 Hello everyone, welcome to another Narks by the Life video. As you can see today I am at the beach just sitting down for a moment enjoying the sound of the waves just relaxing and yes in this video I'm going to be discussing something that may surprise you because believe it or not but the narcissist is actually thinking about you right now. Yes that cold-hearted person remember when you were with them they were so angry so distant and by the end of it they acted like something was wrong with you. I mean first they tried to get your attention they tried to impress you they tried to give it all to you like that but then they started devaluing you pointed out all of these things that are meant to be wrong with you and then they discarded you or you left them and then it looked like they were just running off with a new supply riding off into the sunset but at least that is how it seems and I'm going to explain why right now but before I do please do give this video a thumbs up down below it's very important as it helps the YouTube algorithm and it will get this very important message out there so that so that other survivors will see it so very important do give this video a thumbs up down below thank you for the donation NeoMass who says happy Thanksgiving to Nark survivor and Nala unfortunately Nala cannot be here right now she is in Malaysia at the moment but hopefully within the next few months Nala will be back in the live videos and of course I am looking forward to seeing her again I miss having those little cuddles with Nala laying on the bed good times I'm sure she will be back very soon but yeah on to the message believe it or not the narcissist this person who acts so cold and distant unlike they're superior to you they're the best things in sliced bread or so they think they think they're this amazing wonderful person they're more intelligent than you they're more attractive they think they are the best the grandiose they're this they're that they're the shit they're all of these things yes that narcissistic person is quite possibly thinking about you right now in this very moment if they are awake if they're sleeping then maybe when they wake up first thing in the morning they will be thinking about you wondering where you are who you're with what you're doing and they're probably hoping that you're thinking about them as well because as we know they view people as extensions of themselves they try to create this bond this attachment this very shallow connection they don't attach to you properly but they want you to attach to them that's just our narcissist function and operate think about this for a moment for the narcissist to be able to do that for them to try to occupy your mind and hold this mental real estate in there and to try to create this attachment this bond for them to be able to do that they would have to be thinking about you first that is how you know that yes they are thinking about you and also they have a lot of difficulty with detaching from their targets once they've been around you they derive this sense of false a sense of false self and identity from you from manipulating abusing and controlling you because that translates to them that they are attractive and desirable they're powerful and important that's where this idea in their minds of these traits come from if they can get your attention your admiration if they can get you to view them as something attractive it tells them that they're desirable they're wanted and if they can beat you down make you feel small devalued you if they can do all of that than that tells them that they are powerful so there's the link the connection of how they derive their false sense of self from you as their target and yes of course when they move on to find new supply in the beginning they will derive their false sense of self from manipulating their new target from love bombing them that will tell them that they are attractive and desirable but they still need to get that negative supply from you by devaluing you and triangulating you with their new supply so that they can still feel powerful and important from getting that negative supply and then once they finally get bored of the new supply and they start devaluing them that is when they will re-idealize you they will try to hoove you they will try to come back to get that positive supply from you again so that they can feel like they are attractive and desirable to you so that's how it works that is what is going on in their crazy minds if you want to know exactly how a narcissist thinks that is it that's exactly what they are thinking but another thing you need to understand as well is that when they're thinking about you when they're thinking about anything and you you will be able to recognize this from how when they project their thoughts feelings and beliefs on to you how do you feel in that moment when they gas letting you they're giving you the word salad they're spinning you around in circles your heads all over the place your heads in the clouds at times you don't even know who you are or where you are when they're projecting all of this on to you that should reveal to you their thought process because the way that we think it's very grounded we have control over our thoughts as long as we're outside of their influence and control we can think very clearly we can control our thoughts and emotions were strong minded we're not hypersensitive to certain feelings and emotions or certain situations for narcissists it is the exact opposite their thoughts are all over the place they've got a million different thoughts racing around their minds at the same time and they can't control it it's like obsessive and compulsive they cannot control how they think or how they feel and when they're constantly throwing these emotional dots at you you've got to think that's coming from them from their minds but they're forcing you to be out of control yourself so this is how you can delve into their minds I mean of course many people have commented on my channel they've mentioned how I always seem to know exactly what a narcissist is thinking and the thought process in their minds I don't wonder how is that possible if I'm not a narcissist myself and it's possible because I make myself aware of what they're trying to induce in me and in my mind and you've got to think that a person cannot give you something that they do not already possess themselves so if you imagine the situation many of us can relate to whether you're just sitting down in your living room sitting on the couch you're playing on your computer you're watching TV and then the narcissist creeps in through the door they poke their heads out and then suddenly they start to unleash all of this emotional baggage on to you their arms are flailing around the yelling and screaming that insulting you they're pointing out something that you've done wrong in that moment they are unleashing the composition of the psychology of their own minds on to you so however you feel in that moment whatever you're thinking about has nothing to do with you whatsoever so you should this identify with it because when you're around a suffocating overbearing and domineering narcissist all you can think and feel in that moment is a reflection of their own insecurities and deficiencies because they're just hearing this at you it's like emotional vomit and yet many of us as empaths of course we self-loathe we identify with it we take it on as a part of ourselves and that is what makes us an excellent source of supply and that is what the narcissist is thinking about when they are not around you and of course sometimes as well they may think of you they may objectify you in a sexual way that can happen as well but even then it's very different to how we may perceive someone physically and sexually it's in a very different way to how we might do that it's difficult for me right now to really expand and go into detail about that just to be quite honest I don't really have that much information on it I know that their physical and sexual attraction is very different to ours I mean they could be attracted to things that we would never even think twice about but somehow in their minds they managed to twist it and do the mental gymnastics so that it becomes something sexually attractive to them it's not in the way that we think like it in the way that I might present myself to you the narcissist is not going to look at me in the same way but then in another way yes they will but not directly they will do it vicariously through another person or whatever is trending or popular whatever they think other people would find desirable so that it complements their image and status that is how they perceive of physical and sexual attraction it's not natural it's not authentic experience vicariously but even then it is distorted through the lens of a broken prism so they never actually see you as you actually are they're completely unable to do that just going to wait for this tractor to go past and I was quite glad yeah it's never going to be like that with a narcissist they experience people vicariously through other people and situations so they might look at you and think I don't know I'm just thinking off the top of my head to you maybe your tool your athletic and it will kind of picture you in their minds and as though they're with you they're standing next to you and then they're picturing how other people will view this superficial image and whether or not it complements their false image and their status so you're acting as an object at all times when you are around an artist you're just a trophy you're not a person and it's just based upon vicariously through how other people view it they cannot experience any satisfaction pleasure or gratification from you directly it's always through other people so they have to try to make other people envious or jealous of themselves you or what you have or share together for them to be able to derive a sense of pleasure and satisfaction and as though they possess something valuable and desirable that's the only way that they can get it from deriving it from another person or a group of people whether it's in real life or on social media they never experience it directly and the reason for that again it kind of goes back to their childhood it's all in the lens of what they were taught by their parents so they never develop that ability to experience these things directly it always has to be through the lens of another person like when they were a child it was all about rather than how am I thinking and perceiving of this experience it's more what of my parent think will feel about this experience would they be proud of my image my achievements because remember they abandoned their true self and then they created a false character to try to live up to their parents expectations and to please then because narcissists they were either escaped go to childhood or some of them may have even be the golden child as well so they were valued more on what they did rather than who they actually are it's not like they could just not do anything they were still valued and appreciated just for existing they had to do something they had to achieve something they had to present a certain image so fast forward to today this is the way that the narcissist is thinking about you they're thinking about you in this same way never experiencing you directly and of course that is why even when they are thinking about you they're holding these mental images of you you're not even getting anything out of it it's just sucking the life of you it's draining you it feels like mental rape there's no exchange there's no transaction of energy because even then they're just kind of thinking of you in a superficial way it's on the surface and when something is on the surface and it's objectified it just feels like rape they're just sucking it out of you because they're not seeing the person they have an inability to view the person everything's just on the surface and that is why when they come around you and use the thing as well it's not even just if they're trying to develop something with you it's also when they triangulate you as well you just feel completely robbed because everything's just so superficial which is what they learned from their parents and childhoods remember they were abused and were traumatized maybe they were spoiled as well so everything every interaction every engagement it just feels like you're robbed once you no longer validate the illusion and you no longer be in love bombs you no longer be pulled into this fantasy this world of make-believe so that's why it has that effect on you some of you however you may still be in the illusion and that is why you may even pedestalize a narcissist and just the thought of them thinking about you it's like the most amazing feeling in the world and I know that because I've experienced that as well I know what that's like when you hold this fake superficial image of a narcissist and it's like it's just an amazing thing to this person that you've pedestalized to think that they're thinking about you even then in your mind you're not portraying it as though they're thinking about you you're portraying it as though they're thinking about this fake superficial image of you and that's what's making you feel good it's not the actual person inside of course it could never be that person inside of you because they never even took the time to get to know you they never even even sat down and had a normal conversation with you because they never cared about the person they never cared about who you actually are if you're finding this video helpful please do give it a thumbs up down below it helps the youtube algorithm and it will get this very important message out there to help other survivors of narcissistic abuse which of course is very important they need to get this information it will finally help them to understand what they have been dealing with so do hit that thumbs up button down below I can see that we have 82 live viewers I don't need 41 thumbs ups so hit that button down below please now I'm going to come over here but not for too long because the sun is quite strong I know it may not be what some of you want to hear but I'm talking about this topic of whether or not the narcissist is thinking about you which of course yes they are a lot of times and I understand that as well I've experienced that too of course yes I've had moments about experiences where there was a sexual attraction a certain narcissist in my life God yeah of course I used to wish that they would be thinking about me in a sexual way maybe one day they would come back we could do it again which in pretty much every situation that's exactly what happened until I finally rejected them and got rid of them which is what has happened in pretty much every situation in my life but yeah I've been there I can experience that as well of course I know what it feels like to want to be sexually desired by someone and also to want to keep and sustain that feeling of sexually desiring someone as well but more specifically a narcissist of course that's why this conversation has to be so logical because when it comes to a narcissist there is no time for having fun it has to be very direct it has to be logical you cannot be having these desires these sexual feelings around them of course that is very inappropriate on their parts and also for us as well because we have to remember that they are predators they seek to exploit us to harm us so either way that's going to be very bad for both of us whether us or the narcissist so yes these are all important things to consider when we are dealing with them but know that yes I can relate I know what it's like to sexually desire a narcissist although to go deeper into it that is actually not even possible there is nothing to be sexually attracted to all there is is a false character and other than that there is just a void there is nothing else and even for yourself or I whenever you are around a narcissist whenever you are in the presence of one you cannot be yourself that's completely impossible and the reason why is because they uphold you to certain expectations and obligations they expect you they need you to be a certain way so that they can derive a sense of self and so that they can feel better about themselves and get their narcissistic supply so it is in no way possible for you to be yourself around a narcissist it's impossible there's no possible way I know in this it should help you to detach from this need to even want them to think about you because you can never be yourself around them all you can ever be is a false self yourself I mean when you're around normal people I'm sure you experienced this as well I have in the past it's like when you're around these narcissists you're so uptight you're so closed off you can't even be yourself and then you get on to these communities you can finally be free you can finally expose yourself you can finally expose your feelings your experiences what you've been through what you desire what you want what you crave what you're missing in your life but you could never do that around the narcissist you could never be that person of who you truly are this is a very important thing to remember whenever we are thinking about certain sexual encounters with a narcissist certain experiences certain desires needs or wants because this allows us to detach from them when you know for a fact that it is not real that is when you can gray rock and it becomes very easy for you to do that because you already know any interaction engagement or experience with them is not going to result in anything favorable for you and in fact so is going to be harmful to you it's going to impair you in every possible way you're never going to be able to feel like you can be yourself you're going to constantly feel like you're walking on eggshells that's just the only way that it's ever going to be with them you're never going to get any other experience than that and it's just the way that they're wired the way that they're built that's just how it goes with them and that's just the way that it's only ever going to be doesn't matter what type of experience you're having with them even if it is a sexual experience by the end of it you won't even know who you are you won't even know where you are because they have to pull you into this fantasy world and this world has existed since their childhood and it was created so that they could protect themselves from reality because unlike us they could not cope with certain things certain experiences and it's not always that what they experience was worse it's just they're more sensitive to it they're just not built in the way that we are but typically because we're empaths we know we have to be strong so that we can be of service to other people what the narcissist is just all about themselves it's all about just throwing a tantrum crying and screaming to get attention so that other people come to them so of course whatever happens they will always play the victim cards and they will always use it to get attention to get supply to get other people to come to the raid so that's the way that they go with it and that is why it is the narcissist who creates this fake world inside their heads to protect them from reality and this is something that stays with them for their entire lives it never goes away and this is why I say empaths because we didn't do that we were strong all we're trying to do and all we ever tried to do throughout our lives is trying to pull narcissistic individuals into reality and that is what gives them power over us the person who has the most power in a relationship or situation is the one who cares the least of course they don't care about anything they don't value reality they can't even see what is real and what is not and that's why it's so easy for them to lie to gaslight to cheat to do all of these things to us because they just don't even care we care so much as empaths it's like we will do anything to just get them to understand to get them to see the truth to just pull them into reality but they will do anything to avoid seeing the truth and in fact as soon as a narcissist witnesses the truth or reality of any given situation as soon as that happens they experience a narcissistic injury and then they lash out at you or someone else to protect and defend them the disorder is set up in a way so that they never have to experience reality yes thank you it's set up in a way so that they never experience reality so that the only thing they can experience is the fake world and that is why it's like whenever you try to get them to see sense straight away they go into the devaluation the lies the future faking whatever it takes the smear campaigns it's all to get you to stop pressing them with truth and reality because they cannot experience that from the very beginning of their lives their path was always about denying reality as a coping and defense mechanism against their ego and because they're very weak they can't cope with certain situations that they experienced so their path in life is all about being in denial of reality and attacking anyone who tries to present it to them while us empaths we are truth tellers for us it's all about just bringing the truth to any situation at any time that you tried to do that they will always try to fight you they will gas like you they'll spin you around in circles because they just don't want to see it they don't want to hear it they don't want to know anything about it unless it's something that where they can learn about it I don't only see that they can then shut it down that's the only time that the rabbit going to listen to you or study you even then they they just cannot see it no matter what no matter what happens a narcissist can never see the truth if you try to bring the truth to a narcissist the only way that they can possibly see it is as though you are trying to manipulate and gain the upper hand over them and then they're going to see it as though they just need to be out of the two steps ahead of you like a game of chess and that is the only other way that the only way that they are ever going to see it it's only going to cause them to sink even deeper into delusion to go even deeper into the rabbit hole and of course the deeper they go the more difficult it becomes for them to get out of it which is why by a certain age I think some studies say 16 others say 18 but around that age that is when the disorder is fully developed and by that point it's already too late they can't get out of it after that in most cases then it's just like that for life there's no going back anything you do to try to get them to see sense it's just going to be seen as manipulation that's just the only way that they're going to see it are they just going to try to drive you crazy so that you can no longer see the truth because anytime you bring the truth to them you're like shining a light on them it's like sunlight to a vampire they're very very weak they just cannot no matter what they just cannot ever see it because they would just destroy their entire false reality they would annihilate the false character and of course as we know all they have is a void so you imagine they're just falling back into this void they're going to do anything they possibly can to get out of it whatever it takes whatever they have to do whatever they have to say whatever's going to protect them from that feeling because in any given situation it's always escapism from that feeling of shame from knowing that they're bad they're wrong which of course is why they created the false character to begin with to protect themselves against those feelings of shame of shame but they are shame based people who are doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame so no matter what the shame continues to grow within them and it is the reason for everything that they do if you want to know why a narcissist does what they do it's always because of their shame this is why they hate educated empaths and that is why i am out in the field every day to gather this information and the things that i've been through you often wouldn't even believe it but i have to go through it so that i can present this information to you got another tractor coming behind me so just hold on for a moment try the scenery take a seat on my water it's been out in the sun for a while prefer my water cold but oh well yeah this is really it i mean you know when you are aligned with the truth and the reality there's nothing on your conscience i mean we all have feelings of guilt and shame but we're aware of it we're conscious of it we can deal with it and that is why we can be so happy and carefree in life it's so easy to be happy in any moment in life even if everything is falling apart around me i could just sit here with a big grin on my face i could be happy i don't have to worry about anything because inside of me my conscience is clear i think i know i've done the best that i could do and i know that even though i may feel guilt or shame at times as we all do i am connected to it i can consciously deal with it because i'm always connected with the truth and reality of the situation which of course you can probably notice from my past over five years of making videos on this channel i always bring the truth to millions of people around the world but as very narcissist they are disconnected from the truth they're disconnected from the reality of the situation at all times in order to protect their false character so that they don't slip into the void and that is why they're always miserable that is why in every situation they're always fake they always resort to manipulation rather than being authentic that's why they're always miserable that's why and that's why all they can ever do is they have to completely beat you down but it's not really you you're just kind of a you're like a vessel a representation of the truth and of reality and they're seeing that reality coming to them and they're either just trying to beat it down and get it out of the way or just push it away from them just deflect it it's because of everything they experienced in their childhood and why they create the false character so no matter what they have to avoid the truth and reality and i know this topic has gone very deep maybe a little bit off topic as well i hope this information does help someone out there i mean i know it is incredibly a very deep discussion hopefully there are many of you out there who are able to comprehend it i stand by it i believe that to the best of my knowledge in my lifetime of experience and my research my daily research over the past five years almost six years now i do believe that yes it is incredibly accurate i do believe it to be true and i stand by that but that's all it's ever going to be with the narcissist yes you may be a vessel a representation of the truth but you're always going to be an outsider and observe it as though you're looking in on the narcissist experience and their world because there's just no room no space for the truth in their world if you want to enter their world you must entertain the fantasy the false narrative as long as you're resistant to it you oppose it you don't fully agree with it or you just take it as something condescending or something that's given with an air of superiority or an authoritative position of control or whatever it may be as long as you do that it's going to mess you up it's going to damage your brain you're going to experience information because you're not in harmony with that environment you're not in agreeance with it and the only possible way for that to work is if you do enter their world it is a very harmful world it's full of darkness evil abuse things that are wicked and immoral that's the only way that it can work is if you deny the truth you deny reality and it can help you sometimes in some situations it can protect you i mean that could be a problem a lot of times i mean it causes a narcissistic injury when you're constantly just beating them down with the truth with reality just shoving it in their face that is not favorable for you when you're constantly doing that because of course all they can do is be resistant to it they have to oppose it they have to spin it and make up their own narrative of it to protect themselves from reality so that's just going to hurt you in the long run you do have to give them a little bit here and there you do have to kind of submit in some ways because you know this person is hell bent rampant on denying reality at all costs you're just not going to be built to go at it in that kind of way you're more willing to be in harmony to accept things because that's what truth is that's what a high vibration of love is for them it's very different they're coming at it from a place of shame so all things to take into consideration 90 live viewers please do give this video a thumbs up down below it's going to help the youtube algorithm and it will get this message out there to other survivors of narcissistic abuse which of course is what we all want we want to make other empaths and victims aware of this very important information so that they can protect themselves and prevent themselves from going over to the dark side where they're manipulated where they experience confusion and bewilderment where they detach from reality and get lost in the narcissist fantasy world of course nobody wants to do that but yeah as you can see I'm just sitting on this beach I was sitting here for about 10 minutes before I decided to get on and yeah it was peaceful but then I felt like he was missing something I just desired something more stimulating some intellectual conversation so I thought when I jump in here and do a live it's much more stimulating than that and yes I do feel more alive right now but of course reason is a very high frequency funny enough reason is just one position down from love so when you achieve that sense of reasoning that is when you will then be able to shift into that frequency of love a very difficult thing for many people to do I remember one youtuber that I watched he said something about Albert Einstein of course he was a very intelligent man a genius but he only vibrated at the frequency of reason he never got to the frequency of love sadly enough the truth is of course truth as well that's still reason to really experience love you have to let go of the truth it's even beyond acceptance whatever you believe to be true whatever you thought it seemed right to you whatever you've learned yes at a certain point you have to let it go and trust your intuition and that's how I'm able to get on here and make these videos sometimes yes of course I'm going off of what I've heard in other youtube videos other articles or reports yes that can be true for a lot of my videos but also many times I'm just paying attention to my intuition and I'm just thinking what is going to help you right now how can I best show my love to you and that is what allows me to transcend the frequency of reason and into the vibration of love which of course as we know but as I was told that's not something that Einstein was able to do which is interesting because the true intelligence does actually come from love and you will know when you are in a frequency of love because it's almost like and your spiritual ego can come into it as well but it is kind of like you're elevated you're looking down people who try so hard to understand and learn more about a situation when it's like at some point you realize that none of that even matters it's not even important anymore once you get into that frequency of love but don't take this the wrong way that doesn't mean that we should all just love these narcissists just go over to the narcissist give them a hug that's all just having orgy that's not what I'm saying at all love it does not always mean you have to be around other people narcissists sometimes the greatest love is when you are alone I just picture this here's just one situation as an example my own personal experience and in fact I'm experiencing this right now when I was with my little girl my daughter or my cat Nala when I was with her at that time of course in some ways I kind of took them for granted I can completely admit that I should have given them more attention and in that moment I felt like you know if someone asked me yes of course I would say I love Alice I love my daughter I love Nala I love my cats sit on this beach right now when I'm in a country that's far away and I haven't seen my daughter Alice in over two years I haven't seen Nala for a couple of months I can only she say I don't think I've ever felt so much love for anyone before in my life having not seen them and being with them for such a long time so to me that proves that sometimes the greatest experience of love it's not in the presence of the people that you love it's in the absence of them and I believe there is a quote can't remember who it's from absence makes the heart grow fonder and that's really true it does it's in my experience and maybe in yours as well if you want to know how much you really love someone just take some time to yourself take some time away from them that will tell you everything that you need to know and you experience that heartache that is real love but as I've said before again this is more psychological theory than actual factual information but from my experience and research I do believe that only the one to two percent of the world's population which are empaths can actually experience real love that's just what I believe doesn't mean that it's true doesn't mean that we've got to shun everyone else because they can never love us that's not what I'm saying I'm just saying this from more of an intellectual point of view and anyway either way does it really matter if those other people can't love us we still have our own experience and we can show love and compassion to them from afar we shouldn't try to change alter or control another person's experience the most important experience is our own because of course if we're having a negative experience in life that's going to impact how we treat other people so even if you do love your family your children your partner whoever it is even then the most important experience in your world in your life still has to be your own you can't ever priority prioritize another person's experience above your own narcissist or not if you really love and care for that person your experience must come first and by knowing that now I'm getting philosophical but yes the real world is actually it exists in our minds the external reality even as you're watching me right now I know we're getting really deep and really philosophical even what you're seeing right now this is not even real this is just an external image it's a representation of something that's feeding back to you're in a world that you're in a world it can be whatever you want it to be 87 live viewers right now you can all receive a completely different interpretation of it because the only thing that is actually real is your internal world what is in your minds everything else is not real but then to go even deeper into it and to see it from the other side thinking this way for a prolonged period of time although yes this is in my opinion completely true but actually there is a lot of theory behind it as well but yes even with this concept in mind it can cause us to have less compassion for other people if we assume that everything is fake the only thing that is real is what's in our minds so yes we do have to delve into the simulation and that is what I'm doing right now and I'm doing it because it allows me to develop more compassion and love for other people so how could that be a bad thing that must mean that it is good is it not so that's really my perception of it anyway and it is kind of based on psychoanalytical theory and even quite philosophical as well it's based on a lot of reports and articles that I've read maybe outside of narcissism I've actually been studying psychology for a very long time I was actually very interested in psychology even as a child I remember I felt drawn to certain books and this is going back up to 25 years ago and even when I was about 13 or 14 years old I had my own website I had hundreds of members and I would actually create my own report based on psychological theory about human behavior and this is going back over 20 years so this is how I have such an analytical mind and how I'm able to delve so deep into the psychology but the deeper you go especially as you enter the vibration of love the irony is that whoever you are even if you have a lifetime of experience and research once you go into that vibration of love it's like none of it even really matters and whatever another person is thinking we're doing all that really matters is your inner world because your inner world creates your external world your beliefs create your reality it's really amazing to see we've got 88 live viewers in here who are listening to such a deep discussion like this when this all started from the title about how the narcissist is thinking about you right now but even now if you think about it it is still very much on topic because really it's like does it really matter if the narcissist is thinking about you does it matter if anyone is thinking about you the real question is are you thinking about them and are their thoughts about you important to you I'm just asking a question you're free to interpret that in any way that you like and coming from this philosophical philosophical perspective who am I to say that you're right or wrong whatever your belief whatever your interpretation you could be 100 correct and then I guess the next question is so what do we do about it what do we do now how do we stop it if it is becoming a problem but yeah I think we should bring it back in to the title and the truth is that yes in many situations the narcissist will be thinking about you right now because they view us as extensions of themselves but just these objects that exist to serve them and meet their needs so of course they want to know what we're doing where we are who are with they've got to have control over this thing that they view as their possession they can't detach because if you're holding on to something you view as your possession and then for you to do that and detach from it immediately you're going back back into your own realm your own sense of self but a narcissist cannot do that this is why they cannot be alone they're addicted to people they've got to have their sources of supply play a narcissist they've got to have their harem while keeping them unaware of their many other sources of supply as well which is that is the worst part for me I don't understand how anyone can do that I mean even in my personal past when I had maybe 20 30 girls at the same time I wasn't too much into relationships every single one of those girls were aware of it I believe I'm not maybe because they were rather young some of them in their teens some of them in their early 20s maybe that's why they were actually quite turned on by it but yes those were my younger days of course I'm much more mature now more family focused but narcissists they really just can't be alone they are addicted to people and that is why they need multiple sources of supply because they have no sense of self that is the problem because they're constantly around other people how could they ever have a sense of self that comes from being alone and in my own life my own experience I felt like it never really had a strong sense of self because I was always surrounded by narcissists it's only when I isolated myself for several years that is when I developed such a strong identity in knowing who I am what I value and what I stand for and what I want for the world and other people that always comes from being alone but these narcissists they're always thinking about supply whether it's the supply they've got right now or the toy that they left on the shelf meaning you they're constantly thinking about it it's always on their mind and they just can't get enough of it they are insatiable so yes they are always thinking about you they're always wanting to know what you're doing where you're at who you're with and they may be stalking you on social media as well it could be from a fake account just know that they are out there they're always lurking somewhere they derive their identity and self sense of self from you or other people as well and because of that yes that does mean that they could come back at any moment right now they may be idealizing and love bombing their new supply as we know that is temporary it doesn't last for long as soon as they move to the devaluation and they treat the new source as negative supply as soon as they do that they've got to idealize a new source a new source again or re-idealize you as their old source of supply so yes there is always a chance that they could come back especially if you've picked yourself back up you're looking good maybe you've got a new hairstyle going to the gym you're working out maybe you're doing those squats getting a manicure you're looking right of course these types of things may attract the narcissist and it may get their attention again to where they may want to come back but even then remember it's all superficial you're just an object they're not really thinking about you as a person it's more just this representation of an image of fantasy that appeals to their feelings about themselves because all they really care about is how they feel about themselves as i've said before narcissists exist in a world with a population of one it doesn't matter how many people they're surrounded by how many flying monkeys or enablers they're on their own they always are right now my wrist the stance hurts it's just clicked it don't know if you can hear that this water is getting warmer by the minute you've got more in the car but yeah if you're good refreshed refreshed must fell down that the juvenated sitting on this beach have to be a bit more careful here otherwise this video is about to turn into a comedy yes i'm going to use my other hand now wrist is beginning to hurt holding this phone for over an hour it's 3 30 p.m here in taiwan i'm in the south right now on this beautiful beach as you can see i'm still living my best life every day i still manage to smile laugh and be happy every day and i think the main reason why is because i know that i am of value and of service to many people around the world just carrying this energy of course not even approves of it and at times that does make me sad makes me want to shut myself down and run away it really does at times but then i remind myself i've got you guys you want this you want me you want this energy you want these videos and aside from gods of course and the buddha you are the source of my motivation everyone who watches my videos everyone will comment when i wake up every morning i feel motivated to check out the channel and to travel and do these live videos because i know that i am making a difference in your life so yeah even if the narcissist is not thinking about you for whatever reason i'm thinking about you every day and i'm hoping that you're okay i'm hoping that the things are getting better for you i'm hoping that you're happy about your living your best life that's is what i'm thinking about for you and i hope you're thinking the same for me too and together we will grow this community will grow and it will continue to help even more people around the world i do believe that even after five years this is only the beginning there is so much more to come 170 000 subscribers i'm sure there are many more anyway i'm going to continue my journey today i just like to thank you all for joining me on this live video 88 minutes we 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