 Why narcissists treat strangers better than you? Narcissists are very unfair. They're not morally right. They treat people in an unequal way. They treat other people better than you. They will go out of their way for other people. They will make a special effort to help them. They will help people who aren't significant. They will do things for them. But when you first met the narcissist, they would do nice things for you. They love bombed you. They did everything they could to impress you. But when you start going out in public together, or when there's another person around, they always have to impress the other person. Without showing any regard or respect for you, they will go out of their way to be kind and friendly to strangers. People they don't even know. They change the inherent qualities of their mind and character. They change their body language. They even change the way they speak. But you are supposed to be something significant to the narcissist. So you should expect some level of priority. You should be regarded and treated as more important than other people. You should expect some level of politeness and consideration, where they should come to you first. But when the narcissist is around other people, they just push you to the side. Once you've been around the narcissist long enough, their politeness and courteousness is no longer used or thought about, which is why you will see other people receiving this preferential treatment that you no longer get from them. They will treat them better than you, and it will feel like they have an advantage over you because they're waiting on them hand and foot. They're providing everything they want and need. They're being extra warm and friendly. They're not checking to see if you need anything, but they're doing it for strangers because they're just putting on an act. Everything they do is an act, which is something you witnessed when they were trying to get to you. Whenever there's someone new for them to impress, they have to change their character completely and be whatever they think that person wants and needs. They always have to overdo it. They always have to give excessive treatment until it looks disrespectful to you because how can they treat a stranger better than you? If you ask them to do a similar thing for you, they would only give you their uncooperative attitude because they're not living with a stranger. They're not always around them, but they're giving them better treatment than they give to you when it should never be that way. If you're supposed to be important to them, if you're in a significant position in their life, you shouldn't be getting lesser treatment than someone they don't even know. But you will see that when they go into the supermarket or when you're at a restaurant, they will be extra warm and friendly to other people. To people they don't even know, it should show you how fake and deceptive the narcissist really is and it should show you how insignificant you are to them because otherwise they wouldn't be going out their way and being too friendly with people they don't even know. People who aren't even doing anything for them, a normal person would never do that. They would never let a person who is supposed to be significant and mean something to them feel less than strangers. But even if someone is in polite or bad manner towards the narcissist in public, the narcissist will stop themselves from saying something. They will remain friendly. They will try to work things out. But why can't they be that way with you? Why can't they give you the same courtesy and respect? They can never give you that kind of treatment. But they can do it with a stranger. When the narcissist is being extra warm and friendly to other people, this is something you need to pay attention to because it should reveal to you that you're dealing with a fake person, someone who is not being genuine. It should reveal to you that you don't really mean anything to them. Even though they may say that you do, their words don't match their actions because they're deliberately going out of their way to be polite, respectful and considerate to people who don't mean anything to them. It's a way of indirectly expressing negative feelings instead of openly addressing them. They're avoiding direct communication with you but they're trying to invalidate you by making or proving some argument or statement through their actions and making you feel like you're less than who you really are or making you feel like you don't deserve their kindness like other people do. They're trying to mess with your mind. They're trying to make you feel like you have to do something to earn their kindness. You can't just have it unconditionally. But they will give it to other people, people who don't mean anything to them. It's very strange behavior. It's very different to what is usual or to what should be expected. But this is something you will see from the narcissist and it's something you've probably already seen where they treat other people better than you. People who don't mean anything to them. People who aren't doing anything for them. People who are strangers. They will behave in a silly and foolish way with you. But they will be calm and composed and not really bothered by things with other people which is a form of abuse. They're mistreating you because a normal person would never go out of their way for someone who doesn't mean anything to them. They would never agree with or support the opinions or actions of a stranger over someone who is important to them. That is contrary to what is usual and normal. But this is something you will usually see them do in public and around other people. You will see that they treat other people strikingly different to how they treat you. And if you do see it, you should start making a plan to free yourself from this undesirable situation because if someone is doing that to you, they raise something wrong with them. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonated with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching inquiries. You can email me at coaching.naxiviver.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.