 I am so excited to share this with you guys because it is the number one thing that I have learned this year that has freed me up emotionally. I know a lot of you are carrying these heavy weights on your shoulders, maybe it's anxiety or just stress in general, a desire to be good enough to maybe it's perfectionism or people placing or to hold onto your identity and show yourself to be somebody that's confident and significant in this world and we spend so much energy doing that and for so long I was in that same boat spending so much energy trying to maintain this appearance of not only that I was significant but that I was confident and I was skilled and knowledgeable and wise and I really wanted other people to see me that way and that takes up so much of our mental space and energy when we're in social situations or or whatever else just generally in our life and the decisions that we're making but here's what has changed the game for me and it is one word humility now don't tune out don't tune out here because I know what you're thinking you're thinking okay obviously whatever yeah we're supposed to be humble that's what the Bible says but no no legitimately this is what it's done for me and I want to help you tap into this as well so in the Bible it talks about humility having a lot of different outcomes and results or maybe rewards is a better way to way to phrase it but it talks about humility being kind of the pathway to honor to wisdom to exaltation to grace to salvation and it's not that humility is necessarily like an action but rather just a humbling a submitting of our own will realizing that okay we we're not the end all be all God is the ultimate and I can kind of surrender my own identity to him and in that I don't have to just obsess about myself and how I can push my own personal brand forward or how I can get other people to like me but I can just let it all go I can let it all go and so when we think about humility humility is the pathway to letting go and ultimately to peace how can we find humility well we ask God for humility number one we ask God for humility we meditate on God and his word and in turn we see that is we see him as most significant I think of the words of John the Baptist and I believe he said you must increase and I must decrease in the midst of that decretion we don't have to obsess about ourselves which is absolving ourselves of this weight that we put on ourselves to measure up to be this perfect person to be this perfectionist to maintain our personal brand or our image or for people that think well of us or to speak the most in social context in order to get people to know that we are knowledgeable and we are adequate and we are enough we can let go of all that and just surrender it to God I don't need to be the smartest person in the room this is a hard thing for me to actually believe you know because I because there's a deep thing in me that I want to show people that I'm smart that I know what's going on that I that I'm not just a loser I can I can I know stuff but if you can let that desire go and just speak last and listen and listen intently that is the beginning to peace to just being at peace I say this I say this often actually when I'm when something happens in my life that triggers me in some way and I feel like the pushback of wanting to fix it or or make it right or or get into this depressive state or anxious state I just say this I'm like I am at peace with God and myself I am at peace with God and myself and that's not some new agey thing it's just saying that because of Jesus I have a peace with God and because I have peace with God I have peace with myself I don't need to be at odds with myself or who I am because I'm mainly image of God I'm his creation I'm his new creation so I can be at peace with myself I am choosing these days and this is what I encourage you guys towards is choosing attentiveness rather than asserting my own knowledge or expertise or perceived expertise because you can be in a room especially with what I do I'm working on in the online space and working you know telling people about Jesus as many different contexts where I can get myself hyped up or wrapped up in this idea that I need to show people that I'm smart that I know the Bible that I know evangelism that I know social media and so but but really in these days I just allowed myself to say I'm at peace with God I'm at peace with myself and people somebody asked me a question okay if I see a place that I can share something that's that's that's knowledgeable or wise in some way that maybe I might the beautiful thing is that when you embrace humility rejection and failure lose hold of you rejection and failure lose hold of you because what rejection and failure do is they strike you right where it hurts the most your identity they tell you you're not man enough you can't do this you're not competent you're not capable you're not successful you're not enough you're a loser you sock right like these words these negative self-talk that comes in when we encounter rejection and failure but when you are humble it's not that you agree with those things but rather you know hey I don't need to obsess about either how good I am or how bad I am because it's not about me it's about the mission and this becomes a beautiful thing because we can disconnect ourselves some there's a level of detachment here that is happening between us and what we do us and what we know us and our knowledge base us and our competence base like we don't need to find our identity in those things because we are secure in Christ my goal this year in so many ways has been to stop taking myself so seriously to just let go it's like okay some people think I'm done that's okay some people think I you know whatever else about me that's okay I don't need to feel like I need to maintain this this persona it's irrelevant who cares stop taking yourself so seriously and so maybe if you struggle with that this is a journey that we're walking on it's a progressive thing but the more that we can let go of that that embrace humility we let go we embrace peace oh this lightness that we're just that we're walking into it's gonna be so so beautiful thank you for watching this video guys if you enjoyed it join the brotherhood and subscribe because I'm putting out new videos every single week if you want to join our exclusive discord become a channel member or join on patreon and you can join that today it would be a huge blessing until next time keep pursuing the mission