 Hi y'all. She was seven. Okay. So I had a video request topic. Here is the topic. Okay. So this this person asked me, what do you do when you find a guy who's paying for everything at first? All the dates, all the expenses and all that kind of stuff in the beginning of the relationship. And then, you know, then they start asking you to pay for stuff and starting to want you to pay for everything and then they quit their job and then they want to live off of you and blah blah blah blah blah. Are they tricking you? Do they just want to live off of you? Did they play the okie-dokie on you or whatever? So this person asked me, what do you do in this situation? Okay. So in the beginning of any situation of any relationship, if you're with a guy who's paying for everything, who's, you know, taking care of, you know, his responsibilities being the provider and all that kind of stuff, praise him for it. Make him seem like he's rare and like, for example, oh my god, I'm so glad I found a man like you who knows how to provide and take care of a woman and do all the things that men should be doing. I really love that about you. Make sure that he knows that you appreciate that, that you are bragging to your friends about it and that you're so proud of him and that you're just like in awe of having a man like this because if you do that, they're not going to want to stop. They're going to be like, well, dang, you know, I get all these compliments every day. She's bragging to her friends about me, you know, so they're going to want to continue to do those things for you because you're very appreciative and, you know, they're not going to think about, oh, is she using me or I need to slack off and maybe I should quit my job and love all of her since I've spent all this money on her. They're not going to be thinking like that because you're constantly feeding their ego and that is what most women forget to do to these type of men. These type of men who are providers, protectors, these kind of men who like to pay for things for women in the beginning, if they're not getting fed in return, and I'm not talking about sex, I'm talking about their egos. Their egos need to be fed. Okay. If their egos are not getting fed, they're going to stop. Okay. If you brag to your friend right in front of your man and say, girl, my man pays for everything. I don't have to pay for nothing. He's going to continue because now he has to live up to this. You know, it's like the old trick in the movies where someone wants something and the person says no, so they go in front of a large audience and thank the person for actually giving them something that they said no to so that now they're under, you know, the eyes of everyone. So they have to say yes. That's the oldest trick in the book, but it works. Okay. Also feeding a man's ego works. You can get pretty much anything you want by feeding a man's ego. Okay. Believe me. I know it works. If you don't believe me, go try it with someone. Okay. Just go try it. A lot of men are going to say it doesn't work, but believe me, it does. They just talk a lot on the internet. Don't believe nothing because when you're out in person, face to face with a man and they see you and everything on you, they smell you, they see how other men are looking at you, their instinct is going to kick in and all that crap that they talk online is just going to be that crap. Any woman can allure a man, especially in person. Okay. So y'all ladies remember that y'all actually have the power. You are the prize and you can pretty much get whatever you want by speaking the correct words, feeding the male ego and basically bragging on him in front of other people so that he has to live up to that standard. Okay. And believe me, he'll want to because he'll feel so empowered and he'll feel so important that if he stops, then he's going to feel like nothing. Okay. This is how you create men who want to be providers. Okay. If they start out like that, great. You have something to work with. Okay. If they start slacking, call them out on it. Don't wait. Say, you know what? What's wrong? You know, did you lose your job? Like insult their ego. Okay. This is the trick. If they stop wanting to pay for things, just like be devastating. Like, oh my God, are you losing your job? You know, just try to make them feel like, can you not afford your bills or your car note anymore? You know, they'll be like, uh, no, you know, I got this blah, blah, blah, blah. And you know, if they say, yeah, you know, I can't pay for this and I can't pay for that anymore. And I'm, you know, I think I might lose my job or whatever, blah, blah, blah. This is the critical time. This is when you need to say, you know what? I know you can go out there and get a better job. Sometimes when you, when you're about to lose one opportunity, a bigger one is coming. So I know you're going to just be balling and getting the money that you need to get. Um, because, you know, this is just a phase and you're going to get better. That's what life is. You know, you move on to the next best thing you move up, you move forward. So I know you're going to be making more money. You know, um, so maybe you should start saving more so that, you know, you won't be in a financial pinch, you know, give them advice. And they're going to be like, Oh, I don't want to take advice from this woman. I don't need to tell her my, uh, financial business anymore. Uh, if I stop paying for stuff, she's going to think I'm broke and can't handle my business as a man. Um, so make sure you put emphasis on how proud you are of him being able to pay for stuff and have a good job and handling his business. Okay. You don't really have to mean it. You just need to feed his ego. Okay. Because that's what men need. Okay. Just like women need emotion and affection and oh, you know, to be told that they're pretty men need that ego boost. Okay. This is why a lot of rich men like materialistic women, because they feed their ego, because they know if by feeding their ego, they're going to get exactly what they want in return. And that's all men want from women to get their egos fed. Okay. It's besides sex. Okay. But that's the second most thing that they want from a woman is their ego fed. So, you know how to feed a person's ego. You can pretty much get whatever you want. Okay. Um, and a lot of men will say, well, I'll see you right through that. No, you won't because you won't know how I'm feeding it, what I'm doing to feed it. It doesn't even have to be direct. It can be indirect. I can ask other people to say certain things to you. I can suggest things and make it seem like your idea. And you're not going to see it coming because women are very clever in knowing how to get what they want. Okay. And you're not going to know if you this woman really means it or if she's just feeding your ego, but you're going to still like it guys. You're going to be like, Oh my God, I feel like I can rule the world. You know. And other guys are not going to feed other men's ego. So they're not going to get the same satisfaction as a woman feeding his ego. Okay. A guy might be like, Yeah, buddy, you know, you're, you're balling. Yeah. Yeah. Good for you. But you don't have anything to show for you. Don't have this woman. You don't have a nice looking woman that looks at you like you're a God. You don't have any of that. Okay. All you have is a man telling you, Oh, you're the man. Okay. While they're telling you, you're the man, they're going to be leaving with a woman and say, you know, good luck. I'll see you tomorrow. You know, and you're going to be left alone. Okay. Unless, you know, you like me. So I guess it really doesn't matter. But I guess this can also work for gay couples as well. Whoever the most masculine needs the most ego fit. Whoever the most feminine needs the most affection needs the most attention. You know, so you can kind of work with those aspects as well. But honestly, I really think that if a man starts slacking off and wanting you to pay, you need to get out of that relationship, distance yourself from it, say, you know what, maybe you can't afford it right now to have the relationship. So why don't we just take time for ourselves and get ourselves in order? Don't say you, because it's going to make him feel bad about himself. And he's already feeling bad because he ain't got the money. So let's just say, you know, I really need to focus on work right now. I think you need to focus on your career as well and your job and your skills so we can get back on track because I kind of think we got off balance. We got so into each other. We got off balance. So let's just, you know, take some time to get ourselves back in order. And then we can come back stronger. That's basically saying, look, I want you, you won't go get yourself together. And when you ready for a relationship, I'll be here. Okay. So I know a lot of people are going to disagree on that, but think about it. Do you really want a man laying on your couch all day and you going to work while they sit at home? No, you don't. And if you have that type of man and he's actually doing things to provide service for you, like if you have kids and he's watching the kids, if he's a house husband, if he's doing all the things that you would have to pay someone else to do, that's okay. But you, you're still going to be the one who wears the pants in the family and he's going to feel like less than the man individually. He's going to probably cheat because he doesn't feel like a man and he's going to need a woman to feed his ego. Okay. So I hope you guys can understand, you know, what I just said and not fall into that trap. Get out of it as soon as you feel like the situation is changing. Get out of it. Okay. If you can't change him back and boost his ego to go get some, you know, a better paying job or to want to keep paying for you, then you need to leave him exactly where he is because it's a trick. Okay. It's a trick. Okay. I don't care. A man is not supposed to be the victim. A man is not supposed to be the weak one. A man is supposed to be strong. Now, I can understand if, you know, if he loses his job and say, you know, I need to find another job and I need you to help me, he should have money saved up. If he is responsible, if he's husband material, if he's good father material, he needs to have stuff saved up in case of emergency. If he doesn't have anything saved up, if he doesn't have a backup plan, if he's not getting unemployment, he is very irresponsible and he's going to drag you down. So a smart, intelligent man who's a good provider always has a backup plan plan B. Okay. So you, you are not playing B. Okay. All right. So I'll see y'all later. Thumbs up if y'all agree. And if you're not subscribed, subscribe. Also make sure you share this video with who you think needs to hear it because I know a lot of women out there are doing this and they need to hear this. Okay. I'll see y'all later. Bye.