 Hello everyone. Welcome again to another Narc Spiver live video. As you can see I am out of this park today and it would be great if you could join me. You could go for a walk and have some intelligent conversation. Just talk about life, the future, maybe philosophical conversation. But yes, as you can see it is a beautiful park. You can probably hear the birds in the background. This is all I really want to do. All I like to do is just come out, go for a walk. It just brings me life. It brings me energy. It makes me feel good as though I am one with nature. And I want you all to share that feeling as you watch this video, as you see me out here right now live in this beautiful park. But yes, we do have a very interesting topic today. And what we are going to be talking about is how the narcissist does not want you to find this out. They most definitely don't want you to know about this. They don't want you to be aware of it. If there is one person who they do not want to know it is most definitely going to be you. And I am going to get into it. I am going to explain it. I am going to tell you exactly how it is. I am going to give you a detailed answer. And you are going to understand that it is going to make a lot of sense to you. It will resolve a lot of questions that I know you have, especially if the narcissist has discarded you. And it seems like they are not wanting to deal with you anymore. They don't want to talk to you. And they may even said they would rather talk to anyone other than you. As I have been told myself in the past by narcissist of course. But yes, how this situation typically goes is they start devaluing you, making you feel small, making you feel less than after they have just taken everything out of you. All of your energy and emotions, maybe all of your money as well. They may have been staying at your place. You were paying all of the bills. You were paying for their food, their clothes, everything. Maybe you were washing their clothes as well, cooking them food, cleaning the home. You were doing all of these things for them because that is what they wanted you to do. And they may not have openly told you this, that they implied it. They sent this message to you maybe energetically and you knew that this is what you have to do. So you invested all of your time and energy into doing it, into being everything that they needed you to be. While at the same time they were devaluing you and putting you down, making you feel small, making you feel insignificant after everything you did for them. And then eventually it's like they had no use for you anymore. They discarded you, they got rid of you and they left you with this image in your head. It's like this mental snapshot where they're just riding off into the sunset. Now they're living their best life without you. Maybe you saw a picture on social media. It could have been on Facebook, it could have been on Instagram. But whatever it was that you saw it, I can assure you that it was not real. And it's clear as day that it is never real. And the reason for that as you should know is because they didn't care about you. They lacked empathy. They failed to understand your situation or share your feelings. It was just all about them and what they wanted. And that type of energy, that selfishness. I can assure you that it never leads them anywhere good. It never does despite what they may want you to believe. And I can assure you of that. Not just from my research, but in my own personal experience. Just that lack of connection that you experience with them. That should tell you everything that you need to know about where they're going to end up. And I've experienced this so many times. Narcissists in my past. There was one narcissist. She just began playing down my worth all of a sudden. After everything I did for her. And then all of a sudden she was involved with a drug dealer. Someone who deals drugs. And she got pregnant by this man. This man who had over four pages of criminal convictions. But aside from that. He also quite clearly had narcissistic personality disorder. And he was raging a lot. From what I know he was physically violent as well. And he got her pregnant. And then the last I saw of her. She was addicted to weed. She was smoking it every day. And she ended up obese. While she was with me. It was a very different situation. She was in good shape. She took good care of herself. She was actually staying with me as well. For a short period of time. Where I lived in this. Five bedroom. Five bathroom home. With four floors. And yet she still felt like she could do better. She was chasing the fun and excitement. Rather than stability and security. But while she was with me. She had all of these dreams for the future. She was training to be a lawyer. And it looks like it never actually turned out that way for her. And of course that is just one situation. There was another one as well. And at the time I really believed that I loved this girl. I wanted to marry her. And have a family. And I thought that it was actually something that we could achieve in the future. But she didn't want to do that. She wanted to listen to her friends. And while she was with me. She was training to be a nurse. And again she was in good shape. She took good care of herself. While she was with me. But then after she left. Suddenly. I think she was drinking alcohol. Going to bars. She even sent a picture to me. Of her sitting on some guy's lap. At the barbershop. And she thought it was funny. She thought this was a good thing. She got one over on me. She made me feel like a fool. She made me feel like I had lost something. Now these are just two situations. There were others as well. And I don't even need to peer into any of them. Because I already know exactly where they end up. With that lack of care. And consideration that they had for me. I already know that that energy is not going to lead them anywhere good. And I'd be lying if I said that. That's what I wanted. That even though things have been done to me. I've been cheated. I've been lied to, deceived. That doesn't mean that. I wish anything bad. On any of those people. I'd actually like it. If they did just move on. And have a good future with someone. And have a family and be happy. I think we already know that that is not. Even a possibility for them. It just never works out that way. For people who are self-absorbed that they lack empathy. Even if they do somehow manage to become successful. It won't last for long. And even in the rare cases where it does. They're never fulfilled by it. And that's just how it goes with narcissism. Because this has been proven there is a link. Between narcissism. And a lack of continuous success. In all areas of life. Not only does it destroy anyone who is around it. But it also destroys the instigator as well. Because you've got to think that that energy. Those emotions are coming from them. So they're reveling in that as well. But they can make it look good in the beginning. They can give you this illusion. As though everything is fine. They're doing well without you. But that's all that it is. An illusion. And even if they do have something it's not going to last for long. Which is how it was in the situations that I previously mentioned. And as for me. Well although I did come across other narcissists as well. Following that. I haven't just been alone this entire time. I am still trying with relationships as well. Although yes it has affected me a lot. By being around these narcissists. What I can say is that. I've been doing this now every day for over five years. I've been making this content. Putting out these videos. I've been doing coaching sessions. I've been working with other people in my company as well. As the CEO that I am. And yes. Things have been going very well for me. I'm not saying everything has been perfect. There has been ups and downs. But even those ups and downs. I can't say that they were ever really. As a result of something that I have done. It was typically. Due to narcissists that I was involved with. And if I was not involved with them. Then it would have ended very differently. But despite that. I'm still getting on here. And I'm killing it every day. Doing this work. I'm helping millions of people around the world. To recognize what they are dealing with. To recognize that yes. They may be empaths. And by having this awareness. They could then find other like minded people. Other people who are empaths as well. Because with narcissists. All they're going to do is come around and use and abuse you. And then by the end of it. You're going to feel like you've just lost something. Like you're missing a piece of yourself. Because that's just what they do. They rob you. They rob you of everything that is good about you. And yet once they've done that. They point the finger at you. They blame you. They make you feel like there's something wrong with you. When there was nothing wrong with you at all to begin with. The only thing that was wrong. Is that you were around the wrong people. People who blamed you. People who projected their shortcomings on to you. And subjected you to ill treatment. That is what was wrong. But they always get it in the end. They always get their karma. And I just know when I look back at these situations in my life. With these narcissistic individuals. These people who didn't care about me. And they thought they were winning. They thought they were defeating me. By leaving me behind. When in actuality. If they had stuck with me. Their lives would have been very different. They could have been flying around the world with me. To all of these different countries. Exploring the world. Traveling in different cars. Eating out at different restaurants every day. Going to beaches. Just having fun every day. Because as it is I typically only work for a couple of hours a day anyway. At this point. So I do have a lot of free time as well. Which although yes I do like to spend a lot of time by myself. But these narcissists from the past. Yes. They could have had an incredible future with me. And I'm not saying that. Because I feel regrets. Or I feel like I'm missing out on something. I'm saying this as an empath. Because as I said. These people who I see they made the wrong decision. They went down. They fell off. Yes I wish I could have been the one. To help them out. I wished I could have been that person. So. If they did cause me any pain it was. In that sense yes. Definitely. And sometimes that is what they will use too. They will show you that they're degrading themselves. Maybe they're going to bars. They're drinking alcohol doing drugs. Hanging around with all of the wrong people. Solely because they know it's going to make you sick. Because they know exactly what type of person you are. They always knew that. They knew that you are an organized competent person. You value order and structure in your life. You value a future marriage. These types of things. And that is why. When all is said and done to punish you they will go and do the exact opposite. But yet they don't want you to know. They don't want you to know that yes in actuality. They would have been better off staying with you. You would have provided a lot more order and functionality to their lives. They could have become far better people. They really could have. But a lot of them when they leave they just go down the wrong path. And I can assure you I can guarantee it. If you could catch up with them after a few years. If you could see what their lives are like. And if you could be a fly in that war. You would either be laughing at them. Or you would be very sad. Because it's not pretty. It's not a good luck at all. But this is exactly how many of them end up. In fact I would say pretty much all of them at some point it will get them. There's just no way I refuse to believe. That narcissistic behavior leads these people anywhere good. Empathy is the way forward. If you empathize with other people. And just sending out that good energy. That love. The good vibes. It will come back to you. And yes not only will the energy come back. But the narcissists. And their toxicity and dysfunction. May also come back to rob or destroy you. But once they go again. You will come back again. Because it's that energy. That empathy. That is what builds us and makes us happy. But these narcissists. They're going to continue to be narcissistic. They're not going to change. And I think the reason why. It's because they just don't want to give you that power. They have too much ego and pride. So even though some of them may actually know already. That if they were to hand the power over to you. And to let you direct them. It would lead them to a much better place. But although they may know that. They would still rather follow their own path. And just make the most out of the fun and enjoyment in the beginning. Especially when it's at your expense. And they can make you feel like you're missing out. You've lost something. But then in time they meet their fate. They always do. A lot of them, their looks fade away. They look very unhealthy. They let themselves go. Not only physically but mentally and emotionally. They just lose control of themselves and their lives. They become progressively worse after leaving you. And there's nothing you can do. There's nothing you can tell them. They're going to do what they're going to do. You can bring a horse to water. But you can't make it drink. It's their own decision. And you have to let them make that decision. Even though, yes. As I said, I can pretty much guarantee. It will not lead them anywhere good. While us empaths. We will continue to be empathetic. We will continue to spread the love and good vibes. Not only because we know we're going to get something back. But also because we know it is the right thing to do. But you may not see it right now. But I can assure you. In time you will see that losing the narcissist is a blessing in disguise. And you've only got to look back and see how they treated you to understand that. Remember everything they did to you. They tortured you mentally and emotionally. They made your life hell. You were under so much stress and anxiety. Many of you may even have been depressed. And yet you felt trauma bonded to this narcissist. You were dependent on them for validation. And it's like they never gave you that. They never gave you closure. They never gave you the answers that you were looking for. But that's just it. I'm giving you the closure that you need right now. And in time if you decide to peer into their situation you will get even more of the closure that you need. You will realize that it wasn't you. Because it doesn't make any sense if you can move on with discipline and self-control and maintain your values and virtues despite opposition and adversaries and you maintain long-term success. And yet they fall off or they come back to try to use and abuse and destroy you. That should tell you all that you need to know. That should reveal exactly who the functional competent person is. But as I said you may not see that in the beginning. It may take time. But in time yes you will see the truth. Time reveals all. But yes I do understand that they can be very manipulative. They know how to orchestrate a situation and make it look like it's so much better than what it is. Of course they would know how to do that because they're always focused on the moment on short-term things. They're not focused on where that moment is going to lead them. They're just focused on getting a reaction out of you so they're outwardly focused, they're seeking your validation and when you're doing that when you're focused on someone else and trying to get a reaction out of them you can't see where you're going. You could be walking off the edge of a cliff and not even seeing it. Which of course yes that is what happens to a lot of them. Metaphorically of course it's like they're taking a picture of themselves ready to post it up to get a reaction out of you and make you feel like you're missing out and then they don't realize they've just stepped off the edge of a cliff. That's what happens to a lot of them. It leads to their demise, to their doom because they're not focused on their own lives and what they need to do. They're focused on how can I get something out of this person but when you're focused on what you can give you're generating something from within so you're focused on yourself you're building yourself up they're just throwing parts of themselves away every time that they focus on other people and try to take something from them but a lot of this is virtually based as well it's all energetic exchange but the reality is that yes I can confirm not only from my own research but also from my personal experiences it doesn't lead them anywhere good but as for me every discard it just made me stronger it made me come back better than ever before where now I look better I feel better I'm more successful, I'm stronger I'm helping more and more people and I'm finding more happiness and fulfillment in my everyday life and believe it or not but yes this all comes from me just being alone spending quality time with myself building what is the most important relationship we will ever have which of course yes is the relationship with ourselves but narcissists are always focused on getting their supply getting reactions out of other people what they should be focused on is getting some kind of feeling from themselves generating it from within raising their vibration and then sending that out to other people especially those who they resisted because that resistance it's very draining and that is actually what prevents a person's success which is why I do advise as I've said already how I do it's not to hold any grudges or resentment don't continue to feel like it was unfair don't hold on to anything let it pass, let it go and you will find your spirit begins to lift you will feel a lot lighter you will feel a lot happier and then things just seem to come to you so easily so yes of course that is what I advise you to do I can understand if you just left the relationship and you're still involved in something you're waiting for it to be resolved, whatever it is I can understand that you don't just have to forget everything that they did or what went wrong but as time begins to pass and if you can't change a situation you need to reframe it you need to change the way that you think about it because otherwise you're going to remain attached to it and you're going to be sending all of that energy to them and you may remain trauma bonded to them dependent on them for validation but they will also be trauma bonded to you as well they may become stalkers they may be attached to you and it may turn into an obsession but there is also a way that you can transmute this negative energy it doesn't have to stay negative energy forever you can turn it into something positive and the way that you do that is by whatever feeling, whatever emotion they have transferred to you in this energetic exchange whether it is desire pride anger, guilt, fear or shame you have to recognize what this feeling this energy is doing to you and how it is limiting you develop this awareness of your mind and what it is translating to you about yourself because typically these types of feelings, this energy it is limiting you it's making you feel like you are not something or you can't do something and that is when you need to reaffirm to yourself and you can say this in your mind or you can say it out loud tell yourself I can be this I can do this and if it's not really something that you want to do you can finish it by saying but I don't want to and that is all there really is to it it's just reaffirming to yourself when they send this energy to you and maybe it makes you feel some type of desire to where you want to change the situation let it motivate you turn that desire into action and whatever you feel like you are missing whatever you feel like you are deficient in believe in yourself believe that you can make it happen and the real secret is what they don't want you to know is that in actuality it doesn't even matter if you make it happen or not that is not important what is important is believe in that you can because that's all that you need to do that's all you have to think to get that feeling to get that motivation which then leads to action or at the very least it just brings you peace of mind because that is where your power comes from your power comes from within it does not come from attaining things and you should be able to see that when you witness the after effects of the narcissist leaving you you should be able to recognize how all of these desires that they had trying to move on and find the bigger better deal the next shiny new toy all of these things led to their demise which is why this desire and this pride it can be very destructive and I will even admit in myself in my own life, yes my desire and pride has led me to some unfortunate situations sometimes we do need to humble ourselves but of course this is something that the narcissist will never do they're never going to look within and see that it could be something that they should change they're always going to look outside of themselves and blame other people for their misfortune and because of that they're always going to need other people around them that they can blame but they won't want you to know that they are not moving on to anything good they are not moving on to a better situation and that in fact losing them is a blessing in disguise it means that you get to keep your power your energy which is the most important thing in this life your energy is all that there is there is nothing else everything is energy so if they want to walk off and move into another situation that's good for you because you are the one with the power, the energy the positive emotions that's is why they targeted you in the first place but of course they knew they couldn't remain around you for too long they knew that they were unable to match that energy and that is why they just ended up using and destroying you but yes this is all you have to do after the discard I understand a lot of you you may be sitting alone you may be feeling down you may be crying yourself to sleep at night and I know it's no fun, I know it's unfair I know it's not nice to go through that and maybe you're thinking about them you're just wishing that they would come back to you you're just wishing that they would be in your life again maybe you just want to talk to them you want to see them in person you just wish that they were there that they would understand you everything that you went through everything that you put up with them but in actuality when you do that you are just giving that power away just sending this energy out there and what you need to remember is that narcissists are predators they're like sharks that can smell blood they can immediately sense that shift in energy and they are waiting, lurking somewhere ready to feed from you when you're feeling down when you're not feeling good about yourself when you're feeling like you're missing or wanting something of course they already know that you shouldn't want them but if they can get you to believe it then there's this energetic exchange and that is why you do need to cut the cords do you need to snip that cord to where this energy is transferring and of course you can do that by recognizing the power in yourself recognize the power in solitude solitude is actually very sexy it's very attractive it's very good for you and that is typically what I advise you to do is to keep this energy to yourself you can see just how powerful and effective it is when you send that out now learn to condense contain this energy rather inside of you and just let it be there but also you don't have to develop an ego about it this need to feel important or to always have something or be right that will eat you alive as well instead just let it go sometimes you can give out little bits of energy and in actuality you will find that that's all that these narcissists need all they need is the crumbs they do not need the loaf which is actually very good for you because it means you can just send out little bits of energy and keep the rest for yourself yes you will find that they are satisfied with small amounts of energy that is more than enough for them into 5D for me says solitude is sexy then I must be Miss America no yes I actually believe that it is I believe that it is more attractive more interesting, more mysterious and it's just better all around for you and whoever you later choose to deal with if you do spend a lot of time by yourself the problem is a lot of people they see it the wrong way they look at on Instagram they see in these relationships looks like everyone is living their best life if only you could see what's going on behind the scenes just remember your own relationship all of the fights, all of the arguments all of the problems the times when you just wanted to be alone and yet we take these pictures and we portray it as though it's so much better than what it is which is why you do need to enjoy your alone time and that is what gives you the power because when you're spending most of your time alone you're generating all of this energy all of this power from within and that is very sexy that is very attractive because that is what people typically want but forget it about other people and focusing on yourself it should be what you want to empower yourself empowerment comes from being alone and that is why I do often promote and encourage individuality for people to find their own identities especially coming out of a narcissistic relationship where they have changed you you do need to find yourself and of course I can understand in the beginning I have been there myself where I felt alone and I was smoking weed I was drinking alcohol every week only two or three cans but still I had these unhealthy coping strategies and I thought it was helping me but it was actually just keeping me down and that's really it when you spend time alone you develop this self-awareness this relationship with yourself and that is very attractive I believe that yes it is very sexy but yes that's really it for this topic I do genuinely believe that losing the narcissist is a blessing in disguise and I believe that it will be for you as well just give it time in time you will see things will begin to change and you just need to try to avoid dating for a certain amount of time don't give that little bit of energy that you have left away use it to replenish yourself take time to learn more about yourself and what got you into this mess the narcissist so that you can prevent it from happening again and just realize that yes being alone is sexy if you are working on yourself you're developing this self-awareness you're already doing something that 99% of people on the planet are not doing so that already puts you ahead of everyone you have all the power you have the energy, the emotions you have the empathy just that alone it means you have something to give and yet you're choosing to contain it and keep it to yourself yes that is very sexy and it will make you very attractive especially coming out of a narcissistic relationship there are predators everywhere but just be aware that the power does come from keeping it to yourself when you give it out when you have relationships even just friendships you are then giving your power away that doesn't mean you have to be alone for the rest of your life of course but it's just important to be aware of it and to be aware of the company that you keep and importantly to choose to spend time around other empathetic people who can reciprocate that energy back to you so that's really it that is this message for today they don't want you to find this out but by the looks of things 144 live viewers on you already a lot of people are going to find this out and I'm very happy about that I hope you use it to your benefit and if this video was helpful for you you can give it a thumbs up 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