're going to look at the data and have a discussion regarding the coronavirus and whatnot. See where it takes us. Don't you need a teaching certificate by law? No. I can just do private, right? If I want to teach in the institution, be hired by the institution, yeah. To do private, you don't. Have a good day. You too, Contra. Hey, Chico, just finish writing. How much did I miss? If we're taking off Starsky, we're taking off. No, you're finishing, yeah. On the two hour mark, exactly. Couldn't have time that better if you tried. Nice, nice. Did you ever teach high school? I have high school students. I don't, not inside an institution. No, no, they won't let me. And I wouldn't survive more than a week. They would tell me to stop teaching some of the things I'm teaching and the way I'm teaching it. I think the curriculum is horrendous, so it wouldn't work. Take care, Chico and Chad. You too, make you too. Okay gang, we'll see you guys tomorrow if you can make it on Thursday. Otherwise, future streams. I teach too. Awesome. Awesome. Teachers, stick together. Bye, gang. Really, the beard always made me think you some very halosious. You close my, my gang.