 here all right I want to pop on here I was working with a client and we finished up so I want to pop on here do a Q&A tonight I'm early I was posted a video earlier and had a couple talks with Tony and I was trying to I was shooting another video after that but when I was shooting the video it was it was hour and a half long and then it was taken too long to be uploaded then I had shot another 30 minute video I had shot two hours worth of videos and I just gave up on them I just deleted them I didn't even get them on there you know talks with Tony is on inbox and put that in the chat I can't I don't know if I can write in the chat can I write in the chat I get from a phone I can't you write in the chat it's inbox at Tony Gaskins com and it was some you know some people most people get it but sometimes people don't get it and when I was talking about Russell Wilson which y'all know I don't really be speaking some people was you know thinking I was saying that women didn't find him attractive but what I was saying is it's men like that that are not famous and are not rich who are seen as safe men secure men God fear men who being overlooked for the tough guys the bad boys and then when a woman who has the image gets with that man now it makes that style of man cool and in style but when before it's more so like women are looking at the men like you know the Migos and Lil Wayne and Future and you know these different types but then now when a woman who you know she got the the charisma the money and all that she get this guy who his type of guy five nine a lot of times five nine to five eleven overlooked you know and so and then the other thing too what I was saying is in one lady she understood it if you're not like you know Sierra then your opinion of a Russell Wilson is totally different because she's somebody that can have any man because of her status and her position and just who she is in the world so if your standards are totally different and you don't have every single man in the world available to you then you're gonna see that totally different you're gonna look at this man totally different than a woman who had who could have a whole bunch of options is and so for her to see that and say hey I'm gonna get us a shot you know man of God save and ain't about all the swag and being the best dressed and being six foot four it's about what's inside of there so that that was the point some people miss the point and yeah YouTube tripping YouTube tripping with the notifications you know how they is I did this last minute though I think if I scheduled it or something I thought I scheduled it but then it always changed on the time the live probably a hour or two hours my son's still up moving around and so I'm gonna be I'm gonna be working cuz I realized I don't work hard enough I'm beyond which all I'm a little lazy I'm a little lazy you know Lord been convicted my spirit Tony you got to do more Tony you got to work harder cuz I cuz I'm seeing people who you know I see people who may not really be serving a purpose like in a real sense like trying like saving lives and helping people you know I see people who just do gossip and just do nonsense talks and they'll go live every night you know and it's a lot of that going on like them blog sites that sharing gossip they go hard every day they posting all day every day me my butt be going live twice a month so I said I got to tighten up I got to tie enough now y'all make sure you put the hashtag Q in front of your question okay Ella Baker here I see you popped up there Tony I met this guy he has two children he is a school teacher and coach he doesn't believe in God should I run the other way absolutely since you ain't have to you have to wait that $10 to ask me that now you already know the answer to that come on now you have to do that God bless you now I appreciate you have to wait that $10 you already know my answer man don't believe in God put on the trikes shoes and I'm happy oh you hit me karma leader Jetta and Sue will say if you lazy I know ain't doing nothing yeah I'm lazy I'm gonna pick it up though when a man says no time soon is that manglish for no yep that's what that is why are so many men juggling females it's so hard to find a genuine man just cuz they can beyond switches like people go do what's required of them so if your job let you miss work four days out the week and get paid for five you gonna go one day out the week but if they say you got to be here five days out the week to get paid for five days you're gonna be there five days out the week so the thing about it is is we need PSAs for women we need talk shows for women we need everything for women to get a strength to stop being played to stop putting up with so much because we could talk to the man till we blew in the face but if a man could go and get a woman on her back and she gonna settle for being the other woman or being one of you know many women then that's what the grown boys gonna keep doing they're not gonna change until they held to the fire and they made the change they're gonna keep doing what they're doing hello Tony Gaskins could you do a video on living fearlessly as a Christian you know I try to remember that and the thing what you have to understand is that none of us live fearlessly you know or everybody have fear courage is overcoming fear it's not the absence of fear it's overcoming it and so you know you really got to be in your word and you got to get them scriptures that help you overcome fear and you got to put that on your mirror put that on on a three by five car put that in your car put that at your desk at work if you work or wherever you work at put that there remind yourself of that scripture God is not giving you the spirit of fear but of love power and a sound mind and that just got to be said over and over and over and over and that's how you get to that place he's 10 years older and wants to talk every day it feels like too much is this normal for a man or is he being needy if y'all dating and y'all like y'all trying to get together then that's normal you know you you got to think about it if you dating intentionally and you're going to get married then you're supposed to talk every single day because you're going to have to live with this person every day not just talk with them you're going to have to live with the person smell this person see this person hear this person every single day so in order to get somewhat accustomed to living with somebody you at least got to talk to them every day and the the thing is if you don't want to talk to a man every day that mean that's not the man for you and you wasting your time that mean that you don't want him question why does a man call you talk for a minute and then say oh i was waiting on this call he said i will call you back and he turns his phone off he said a buddy of his was coming over at 845 yes you already know the answer to that man come on now yeah it's what you think it's what you think and if you weren't thinking yeah that's another woman that's another woman now turn the phone off come on now ain't no man hanging out with no man with his phone off because what if the monger fall down the stairs and then left for life alert and she need to get in touch with him he's not been turning the phone off the hang with no man yeah you can play go on about your business how to respond to a man asking and let me tell y'all to now the other thing is y'all got to help me out okay y'all want me to be on here and if y'all want you know individuals like myself to stay out here stay out here in the fight y'all got to stop asking them questions like that y'all got to start asking them questions like that okay y'all got to ask real questions now that's the thing y'all be it's like lord lord come on now because then y'all just wasting my breath that ain't gonna get back on my deathbed and so y'all got to ask me a question that you really perplexed about that you really confused about with a man because some of these questions y'all really can't be no something too much scammed with that paypal now i'm that all these scammers be watching these videos uh uh you might know one of these band-man's out here one of these men out here who uh uh no son they give him a paypal hmm they be putting cuz listen y'all you know i hacked my paypal two minutes scammers out here what do you think about women choosing not to be a man's girlfriend but dating until a proposal if you dating until a proposal then you are his girlfriend because if a man taking you serious enough to where he's gonna propose to you then you his girlfriend you might not call it that but that's just semantics but you his girlfriend if he proposed to you you you was his girlfriend before that so don't get caught up listening to these people out here that's saying dating isn't necessary and dating isn't in the bible and dating isn't real and dating all that that's all at a hard wash all at a hard wash i mean boyfriend and girlfriend so you need to be exclusive and when you're exclusive that's called boyfriend and girlfriend if you want to call it boy and girl if you want to call it up and down it's just semantics whatever you call it you his girlfriend if if he gonna if the next thing he's gonna do is propose do you have any tips for physically it's able people when dating for example people always expect you to share your medical information upon meeting you and ask what happened to you you know what sis i don't know if there's a coach out there on my mentor that has a physical disability that deals with physical disability in dating and i i don't know it could be i would imagine it's annoying for you to ask that question but it's also a part of life and so when we've been dealt the hand we have to get we have to come to terms with that and we gotta say hey this is the hand i've been dealt i'm gonna embody this i'm gonna love this i'm gonna embrace this and if i got to tell this story a thousand times i'm gonna tell this story and if you want to tell it one time then write a book about it you know write a little book about it and when you meet somebody hey here's my book you know it tells what i've been through in my life and what brings me to this point and how i am how i am who i am and what have you and so but that's it's no different than if a person has kids and they go on a date and the person want to know about their kids how many kids how old they are so you telling about your physical disability it's no different than explaining about hey where does this scar come from on your face or you know have you been married so people who who are divorced if they go on a thousand dates they got to talk about that divorce a thousand times and so you just have to change the way you look at it and that's the thing it's just we sometimes we look at things a certain way and that's what makes us feel that way y'all make sure y'all put the hashtag q in front of your question like fixed by faith did dating dated my ex for six months and he never posted me on his insta story i didn't care but as soon as i broke up with him he started partying partying every weekend and posting all these different women why is this well when you broke up with him he was single so then he's able to post all of them different women when he was with you if he posts you then it block him from getting him other women so there you have it you know how to get your power back after making so many mistakes with a man before getting the knowledge as soon as you get the knowledge you have your power back as soon as you get the knowledge you can't you can't look at yourself as weak because everything you learn that's like a vitamin you when you learn something that's like you just took a vitamin so that's what you got to understand uh jordan god bless you now remember for two months oh look at her now remember for 24 months ain't see that oh that's mama tish telling y'all justina god bless you welcome to the blessed tribe uh bidsam and croons got us a brother in the blessed tribe remember for 24 months my brother 24 months single mom and first-time home buyer thoughts on buying an existing older home or spending more and building new to avoid costly unexpected repairs thanks tonia um single mom and first-time home buyer now you thought this is a real estate channel now it's a lot of real estate channels out here sister because listen to me that ain't my line of work right there now it's a lot of real estate channels out here that could tell you because i give you some advice now one of the real estate channels that listen to what tonia gaskis told this single mom buying a house so i'm gonna tell you like this right here yes them how my seven-year-old just said today he said we just got the garage door fixed and now the microwave doesn't work and so now we got to get a new microwave and what he said it was something else and now the pool needs water and it was something else and he just listed off how my seven-year-old just noticed that in a house everything break so honestly i know people who don't spend millions of dollars on building a house and the house still need repairs stuff still built wrong stuff still out of order and when you're a single mom me personally you got to get a brother a uncle a cousin somebody you know who could come and be a liaison because them contractors is the most crooked people you gonna meet they finna have you all kind of prices and right now honestly if you could stay in that apartment and they ain't jacking that rent up or the rental house i'll stay there because the real estate prices is insane right now on an older home on building a home the supply chain with just what the lumber them went up crazy like i've just stayed renting for a little while to this market reset and things go back to normal because anything you get right now you probably paying over price so i'll take your time on that sister because sometimes home ownership it is it's overrated i own a home it's a little overrated i'll be honest with you because after you buy the home after three years you'll be ready to leave but if you be done paid 150 and the market tank and you ready to move in three years now your house worth 125 or 100 not include all the stuff they want you to fix before you sell it so sometimes just you know renting until you know that you know where you want to be what kind of house you want to be in to the mark the market is the perfect time to buy and that ain't this time right now so since i take a little time on that and and try god bless you now toxic mom um brother croons god bless you now i appreciate that toxic mom try let me see try talking to her countless many times nothing changes a few years ago she said if i ever became pregnant she have nothing to do i'm pregnant now she doesn't ask about him cut her off for good you gotta stop letting her affect you uh share a seat god bless you gotta stop letting her affect you you just gotta put her in a box know who she is know how she is and stop letting that'll make you go up and down just prescribe you know just label her as okay she is this this how she is let me stop expecting this and that from her like this is who she is this is what she's gonna do and you've got to be okay with that uh huh marquita just told you me and the husband bought a new construction house and told me it's 100 right man and people me and my wife were getting some stuff redone in our house the men just went to go to add in all kind of prices the construction company went to add all kind of price that the man who worked for the man say man this man jack and he prices up on y'all he feel like y'all got money you know he's a jack and all kind of price he said i come in here y'all gonna tell him you done i come in and do all this stuff for a third of the price of what he offered i let him do the tile in him my office i'll be about to cut my toe walking through here he did that tile so terrible i'll say boy and then people we had them put a microwave up not a microwave to win out we can't even get the microwave down because they done wrecked the microwave put up there in the little thing it's stuck up there they got the thing nailed and screwed and all kind of i said boy joining god bless you windy god bless you now i've been seriously trying to grow my brand for seven months as a weight loss coach i can't gain traction i go live on ig once a week people don't really show up suggesting to help me grow i must not be hitting their pain points well it's a weight loss coach right now and it's just really about the knowledge and so instead of going live live is something to where you go live when you've built the following so before going live you first have to touch on what is being pushed so right now on ig reels are being pushed so shift your energy to doing 30 second to one minute reels not dancing but just little tips so you see how people point into this and point into that and they have the words right there do those do one of those sunday tuesday and thursday and put it up at the same time each day so sunday tuesday and thursday at 10 a.m your time you post that reel with some informative knowledge and with a dope song behind it a good a good beat on them to get people you know engage and you point into the different little tips you want them to learn so sunday tuesday thursday 10 a.m or 7 a.m or what have you then you could that'll help you start to build because they're pushing reels so people with no following reels getting a million views and um i got a social media mastery course on how i built from zero to over three million people online so i got a social media mastery course the principles of it because the stuff changed all the time so the social media course can't stay up to date as far as the algorithms but there's principles to building a brand online that don't change and people who have a brand online they understand that that is certain principles that you can apply so getting that on social media mastery course on uh tony gaskins academy dot com lory god bless you now do you offer feedback on book draft to determine book worthiness i wrote an autobiography in college and was told that i should write a book you should write a book and i wouldn't ask nobody opinion on the book so it's not really something i do because i don't like judging art you know i remember drake said a lady told him his music suck and he'll never be a top artist and now look at him number one in the world so never ask anybody their opinion on your art you just do it and you put it on out there and let it be for who it's going to be because if you ask 10 different people what they think about your art you're going to get 10 different responses andrea god bless you now rose bliss god bless you now let me make sure nobody put a question in in the super chat because sometimes when y'all do those i don't get to see them because it goes in the chat and not up at the top see the orange and the yellow go up to the top and y'all do the blue ones it go in the chat and there's so many people writing it get pushed up and i miss it yes i do two reels each day and started a tiktok four months ago thank you i look at the course you're doing too many reels so you got to let you got to get an algorithm time to catch your reel and get in there because when you post another reel you resetting your algorithm you now it's going to leave your last post and jump to your next post so just do and then you overloading people that's way too much content so you got to think about that like you it's just like you know calling somebody if you call somebody twice a day they'll be like what urn what the real you want windy my goodness we just talked so that's the same thing when you posted them reels now you interrupted somebody timeline you jumping back out there where them two reels could have been two different days so if you could do two a day you really could cut that down to one a day and just do it seven days a week if you got that much content but you also got to focus on not just consistency but you got to have creativity creativity and it got to be quality and so you kind of want to come up on some cutting edge type stuff too hi Tony what do you think about women and men not wearing their wedding rings I heard if men and women wear their wedding rings they get hit on more like it's the forbidden fruit thoughts I'm gonna tell you what I wear my rain every day and I ain't never been hit on that must look like the bottom of a shoe because I ain't never been hit on and I wear my rain every day and I have never had a woman hit on me that I could recall you know yeah you have a woman that look like a mouse oh and be dressed like this is a microphone they'll say some sometimes but not nobody that you could be remotely attracted to I have never been hit on with the ring on so I would imagine if I took the ring off then I might get hit on but from my experience women respect the ring now I've heard women say that they've heard other women say that tell them a man could be committed and now they just want that man to commit to them but any woman that say that ain't a woman worth having so and men know that men know that a woman that'll talk to you with your ring on is not a woman worth talking to and so carefully and God bless you so just so understand that Kimberly most God bless you mom I show appreciation thanking thanking them for that show they have to do it boyfriend of ten months treats me good but is atheist he said if he believed in God that he'd be mad with him for past hardships he agreed to read bible with me will counseling from a christian man help him uh counseling won't help him just because he's gonna go in already biased and looking at the counselor but reading that bible with you uh that word will come alive that word alive on that on that paper so and what you have to realize is you gotta pray for the wisdom and for the knowledge to be able to help to explain to him that God is not a puppet master and just putting hardships on us and making us go through stuff that life happens to everybody christian atheist muslim buddhist life happens to everybody everybody die everybody struggle everybody go through all kind of horrific things they ain't got nothing to do with God and so it ain't like God just over there okay it's your turn not uh take that okay not your turn uh take that okay it's your turn not uh and so sometimes you have to explain to people like listen this is life like this humans on earth when humans got their own brain got their own free will could do what they want to do just like he has chosen not to choose God that mean he could do whatever he want to do so that mean God don't have control over humans unless we call him and ask him for wisdom knowledge understanding strength courage whatever God ain't grabbing your hand making you do nothing you doing and you living and so you have to pray for the wisdom to be able to explain that and then what's going to help him most is your peace your joy and your witness so if you on your back he can't believe in God if you on your back because if your book say you not supposed to be on your back and you on your back then he gonna say well how real is your book if you don't even believe in it you see what I'm saying so your witness is gonna be the only bible he really read my 13 year old son is talking to girls without my consent he's not listening how do I make the talk connect um jerellene your 13 year old living your house so for one if he want to talk to girls take that phone take that phone take the s box that playstation take all his shoes you get one pair of shoes you get one pair of shoes they could look nice this is your only pair of shoes you're gonna wear if you go to public school they wear regular clothes you got five outfits you can rotate e5 outfits all that outside plan all that is when you raising kids they got to be this my house these my rules the thing about it is there's too many people let their kids negotiate with them ain't no negotiation there ain't no negotiation then my house is my rules I'm gonna tell you what to do I'm gonna tell you why I'm telling you to do this I'm gonna teach you the lesson from it but this what you're gonna do or you're gonna get out my house at 13 years old he step out that door talking about he finna run away he will be running right back in there let me get back in and so listen y'all got to put your foot down you ain't got the yell you ain't got the curse you ain't got to put hands on you just got to remove your hand or what you're doing for him so when my son my 14-year-old go to hiking up he probably got 10 pair of shoes I take down the one-pound bobo's I take them down on one-pound bobo's I say give me that gold necklace off your neck give me that gold brace it off your arm and you wear that one-pound bobo's you want to be cool all right it's what you finna this what then he he get off that game ain't no game ain't no cell phone ain't no game none of that no video game guess what he get that act right in order right in order let me see what this say more pressure than rubies hi Tony happy to see you live question about men when I dated older men 10 plus years they loved my afro hair and stretch marks yet when I dated guys my age they were shallow and made fun of me about this why well that you know that explain it to you it just plain it to you it's like when you in grade school you get picked on you get talked to when you get older and you go to work you don't necessarily go through the same thing because a little more older a little more mature and so the older men it's like they done been through a lot they done seen a lot they done experience a lot so they understand what come with a woman the younger men they may not care about it but they just more immature so they gonna turn it into a joke they gonna say something about it you know they gonna try to nitpick just to try to see if they could get under your skin they might not even mean what they saying it's just that they just immature that's all it is that what you got to understand right though appreciate the time you give to help us brother god blessing the beautiful shuree gas and the boy they god blessing god blessing so appreciate you why are so many married men openly hitting on me as a single woman successful and no kids I always flee but why is this so common saddens me for their wives yeah it's it just when you see stuff like that you have to realize that what you deal with on a daily basis it's just a microcosm of the world at large you know it's just a microcosm of the world so when you see all this raggedy music all the raggedy tv shows all the raggedy you know instagram pages all the raggedy podcasts youtube channels when you see all of this nonsense getting pushed onto society the people in the world gonna become the offspring of the content that's out there so these men they out be married men out there reckless because all of their favorite celebrities are in open relationships cheating on a woman getting away with it having break babies the woman taking them back and so they go to looking like well what in the world am I being faithful for and they use that as their excuse to be a lowlife to be a doll and when they see you know offset go cheat on car to be and they see videos go out if they see Kevin Hart cheat on a nico they see you know all these different celebrity couples getting cheated on and these women got money they got access they could go on about their business but they see these women stay with these men so they like well why am I being faithful when women who got the world at their fingertips is choosing the state and so they use that as an excuse to go out and cheat on their wife and then their wife do the same thing a lot of time their wife know they're cheating but she like we got a house together we got kids together people in the public don't know he cheating if if I leave him the next man gonna cheat and so that's what she tell herself so he used that low self-esteem and that thought process against her and not realizing that it's women like Cherie Gaskins who got a faithful husband and it's a whole lot of women like Cherie Gaskins with a faithful husband but she'll tell herself the next man gonna cheat on her and he will tell her that and then he'll let her hear the podcast but these little idiots saying that successful men gonna cheat and men who earn money gonna cheat so then she get downtrodden and then she listen to the podcast in the dark and she get beat up on over there and so she like you know what I might as well put up with this cheating and so it's just really our world our society is just so lost um brown god is god bless you I see some questions have you put in your church finger up and leaving us but we all appreciate your wisdom Tony too fun hey god bless you now best of Tony too fun I talked to the out people the other day by having my own out they I can't remember what they told me for how many people but they was like yeah it'd be like two thousand dollars a month well I talked to another company about having my own app and it was like eight thousand a month what a time being I'm still need people out what they paying to keeping the likes on and I just show up you know so till then I don't think he's spiritually mature enough to lead in a relationship or mature enough to abstain until marriage he's turning 23 it seems like I should go about my business I have FOMO well sister you didn't ask me no question so you know you told me so god bless you now uh india god bless you hi Tony is it materialistic of me to no longer entertain men without their own place to stay or car I'm 26 and I have both of those names but I'm worried about being used again you definitely will get used if a man ain't got his own place or car and and the thing about it is for a man you got to think about it if a man ain't got his own place to stay it's more comfortable for him to stay with you and have some booty on demand than to live with his mama or to be living with his snake home boy so you will get used if the man ain't got his own place point blank period and then if he ain't got his own car and y'all in a city that driving is being done and you got a car for that reason you also will get used for that car if he ain't got no transportation so it is unfortunate but it is true that a lot of men not looking for a relationship they're looking for some help and so that's not materialistic to want a man to be on your level meaning have his own transportation have his own place to stay now if you got a Benz he ain't got to have no if your Benz or you got a whatever car and it's 30 000 he gotta have a 30 000 if he got him something to get a to b it might call 5000 but you know hey that's it getting him now he got something and then your place might cost a thousand a month hills might be 700 a month yours might be 1500 a month here might be a thousand a month he got his own place to stay it ain't might not be on the same you know expense level but what you asking is that a man be independent because you are independent and then when y'all get together and y'all get married now y'all become interdependent. Latrice God bless your boyfriend ignored my calls at 4 a.m. boyfriend ignored my calls at 4 a.m. so i went to his house and a car was in the yard he said he had to put a radio in he got upset and wouldn't let me in um um Latrice you need to get your little help Latrice you need a little help for one wise you up at 4 a.m. two wise you car was a man at 4 a.m. three wise you going over to the man house at 4 a.m. Latrice you got to do better you got to do better you got to do better and i wouldn't let you in either at 4 a.m. and it's like okay but that's the size of craziness right now so what you're finna do is you're gonna make the man see you as crazy and then what he's gonna do uh Kiera God bless then what he's gonna do is he just gonna resent you he gonna resent you then he just gonna be looking for ways to cheat wiser why don't you believe in right person wrong time because love transcends time so if it's the right person it'll be the right time because nothing will stand in between love because love conquers all so if it's the right person no amount of distance no amount of age no amount of time no amount of anything will keep y'all apart if it's the right person so if it's the wrong time that mean it's the wrong person and at another time you will meet the right person or the right person will come back at the right time because love conquers all so that's that's why and you and you cannot believe in right person wrong time or you will stay stuck with that person emotionally and when you meet the right person at the right time you won't recognize the right person at the right time because you've given the title of the right person to the wrong person at the wrong time but if your mind believes it was the right person at the right time now you will miss your blessing because before you meet destiny you meet a distraction that looks like destiny so that's what you have to understand and that's why i don't believe in right person wrong time now make sure y'all putting questions in the chat as y'all see a lot of y'all stuff getting deleted because this is not an open chat this a Q&A so put your questions in the chat not commentary and put hashtag Q in front of your question how to know a man's intentions you can't know a man's intentions you just got to go with the flow until it shows go with the flow until it shows and what you have to know is what red flags look like so now when you see it you recognize it and you're able to part ways 28 year old boyfriend of four months told me he is financially unstable can't afford dates right now he treats me great is this a red flag or am i being materialistic um it's not that you're being materialistic it is that he financially unstable so instead of dating he should probably be focusing on his finances now he treats you great but that and that's and that could be enough if you see he's working towards his goals and he's doing the right things he's going in the right way then that could be enough until he gets to a better place financially so you have to just look at his character look at his ambition look at where he's headed where he's going and see if that's enough for you and at the end of the day it's not really about a date you know a date could be just sitting and talking it's about getting to know each other it ain't about how much money a man could spend on a date and how much how many dates a man could do that because a pimp could do that a player could do that a no good man could do that so if you use monetary things like him being able to take you on a date if his heart and his integrity and everything is pure his character is there but you just base his work on him being able to pay for dates and go on multiple dates then you're looking at it the wrong way because a good man is all is going to be in a process and a good man is going to be in a place to where when he's building when you build him block block block by block and you build him from the ground up you're going to have times where your income is low and so you have to determine if you want to build with that man or not. Jaina God bless you thank you thank to you Tony for all your great work in God I'd undergone loads as life work and relationship coach and practice can't say it all here doing best as much and want to bless you and your family. Hey God bless you now. Now where's the SGD? Where's the SGD? Where are you at? Sister SGD. I don't think I've seen that. I'm 21 actually. I'm 21 almost every guy approached me with friends with benefits. I never give in. What am I doing wrong that this happens? Thanks for all you do you've been guiding me for real. God bless you and your family. What you're doing wrong is you 21 entertaining men. So at 21 guys your age Katie and walking two bubblegum at the same time. They so young today and y'all generation today at 21 okay Singapore God bless you y'all generation today at 21 y'all a little and excuse my French but a little more real life dumb and so what I mean is I mean a little more naive a little more gullible because y'all raised with social media y'all raised with the internet so whereas those of us who was before the internet we got to go outside and play a little more we got to experience life a little more we got to do a little more but y'all just raised since cell phones been here internet been here so the 21 year old men today they really like 15 year old 16 year old so that's why they come with friends with benefits because they ain't thinking about being no man they ain't thinking about no family they ain't thinking about living you know doing right kiyara welcome to the blessed tribe now my ex wants to rekindle still marry although separated two years don't want divorce until 14 year turns 18 to avoid child support but wants me to stay a secret until divorce and see the thing is is he that's how men today are trying he think you dumb enough to take the deal he think you dumb enough desperate enough and weak enough to take the deal so he put the deal on the table he say hey that's on you nine is what you're gonna do you're gonna be dumb and desperate and then take this hell raw deal or you're gonna love yourself respect yourself and go on about your business he put the ball in your court you will be a fool to take them up on that raggedy offer because did you have to think about this why would you want to be with a man who afraid to get a divorce from a woman that he claimed he on love and he don't want to be with because he don't want to pay child support for his child it's like as a man a man ought to be happy to pay child support because it's his child that he brought into the world and the child the child ain't one the child 14 so it's gonna take time for the child support to even get in place and then when the child support get in place the child support could be 250 dollars a month it's I know guys who make 20 million dollars a year that mean he got made almost two million dollars a month and you know how much that child support is five thousand dollars a month so my sister got a baby daddy his child support is five dollars a month and that boy go down there and put 50 cent on the books so did so you got to look at the kind of man you got the kind of man you even entertaining what kind of man don't want to pay no child support if I had to leave my wife or she had to leave me I'm gonna run to the courthouse to get on child support because I love my sons so if that's what I got to be on to be on papers to show them so that they got receipts that hey my daddy even though he went with my mom my daddy put that bread up and he paid that child support and then he bought me extra and did more for me on top of that came to see me spend time with me I'm gonna run to the courthouse if that's what it got to be just because I love my kids so me I really don't I know men don't like child support they don't like the government being in there but listen you should have did right in your marriage you should have did right with the woman and if if you ain't do right if you chose wrong then that's the part of the consequences as a man you got to start crying start complaining and and just deal with the consequence of your bad choices and just point blank pure R and that's that's that's why our world the way it is because we got a bunch of soft punk of men who want to do whatever they want to do and then want to run from the consequences and you can't live like that as a man you can't become great running from your consequences based on your bad choices you can't do that you can't grow like that nicky pigard bless i've been with a man who has helped me raise my daughter since she was two and is now 13 good guy but hasn't asked to marry him yet and it's been 11 years am i wasting my time because i'm losing hope so let's forgive 11 I listen I since you asked that question a little too late 11 years in so it's 11 years in so you might well that's the question you posed as at year two year three since 11 years in so it's like your daughter your daughter used to the man now it's it's it's y'all common law now and so it's like listen if you just want marriage just for the piece of paper then it marriage ain't worth it you have to want marriage because you want to be in a right standing with God because fornication is is a sin like you want to be spiritually aligned to be correct before God not just correct before the government but correct before God so if you live 11 years that means you don't have a conviction of God if y'all sleeping together so you might well not rock the boat for no rain for no marriage because unless now you came near to the cross but don't upend everything just for the sake to say I'm married because me personally I'm I'm I'm I'm I'm I really question a man who with a woman more than three years I ain't married and I and honestly I a lot of times I ask God I ask God you know hey you've been with one three year five year why you married he said I don't think she'd want that's what God to tell me they'll tell me I don't think she the one honestly I don't think I want to marry but then they don't meet nothing better so then your seven year eight year nine they've gone marry you but really that's then I say well okay he's settled because he ain't even like it he didn't think she was the one so that with that right there listen it's either don't stay in it unless you've got a conviction from the Lord the way you want to get married now and if that he don't want that then you got to be willing to go on about your business but as a grown woman you chose to sat in there for 11 years so if you get up and really nah it's gonna hurt it's gonna hurt and it's gonna be hard but like but again like I tell y'all we have freedom of choice but we do not have freedom of consequence and so some the consequence sometimes gonna be tough sometimes the consequence gonna punch us in our mouth and give us our two front teeth for dinner that we got to chew up with our molars and that's how life work it's it's tough lesson sometimes the true god bless you my husband told me that our marriage changed once he started a the true god blessing now because that usd you send it up god blessing now my goodness this ain't gonna do all that now my husband told me that our marriage changed once he started watching the man in the dark uh-huh our last argument was over him which is resulting in us divorcing uh-huh screenshot there screenshot there let me screenshot it i'll be the turn my dog on i ain't gonna screenshot it i'll be the turn my live all let me see if i can screenshot it okay i screenshot it that's how i already know that i'm trying to tell you and then people will be talking about they together and they marry it because of the man in the dark they married because of that that's because that's a weak backbone woman that don't know her worth and then her man them bamboozled her ran her muck and pleaded rock and landed on her and and now she believe in her foolish husband who got her listening to the to the man in the dark so see that that's why i try to tell you that man in the dark and they had y'all divorce and why because he didn't been divorced twice so the only advice that you finna get is how to get divorced is how to be led to a divorce and it don't matter if these guys holding men accountable quote unquote and if they're holding women accountable quote unquote at the end of the day what they know how to do is get divorced and so that's what it's going to do i'm so disappointed in him how do i cope with this listen though listen this is what you got to understand about your man if your man is weak enough to let a if your husband is weak enough to let a unmarried twice failed marriage man give him advice about a relationship and he divorced you because of what another man said that's not the kind of man you want to be in bed with that's not the kind of man you want to put your future in his hands that's not a man that's a child that's a grown boy when he let another man who ain't even masculine tell him to get a divorce basically that ain't the kind of man you want to be with because a now real man gonna let another man cause him to get divorced that ain't what it's gonna be now what he gonna do is evaluate himself and see these men who not married they have unrealistic expectations of what a wife is and that's why they not married because they don't understand a wife is a human being with a heart with feelings who get headaches who get tired who is very much human just like that man and so these guys go to acting like a woman supposed to be a slave and they think that a marriage is going to work by treating the woman like a slave and that's why they not married because they don't understand that so you got to go on head and just go on about your business and go on about your business heal grow and what you got to do is you got to treat him like you don't kill you got to treat him like a ghost like Casper and that's gonna make him realize how dumb he been miss racial god bless him but when you crying and you chasing them and you doing all that mm-hmm he just gonna run you through the mud gonna run you through the mud here oh god bless enough how should dating progress for a healthy relationship what are good signs after three months i'm 25 he 27 just moved far still wants to connect well since you asked me wrong person about that now because me personally i really am not a fan alone this relationship especially no 27 year old man he too young for a long this relationship and at three month mark you know you're supposed to be getting exclusive there so i got a video called how to date correctly watch that then i think i got something on why long this relationship fail watch that and you just got to evaluate his character who he is because it possibly could work if he have a lot of character if he got good character but want to connect is different than wanting to be together so you got to understand that we dated for two years my daughter looked at him as a father figure we we broke up now he doesn't even speak now he doesn't even speak to her she is heartbroken and i feel guilty how can i mend her heart any advice well sister i don't have any experience with that but that is your daughter and kids are very resilient so what we call heartbroken as adults for a child it not really heartbroken like it hurts them but when you put her into dance or gymnastics or robotics or whatever classes and you get her busy she's active she's moving around she having play dates she having activities she having rehearsals recitals whatever she active she'll heal she'll heal she'll grow and what you got to learn as a mom is that in the future don't ever introduce a man to your child and bring a man in your child life inside of 12 months and at that 12 month mark you need to consult god you need to consult a life coach you need to consult your best friend and you need to consult your closest family member about that man before you introduce him to your child and then when you introduce him to your child you keep him as this is mommy friend not this your daddy so you say he was like a father figure you brought him in too close a man should never be a father figure to your child until that's your husband until that's your husband it's a mother's job to protect your child from any man and it's a man's job to protect your child from any woman until that person becomes your spouse because nothing is guaranteed until y'all walk down the aisle and even when you walk down the aisle or stand in the arches at the courthouse it still ain't guaranteed because you still got to work and make it work so never ever and and i know y'all be wanting to introduce this and all that to your child but you can't do that because relationships too volatile today they're too all over the place any videos or advice on dating without fear i don't i don't know i probably got a touch on there but what y'all got to do is click on videos click on oldest start at the end and just start walking working your way through them up to the day but i don't know if it's and and i'm not sure dating without fear is a good thing you know a little bit of fear might help you a little bit of fear might keep you keep you out of trouble and not fear in the sense of paralyzed with the fear but it really wouldn't be called fear it'd be precaution i never seem to get past the talking stage i always end up getting ghosted how can a man build a connection with a woman if his time and energy is going to other women at the same time you got to be thankful that you don't get past the talking stage and you also got to watch the game film when i say watch the game film somebody's like tony where can i find that film it's not a movie or tv show when i say watch the game film you got to look back at them conversations you got to play them back in your head and you got to say am i being too thirsty am i talking too much am i laying out too many expectations am i doing too much am i letting my desperation speak am i letting my frustration speak because you might be running the man off if you want it too bad so you got to make sure you're not doing that and if you're not doing that then you got to say hey okay i'm thankful that these guys just ghosting because that is my protection not my rejection and you got to understand and you got to appreciate somebody running off because that's saving you from heartache and just keep learning and learning yourself feel something weird in my spirit he follows really i found his account following you know i felt something off follow my instincts or is it me i'm 35 he's 35 i'm 28 i see you listen to me listen to me now my family's still up moving and hustling and bustling around here 10 o'clock i get my son doing homework now listen to him with this social media people me and try to act like i saw a guy post ladies your man is going to like other women's pictures on instagram get over it it don't mean nothing to me as a man it mean everything it mean everything to me because what it's saying to me is that man sending a message to that woman because he know when he hit that like button it's going to show up in her notifications so every time he hit that like button he's sending a message of support he's sending a message of admiration and when he follow her that's going to show up in her notifications so he letting her know i see you i got eyes on you because i don't think we should follow people on social media who not adding anything to our life so if that 19 year old ain't teaching him how to day trade how to flip houses how to make no money all she posting is selfies then it's like what reason would he be following her if it's not too lust after her and connect with her so men use social media and a lot of women do too to connect with women to connect with people to send them little messages let them know i see you i'm following you i'm watching you and then they slide in that DM so social media today is so intertwined with real life that we cannot take that for granted like we can't just look at that like it don't mean nothing uh kiara burton god bless you not rose welcome to the blessed tribe so listen to me i meet personally as a man i think it's common sense that if a man is talking to a woman that the man should not be following other women online unless them women are like adding something to his feet like they posting real estate stocks books suggestions like motivational quotes they are ministered they are therapists they adding something if they just showing they booty and their beauty a man who in a relationship should not be following women who just showing booty and beauty that don't make any sense that don't make sense and guys don't want to hear that but that's the truth and god bless you now samika god bless you now what is a good age to take dating seriously have on place car career financially stable level-headed need to work out in the gym or dating has been so draining with these men well i'm gonna tell you what they ain't gonna be draining if you ain't got your body where it supposed to be at first thing you got to focus on is you because people gonna judge you by your presentation it just it's it's not right it should not be but it's a reality and so you got to focus on you first and you're not ready to date until you ready to present yourself so see you could present yourself in a brown bag or you could present yourself in a Tiffany's box is your choice how you gonna treat i could give you a diamond in a brown bag or i could give you cuba zirconia in a Tiffany's box and you gonna choose if i say hey which one you want this one or this one one could be real one could be fake if you ain't never heard that analogy you gonna choose the Tiffany's box and just naturally you gonna choose a Tiffany's box not the brown bag and so that's what's happening when we not ready to present ourselves we present ourselves as a diamond in a brown bag and so people can't they don't respect our presentation male or female it go both ways because the lady just wrote me and said that this guy like her she knew him but he was really overweight so she said she really went into him because she not into overweight men she said then he started working out he got a real serious workout routine and now he done lost all that weight and now she's extremely attracted to him and she's like should i reach out she's like i wasn't trying to be superficial i'm just not attracted to overweight men is what she said and so i say well that just that is human nature like we wanna be attracted to somebody who presenting themselves with their best foot forward even if they still in process making progress shay god bless your coworker invited me to the house wants me to meet husband's best friend acts like she's trying to get us to hook up despite my abstinence no longer want to go because i feel it's a setup overthinking um you're a grown woman you know so it's like what you mean you gotta what you mean by a setup like can't nobody get you do nothing you don't want to do you know this your coworker that could be your husband so don't be out of fear like you don't have control over your body and over your mind and where this guy trying to make a move to where for one you never have to be in a place with him that he can make a move when you link up with him if he want to link up y'all out to eat y'all out to eat downtown like you ain't got to be with him at his place at your place in the backseat of a car in a car down by the lake y'all could be downtown eating and so you got to look at a look differently you know because you could be passing up on your husband met man thursday he took me to lunch and dinner friday to lunch jazz show and dinner saturday he left for texas to help found clean out sister house who passed call me saturday and sunday mornings haven't heard from since is he interested it sound like he interested now but today somebody could be knocked out with that vid somebody can have that they'll put on somebody could be in the hospital somebody you know today so what's the day wednesday he heard from since sunday so i mean you don't want to just jump to conclusion after man that did all that now he spent all that money jazz club and all that you first want to see okay the man living the man caught that vid and it got him on his bank you know what i mean you want to kind of wait to see things out you know so when he hit you up did you hear so where you been the last three days like what's been going on with you and then if he get your bogus excuse and oh okay all right you wanted those then you're going about your business okay key y'all i'm trying to send this through the super chat but it's not working on your end let me see um put your question put a hashtag q before your question key y'all and i could see that um my co-worker has asked to take me out we're both managers same position i avoid work relations due to negative past experiences appropriate to hang out with him platonically in public if you don't get the feeling that that's your husband then don't do it don't do it because one of the things is what you have to understand about men is as men men love thrills men love notches in the belt men love challenges men love games men love competition so having a work wife is a thrill for a man knocking down old co-worker is a thrill for a man so with you being a manager him being a manager he could feel like y'all in competition even though y'all the same position if you do your job better than him he might want to get some of them inside of secrets from you on how you do your job so well might want to slow you down might want to throw you off your game so he get employed the other month so if you don't get a feeling like hey this look like my hub and walk like my hub and talk and if you don't get that feeling about the guy don't mean don't break your rules because one thing i've known is that we have rules put in place in our heart that are safeguards and when we ignore that we pay a grave price and i did that one time i was working with an NBA team as a life coach and i had a rule that i said i said i'm never gonna do this for one of these guys and i did that and man that thing cost me greatly i regret that to this day i said i should have kept my rules of how i you know deal with these guys and what is to be and i learned the lesson about my rules and i also learned that when you in a position you got yourself there and it's your morals and your values and your standards that got you there so you got to keep that and when you lose that you're gonna lose it all child's father had baby on me and now is with baby on me and now is with women after i left but after breakup he was creating problems and being rude to me and makes co-parenting hard while i am constantly compromising it's because he hate itself it's because he's very mad with himself for being a failure in life and for being less than a man for being a pump for being a grown boy and so he's taking that out on you so to justify why he is such a low life he's trying to make himself hate you because he had a baby on you for no reason like that wasn't something that he could have broke up with you if he didn't want to be with you but he had a baby on you and then got with other women or got with the woman whichever you meant to put and so he feel like a low life so for him to live with himself he has to make himself dislike you in order to say this why i did it tiffin it to you welcome to the blessed try hi tony where can i find the three-day rule your wife did to you when you broke her standards thank you it's in here women's influence it's on amazon if you like the audible it's on audible if you like to listen but it's in the book of women's influence called a 72-hour rule since it's in uh when a man says i love you for you what does this mean in a relationship it means i love you for you like love you for who you are love you with your flaws love you not because mama said love you or the world said love you love you for who you are that's all it means that's that one there straightforward what do you believe it means when you check a guy on something and he suddenly goes cold when previously everything was fine he's trying to train you that means he's trying to teach you don't check me on nothing don't tell me nothing let me do what i want to do how i want to do it when i want to do it and don't tell me nothing because if you tell me something i'm gonna run off on you that's what he's trying to train you to let you know that he's not in this to change for you in my country 90% dress down with sloppy t-shirts and shorts day-to-day cuz hot tropical weather but i like to dress up well mostly since past airlines career what's your thoughts tony keep doing you keep doing you don't worry about what everybody else doing keep doing you you'll stand out to somebody why when you call a man out on his bad behaviors you get called insecure it's just a Jedi mind trick what i heard a woman call it it's just a Jedi mind trick it just deflect me it's just because he trying to make you feel crazy so that you don't believe what you're saying so that you're questioning your intuition and you'll give up on that right there and so it's just it's cross-examining just courtroom tactics you lean a little to the blessed trial and how do i vent someone i've always gotten played that someone what is with me you're in the right place keep watching these hip videos that's a long there's a lot of lessons right there how to ensure you aren't bashing another person who did you wrong when writing your book is there a mature way to tell it all what you not that's your story so you got to understand bashing somebody is calling them out they name wishing bad on them calling them you know all kind of just random stuff so but you telling what happened that's just your truth you're not bashing them he has a one-year-old and she keeps mentioning i guess it made me feel weird like she's plotting and won't allow things organically let me see that oh you continue your question i didn't see the first part of your question system this right here for no long questions so you so you got to write a book that means you need a coaching session so we're one of the life coaches on my mentor.life now you're writing all that now two many chats in here and to be having to continue question now so come on now come on now hey come on now well listen up give black folks something free but it won't everything hey this $1.99 a month well you got even a whole session on here hey y'all get on my mentor.life now what about if a guy say he love you just like he love his family but he don't like them but still love he tell you that's a mouthful right down that's a mouthful right there that's a mouthful right there listen that right there gotta scare me that right there worth running over that right there worth all right okay i want that kind of love i got to go need somebody who like you and love you okay why would a man on your IG stories if he have a girlfriend this guy been doing that to me since 2016 and i do have a crush on him he used to bump brush me when he would see me in college why um that man just knows it he got a girlfriend so he obviously don't want you because he could have came on to you he could have shot it shot but so y'all obviously not a fit so it just it's kind of you know just because someone ain't a whole fit for you don't mean you're on like a little bit of bottom or what a little bit of what they show or what they do or who they are it just ain't a whole fit you know so it's kind of like the shoes you like the clothes you like it's like each thing play a different role and so that's all that is and the other thing which you have to realize is sometimes people ain't watching your stories sometimes they're watching somebody else's story and it just rolled to your story and they just let it keep rolling or just clicking through it but it ain't necessarily watching it so you got to understand that too recommendations on moving to a new state single i really ain't a moving coach but um i'm not against that happening you just got to you know do your due due diligence husband and i been married for five years and been separated for a year and separated for a year he have a girlfriend we don't talk at all told me recently he wants to be friends thoughts no no if y'all got kids then he could talk to them but you can't let a man put you in that love you can't let a man put you in that spot to where he blocking your blessings it's like listen you want to leave you got your somebody new be happy over there don't come over here trying to talk trying to be buddy buddy trying to be friend no you want to leave leave go and stay over there where you at that's how you got to approach that alabrash y'all welcome cc welcome welcome to the blessed tribe yes um annie kay bought me rose his first date said he likes me hopes to see me soon thoughts well hopefully y'all see each other soon annie hopefully y'all see each other soon that's a good thing now working on the three bs fit a trike though let me see there it disappeared i know if you had something else in there it looked like it looked like got deleted i know if you had something in there boyfriend 24 i'm 28 both saved financially independent no fornication no vice is amazing character he's a baby christian and still growing can it work absolutely yeah absolutely can work everybody a baby christian yeah as long as we've been saved we all baby christian still we don't know what we think we know y'all got to give them a high drawl it's on the chair y'all gotta forgive us i'll let my chair down and went hitting the high drawl it's on y'all y'all gotta forgive and so yeah it definitely could work to make sure you're consistent all right captain gourmet ice cream sandwiches let's see what the gourmet ice cream sandwiches with the on the uh dry ice now so it could get on to me Q&A what think about this i dress my 14 daughter ugly so boys won't look at her but i let her dress at home don't want mess up here self-esteem what i do yeah you messing up i mean it don't matter what she got on she got on garbage bag boy still gonna look at her but don't do your child don't do don't do the girl like that now had a girl walking around looking like raggedy and because what that's also gonna do to older men is they gonna think she ain't got no representation they're gonna think she ain't got no parents they're gonna think she a orphan they're gonna think she you know live at the group home and searching for searching for some somebody to take care of so you might attract the wrong kind of attention if she dressed to the nines and she dressed amazingly she really going to more so intimidate the little boys they're gonna be like oh wow she took care of like her her parents in her life 100% like she got these kind of new shoes she got those kind of new they know it ain't her money so they know they can't get no money from her but if she looking raggedy they're gonna say oh she got low self-esteem oh she'll let me do whatever i want to do because you got to realize a man don't uh oh this boy's man boy's man because it's gonna be men too they don't know uh they don't know like what that is they don't know if uh what all that you know going on like they don't know that he i mean that she the the thing don't work they they're looking at it like okay them clothes don't mean nothing so you got to realize that there ain't no ain't no male where about no clothes so it don't matter how bad them clothes look anywhere about that abc d god bless you i dated a man for eight months and when i respectfully said i wanted to be friends he blocked me on everything i was devastated and angry tony what are your thoughts on why a man would do this now see listen sis you can't worry about why he would do that when you said you wanted to be friends so when you tell a man that you were dating that you want to be friends he's trying to declutter his life he's trying to move on he don't want to be friends with somebody he was a lover with so you got to realize that he got to move on with his life so he's gonna try to you know he's gonna try to do what he got to do and uh okay so look like oh gourmet sandwiches came in here and uh trying to troll and the moderators jumped on her head or his head could be a man and said trolls will be blocked now i don't know i think they could do time out but i could do block over here but listen y'all y'all better know i'm the wrong one now the block thing the strong over here now y'all come over here playing tony i understand if you may not be able to answer because you have never looked for a husband but when or how will i know a man may be my husband i don't think or know if this has happened yet well see you got to realize that the woman come from a man meaning from Eve from Adam to a daughter from the father to the mama so our spirits intertwine our souls intertwine like we know each other a woman's intuition is like the strongest force on the planet so when you meet a when you take and you meet a man and that's your husband you're gonna know it you're gonna know it from the first real in-depth conversation you're gonna know it so that's what you got to realize you know you got to understand that right now let me see him i've been preparing for my BBB started started writing first book chat going too fast and moving the message and about launching youtube too i signed up for your birth your book and youtube courses hey god bless you so hey tony i'm 26 i'm grinding and focusing on myself but i just want to date for fun staying off my back of course is that bad what if i don't want to date for marriage right now well if you play with fire you're gonna get burned so if you dame for fun it's just like saying that's like me saying hey i don't want to be no no game member but i just want to slide for fun i just want to throw up for fun just because it's a thrill guess what one of them bullets gonna catch me so when you go out here and you dame for fun you could be dame for fun and one need me and strong army you see what i'm saying so don't go in the field until you're ready to play the game if you ain't trying to go all the way then don't step foot out there because you can step foot out there and talk about you gonna stay on stay off your bike but if you meet a man who got that swag goo on rag goo dripping like dripping it drop and then he put that thing on you because he don't whine you he doesn't dine you he doesn't find you he doesn't sign you and then he doesn't climb you and then he put that thing on you now here you are you went out there talking about you want to date for fun and you end up praying because things got out of hand so dating is not to be played with it is not for fun because two if you go out there dame for fun if you tell a man you dame for fun he's gonna be like well oh you just want to sleep with somebody then because don't know man want to be spending no money just for fun he don't want to be paying for no dates and going on no dates just for fun so he either want something at that bed or he want a wife and so you have to understand that so you got to look at this thing and be able to say okay all right let me take and approach this thing intentionally you got to be intentional about that got to be intentional working on the three B's fit attract a good job and dress well i don't get approached by attractive men often am i doing something wrong tend to be approached by unattractive men or older men you're not doing something wrong and sometimes unattractive men or older men they just they could be them being shot down so many times that they really don't process rejection or failure like that anymore whereas a man who was an attract a man could be more insecure and be more worried and be more self-conscious of rejection whereas an unattractive man may be used to getting walked off on so he just shoot this shot just to be shooting this shot because you know the rejection don't bother him no more but a man who ain't used to that he may be more afraid of it hey so we look across an hour and a half now you know i'd be seeing these people on youtube doing these three hours four hour five hour lives i'd be like my what the real y'all on what y'all snorting powder like what the real and and they don't be taking no break either they be on four five hours i'd be like what kind of powder listen i i really don't be having that kind of energy i must be getting old but like i told y'all man i'm a little lazy now i'm a little lazy i used to hustling grind i used to work to eight hours a week nine i probably try to work i work about seven to fifteen hours a week nine i ain't like i used to be i work about i work seven about seven hours a week on average sometimes i push push didn't work 15 hours but god bless you y'all to ask some questions and so it looked like the question has slowed down so i think we done got through them so hey i'm gonna turn the questions off and just talk to you and i appreciate y'all for asking these questions and you know i try to be humble and patient as i can because one thing i realize and understand is that what may be plain to me and when you in it you can't see it from the outside looking in so me on the outside looking in i could see it and i try to speak to it but one thing i would say is trust your intuition trust your intuition and trust your spirit where you're operating from where you're coming from because when you evaluated from your heart and you're able to look and see just using your common knowledge you know more than you give yourself credit for and so like they say if it walked like a duck looked like a duck quite like a duck it's a duck so the thing with love is love is or love isn't it's a quote somebody wrote i've seen on quote half a long time ago it say love is or it isn't there is no such thing is thin love or in between love so you got to realize that when we have something real our heart will be made assured of that we'll be sure of what we have being real and you really won't have a question like you'll know the love is there and yeah you're gonna have some doubts here and there just could be your mind could be insecurity could be past stuff you done been through but at the core you know when you got something real and you got to trust that don't wait on somebody to tell you that what you got ain't real when you know your heart is not pleased with what you have so hey god bless y'all and uh yeah jasmine get on that and to the to the moderators uh-oh question came in but i'm getting ready to go this will say uh-oh you can go nowhere now hold on now hold on oh that's canadian huh canadian 69 99 god bless you now god bless you now what that is in usd y'all count now hey i'm gonna tell you what i was trying to ask my wife long when old trump was in office i was like baby would you let me marry me somebody in canola just so i get my citizenship up there and then you know she know what's going on we ain't even talking and then after the after the statue then i go bring you over marry you over there count so we get some of that free health care get that free health care you know um what all get and get from up on the old crazy man he'll for he'd be to hit that button and we'd be up in smoke with this man inciting the whole world and so well ready to get on over that account of the butt i'm still stuck over here god bless you man 41 has a decision between two women he picks the eye candy gets used the woman he rejected knows she is now flourishing and looking good god reveals to him the woman he rejected is his wife will he have hard time facing her after all this um it depends on the man but honestly if a man see a prize he see a win he's gonna suck up that pride and go on act like ain't nothing to happen he's gonna go on back like ain't nothing to happen you know how are you i miss you i've been thinking about you this whole time he's been a cello dream he's been a cello dream took that tail right between his legs he's going back with no ego because he know he was the dummy he know that he made the stupid decision so he got to eat that and i was gonna say to the moderators um thank y'all to the moderators for helping me out and the trolls or whoever that y'all finding there y'all delete the message so fast i ain't getting to read the message because you know if i would have got to read the message i would have had gone in for a little while had to read me somebody but y'all got the message so fast i ain't get to read it and um so i appreciate you but when i see y'all put somebody in time out now y'all know me now if i see you put somebody in time my oh if you got to get timed out then up in the block yeah up in the block because you're too grown you're too grown for that you don't have to get timed out so if you got to get timed out of here i ain't got the time i ain't got the time so we over here serious we doing business over here we doing the work of the lord we taking this thing serious so i ain't got time to be fooled around with the trolls but listen to me the trolls they gonna keep coming on you know they gonna keep coming on around and be saying stuff the more i start talking uh mk say i ain't think it was a troll well see that's sometimes high that's some hot times how the how the trolls do they try to sneak a little message in and try to hide it under some positive or under a little side you know compliment because and see the listen say you would have blocked so see yeah they seen it they seen it the listen no i so would have blocked so with a block no we don't eat nor troll we don't eat nor troll uh uh one of one of my nba guys he ran up on somebody one time said something to him i say bruh you were half a b why you approaching these hecklers he said man hey disrespect got to get a dress i was like okay all right ever since then i've changed my approach on it hey disrespect got to get a dread block so listen because he got to realize some of us if you're in a different walk of life so when somebody come on the cybernet with the twitter thongs all you could do is hit the block button if they disrespect you in person it might go another way but on this hill social media you all you could do hit the block button so listen y'all got to sometimes you got to block people in real life and sometimes you just got to block people online and cut my hand up here backhand and somebody on accident my reign he rang so thick done done knocked a little skin off my finger so hey i really appreciate you to the moderators god bless you and uh we don't win what we don't win hundred minutes hour and 40 minutes god bless you and we'll be in touch this hill video they'll go up you know they'll go up and they'll pop up on there and then you'll see it it'll it should take about five ten minutes bonnie we ain't talking about all that right there are people who asking questions they ain't blocking people who asking questions they're blocking people who troll them and we and the moderators that's on here with me then they them been on here this whole time they've been on here a year or more probably a couple years so they they know how this hill go now if you want to email a long question it's going to be on talks with tony i won't answer questions in the in the email you know one-on-one it had to be a question that i asked her anonymously on talks with tony so you email to inbox at tonigaskins.com inbox at tonigaskins.com house art good god but hey let me go ahead and go now because i need to get on here with my wife i think my son went to bed so that mean the wife probably freed now because she had to help him with that homework so he'd get the bed so let me go on in here get my time in i god bless you we'll talk soon