 Hello family, welcome to another Narc Survival Live video. Very very difficult to find a quiet place without anyone around. So this is pretty much as good as it gets. I'd just like to apologize in advance for all of the noise that will be coming very soon in this video. I'd also like to say happy Valentine's Day and I hope that you enjoy this day wherever you are. You may be just waking up if you're on the west of North America or you may be coming towards the end of the day if you are in Asia. But wherever you are, I hope that you're going to enjoy your Valentine's Day or that you have enjoyed it already. And I hope you don't experience too many problems from the narcissist because as we know around this time of year, after Christmas and new years, Valentine's Day, any kind of special occasions, it definitely stirs up a lot of instability within them because as we know it, they can't enjoy these kinds of things. So yeah, just try to be careful, especially when you're dealing with the narcissist on these types of occasions. But yeah, in this video, we're going to be talking about what is the narcissist's worst nightmare after they leave you. The narcissist, or rather what they would prefer is for them to leave you and then they go off into a better situation than when they were with you, or at least if they can portray it in that way. Whereas for you, you're left in a worse situation without them. That's typically their preference when they do leave you. So their worst nightmare is for them to go off into a worse situation after they leave you where they're with someone who is less attractive, maybe has less money, maybe has less things going on than you did. But not only that, for a double blow, their worst nightmare would be for you to be in a better situation after they have left you. After they have already counted you out and treated you as being less than them, treated you as being no good to all washed up, you're beneath them. And then out of the blue, suddenly you come back bigger and better than ever before. Yes, no doubt that has to be the narcissist's worst nightmare. That is the last thing that they want to see. And another reason why that's their worst nightmare and how they look at it is that if they can move on and then they're in a better situation without you, and not only that, but they can leave you in a worse situation, then they hope that that's going to give you a lot of time to where you're constantly going to be ruminating about them and wondering what they're doing and where they're with and who they're with without you. That's what they're hoping and expecting to happen. And that's why they typically want to leave you in a pit of misery before they're gone. They want to leave you with nothing. And they'll even try and smear your name and completely isolate you so that you have no friends, no family, nothing going on, no job, no work. And you've just got all of this time just to lay around and constantly ruminate over the narcissist. Yes, that would be the ideal situation. And that's why they try to orchestrate it in that way because that is the type of situation that they're trying to create. That is exactly what they want to happen. So that is the narcissist's worst nightmare. The narcissist's worst nightmare is most definitely for them to leave you, and then they end up in a worse situation, especially if you are aware of it, especially if you know fully well without a doubt that they will be going off into a worse situation with someone who has nothing in comparison to you. They're nowhere near as attractive. They've got nowhere near as much money or ambitions, just someone who is just not even on your level, not even a fraction of the person that you are. And yet they go off and they're stuck with that person. And not only that, but they can't hide it. They can't manipulate the situation to get you to see it in a different way. And instead, you just see it as it actually is, as they actually are. So in many ways, a narcissist's worst nightmare is for you to be no longer subjected to their manipulation and gaslighting. And instead, you're able to pull the wool from over your eyes and see things as they actually are. Because a narcissist's worst nightmare is the truth. The narcissist's worst nightmare is reality. And how you know that that is true is by the extent that they go to manipulate and gaslight you. If they were friends with the truth, friends with reality, yes, if they were friends with that, then they would want you to see the truth and see reality. But no, they do not want you to do that. And the reason why is because truth and reality is against them. It makes some luck bad. It makes some luck completely inferior to you. And that is why they have to manipulate and gaslight you and orchestrate a situation to make it appear as better than it actually is. Yes, that is why they have to do that. Some narcissist, they really couldn't care so much about what they're going into or getting into. They're not really that bothered if they're really going off into a worse situation. Even if it is a situation where it's with someone who's less attractive, has less money, just has just a completely worse life altogether. They're not even that bothered about that sometimes. What they're more concerned about is if they can orchestrate it in a way where they're able to manipulate you and make you think that it's better as long as they can get that reaction out of you to where it complements their false image and it makes them feel better about themselves. Because remember, the narcissist is not concerned about the truth or the reality of the situation. They're not concerned about that at all. All they're concerned about is the reflection that they're going to get back from you about themselves so that it influences how they feel about themselves and then they can get their narcissistic supply. And that's why they always have to be two steps ahead of you so that they can get that feeling, they can get that emotional reaction out of you so that it distorts their minds and helps them to detach from reality so that they can exist in this fantasy world where they can feel like they are superior to you even though they already know fully well that that is not the truth and that that is never going to be a reality for them. As long as they can get that emotional reaction to where they can feel like in their minds that is the case, then that's good enough for them. And in many ways, once they've already built up that hatred and resentment towards you because they feel inferior to you, they will quite happily leave you and go off to a worse situation as long as they have that situation to where they can use it to manipulate and gaslight you and to think of that as better than what they had with you. Because if they can do that then they can still get their narcissistic supply and that's all that narcissists are really concerned about. It's all just about their supply. It's got nothing to do with the truth. It's got nothing to do with reality. It's got nothing to do with what is actually going on in their lives. They just don't want to be vulnerable. They don't want you to see the truth. So they want to portray their situation as being better than what it actually is. Because in a lot of ways their worst nightmare is for you to see it as it actually is. But even then it's not so much that they're concerned about how you see it as it is what that does to how they see themselves. Because all a narcissist is really concerned about is how they see and feel about themselves. Everyone else and everything else we are all just mirrors to reflect something back to them. As I've said before, narcissists are imprisoned in this world in their minds with a population of one. It's just them. It's nowhere else. We are all just pawns on a chessboard which they move around to create their desired effect. And that effect is not for you. It is for themselves. They are the star of their own movie. But guess what? They are also the co-stars. It may seem like you are, but they manipulate you into being what they want you to be. Because they're actually playing that part as well. And not only that but they are the director of the movie and they are also the audience. So they're directing a movie that they start in and co-star in only so that they can watch it. And they're watching it in real time as it is actually playing out. So that it produces the desired effect for them. As crazy as that sounds that is exactly what is happening. That is exactly what is going on. It's all just a movie that is playing back in their heads. As they move us around like pawns on a chessboard so that it reflects something back to them about themselves and then they can get their narcissistic supply. So of course their worst nightmare after they leave you is for things to get better for you. And for things to get worse for them and for you to know about it. Because of course that's going to prevent them from getting their hit of supply. It's going to prevent them from being able to regulate their own emotions through you. Those emotions that they can't regulate themselves. It's going to prevent them from being able to do that. And that is why they have to manipulate and orchestrate the situation to produce their desired effect and their desired emotion for themselves. So this is their worst nightmare. You being left in a situation that steadily improves after they're gone. While theirs deteriorates and gets worse after they leave you. Yes that is the last thing they want to see. But even then it's not so much that it has anything to do with you. Remember it's still just all about them. It's always all about them. You are just an object a means to a means for them to use to make themselves feel better about themselves. You're nothing more than a tool. You're just an appliance to regulate their emotions. You have no other purpose other than that. And that's the only purpose you're ever going to have in a narcissist world. You're never going to be valued or appreciated. You're never going to be seen as anything else. They're never even going to view you as a separate person with your own feelings and needs. It's always going to be all about them. And that is why this is their worst nightmare. For you to leave and for things to get better for you. For you to move on into a better situation where you may meet someone else. You may get married and have a family and be happy without them. And that's typically why they will try to prevent that from happening. To where they will try to sabotage your progress and prevent you from healing. They may smear your name. Try to isolate you. Try to prevent you from finding someone else and beginning a new relationship. Not because they care so much about you. I mean, yes, they may be jealous. But even then, that's because they're very insecure about themselves. Because they can't regulate their own emotions from within. And they need that narcissistic supply. So they need to feel like you're just completely stuck on your own. You've got no end no support. You've got no hope in a future without them. And then they can feel better about themselves and their situation. Even if their situation is actually better without you, it doesn't even matter because they can't even feel it. They could have all of the money in the world. They could have mansions around the world. Superjets, super yachts. They could have the perfect partner, the perfect family, the perfect everything. It wouldn't make a difference. They would still desire to tear you down and leave you worse off after they leave you. Because no matter what they have, they can't enjoy it anyway. They can't be satisfied. It's never going to be good enough for them. So that is why even though it may look like they have a better situation after they have left you, they will still come back to try to destroy you. That is why they do that. And I want you to know this so that you can be better able to protect yourself. Because yes, even though it may look like they've moved on, they found someone else. They're happier now. That doesn't make a difference. They can't be happy. They can't be satisfied. They're still going to seek to destroy you because you could actually move on and develop the things that they can't and feel the feelings that they can't experience, which is going to affect how they feel about themselves. And it's going to prevent them from getting the narcissist to supply and regulating their emotions through you. This is the narcissist's worst nightmare after they leave you. Here comes the noise. There is nowhere that I can go to find any peace or quiet. I do try my best. I drive sometimes for hours, but wherever I go, people will gather. Of course, from my hundreds of live videos, you should be used to it by now. But anyway, I hope I've given you some good energy, some good vibes in this video and some food for thoughts. And you can show your support by giving it a thumbs up down below. It will help to get this message out there to other survivors as well. 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