 until more people come in. Quality as well. Can you hear me clearly right now? Let me know in the chat. In topic today, quality is good enough so that you can hear me. Many people around the world are probably still asleep right now. Hopefully when you wake up you will see it. This is very important. The one thing you need to know, many things that it was just one thing. It doesn't matter. You're dealing with a narcissist, toxic person, the way anyone else. This is all you need to know. It doesn't matter who you're dealing with. When they discard you, when they reject you, when they walk away and they don't come back, they don't try to see where you're coming. You're not important to them. They don't value you and in fact you will never, ever value you as a person. And that is really it. That's the one thing you need to know. You don't need to know anything else because in a normal relationship or whatever it may be, people aren't so quick to give up and walk away. If you matter to them, apologize if they've done something wrong. They may come back with gifts, something to show. They're going to try to do something positive to make things. They're not just going to coach you. They're not going to walk away. What happened? They would never do that. This and toxic people do. They played a role right from the start. They tricked you. It was all fake. They loved you in the beginning. They acted like you were so important to them. You were so special. But that was just to keep you around so they could get what they want from you. Just think about it. I'm sure you will remember from your own experiences, your own relationships, you were apart from someone you loved, someone who meant something to you. It may have drove you insane. It may have made you crazy. That's real. People manipulation, future faking. They give you a false character that they're not even attached to. They sell you a dream, a fantasy, and that is what they use to lure you in. But they are not attached to it. You're the one who is attached to it. They want you to attach to them, but they don't want to attach to you. And that's why it's so easy for them to move on. Because you never meant anything to them anyway. Trust me, if you ever meant something to them, if they ever loved you, they wouldn't be able to walk away so easily. And if they did, they would come back very soon. I mean, when you're with someone bad to you, you can't be away from them even for one hour. You can't go to sleep without knowing that they're okay. Keeps you awake at night. You will be suffering yourself. And you have to think, why are they not suffering right now without you after they have discarded you? Why does it not bother them? Obviously the only logical explanation for that is because it was never real. You never meant anything to them. So that should break the cognitive dissonance straight away. And it should make it that much easier for you, for you to not care so much. I've said before, the person at least has the most power. That's how they're able to affect you is because they never cared anyway. So of course, you're going to be the one who's hurt. You're going to be the one who's broken down. And they're going to be the ones who are playing mind games with you. I mean, yeah, they may come back and hoover you and toy with you. Just to see if you're still interested. Just to see if after everything they've done to you, they could still have you back anytime they wanted. As sick as that sounds, it makes them feel powerful. It makes them feel attractive, desirable. A normal person could never do that. These people are sick. They're messed up in the head. They will abuse you. They will cheat on you. They will lie to you. They will steal from you. And then they will hoover you just to see if after all of that, you would still take them back. The irony is that maybe some of you would because you're good people. You don't hold grudges. You're forgiven. You don't define people by their actions. And you believe that other people are the same as you. You think other people are good too. So you see the good in people. You see the best in them. So don't feel bad about that. Of course you shouldn't take them back. One thing again, this time it'll be worse. Someone really loves you and cares about you. They're not just going to walk away. Never do that. There is honestly no such thing as a relationship within us. But that should provide you with some comfort too because just as it was fake with you, it's going to be fake with anyone else. I mean, they all do the same thing. Same playbook. It may have been fake with you. They act like they've moved on. And now it's real with someone else in everything that they never worked with you. And this new person is so much better than you. I hear the same thing in every one of my coaching sessions from every client that is. As you may remember, people saw your relationship with me and they thought, wow, you're so lucky, so lucky to have this amazing person in your life. It helps you and takes care of you. We love you. If only they knew the truth, but they're only seeing it from the outside. They don't know. Just as you don't know about them and this person that they've now moved on to, don't know what's really going on. So don't just judge it at face value. If you do that, you're just, then it's just a shed of fantasy. It isn't real. I think Dr. Ramani said it best. The better a relationship actually is in real life. So these people you see that constantly posting these pictures, they look so happy. They have this perfect life. Looks like everything is going well for them. They probably have it worse than anyone else. As Dr. Ramani said, it really is because no one, no one is happy and living their best life every day of the week. It just doesn't happen. There's no way. There's always problems. There's always things that go wrong. There's always times when we're not happy and sometimes we don't even know why, which is not. That's real life, but their life is fake. It's not real. Talking to anyone I know, you know, we want to become the best versions of ourselves. We want to live our best lives. Yes, that's what my channel is about, to accept that there's going to be ups and downs. There's going to be times where we're not happy. Where things aren't going right for us. And that's okay. It's better to be real. I mean, of course I have days where I might wake up in the middle of the night and then I struggle to get back to sleep. Maybe I've had a nightmare and then the next day I'm tired. Can't be bothered to do anything. Can't even be bothered to make a video. This is normal, but there's nothing wrong about this. No reason to be ashamed of it. It's everything. Everyone goes through it. Every day they're not happy with anything and I'm sure you'll remember that from your own relationship. They were always miserable. Had conflict with everyone they encountered. There was always a problem. So of course they've got to go to the other extreme and act like, no, nothing's wrong. Everything's just fine. And Dr. Ramani said that relationships that look the best on social media tend to be the most toxic in real life because they're trying to compensate how shitty their lives really are. As for you, you don't have to do it like that. You can be real. You can live your real life, your best life some days and then other days. I don't know. Maybe you're not feeling like you're living your best life then, but then some days you are. And that's okay. Embrace both of that. There is a place for you at the end of the day. You can turn it into whatever you want. Just be thankful that that energy is there. So everything you've gone through with the narcissist, if you're led to you feeling anxious and depressed, you're unable to trust people. If you're jealous of their new relationship, which I'm telling you now is completely fake, use all of that negative energy to your advantage. Transitute it into something positive. That's what I did with my channel. Now I'm saving millions of people's lives. So yeah, that's the message for today. One thing you need to know when the narcissist discards you, they really loved you that much. They really cared about you. They would be suffering as well. It would be getting to them maybe more than it's getting to you because especially they're the ones who discarded you. They should be feeling horrible inside. They should have that instinct to want to come back and nurture and protect you. Their arms around you and tell you that everything is going to be. So tell me, why aren't they doing that? If you were that important, if you're that special and they love you that much, where are they now? Now that's how you know it was all fake. And that's why you shouldn't care about them. Don't worry about what they're doing because they were never anything to you anyway. It was a false character. The person you thought they were doesn't even exist. I hope that this video has helped you. Please give it a thumbs up below. Continue my drive now on my little road trip. Thank you all for joining me. And I will talk to you soon.