 Dear listeners and student, today I will be talking about understanding emotional intelligence. I am Professor Enkechada, former professor at psychology department, University of Delhi and currently working as chief bureau of psychology, Chanakya IAS Academy. Emotional intelligence is a new world which has been coined in last about 20 years and is very, very widely used in understanding your own behavior as well as the behavior of other people around you. Some people get confused emotional intelligence with emotion, it is not emotion, it is a emotional intelligence and it is different than the IQ. We have to understand what emotional intelligence is, whether it is talking about emotions or understanding emotions and what can be the role of emotional intelligence in our day-to-day life, in our success, in our achievement. There are different connotations of emotional intelligence, one very important we must understand. Emotional intelligence is the intelligent use of your emotions. Emotional intelligence is not hearing smartly someone, but it is the use of emotional intelligence smartly. Emotional intelligence means to be nice all the time, no that is not true. Emotional intelligence does not mean that to be nice all the time, but is to be honest with your emotions, how honest you are with your emotions that is the emotional intelligence, not emotional intelligence to your goody-goody to the people all the time. Another component emotional intelligence is not touchy feeling, it is not touchy feeling, but it is understanding your own feelings, what is going inside, what is turning going inside, what is happening inside, who is going to know or who is not going to know, this is the component of emotional intelligence. Let me give you a nutshell, emotional intelligence definition. Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize your own emotions, it is the ability to recognize your own emotions, understand what these emotions are telling you, recognizing your own emotions and then understanding what they are trying to tell you and realize how your emotions are affecting the people around you. These definitions I will add to three parts to make it simpler, first part is what is emotional intelligence, your ability, your competencies, your emotions, understand what your emotions are, so you understood them. Second component is your emotions, what they are going to tell you, what message you get So, that means understanding your emotions, what they are telling you and how they are affecting the people, how they are affecting the environment around you. Emotional intelligence called life k up may to go up the ladder in your life to achieve goals is very very important. It plays a very significant roles in the achievement in your life. Beneath that season I thought let my student understand the meaning of emotional intelligence first of all. Again I am repeating emotional intelligence is not the IQ. Emotional intelligence again I am repeating is a different than IQ. IQ is important in your life. I am not saying IQ is not important, it is important. IQ contributing your success, you see if a percentage success may IQ contribution is up to the 20 percent remaining 80 percent the contribution in your life to achieve your goals achieve your targets to get success 80 percent come from the emotional intelligence. Easily that is the reason is more important to understand the role of emotional intelligence in one's life. As you can understand the role of emotional intelligence in your life only provided you know it is meaning in a very very simple way. I try to explain you in a simplest possible way emotional intelligence basically come from your stomach from here from heart. What do you think that is IQ and when IQ and IQ combined together success is ensured to the tune of 100 percent. Let us understand it further by a very very simple 2 by 2 matrix I am putting a 2 by 2 matrix in front of you on the top I am putting self and others up of the silo on the vertical side I am putting self and others on the horizontal side I am putting awareness and management. So, 2 by 2 matrix though by though matrix up to some number around vertical side I am putting self up and others others may up to those up to colleagues up to teacher up to classmates anyone and horizontal side may come and divide around though components say awareness and management. So, as 2 by 2 matrix may there are 4 self. Self number 1, self on the vertical side and awareness on the horizontal side. So cell number one was your self-awareness, cell number two was your self-management. That means ability to understand your competencies, your aptitudes, your strengths, your desires, your goals, to understand that is self-awareness. That is self-awareness. So one and two cells are clear, now I am going to third one on my right side top that is others and on the vertical side and on the horizontal side I am putting awareness. This cell where vertically others, horizontally this cell is known as self-management. Managing others. So third number cell, what is it? Self-management. Environmentally you go manage it now and fourth cell which is very important at the bottom on my right side that cell is on the vertical side others and the horizontal side is in the management, others are management so this is known as relationship management. How you manage your relation? How you influence other? That will come from the fourth number cell. Now all the four cells again if I put in front of you, first cell is known as self-awareness, second one self-management, third one social awareness and fourth one relationship management. How you manage your relationship? So at workplace with your colleagues, with your family when you are in a position to manage the people around you then that becomes your relationship management. It is very important to have a good relationship with people around you. When you have very good relationship with people around you it is much easier for you to understand what other things about you, how other perceive about you and this building up yourself. Once you build up yourself then you can take advantage of that. When you understand yourself, how you understand it? From your perspective, what do you think about yourself and what other people think? It is possible that what I think about myself, other people do not think like that. Some things think like that, some things do not think like that. This means what is the opinion of others about me, I come to know about that. Accordingly I shape my actions. Accordingly I help me in building my relationship with people. Developing this is very important, it is possible to develop. IQ, again I am coming back, IQ will get you hired. You will get very good degree, very personal marks for yourself. You will get hired. You have passed through very good institutions and based on that you had a brand name. You got a job, you got everything. But sustaining over there. How to go up by sustaining over there? You have started from Lattice. You have kept your feet on a CD. Now from that first step you have to go up by doing 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th. What do you want to go up? Your Emotion Intelligence. The need to develop Emotion Intelligence. It is not difficult to develop it, Emotion Intelligence. Dear listeners and my students, in my next video I will be talking about the development of Emotion Intelligence. Can this be developed? If yes, how we can develop? What we should do it? And I will give you some tips which I am sure will be very useful for your development and success in life. Good luck. Thank you.