 default is like autopilot on your life, accepting that you'll never be any good at that, accepting that you shouldn't really aspire to that. Default is this autopilot going along in life, accepting this stuff. And what you have to do with limitations of default is you have to take manual control of your life. You have to take your life off autopilot setting and grab the controls for yourself and start flying your life manually. Start saying I refuse to accept this about me that my family and friends and sometimes family and friends are the worst at putting default limitations on us.