 Ladies and gentlemen, let me get my self-situated here Popped on a couple minutes early So I was gonna be going live at 9 p.m. Eastern Had to come on here and get it set up Doing great Fran doing great Being with everything we have going on in the world. I know a lot of people Gotta sit still and I'm doing the same My family and I doing well everything going great glad to be home and With the family. Hope you all are doing well and everything is great on your end as a right now we still on for April 11th because it's a small group and We're in a private, you know room and we just will be Hand sanitizing and clean and you know, I'll let you all know if you're scheduled to come to the life-coat certification April 11th Which we don't know it's still three weeks out. So hopefully things get better But if not if you already have a ticket to go You'll get an email from me. I'm just I'm a sinner. Just a random I mean a regular email tomorrow just kind of updating you all and I've been some of you have rolled in so I've been able to get some responses to you, but Hopefully things get better. You know, I'm keeping the faith So yeah, what I want to do is I mean where I'm at My son's their home for two weeks. So we stationary only stepping out for important things So I'm be popping on here Sometimes in the middle of the day at noon for those of you who you know Sitting sitting at the house like myself and then sometimes at night just because with with the blessed tribe we we got a Good group as you can see only the blessed tribe can comment I always do that just because on YouTube they show everybody who's going live So it can be somebody that's just completely clueless as to who I am and what I'm doing and they can come on the live And if it's open for the public they could start writing all kind of nonsense So my chats are only available for the blessed tribe members to join the blessed tribe. You see the link in the description in the description box under the video so I'll be popping in just to take some questions from you know, because different people make different lives and I made that promise to you when you join the blessed tribe that I'll be making time to answer your questions. So that's why You'll see me here Sometimes it's random Nacotia. Yeah, I hope I'm saying your name right. Forgive me if I if I'm not need more information on the 72 hour rule Or did the book can't wait? Well, you're gonna have to wait Because the book coming out and you see on the back and say the 72 hour rule so if you have not pre-ordered a woman's influence pre-order that and So you're gonna have to wait on the book Because if I tell you everything about the 72 hour rule ain't no reason to get the book But or you might need to do a one-on-one session and thank you to those you who have gone to my mentor dot life and booked a session with me Due to that my Schedule is booked out through April. I think now people starting to book in May. So all of March is is booked up and Here's here soon. I may have to Bump bump my rate up of $25 or something Just to kind of slow down on the the influx Let me see Yeah Redbone, Africana 21 you you caught a alive in real time Let me see Britney. So I decided to get back with my child's father He has multiple children with multiple women. Do you think those type of situations can work? long term He has 11 children. My son is number 10 Um, I Mean just based on his track record just based on his resume alone it would say no but God is possible Anything is possible if somebody wants to change and somebody wants to grow The thing is is you got to pay attention to see if growth is actually happening So if he's the same man that he's always been this same will it nearly go with the flow Turning to the wind type man Then no it absolutely has no chance of working and what you have to realize is soul ties are real So you got to think about this and and understand that that might be why y'all are you know Coming back together and so you have to watch his day-to-day actions now if he has been dipped you know in the blood of the lamb and he's changed his life and Done a 180 and he just walking different talking different looking different smelling different dressing different then Maybe change is possible, but like they say a leopard doesn't change its spots. You got to be very careful about that there Very careful 11 yeah You got to make sure he don't have that CoV at 19 I hear Have you decided when you're going to speak more about financial prosperity topics? Well, I don't talk about financial prosperity topics. I will be speaking on purpose and Entrepreneurship with purpose which can produce some financial prosperity, but for me my angle is purpose Fationia fationia Forgive me now, you know, I messed your name up last time, but I so see you and I bless. Thank you Lord bless her So on Saturdays is my small business Saturday Video that I'll be upload I've been writing down some topics and once I get through the the basic topics like last week Was how to find your purpose then I was going to go in a little deeper on some Intrinsic details with some questions that comes in from y'all How do y'all highlight names? I wonder what that means Tony questions if we if we already started off With a man off wrong with a man gave him credit for things that he hadn't even done Living in our own fantasy. Can we turn it around to see if he could be the one? Um Now I don't fully Know what that means cuz You know that means something different to you than it means to me Now if you mean if you've gotten on your back and you've been on your back Then all you can do is try To close your legs to see if he's gonna get up and move on with his life Now if you mean just singing his praises and being nice, maybe cooking them a meal or you know paying for a date then You know that that's not too big You you can work around that but what you're gonna have to do is stop initiating Contact stop giving him more than he's giving you. Okay. No like gave more than he's giving Yeah, stop giving more than he's giving you So what you have to do is you hear people use this term in different industries, but I've always used it in relationships for Mirror his actions and what I mean by that is if a man claims to be the head to be the lead and all this other stuff Then he should be leading in love and then that's a woman. What you do is you receive that and you reciprocate You may be receiving and reciprocating But you should not be setting the standard and the bar for love because the way men are will get complacent Men will get complacent. Oh Deborah. I didn't see y'all most miss you. Deborah. God bless. I really appreciate you Do you and your wife offer in person premarital session? No I don't do nothing in person and now with this right here going around It's even further more reason why I don't do anything in person, but for me I don't do anything in person just because Although I'm accessible and I'm here a lot I'm still a public figure. You know what I mean by that is I have Three million supporters online and I say that humbly but what happens with that is When you in certain areas people will see that as a target If I lived in Los Angeles, no big deal if I lived in Atlanta, New York probably no big deal, but Because of the way social media is today and everybody could be a social media you know celebrity and Because I'm on television and I know all of that I just I don't do anything in person just because I never know where a person's mind is at You know and how they see me You know versus if I was not online and just like a counselor or therapist, you know in my office And I'm walking it through the classifies or something like that Miss Tremel God bless you God bless you. Thank you Natasha. Thank you. I see your question here. Let me see hi Tony I met a really great guy, but he's extremely fat Okay, we could have said be it we could have said Plus I bless by the Lord heaven said Don't know if I can deal with the physical attraction Could I possibly miss my husband if I'm not allowing his character to be his currency? I Don't think that's like a concession that you have to make What you want to think about is you know y'all could work out together if he's a great person Internally and you give it time y'all could work out together, you know, he may just need somebody to introduce I'll be honest with you coming from where I'm from. We were never taught in school What? Soda and sugar does to your body like in in class They've never said listen if you drink a lot of sweet tea and lemonade This is what it does when it goes in your body if you eat a lot of fried chicken This is what it does when it goes in your body Honestly, I'd never learned that and I realized I looked at my dad's side and everybody would die around 65 years old and When I looked at their eating habits in their lifestyle, everybody was diabetic by like the age of 45 50 and When I looked at it, I realized it just was a lack of knowledge So sometimes people in that situation just because they don't have the knowledge and they just eating what tastes good to them They eating what they used to they eating what their parents ate They just eating what comes from their culture, but don't understand what it does to the body And so it's really soothing their their issues and you know how people eat like that emotionally So you may have to see if it's something like that Now if he big and nasty and what I mean by that is nasty personality He want to snap sometimes he want to get Angry, you know how they say hungry and he want to get angry all the time Now gone about your business. He got that he got the the nerve to catch an attitude gone about your business But if he not where you want to be physically, but he's a great person great character and it's consistent Now it thinks that something could be worked out Redbone, Africana. God bless you. God bless you. I so appreciate you showing up and showing up Now don't don't be asked for no charge back now. I'm trying to charge back on your card now Should you trust a married man who says he's not happy? Gets a divorce then wants a relationship with you, but he tried to have a relationship with you Before he filed. No, you can't trust him. No, I mean, no, you can't trust him You you can't trust him, you know, just point blank period because He showed you who he is So he showed you that if you and him don't work out, he gonna do you the same way And so you got to take people at that phase value, you know, I can't I can't come I can't let somebody come in my space who trying to sell me stolen merchandise and then Trust them to be around my valuable items So that's essentially what you would be doing and what you've got to realize. There's nothing special about you in his eyes now now Hit me what I'm saying you special in the sight of the Lord the Lord love you You God's child, but in his eyes, it's nothing special about you and his eyes You will be his rebound. You will be his band aid You will be his hold me down his hold me over. That's what you will be So that's what you got to understand Hey rep on Africana. Hey, God bless you. God bless you. You'll be surprised what I see out here Caramel kisses and drop my cash up in there a bless you Caramel for doing that cuz some of y'all I mean some people sent my dollar a ladies Sent me a check to my business Melon address the other day sent me a check and said bless you Tony that thing blessed me I probably almost shed a tear and for those of you who sent me a cash out for my birthday just to say thank you Hey, I'll be honest with you You know it get a little lonely out here on this here mission because you have so much attack You know, it's hard for me to even have guy friends cuz my message step on everybody told my message step on my toes So I could be just putting out a message in somebody that I was just talking to last week Might get in their feelings cuz they think and I was talking to them and realize this was talking to the culture But with y'all showing that love and support. Hey, I'll be honest with you mean more than you realize Hey Tony, so this man told me he didn't want a commitment been dating a few months He wants to he wants to be available. He told you he didn't want a commitment Been dating a few months. He wants to be available. So I cut him off. No contact two days later Saying he wants me. He doesn't want anyone else Hmm Well, I'll tell you this. I mean What do you really What do you really want do you want to be with him? You know, that's like being on somebody's job and they ain't paying you and you can put in all this work And then when you finally leave they say oak a come on We'll put your own salary now But then what if you come back and they put your own salary and they stop paying you again in a month or two months And now you didn't turn down other job opportunities, you know, you got to look at it like that I don't think you should have to leave a man For him to then say I want you if he told you why you've been there for a few months He don't want you, you know that that doesn't sound that's a man won't do that And let me help y'all understand something real quick Let me help y'all now hold your questions real quick. Let hold your question Let me help you understand something Anything a man won't in his life. He's gonna go after you see Jeff Bezos a billion now La Carmen God bless you hold your question. I hope they don't disappear You see Bill Gates a billion now you see Jay-Z Michael Jordan Anything a man wanted his life He gonna set his mind to it and he gonna go after he gonna do what he have to do Even more so when it comes to a woman If you ever meet a man Ever in your life meet a man who tells you he doesn't want a commitment That's not your husband. If he tells you he doesn't want to be in a relationship That's not your husband if he tells you that he's not sure about you That's not your husband because a man will never see something or somebody that he wants and Say he doesn't want that. That's like him walking up to a billion dollars And saying, oh, I'm not in the money. I don't want no billion. I don't want to be keep that billion You're not gonna do that. That's like a man walking up to his favorite car. Oh, no, I ain't never wanted a rose Royce Rolls Royce. I want a roll Roy. He's not he's never gonna do that So a man is never going to walk up to a woman that he sees could be his wife and say I don't want it. I don't want a relationship when a man tell you that it's because he's not sure about you He for one he don't like what he's looking at LeCarmine Carmina got on in her now God bless you for your blessing. Is it a red flag? God says love you in two weeks. Yes, it's a red flag That's a red flag. That was my that was my thing what I used to do Just meet you don't even know your middle name Talk about I love you that that's and the reason why men do that is because men know that there's so many women That's desperate for love and even though he knows that you know He might be joking or lying He just know the fact that he said that it's gonna do something to you I used to do that all the time me the woman in two weeks. I love you. I love getting off the phone I love you and then one like But that's how you get them, you know, that's that's a game you got the when a man serious about a woman and he sees that she is a Real woman in his eyes meaning that a real potential wife He's not gonna throw He's not gonna throw out that I love you I didn't throw that out there with my wife because you know she gonna be able to tell that you full of it You throw that out there when you just playing around and you don't care if a woman gonna catch the red flag or not So when the guy says that He got issues he got issues you got to pull back Now I'm looking for y'all question now if y'all put them them red signs I see you right here cool raps YKTV I see your question right here. Let me see if I My ex started dating two months after us breaking up But still contacts me We were together for two years Now I don't know if it's a man or a woman asked me this question Because I can't really see the picture on there and I can't get I don't want to come too close to the camera I want y'all looking at all my flaws in my face I'll tell you what If yet started dating two months after Y'all broke up That's just that's typical to be honest with you that's typical and then still contacting you what it means is that your ex has a soul tie, but it's not really Into the new relationship and ain't really into you you gotta close the door It's the soul tie that's really Holding your ex the ex don't want you because He or she let y'all break up But your ex got a soul tie and want you to be stuck thinking about him or her and but yet Still trying to move on that's like trying to have your cake and eat it too as we always hear Um set treacher Now your daddy name said Is your daddy name said dread Okay, he hit you with a name now. That's a glass unique name there Said treacher and then forgive me if I'm saying it wrong now So tony will it be okay to date other races? with two african-american boys And he has none May I say this let me read this again. Will it be okay to date other races with two african-american boys? And he has none. Okay. Okay. Date another rate. Debbie God bless you God bless you in the middle of the In the middle of what we got going on right here. You showed up and showed up lord. Poor. Poor Will it be okay to date other races now? I'll tell you what now What you're gonna have to get and this is what I want you to understand Shaquita god bless you I feel like I feel like you them been in here before sending me a blessing The lord must have pulled out in your life lord. Poor out in her life again. God bless you. Thank you for the knowledge Hello to the gaskins family and the blessed tribe be blessed God bless. Let me make sure Now I tell you what When you dating outside your race what you got to realize Is you got to take your time because you want to make sure that this is legit That is real Now me being a relationship coach and me had also having Experience with dating outside of my race For some people it's an experiment. It's just like Trying the 31 flavors at baskin robbins For some people it's an experiment for some people. It's a bucket list item So what you got to realize when you are a black woman the black of the bear or the sweet of the juice Men like variety Men like to taste the rainbow like skills so You another color in the skills pack And so you got to make sure that if you date outside your race that this man have Experience with your race that he grew up around your race that he went to school with your race that he truly has An appreciation for your race an understanding of your race because you'll end up being a test dummy You'll end up being barbershop talk Meaning he touch you just to report back to his boys to say Yeah, man. Hey Whoo had me. Hey, you saw you know, I saw that uh Alexis old honey and Touched that serena williams and I said man I might have something there Whoo, I want me a piece of that blackberry pie and man when I tell you Whoo, it was amazing So you have to be real careful whatever race he might be now that that that voice ain't no certain Race, okay? It could be anything yellow pink or purple Um, not even god bless you god bless you pull out in our life lord Lord must pull that in shakita light because I feel like I've seen shakita send them send me a blessing before Not so understanding that because to be honest with you That's why when I coach women outside of my race who were a part of the race that I dabbled into Some years ago. I tell them I say listen be very careful. I say go about your business now I say go about your business I say because You was of that race and you hired me because I'm of this race and now you dealing with men who would of my race I'ma tell you the truth You're gonna have more headaches than you're gonna have laugh to enjoy because When men date outside they race It's a lot of times it's it's situations and issues and stuff that's going on It's a reason why Because I see a lot of women now talking about dating outside of their race because of frustration That ain't the right reason to date outside the race Oh I'm sick and tired But he's no good Nick grows He grow don't know how to act Only then you got no mama You know what I'm finna get me a white man I'm finna get me a Asian man and a lot of women that keep on putting in my comment Tony Tony Tony you need to tell These black women that they need to date outside of their race and I'm like why would I tell somebody? To do that like that's the wrong reason just to be going out here looking for somebody of the other race because You discussed it in mad with your own Like let that happen organically if you meet somebody of another race And it hit off it worked. Okay great, but if you went out looking For somebody because of that reason you you going about it all wrong and it's gonna blow up in your face Trust me when I tell you because guess what? When they come to a man watch these movies watch these movies you seen the movie enough And it's another movie. I just watched Men of all races could be a mess Men of all races and nationalities could be a hot mess Trust him when I tell you Now let me see. Okay Your meal god bless you Kara dad Dominguez God bless you Tony what to do With name change divorces final in April officials credentials Are expiring three years just paid for name change Is there a tie in last name other than soul ties? Okay Now I doubt name change Will cost That much now The most I don't heard it cost us $500 maybe $50 in some places but Yeah, change your name because I'll tell you this if you want to move on with your life If you want to have another relationship Don't know man want a woman who got her ex-hub and last name and that's what a lot of women don't understand talking about I don't want to have to change my My license my driver license. I don't want to have to change my insurance card my this and that my Man change that stuff that take one day That take one day go on do what you got to do take your day off work You got some time right now with this here going on And change your name so that you open and free So when your real husband come in he see that you completely broke all ties You completely heal and you ready for love J. Renee. God bless you. God bless you for your blessing Pour out in their life lord got back with my ex Husband lasted three months Take a note now everybody listen and take a note got back with my ex-husband lasted three months Broke up with me for asking about text. He receives from his ex-girlfriends Said he's not responding to them and nothing's going on and I should trust him Thank you for sharing that thank you for sharing that you did the right thing you did the right thing because especially in marriage especially in marriage because in marriage There is no privacy. My wife would come in here and get my phone right now and say hold on. I need to see your phone Is no privacy in marriage ain't ain't all of that. Okay, because you want And it should not be any privacy in marriage because If something happened to somebody in marriage, you need to be able to get to their phone Put in the code and be able to call whoever you need to call reach out to whoever you need to reach out to It might be somebody you need to call ask a question. Let them know something if you want to Plan a surprise birthday party you need to have the code so you could go in and text all of their friends Hey having a surprise party, you know, whatever or get all their contacts so you could take them from your phone That's why there's no privacy in in marriage Wendy 44 god bless you. Thank you. Bless her lord. I love your unfiltered truth Thank you for putting forth so much energy to help us in all areas. Hey God bless you. You know what? Energy, you know, I put out the energy and y'all bless me so it keep me going if I would just point into Just emptiness, but you see how you just bless me with that with that blessing That right there they say something to me, you know, it's it's it's reciprocation They say that you appreciate what I'm doing. So that's why I've been showing up On youtube too because I got a group here that appreciate the work Whereas on instagram You don't know what people doing. You don't know how they feel about you Question how to deal with a man and their toxic ways Don't deal with them. Don't deal with them. I don't I don't deal with toxicity and I don't recommend dealing with it. So If a person gonna be in your life, they're gonna have to clean all that up Because toxins kill you so you can't deal with something that's going to be All draining and breaking you down wearing you down. The the answer to that is don't deal with it Boyfriend incarcerated and broke up after getting new knowledge Thanks, by the way still calls because we have a daughter and says he changed and doesn't want to lose me Together for a year seems to be maturing jail 14 months I mean Coming from where I'm coming from I'll be honest with you. I hate to say I don't I don't trust nothing a man say behind bars A man got to be in this free world for me to listen to him Everything a man say to me from behind bras. I got to take it with a grain of salt Because you just that's a whole another element in there when you in there and all you got is time to think and write and send a letter every day and all of that I can't I got too many people locked down. I just I don't even Talk to me when you get out here and I had two minute family members dating men who locked down and they believe in one thing They doing all this they got all this here going on And the woman in love she wasting all this gas money I don't see when wasting all this gas money going to the visitation every week Wasting all this money on new outfits to go to the jail house And then the man get out and treat him like Casper the ghost treat him like he know she exists And so because of that right there I don't believe nothing a man got to say behind them bars. Let him get out here in this free world Then see what he does with the energy out here in this free world Question I asked my god to call me tonight because for some reason I want to hear him say it's over and that he wants to move on dated 10 months and after no And he shifted Never broke up with me directly advice You got to give yourself closure uh, Kai You got to give yourself closure a man On average a man will never give you closure because closure means You know Like you know them certain doors that when you walk out of like the airport and you walk out that door That door that you push open and it closed behind you so you can't enter back in there You got to go in the right way another way to go back through the security check That's what a man giving you closure looks like a man Don't give you closure because he want to be able to Distance himself shift his energy get a little distance get you to get the picture You get a little distance But then when his situation that he's pursuing doesn't work out he could just come back He could just pop back in your life And it's really because He knows that if he gives you closure you could close the door and Lock it change the locks Hey, I see y'all talking about my shirt caveats and nuances now y'all know I be hitting y'all with the vocabulary words on here So he hit caveats and nuances The the the shirt is up under my videos So you watch my video up under you'll see a couple of shirts I got through on t-spring Some of y'all now already got this shirt and I made it as cheap as I could possibly make it Which is like 14.99 because you know t-spring take all the money. So I just made it dirt cheap Love you That's my six-year-old. He came and blew me a kiss. I don't know who's talking about how to blow a kiss And I ain't with the blowing the kids to see you'll do some stuff for you for your son that you won't do I don't blow kisses nothing Been working out for a month with a guy I'm interested in I asked what type of student was he and he said he had anger issues. He's 34 Now with no background. Is this a red flag? Now I ain't never heard nobody asked what kind of student they was But the fact that he told you that to be honest with you He didn't have to tell you that he could have left that with the lord So me personally sometimes I believe people tell you stuff about themselves just So that you know where they at and where they operate from So it's kind of like a little like hey Hey, I got any issue So Make me mad and I'm a Ika donkey Me personally I don't deal with those kind of people. I don't deal with those kind of people because I'm the same way I let people I'm doing business with in a real way. I let them know like listen with me Ain't no going to court We do something different with people who mess with your money And I just look at them just like that right there just to let them know like listen I love I love the lord But you mess with my money You're gonna meet them before I do And so when a man tell you he used to have an issue listen Okay, okay Okay, just take your time with them Just take your time with them and you got to watch them and the key that's why I tell y'all to date for at least That's why I had to date uh for at least uh 12 months I tell y'all to date for at least 12 months so that you could see The ups and downs you could see a person In all their different elements Jayla god bless you bless you bless you y'all doing good in the middle of the situation we in Lord showing out in y'all life lord show up and show out Starting over with x who wanted to continue being with me I'm taking steps of allowing him to court me and date me over the right way Is that a good chance a relationship could work? Well, I'll tell you what you need to do Y'all gonna have to um Get new knowledge Because now he knows What to do, but you're gonna have to get new knowledge. So just what I recommend Get you some books find some good relationship books Um make it work is one of my books the five love languages dr. Gary Chapman Um, just a couple books you can start small And you read a chapter a week And then y'all discuss it make sure he's getting new knowledge so that he's becoming a new person And not just playing a role like yes, men know some of what to do But he really you need to know that he really has changed that he really is growing I had to get new knowledge to become the man that I am so I stopped listening to Trash music and I would listen to podcasts and audio books for eight to ten hours a day Literally eight to ten hours a day, and that's what helped me renew my mind and my spirit Wives one and ten. God bless you. I almost miss you, but I but I'll call you. Thank you for that blessing Let me make sure now god jailer now. I see somebody else pop in here Salon god bless you Halle mariam halle mariam That's a blessed name. No, no that name sound like it blessed How do you know that a marriage is over? Have three kids when should I go to the courthouse and file? um When the person you're with is not making forward progress when the person you're with is not trying to grow They're not trying to do couples therapy Couples coaching. He's not trying to do personal coaching He's not open to reading books. He's not open to sitting down and having heart to heart conversations real conversations then That's when you know that It's at the end of the road. That's when you know and so you have to Understand that somebody just said shawna just said you asking is spilling out of you And that that really is is your answer too, you know when you have to ask is your marriage over 9 out of 10 times it is but It's okay for you to give one last ditch effort and what I mean by that is Is for you to become love and for you to operate with love, you know, it's a movie Can't remember the name of it. Maybe it's called fireproof. It's a low low budget um christian movie And they have in there like the the love there or something It's like 40 days of love and I've done that before with my wife And it's where you just loving you loving loving loving and you're not complaining But you showing love and to see if your partner if you can heal his heart and wash him with love And because it's your husband who you made a vow to now you don't do this with no boyfriend You don't do this with a boyfriend But for marriage it's worth it and it's just a sacrificial love to where you're cooking his favorite meals You speaking life to him you writing little love notes. You're not blaming him. You're not arguing You're not complaining and you give it 40 days And if the lord called you the 20th the lord called you the 40th the lord called you the 60 And and then once you come through there if that don't start to change him that don't start to renew his heart With with a real love and he sees you for who you are Then that's when you know you've done what you can do Sunshine goddess god bless you Sunshine goddess got a whole name on her now What does it mean if your partner doesn't compliment you? Exactly tells you your beautiful slide sexually Example okay tells you you're beautiful slash sexy if you can't express yourself in a relationship Okay, so y'all ain't went there yet um That doesn't mean anything that doesn't mean anything because if y'all ain't even went there yet And you say if you can't express yourself in relationship You can express yourself with your mouth now. You don't have to get on your back to express yourself You can express yourself with your mouth. You can write to a letter, you know hallmark cards In business now, it's a plenty ways to express yourself without getting on your back Okay, and to be honest with you that's if if he wants to get you on your back He need to be calling you beautiful and and all of that now I'll tell you like this right here. It's two reasons why a man don't give a woman compliment One is because he don't feel that way about you And two is because he don't he doesn't want to put you on a pedestal so that you're looking down on him So that's that's really the two main reasons So understand that right there first and foremost now And at the same time don't worry about compliments, you know, you got to know who you are You got to know you beautiful don't live for somebody else compliment. I My wife don't always compliment me. She'd give me compliments now, but not all the time not every day or even every other day But I know who I am, you know, I know what I bring to the table So that's where your self-love kicks in don't don't wait on validation and approval Of somebody else because you're always being that spacing and nobody can ever make you feel worthy and fully approved Met a guy talk for hours and FaceTime and getting to know each other Met in person but got into an argument over something stupid Should let it go or continue with it red flag. That's a red flag. That's red flag. Take on up out of there Get on up out of there. That's a red flag. Now. That's that's one of my Biggest situations what I used to always do with every woman I met I'll take on a two-hour drive one hour to my hometown an hour back To see her spirit to see her temperament to see what type of emotional intelligence she has and I'll be honest with you It was a young lady I met right before my wife who she loved to debate She loved to debate about everything. She had the spirit of beg to differ as I call it And she always wanted beg to differ and we didn't even know each other The first time really being spending some time together and she wanted to debate by everything I said And I'm like new this gonna be a headache because see when you are When you have some wisdom and you have some maturity You understand that you don't have to address every little nuance That you don't agree with you don't have to address everything because it's not a kingdom issue So if a person feels a certain way you could see their viewpoint and say, okay All right. I think I like that. Okay. Yeah, I never heard it like that. But hey, thank you for sharing that And and you could keep it moving But when when when somebody want to argue all that What what we call it my home but call it art somebody want to argue all the time New but when I met my wife, we talked six hours. It was not one debate dispute argument Disagreement, I'm pretty sure it was things we saw differently, but it wasn't a kingdom issue So she didn't bring it up. I didn't bring it up because we had that level of maturity So I say, okay this right here this woman I can marry and even to this day 13 years this month make 13 years of marriage I married it when I was 23 and 23 and and 22 days old and Still to this day, we don't argue, you know, we we see things differently, you know a lot of stuff, but it just ain't It ain't worth It's not an argument And so what I saw in the beginning turned out to be right Tony, how do you handle conflict resolution? I always hear You shouldn't go to bed angry You handle it by addressing the issue, you know bringing it up addressing the issue and admitting that you wrong Putting the shoe on the other foot seeking to understand then be understood And you address it you bring it up in a time of peace now You don't you don't handle you don't handle it conflict resolution in the middle of An argument where things yelling and screaming stuff getting ready to start flying that ain't when you address it You you do your cool down technique You take your cool down you you gather yourself You get your little space about you get your mind and then you bring it up and you understand and your partner Understand that this got to be talked about and we got to come to terms on this And if it's truly love y'all can see the situation from each other's viewpoint Both of you will take And put the shoe on the other foot So I make a habit of it, you know, my wife and I we have a disagreement We talk about it. It's been times in our marriage that we didn't talk to two or three o'clock in the morning And where we get sick on the stomach because we didn't stay it up so late But we don't believe in going to bed mad And it's a lot of time majority of the time it's me having to apologize And then some of the time it's her having to apologize You know just about whatever and uh You know one time example, we was at a baseball game and I went to say something to my wife and she was telling me something my son missed the ground ball And I was like gotta teach him that and I just said, you know gotta teach him that what I meant was we gotta teach him that Or I kind of meant You gotta teach him that I ain't say you gotta teach him that but she worked with him a lot And and it's catching and stuff and she's like you teach him that and she just was like Joking like but she said it loud and the women the woman over here looked the woman over there looked And it made it look like the tone was like If you was reading into it, it's like you a sorry daddy you need to teach him how to catch the ball And That thing right there I don't play about that. I don't play by disrespect. I don't play by Nothing in public don't don't show you behind in public You got to realize somebody always watching so I had to talk to about that same thing happened with me and her One time where I gave her a suggestion in front of everybody and kind of embarrassed her And so she had to talk to me about that. So sometimes both of us will make a mistake And we had to talk about it hash it out. She said, you know what I apologize that if that made you feel like I disrespected you it was just in the moment. I didn't mean anything by it You know, I just was saying like we just were talking and we'll work through it So even the small situations That could become a deal breaker in your mind. You got to address it treasure God bless you. God bothered. I never text him first. Should I start? Um, it's Stella. God bless you. Thank you for your blessing. What you got to, um, realize I call this a three to one ratio I talk about the three one ratio a lot where I'm saying Not to be exact, but what I'm saying is there has to be some reciprocation So if he texts you first monday tuesday wednesday, you could text him first on thursday Now you don't have to make it an exact science But yes, you do have to reciprocate some for a man so that he knows that you're interested in him, too Hey debbie care. God bless you again. They still got your blessing up there So they really saying a tone make sure you see her blessing now make sure god bless you debbie So yes reciprocate, but it shouldn't be one to one It can be it's not the end of the world if it is because a man is wired to pursue a man is wired. That's why Women make such a big deal about the good morning. Beautiful. You know and the hello beautiful text messages all the time um Fashion forward. I see I see your question. God bless you. I've watched your video Can men and women be friends? Do you think that my male friend could be the one? Isn't friendship important To the foundation of a relationship That's a great question. And yes, yes, it is important to the foundation of relationship but you got to realize something now because it's caveats and nuances to That situation because what you have to understand is when y'all come in as just friends You compartmentalize so you put you see him as a friend. He sees you as a friend So y'all are platonic friends It's hard to go from a platonic friendship to a romantic relationship It's different when you come in And you see each other as a potential love interest, but you build a friendship As the foundation to your love interest Hopefully that makes sense to you. That's totally different. So friendship is a firm foundation For a relationship, but when you come in The intention should be to be a couple and then you build friendship getting to know each other What's your favorite color? What's your favorite food where you grew up? Tell me about your parents all of this, but when you come in and we you know, we besties And we bro and sis and then you try to go from bro and sis to husband and wife That's when things get a little tricky and and that's that's those right there I never see those work out from platonic friendship to romantic relationship. I never see those work out I'm sure there are some but it's not enough for me to You know condone it or recommend it Because I do this every day and been doing it every day for the last 12 13 years So I just have never heard a situation on any coaching call Any email that say we were best friends as platonic friends and now we are happily In love and been married 10 20 30 years I always hear the opposite We were best friends platonic friendship decided to give it a try because we both saw each other go through Bad relationships we gave it a try and now we literally at each other's throat and we hate each other We need coaching. That's what always come my way Do men Always know right away if you're the one or do they realize it later? Do men think you're the one then change their mind? Uh, it's yes and no to both of those questions. So you got to realize Not every man is marriage minded So a marriage minded man Who is looking for his wife actively can know you're the one from early on like the first real real real conversation He can have an idea he can say to himself If she is who she just showed me she was I can marry this woman now. Yes A man can't think you're the one and then change his mind because You know, I remember And I had a girlfriend in the past that didn't take a makeup off And it's like now hold on now Okay, you either take that makeup off if we trying to go long term But the whole time That I dated her never seen her without a makeup and so I'm like Now if you mess around and go from Janet Jackson to freddy Jackson i'm gonna be real upset and so I'm gonna need to see you without that makeup and It just never happened. So Of course, I could say oh good good person good heart, but I don't know what I'm looking at I don't know who who I got here. You know if this freddy or janet And so I'm gonna need a little more than that The other thing is a man can't change his mind once you get comfortable And if you get comfortable and start showing your true colors Lee god bless you before he falls in love He could change his mind Now see when a man falls in love he'd give you more grace give you more room But if he hasn't fallen in love and then next thing, you know, you picking boogers in public you burping passing gas You know, you leaving your monthly floating in the toilet stool You didn't wrap it all the way up in the tissue and you got a throat on the top of the trash can And it's six months in eight months in and he like whoa This woman at the barn house, I thought I had something classy this woman at the barn house I'm about to get on up out of here. So yes a man definitely can thank you the one that didn't change his mind So that's why you got to know who you are and be who you are I'm gonna tell you 13 years of marriage. My wife ain't never publicly passed no gas around me That's just her personal that's just her personal thing. I never said you can't pass no gas around me But she just is the type she believed that's inappropriate disrespect for what have you So in 13 years of marriage, she never publicly on purpose passed no gas around me. So And I thank god for it. I'm not I'm not begging for her to be passing no gas I don't want to be smelling no gas if that's not in her, you know dna So lord, thank you lord. Thank you now if she set me up like that and then out of out of nowhere Brr I would have had a lot of issues, you know, it would affect me Certified life coach on my mentor Dot life the next three ladies the book of session session on the site. I will refund the cost Back to you. Look it up. Joanne. 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It's been years since I have dated Hold on Okay, okay, you don't have two children You got two adult sons that's totally different That's totally different. That's totally different. You can tell them on the first day You tell them about every first date. You can give them his name his Uh driver license tag number You can tell them about every day they they've grown so they're not gonna be on an emotional roller coaster with you They're gonna and in in in fact because they've grown they could you know Put that they're on and so they may want to know who you're going out with mama who you're talking to so It's perfect time being that they are adults. It's perfect time to introduce a relationship and As long as you not on your bike Stay off your bike. Keep your legs closed And you'll be all right. Is it possible to trust a man again? Once he has broken your trust Or should I just move on? It's possible. It's possible to trust again, but it's a choice. See trust is a choice Because it's people who have not broken Trust and people don't trust Don't trust them So trust is based on your experiences and your life and what you've seen over time and trust is a choice But understand this if you don't have trust you don't have a relationship So you have to be able to trust it is possible. It is possible You know, um, I broke my wife's trust and early on in our dating years um I mean we date that long but She saw facebook message, you know, that would flirt What have you and You lose trust, but then she made a decision I'ma give him a chance. I'ma give him a chance. I'ma trust him And I turned into the man that I am today, but you have to see that He's working and he's doing He's doing right I'm working on the three beads. Well, I should say on the two beads brain to brain Brand and brain. I'm having health issues right now. I can't really work on the body The way I want to do you have to do all three beads at the same time No, and that you don't have to do all three beads. You can't do all three at the same time Anyway, you don't have to do one at a time You can't if you focus on everything and you're focusing on nothing So like bruce lee said if you emphasize everything you emphasize nothing I think that's what bruce lee said I'm putting words in bruce mile But you you focus on one at a time That way you really can do it and the body don't mean Just working out, you know, you're going through health issues. That means just eating right that means eating right That means sleeping right That's the body too. The body don't don't make the body just superficial About working out and losing weight or gaining weight or what have you Hold on much too lovely. I see your question, but um j ross in the park then he'll Hello, mr. Gasses. I'm the college guy you help A stream back Dropping in to say thank you. Maybe you meant a while back Um dropping in. Oh a stream back. Maybe you meant a live stream back To say thank you and hope all as well with you and your family. Hey, god bless you Thank you for for popping in and showing their love and pop in a blessing like that I really appreciate that veronica You know, god bless you if I miss some of y'all who put the stickers in there Y'all got to forgive me because the sticker go in the chat in the chat going crazy. There's another one that It goes up at the top So I almost miss you. Um lee But I see you here. I'm I'm pregnant. My boyfriend has cheated four times should I stay? God bless you lee god bless you. I think you might be new to me I think you might be new to me You know to me. God bless you. You should have been gone yesterday. You hear me Absolutely not absolutely not. I'm tell you what get you the best child support lawyer You hear me And you finna get on that child put them on that child support a lot of people don't don't go to the crowd Don't go to don't bring the court. No hit them hard as you can in that child support You hit me because he want to do you like that and you caring to see new You got to go because you're gonna be better off by yourself with a man like that that man drive you crazy And you haven't paying that monthly That way if he don't pay license suspend it don't pay jail house You want to be irresponsible? You want to be a grown boy out here? Out here sleeping around messing around cheating around don't want to own up to what you got going on No, sir reball Debbie I'm dating this guy, but notice he had a very small package Other than that. He is great. I'm also keeping my legs closed Do you think this would be a major issue long term say marriage? Okay, now I'm wondering how you notice he had a A little Johnson And you keep your legs closed now because Is you gonna open some milk? Now it's however you find out ain't gonna judge you. I'm not gonna judge you but I was watching on the I was watching on the um on the plane Dr. Roof And she said that that does not matter That's what she said now. I'm not a woman. I can't tell you but she said that that don't matter Because of where stuff situated You really don't need by the inch inch and a half. That's what she said Okay so But I can't tell you because I'm I'm not a woman. So it's it's really up to you And and you know somebody say or gray sweatpants, you know things Things grow in the heat of the moment. Okay. So what you might see on a sweatpants might be a whole another story You know because the way a man body built on the heat of the moment Tonya. God bless you so Yeah That's a personal choice. I to be honest with you. You're gonna have to ask a woman who's had to deal with Little Jimmy and little Johnny little Johnson And they'll let you know but not know nothing about that I've never been on the receiving end God bless you So I got got to ask one of these ladies on on uh YouTube Let me get old murder Old murder God bless you Is it mentally healthy to stay? Celebit longer than two years and not want to interact with men on a personal level Now Yes, it is it is mentally healthy because That act does not increase your mental help Now they gonna got off they got all these science and all of this that say to help you with my grains And it helped you with stress and it helped you with all of that But but that ain't why it was created. It was created to reproduce So understand this you can do a whole lot with a man That gonna release the same Chemicals from your brain. It's just dopamine and serotonin So you can go on an amazing date Like to be honest with you like a lot of men will rather football players May get the same um football players May get the same release from their brain From a touchdown as they do from being in the bed You know basketball players hitting the shot or game winning shot, you know Entrepreneurs earning a certain amount of money may get the same Feeling so you could go on a good date. You could have a great conversation Get you a massage, you know, all this different stuff and I've met women at my seminars that Been eight years And they look like they're doing fine to me. They look like they're doing fine to me I don't see anything wrong with them on the outset. Now. I don't know on on the inside In the mind behind closed doors, but If the lord say save yourself for marriage, I don't see why it'll be wrong If men accuse you of cheating does that mean he's cheating? Not necessarily But it could be But not necessarily it's not it's not a hundred percent Now what you could do is look a little closer to see if you could find anything But hey, look here. We we're on this hill lockdown My wife and cut me some old spaghetti I got to get going Because it's it's late And I'm trying to get me some Netflix and chill in so We've been watching movies on this here And I really really appreciate y'all for your support. I may pop in tomorrow night as well And try to do a Q&A, but remember why you've been watching us some Netflix and having us some little cheese board, you know And she made me some spaghetti tonight and she get that Cuban bread And she get that Cuban bread and she take them cut it cut it up and make her own little garlic The gold nail That thing helped me where I need to be so I may um pop in tomorrow And and try to do another Q&A because I miss some of y'all can't get to everybody but god bless you and For the aspiring life coaches, we still in Atlanta, April 11 Lord willing with a small group is going to be less than 25 So I'm not going to let it go beyond that So we're going to have a hand sanitizer in there and the beyond switch I probably don't have me some olive oil in there for you Will not be shaking your hand can't can't hug you and take no picture either But you're going to become a certified life coach and that's on my website tonygaskin.com 4 slash events or you could take it online If something happened with the whole situation and they have to postpone it then I do it or I teach it online And in the meantime, if you're not looking to become a coach, but you want to coach Then go to um my mentor dot life It's this coach is on there doing amazing work doing amazing job And I've been getting great feedback from the clients from the coaches So go to my mentor dot life God bless you. 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