 Just being up to see the Karatsu castle here in Japan It's a bit noisy up there though, so I'm walking back down here now, but we do have a very important topic today for those of you who You want to know to get the narcissist to come back for whatever reason Maybe it's for closure An explanation for their behavior or why they left just validation Or maybe they owe you money They owe you something And you want to get them back so you can get that from them whatever it may be You have clicked on to the right video Because this video will guide you To get the narcissist to come back Instantly Before I begin Please give this video a thumbs up down below It helps the YouTube algorithm Get this message out there So that other survivors will see it as well So hit that thumbs up button. It's very important Onto the topic How to make the narcissist come back? Instantly first you have to look at What Made them leave. Why are they not with you right now? This is what we have to identify first of all Because if they left and they went off to a new supply It's likely that maybe you were pestering them a bit too much Remember these narcissists what they want is a door at a Fool Someone who's going to listen to whatever they say and do whatever they want whenever they want you to do it That's the type of person that they're looking for They're not looking for one with Their own opinions and beliefs their own ideas and perspectives Their own separate feelings and needs Narcissistic people are not looking for that And even if they're not highly narcissistic And it's just a toxic person Or just even a player you kind of have to Go along with their Agenda you have to align with their intentions and motives You can't just go off doing your own type of thing And expecting them to still be there for you It doesn't work that way with highly narcissistic people So what you need to do if you do want them to come back instantly first Although this may sound counterproductive You do need to take your attention away from them all together Because up until this point You've probably been texting and calling them ask them to come back And that hasn't worked so far In fact, you might say that that's just pushed them away even more So now you need to do the opposite Stop texting them stop calling them And even if they text you or call you Don't respond right away Wait a certain amount of time Let them think that you're busy. You're more focused on Something else something more important This is just what you have to do when you're dealing with narcissists You can't just play the game fair and honest never works that way in a way Once you know You've been devalued and you've seen through the illusion It's like they just typically want someone who does not want them They want someone who does not want them Just think about it or until this point Have you wanted them? Yes, or no Yes, of course you have You've likely been texting them calling them and how has that worked out for you? Have they come back or have they ran off to someone else? Someone who probably doesn't even know who they are Someone who probably doesn't even value them exactly This is just how it goes and this is what you need to do You need to take your Attention and focus off of them put it back on yourself and your own life Because that will instantly make you more attractive To a narcissistic person Even though it may sound counterproductive It's actually what they like. They enjoy the chase. They enjoy the challenge They want to feel like they've got to win you back They love turning noses into yeses And you're not a flout that rejects them especially if they discard it to you You're just taking the attention away You could even just assume that they don't want you And watch they will come back If they think you're thinking that And they will try and show you That the opposite is true Here's the thing, even though Yes, they may come back And they may come back instantly when you take your attention And focus off of them They're never going to be coming back for you The only thing they're going to come back for is your attention and validation They don't really care about who you are as a person That's why they never even took the time to get to know you You probably can't even remember a single time In your relationship with them But you ever sat down together and had a conversation About your feelings and needs Your dreams, goals and ambitions They just never cared about any of that stuff It never meant anything to them But I get it, some of you may want them to come back For closure, validation Just so you can understand What went wrong and why they left Or maybe they borrowed something from you And you want it back Whatever your reason, this is really it If they are going to come back They're going to come back when you do this When you start to move on When you put your attention on yourself and your own life Instead of constantly worrying about them It's like every night you're not making any plans for yourself Maybe you're just waiting around Hoping that they will text you or call you And you just find yourself doing that every day You're just waiting When you should just be going out and living your life And we've got to think sometimes What is it that they can do for you anyway If you're just waiting around You're waiting for them to call, to text you To come back in your life What are you expecting to get Even if they do come back Is it going to change your life Is it going to really make you that much happier Or is it just going to put you in another loop of addiction Where you're seeking another person's praise and validation You want to feel special to them When all they're really doing is just manipulating you anyway So that they can get the validation Or money and resources that they want from you And that's all that it really is And this isn't just with narcissists and players I mean, this is most of the world The world is very fake People don't really care about each other In the way that you think that they do And this is for anyone It's not just empaths, scapegoats It's the same with anyone People act like they care But they don't really And many of you may resonate with this You see even in your own family Your friends They'd be in your study group Your work Or even your own relationships Your marriage The reality is that I'm sure you've felt this already Most people just don't care about you And it's not even that that's bad or wrong That's just kind of how it is in life It's just the way it is And it's something that pretty much everyone experiences In this world It's not unique to you as you may think The reality is You see all these false displays on social media It's like all the time wherever you go These false images What a family is supposed to be What a parent is supposed to be to their child What a relationship a marriage should be You see all these representations of that In real life it's very different In real life People just don't actually think In that way They don't care about each other like that Like you see a relationship Between a parent and a child Or a marriage It's not always How you thinking it is Sometimes there are other reasons Why people get married Why people have children The reality is that Most people's experience in this world Are very similar to yours And to other people's On this channel and other channels And this is just with people in general Not even talking about Narcissists Even just normal people They really do not care about each other In the way that you might think Most people have their own problems Their own issues and they're too worried about that That's just how it is But the reason why it bothers you so much Why it hurts you The reason why is because Yes, you are likely an empath A codependent You're one of those rare people in the world Where You will actually put another person's Feelings Opinions, needs and beliefs Before your own And you will happily change everything about yourself For that person Just to make them happy Just to accommodate them Yes, we are the rare Few Who are actually like that But maybe we care too much And what we really need to do is Care more about ourselves That's why we feel this imbalance You feel like They've just ran off They don't want to come back to you They don't care I mean, if we're talking about real Narcissists Yeah, it can be even worse for them Because it's like you build this Relationship over such a long period of time And they could just abandon you Like you never even existed It's scary Of course, in a normal relationship It probably isn't like that Or at least it shouldn't be like that But even then These kinds of things are very common They really are But yeah, if you want them to come back Instantly Just take your attention off of them Put it on anything Anything other than them Just start getting into a new television series Going to watch it in some movies Reading books Being passionate about something Working towards a goal Going to the gym Just start focusing towards something Something progressive And watch the Narcissists come back straight away As soon as they sense your energy Slipping away from them Because that's all they really want They don't really care too much about attaching to you They just want you to attach to them And then they can run off and go and do What their other sources of supply Because they know they've got you waiting for them on the shelf So they don't have to worry about you I mean, that's all it really is We are all just objects of the Narcissist Objects that they want to manipulate and control And that's all it really is That's all it's ever going to be It's never going to be anything more than that No matter how much you want it to It's not going to work out that way for you or anyone else And of course that is how they manage to leave so easily Because you really think You thought you were building a relationship with this person For these months or years If they were really in it for real They can't just abandon you that quickly It just doesn't work out that way But here's the thing when they do do that If they can cut you off that quickly Like it's nothing Then they can also come back very quickly as well Like nothing happened Because if they can leave without taking any accountability for the actions Of course they can just come right back It's nothing for them to do that So this is why I'm so confident in this message To say that yes, there is a good chance They will come back instantly Once you take your attention and focus off of them And you focus on something more important Something that could be more beneficial to your life Because if something is really valuable If it's really good for you It's not going to probably push you Into their space of watching these types of videos If it's any good for you If anything it's going to pull you away from all of that So this is how you know Whatever you're dealing with It's no good for you anyway If it was helping you in any way You would never have found these videos to begin with So that is how you know But yeah this is a very Common thing I mean You've just got to look around at the world today People just don't care about each other the way that they used to They really don't I mean there used to be a time I mean I think it's more Because everything is Certain large cities these days Everything's so far apart So many people in the world today And they're also spread out There's no like small Community, small groups Like a small number of people together Who are all working towards a common goal That just doesn't even exist anymore Unless it's something where they're just going out For a drink in the pub And even then they're not talking about anything Important Anything with meaning They're not like genuinely taking an interest in another person It's just never like that anymore And I hope this comforts you to know that it's not just you I mean I've been through this before Myself so many times Not just for narcissists but just toxic people as well It's like they're only with you for some transactional purpose It's just to get something out of you Like let's be honest I mean most people They're not going to like look at a person on the street And then instantly think oh Oh you look like you're missing something Oh yeah I gotta just come over right now And do something for you Cheer you up, make you happy I just want to make you feel good I'm completely selfless I have no needs of my own Like who is going to do that in real life That's just never going to happen I might do that You might do it I mean I've done that so many times already I've lost count Where I've completely changed another person's life I completely like pulled them out of the garbage Give them everything they could have ever wanted While I turned my own life upside down Because they're guessed like you I'm the same, I'm an empath Maybe I am slightly co-dependent as well I don't really like to admit it But I am a bit of a people pleaser sometimes But then when I catch on and I know Someone is trying to manipulate or use me That's when the big boy comes out then That's when they get an arc survivor But yeah This is just how it is with most people in the world They just come around, they manipulate you, they use you Whatever they think you're worth And then they're out there, they're on with someone else There's just no connection anymore In these big cities everywhere we go Everything's so spread out People are just indoctrinated every day With the news, with music, social media People don't even have their own thoughts and beliefs anymore That's what you need to understand I mean yeah of course there used to be a time Maybe thousands of years ago We used to have these tribes, these small tribes And you like sit around a fire at night Cooking the foods and just telling stories Talking to each other Actually getting to know people But that just doesn't happen anymore You just don't see that And of course this is why social media is so popular these days I mean everyone's on it Because all people are really concerned with is The outside They're not like you or me They don't care about going deep They don't care about the psychology of a person They're not philosophical They don't care about the bigger More important meaningful things in life They don't care about any of that And this is why my entire life I have felt like I just don't belong in this world at all I've always felt that way Because I've always had this desire to Know a person at a much deeper level And the problem is that every time I've tried to do that People have always pushed me away And if anything it made them really angry They didn't like it And that's just a common thing that I've experienced in pretty much Every relationship that I've had Because a lot of people I think they really don't know who they are So you're trying to Understand them and get to know them When a lot of times there's just no one there for you to know And all they really want to do Is have fun Just run off with their other supplies Because maybe they like to do the same things together Maybe they like to go to bars and drink Smoke Do all of these crazy things And I'm sure all you want is just Something more peaceful Something where everyone else doesn't have to be involved And that's good Meaning to very mature When you desire something that's more calm Instead of something that has to be all out in the open And it's like you've got a broadcast everywhere This relationship, you're together That never seems to go well Relationship is about exclusivity Other people should not be involved I mean it's difficult enough to coordinate between two people Without everyone else being involved And then that makes it almost completely impossible Because it's only really for the two people involved It's their life, they are the ones Who are living with their decisions But these narcissists, once they start Entertaining other prospects Of course it's no longer exclusive But then it's never really exclusive with a narcissist anyway There's always other people involved It's no fun for them otherwise So it's always going to be like that Yeah, this is just the way the world is Most people, they are not like you or I They're not so caring I mean just look at us We've been doing these videos now for over five years Because yes of course I care I want things to get better for you I want you to move on and be happy That's what I want And I'm sure that's what you want For other people as well But not everyone is like us Not everyone cares like we do And that's just the truth Not everyone is interested in these Deep meaningful conversations Most people just want to distract themselves With these mindless pleasures of life Maybe just getting drunk Going to a bar, having one night stands Smoking, doing drugs How is someone like that going to care about you They're more preoccupied with These other things that are more important to them And you're clearly not the priority on that list It's obviously far more important things to them than you And once you see that And you know it You should anyway just be putting your attention on yourself more Straight away as soon as you recognise That you are not the priority for them And they're just treating you as an option That should tell you everything that you need to know And straight away you should adjust your focus When someone is not treating you as the equal importance or priority As you are treating them Remember I've said it before The person who cares the least In a relationship has the most power But then looking at that now I would rephrase it Because it depends on what type of relationship you're in For it to hold the most power And what type of person you're dealing with Because I could argue I know there's plenty of people In the past that I've dealt with I could hold quite a lot of power over them By coming back and caring a lot about them Of course I already know that So yeah that's another way of looking at it But I guess this is why my videos are so popular And other videos like mine as well Because yes there are hundreds of millions of people around the world We're logging on to YouTube to watch these types of videos Because in the real world, in real life They're feeling unheard They're feeling they're not being seen They're feeling that no one cares about them And honestly I believe it I would believe that their feelings are correct And they're valid Because otherwise you wouldn't find these videos to begin with But I'm glad that I can be that person And yes I recognise that I am very rare I know there aren't many people out there like me Like ourselves Because remember like attracts like You're drawing to me You're attracted to me That means we are similar in some way You would be repelled You would be running away If we were not alike in this moment So but yeah Statistics show That actually only 1-2% of the world's population Are empaths or people who are High in affective empathy That's how rare it is And what is affective empathy While it is Just even that ability To share and feel another person's feelings And experience As if it was your own And I can tell you that so many times in my life I have done that And I have found it to be very beneficial for me But believe it or not only 1-2% of the world's population Are able to do that But even when we are doing these types of things 98 or 99% of the world are completely unable to relate Or to understand or feel this experience As crazy as that sounds That is the reality of the world today And of course that narc that you're dealing with Is no different Whether it is actually a full blown narc Or just a toxic person A player, whoever it may be Whatever it is But this is why they're not coming back Because going back to what I said It's like the person who cares the least Is the one who has the most power And just look at how much you care To get onto this live video You've been watching me now for about Almost 38 minutes If you've been watching from the start I've shows you care about this person a lot You must care a lot about what they think How they feel about you And your portraying yourself to them You care a lot And unfortunately you care a lot That is not attractive To narcissistic people I mean it is to keep you as a primary source But they just keep you there on the shelf And then they run off and have their fun with someone else It's attractive for that yes But not for other things Like how they can just run off With their other supplies and forget about you For that they want people who just Don't really care at all You should be looking at yourself and thinking Why am I drawn to that anyway Because I've been there before I remember There were people who really cared about me and my life And I just kind of pushed them away And they just run off with narcissistic people So we need to look at ourselves We need to heal ourselves So that we are drawn to other people like ourselves Other people who care Other people who see us who hear us That's what it means to be a healed Awakened empath That's what it means to be that As you can see here right now I'm just walking around this town or city Karatsu in Japan I can just walk like this on the street Completely just zone out And go into my own world with you This is our own little world Where we share our secrets We share our secret little messages I share mine with you And you share yours with me Together Yes We have our own secret little worlds But that's another thing as well That will make them come back Is when you have something outside of them And I don't just mean as I said before Whether it's a television series Movies, whatever Maybe you're reading books You're going to the gym Another thing I forgot to mention is also Even another person Like me I could be that person for you Like you're watching my videos right now And it's like we're together In this moment It's me and it's you And we are sharing something that is separate From the narcissist I am an outside external influence For you So I'm pulling your attention away from them And of course there's a good chance That they will sense that Just by you watching these videos Because now you're tuning in to me You're not thinking so much about them I mean just pay attention to how you feel At the beginning of watching My videos and then how you feel At the end of it Do you feel like you have more energy You're able to think a lot more clearly These are all good signs That these videos are helping to take your attention Away from the narcissist Because you have to consider that Of course most people do not converse Like this in real life I can, I can have these conversations I can talk for hours It's completely effortless for me But of course most people do not talk this way So without being said In many ways this interaction That we're having right now It's more real than what you might have in real life It really is And that is why these videos are so powerful Why they're so popular Because it just feels more real for people Than the interactions they're having in real life And that is the truth You feel like you're getting more understanding You're getting more out of it By listening to me talk And maybe go into your own founding members or friends To talk about this And that is the reason Why hundreds of millions of people around the world Log on to YouTube and watch these videos Because this just feels far more real for them Than anything else in real life What you've got to think as well It's like just forget about the narcissist What if you could find someone in real life Who understands you just like this Who listens to you Who wants to be there for you I mean let's be real the narcissist They're never going to have a conversation about you Even if it's just something that lasts for 10 seconds They're not going to want to hear it But believe it or not Yes there has to be There has to be Other people out there Who are just like yourself Who can care About another person just as much as you have For the narcissist Of course that would have to be a possibility Otherwise it would not make any sense It can't just be you Or just me Yes there are other people like ourselves Out there as well But keep in mind Statistics do show That this is just one to two percent Of the world's population And that does mean It could just be As low as 80 million people Out of 8 billion people in the world So you've got to think that's very few people And even then What percentage of those people are Healed or awakened Empaths Of course even when we're talking about empaths There's levels to this There's levels to this shit So There's levels to How empathic we can be How much we can put ourselves in another person's shoes Understand their experience as if it was our own I mean for me I can feel it I can feel things it's like ASMR for me I could watch an ASMR video on YouTube And I feel it As if it's touching myself As if someone is actually there in the same room Because that's that energy You're very tuned into the energy Yeah there aren't going to be too many people in this world Who are like that But I think you will know You will recognize When you do find someone who is like that You just need to heal yourself to the point Where you are running to someone like that Instead of like how I used to be in the past Yes of course I met empathic people in the past I was running away from them All the time I remember going out with this girl Went for a date She paid for she-sha She bought me a pizza I was running away I never wanted to see her again And then I was hanging around with all these knocks Yeah I met really good girls in the past Even girls where I was like the first boy they ever met And I just forgot about them just left them Ended up with narcissistic people Because I was an unhealed empath When you heal It's a game changer Now you're running away from the knocks And you're running into the arms of empathic people Maybe that's why you like my videos so much Because now you're starting to heal You're starting to get better now But yeah this is how it's meant to be for us Healed empaths we are meant to come together We're not meant to be drawn to knocks You only got with them because they presented a false character And then they used your There's a word I can't remember what it's called But you have this empathic ability to Do as much as you can to help to fix someone They use that against you to keep you in this dynamic Even after you felt like something was wrong So that's how you got stuck there But it doesn't always have to be that way for you Once you heal You will feel drawn to more empathic people People who actually care about you People who are there for you People who think and feel About you the same way that you did for the narcissist People who will care and love you In the way that you cared and loved the narcissist Yes that can happen for real And I pray for you I pray that everyone who is watching this Will manifest that into their reality That they will find someone who cares and loves them Just as much as they cared for and loved the narcissist But then remember it's up to you what you do with that When you get that, when you find that Make sure you love them, you respect them, you treat them right Yeah that's all I got to say for this one I'm going to continue on my travels now I've got another place I'm going Yeah please show your support down below Very important Give this video a thumbs up It helps the YouTube algorithm To get this message out there to other survivors So yeah that's very important H1 live viewers Only 26 thumbs ups Please hit that thumbs up button down below Right now Let's get this message out there And thank you for the donation Adriel Angel I greatly appreciate it She says real talk I've been listening to you for years now Thank you Thank you Adriel Angel And thank you Ray Justice For the donation there It's greatly appreciated I appreciate you all for your support And you can let me know What you think about this video down below Every day I read your comments And I try to respond to as many as I can Hit that subscribe button And click the bell icon to receive notifications For my future videos And if you would like to 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