 So number three is I want to learn that there is a way that I can, without guilt, see the part I play in thinking A. And you just repeat, you just bring them down and write them in again. A for number one, B for number one, and C for number one. What you're thinking, feeling, who you're blaming, and what you're hearing. C doesn't make sense, because we decided that the negative consequences were more of the same. That's not a blaming situation. I didn't go far enough, we're in the hearing. The first C would be blaming Nancy, and the second one is hearing more of the same. Tell her why you put those both to C, because I've had other people ask them. I was wondering the same thing. Well, because sometimes you will be using this instrument for peace, not on something that has seemed to have already happened, but you can use it to address fears and feelings that come up related to something that you think is going to come up in the future. And so when you use this worksheet addressing something that's coming up in the future, you probably will not fill in that first C, because there won't be someone you're blaming. But there will definitely be some fears associated with what will occur in the future that you'll be addressing. I could lose my job. That's something like that, future thoughts. When I think about the company cutting back on employees, I feel nervous, I feel scared, I feel whatever I feel. Because I think that so-and-so is to blame. Maybe you will, maybe you won't have somebody's name to put in there. What if you put your own name? Thinking of something I might say, because I think I'm to blame. And be sure you put your name in there. Don't put me, lest you confuse who that is and where it meets. Which means to put Mary. So put Mary. Don't put me, because you may think that you are Mary if you put me down there. That's right. So Mary is the ego. Right. And me is who I truly am. Yeah, it's one of the personas that is the name personality. So four is, I release my wanting to be right about my perception of all of this. A, B, C, and D. I want instead to be happy. Through the ego, distorted thinking, seeing, I perceive the cause of my upset and its resolution as outside my mind. This projection seems very real. Its purpose is to distract my mind from looking inward. Yeah. There's another real helpful thing that we're just to think of. Jerry, another Jerry Janowski, do you want to be happy or do you want to be right? See, that's the thing that when you ask that question, do I want to be right or do I want to be happy? What it's getting at is, I want to be right about being out of control. Yeah. And that will never bring me happiness. And that C, a lot of times like we were just saying, can be, you put your own name in there and you seem to be convinced that yourself is to blame. And it seems very strong. It seems to be like I'm to blame and I'm right about this. I know I am. Because now I know the world, the deeper, now this is a place where I am. I know nobody is out there to blame. It is me, me, me. You know, now I want to be right about that. So there gets back to that self-hatred that, you know, we've talked a lot about. So I can see me not ever putting anybody's name in here because there's nobody out there that I can blame. But I can see me putting me in there a whole lot now at this level. So just be sure you put me in there. So put me in there. That's why I'm the guide sheet. It says somebody or something outside of me is capital, large, ME, boldest. That me refers to my true self. And so even when you put your name there, Mary, that still is somebody outside of my real self, my true self. If the cause of my upset and its resolution were outside my mind, I would in fact be powerless to change my state of mind. By use of projection, seeing outside what I don't want to see within is why I seem powerless. Why see seems to be the cause of my upset. All right, let's look at the first sentence. If the cause of my upset and its resolution were outside my mind, I would be powerless to change. That's what we're questioning because if it was, if it was surely Nancy and I'm going to have to keep going over there. And aside from trying to fix Nancy and put Nancy through a rehab program or, you know... Yeah, I like that. That would fit in that thing of its resolution, you know, seeing its resolution outside my mind. And that happens a lot of times in alcoholic situations, you know, where it's like, let's send the alcoholic person to A.A. or whatever, and our whole family problems will be solved because they have the problem. And the resolution is them going through a rehab program. It still gets back down to... See, for me, this is like a great gift to see that if there's anything outside in my mind that has power over me, then I might as well just give up right here and right now because I can't change the world. I've tried. And you know it doesn't work. You know, and I know that that will never, and I can't control people, and I can't control situations, and I can't control outcomes, and I can't pick it and change it. So if that's truly, if that's true, then it is hopeless. So it's like, well, that can't be the truth of it. It has to be that it's within my mind. And to me, that's very empowering because if it's within my mind, then I always have the power to change it. Yes. Oh, that's where I'm confused. I thought, okay, it's when that's right. It's when that's right. It's the ego in my mind. Right. It's not ego. Okay. You're exactly me. A simple way to regard it would be, of course, uses the term right mind and wrong mind. So to bring it back, first of all, off the screen and blaming, wanting to fix other people and everything and bring it back and just say, oh, it's the wrong mind. It's a choice for the wrong mind. That's where the problem is. And the right mind is the answer to the wrong mind. I heard it talked about earlier. You were saying something at the dinner table about while being, if I was in my right mind, you were mentioning that. And people have used that a lot. But that's a good way of talking about sanity. Sanity has to be within us and that has to be our... Sometimes it's used way out of context. If I were in my right mind, I would have told it to be. Yeah, any mind mind that's referred to here is really the wrong mind. I could, for my first, substitute the word ego. Yeah, right. Yes. I think I'll do that. Okay. So just to summarize, number five, is projection is why Nancy seems to be the cause of my upset. I'm projecting it onto Nancy. The old term is like scapegoating a lot of times where you try to find a scapegoat and the Bible, they try to get rid of the sins of the people by finding a goat and that's where the term originally came from. They would put all the sins of all the people on the goat and then the Rabbi would run the goat out of town and hopefully symbolically everybody would be absolved in peace. But, you know... Tilt and I will go. And that's what I don't want to see within, seeing outside what I don't want to see within. That would just, that would refer to the buried guilt and fear and conflict that comes with the belief that I separated from my Creator. It starts to give you a glimmer of the idea that there's a lot of thoughts and it's part of the ego system that Nancy seems very aggressive. And aggressive is a thought. Aggressive aggression or maybe bragging. She seems to be bragging about all these things. Or whatever, whenever you were describing those adjectives, it's good to work through these things with some of those adjectives in mind because again, if I'm seeing it in Nancy, I first have to believe it before I can see it. Or the whole thing, somebody said, did you spot it? You got it. It's kind of a quick little line to help you remind. Oh, if I'm furious and I'm seeing it personified out there in some person then I have to believe it first. If I didn't know what aggressive was, how could I, how could I see it? If I didn't know what lazy was, how could I see laziness? If I didn't, you know, you see that it comes back to, oh, this ego thing, there's a lot of these concepts that I'm believing in. If I believe I know what a slob is and I say, oh, there it is, that's slob, a slob over there, then it just gets back to questioning all the concepts in my own words. It's all these boxes that I've got people pinched, pigeon-holed in, and it's like, well, I've got you figured out and I know right where you belong. So it's not at the behavioral level this mirroring. In other words, wait a minute, I see clearly that this is a slob and I am not a slob, I am neat. It seems like, where's the mirroring going on here? How are they, what are they mirroring to me? That's not the case, but it's the mirroring of what's in my mind. Or more effectively, what's in the wrong mind? What's in the ego mind? A way that helps me to understand that is by contrast. When I think of the Aborigines, for instance, they have no box in their mind or concepts related to time as we may have. So they don't have a box marked late or tardy. They don't, it's like, that isn't a box for them. And so they would never perceive anyone as coming late or being late or showing up late because... It has no meaning to them. It has no meaning to them. We're winning and losing. We go crazy, wouldn't we? Yeah, you know, winning and losing, yeah. And my knowledge of the Aborigines is through Marlo Morgan's book, A Mutant Message. And as she's on a walkabout with him across Australia, she wants to teach him some American games. And one of them is that of racing. Like, we all line up and we all race to that point and whoever gets their first wins. And that was just like, they just didn't understand what was fun about that because they had no concept of winning and losing. And it's like, how could it be fun for one person to get there and you call them the winner and everybody else wouldn't? They didn't even think the winner would have fun. How would the winner have fun when they knew everybody else was losing? They just said, no, it doesn't make any sense at all. That's the way of helping me see that it really is just a concept in the mind. That I made up. That I made up concept in the mind. So number six is pretty much a restatement of number two. Thinking kind of gives you a chance to write it out and you know, however it's feeling is coming now whether you started off with something and it's more of an abbreviated form but thinking A, feeling B, and blaming C, and or fearing C result from my belief in lack. Taking the form of an image of self, other, the world. In this case, it's going to be result from my belief that I'm out of control. Number seven, I'm only upset at someone or something one day or it back to my mind of belief which I have denied from awareness. Now what does that mean that I've denied from awareness? Well, the feeling of to even take yours of being out of control is not something that you probably think about as you wake up in the morning and go through your day, I'm out of control. I'm out of control. The deceive mind, yeah, or lack control, the deceive mind thinks it's a pretty stable world that I'm in. I'm a person living in the world, I'm functioning, I've got doing this, I've got a job, I've got pretty decent life, everything. And it doesn't always, this feeling of being out of control just seems to surface at certain times. But it's not something that remains in consciousness. I feel like it's pretty...