 Dating in 2023 is like being an NBA player allow us to explain and hopefully this video can possibly help you Yeah, I mean online dating vice is trending really hard in 2023 and or just take a look at some of these posts from reddit How to balance simping versus maintaining attraction in a relationship this guy's talking about is he texting too much? Is he texting too little this other guy said I'm depressed after trying everything to looks max being an Asian male is a huge Handicap even or even after trying everything to improve my physical appearance. Yeah, so We want to point out the huge flaw in Asking the internet for dating advice and why it is very similar to asking for basketball skill advice on the internet Yeah, that's like basically saying hey guys, you don't know anything about me But should I incorporate more crossovers into my game? I don't know maybe but maybe not so anyways guys We're gonna break down this analogy hang with us. Hopefully you find it useful Please hit that like button and check out other episodes of the hot pop boys But one thing that doesn't need much explanation is smaller sauce check it out on our Instagram at smaller sauce There's a lot of great content a lot of great foodies and chefs have tried it. They love it You can still order it now. Why do you think so many people go to reddit for dating advice? Is it because they might not have anybody knowledgeable in their circle? Yeah, who's willing to analyze their situation and give them a man-to-man talk, right? Sometimes it is hard to find someone that you can ask personal questions about I think you do have to be very vulnerable when you're asking dating advice Sometimes you're sharing your flaws sometimes you're sharing your inner fears and it's a lot easier to type it out on the internet for Anonymous people to rate and give you advice on then it is to me ask you personally and sit you down and be like Hey, David, I really need some dating advice and this is gonna be very scary I'm gonna be very vulnerable right now But we will I'm gonna tell you why it's not that effective Because you know what I mean like oftentimes what people leave out a lot of baseline information because the internet doesn't know who you are That's the biggest part guys the internet does not know what you look like how tall are you how good-looking are you? What's your physique like they don't know where you live? They don't know the environment the city demographics. They don't know if you have money or a good job Do you have any money any means income at all? What's your living situation? Because that impacts what yeah a lot of flexibility. Are you weird awkward or mentally unstable? Are you neurodivergent the internet doesn't know you right? Are you a creep? We don't know you so it's hard to like like if you give off weird vibes Yeah, you give off weird vibes That's gonna hurt you no matter what you look like and then what are your dating goals and expectations because that also changes Are you looking for a long-term girlfriend? Do you just want to date around and have fun? Do you want to date? Asian ABG's or do you want to date non Asian women? You know what I mean? Like who knows yeah? I mean I compare dating a lot to basketball and specifically like trying to be in the NBA but just basketball in general because if you ask for generalized basketball advice Andrew without a lot of in-game footage of Somebody playing five on five as well as seeing individual workouts So you could kind of see like everybody's tendencies and nuances How can you realistically give anybody any basketball advice? One of the worst places to ask for basketball advice on your game. That's like saying Hey guys, I need help with my shooting form and then everybody's like okay Well, what do you shoot like can you send us a video and then you're like, okay? Here's a video of me shooting and then they're like, okay Well, I would adjust this about your elbow You need to use your legs more load them up and then you're like hey based off this video Can you tell me how to be a better point guard and then everybody's like what are you talking about? Different questions Competition you're playing against if you're playing one-on-one three on three five on five was set plays and all these schemes Yeah, anyways guys, so David Let's delve more into this analogy because a lot of Asian guys out there do like basketball or just men in general because men in General want a lot of dating advice. It's not so this is a very generalized Basketball to dating advice analogy. So if you understand basketball, this is gonna make a lot of sense to you There's three components to a basketball player and there's three components that sort of like determined sort of I guess You're immediate stats when it comes to dating, right? You are your appeal and attraction. Yeah, your immediate appeal, right? It's a in basketball. It's high in athleticism is number one, right? And then number two is your general skill sets pass shoot dribble and number three is your schematic IQ And how much can you understand like the rotations and the coverages that are happening in real time? Constantly shifting on the court the mental stuff the intangibles So for example, if we were to carry that over to dating Andrew I would say that the height and athleticism would almost be like possibly your race and your height These things are kind of out of your control just like height and athleticism in the NBA You could work on it, but it's kind of out of your control, right? Some of it is genetic number two Andrew would be like your skill set shoot pass dribble, right? That could be just like generally how good looking did you build yourself? Whether you're you're taking care of your body fat percentage or your clothing or your haircuts and things like that, right? And last but not least I would say is a schematic IQ which in the dating world would be like game That would be what that one guy was referring to on Reddit where he's like, you know, am I texting too many times? She texts me three times Do I need to text her two times to build the desire for my texts or to keep myself in a small Availability right that's like IQ read. No, that's like saying hey guys my basketball IQ is really high Can I make it to the NBA and then someone's like well? What's your other statistics, right? You shoot pass dribble how tall are you? What's your durability like? Have you strengthened your joints? There's a lot that goes are you an injury prone? So so here's the thing One thing that I notice a lot of people look at Andrew is they look at their tall good-looking friend That might be like white or hopper or something like that, right? And they're like man, they like they're not they're not funny, but they like always have a cute girlfriend Okay, they you have to understand there are certain guys in your friend group They are just naturally genetically very tall good-looking. Maybe they're hopper they're half white So they have a lot of appeal to a lot of different women Andrew these guys He doesn't have to have a lot of game or skills to still be in the NBA Like your friend might be like a Javail McGee a DeAndre Jordan Jackson Hayes Shaden Sharp Jericho Sims These guys are in the NBA For the most part I'm not saying they can't play at all because they had to beat out some other guys But like these guys are mostly in the NBA because they're seven foot and can jump out of the gym, right? And they will would you agree with me Andrew these guys? They might not ever be all-stars, but they will always have a job in the NBA or they will always have a job Playing basketball even if they fall out of the NBA some overseas team will pick them up So they will be able to get opportunities It does not mean they're all-stars and it doesn't mean that it's easy to become an all-star, but they will have Opportunities right but the skills are not there to ever become an all-star right unlike this next group of guys Andrew These guys they give you 40 50 points a game. They're always in the talk of like first-team all NBA Andrew We're talking about guys like Paolo Ben caro Zion Yanis Kawai LeBron These guys have incredible body and height, but they're also incredibly skilled and I would say at least above average IQ Obviously if you when you're talking about a LeBron or somebody his IQ was like 10 out of 10 Right, I mean these guys are generally to be all-stars right shy Jiltress Alexander like these guys are long Can shoot can dribble can play defense. They almost have every advantage and they're good at everything But here's the here's the truth Andrew most guys we are especially let's just say this let's be real Andrew bulk distribution of Asian guys We're going to be short and not that athletic But possibly keep our job in the NBA and potentially even have a good NBA career I mean it's gonna be hard to have a dominant NBA career at all But to be honest we can still be in the NBA if we're highly skilled We're talking about Chris Pauley six foot tall Peyton Pritchard six foot tall Fred van fleet these guys when you Immediately look at them. You're like there's no why no way this guy should be getting 30 40 50 in a game Right, but they figured it out because there's such beasts at everything else, right even though their initial Height and athleticism a.k.a. They're raw looks. It's not there Yeah, I mean Earl Boykins was in the NBA. He was 5 5 Nate Robinson supremely athletic He was 5 8. Yeah, like I feel like I would be like TJ McConnell, you know, I'm not having a dominant career at all But like I'm using my IQ man. I'm get I'm in there. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. I mean for sure And I think however you slice up those attributes Basically, if you look at dating that way Then you kind of know what you need to work on right and it's never to say you don't have a chance because there's six Footers in the league. There's five eight guys some. Yeah, they're usually pretty quick, but they don't have to jump out of the gym There's some six foot pain Pritchard's like a six one white guy six one white guy. He's not that athletic and he's a good player though Yes, and Fred van fleet was all-star. He won a championship on the Toronto Raptor. That's contract JJ Borreya married miss Just some hot beautiful woman whatever and then he's only five nine. He's a champion So I'm saying Jose Alvarado There are still short guys in the league, but yes for them to have a long success over Multiple years. They have to be highly skilled and understand the game And this is where understanding dating and understanding yourself and understanding your goals Understanding what you have to offer women and offer the other person comes into play. Yeah, for example this next post And or where the guy was like man, I'm so depressed after trying to look smacks. I'm still not getting any women This guy was like about 511. Here's a photo of him But uh, this guy I would compare him in the NBA to like a Stanley Johnson where it's like yeah on paper Stanley Johnson was like man. He can match up with LeBron. He looks like LeBron when he stands next to LeBron But all the other skill sets and possibly some neuro typical, you know, no neuro divergent You know sort of like possibly not all there mentally there There's guys with above-average bodies that are not in the NBA and can't stick in the league Yeah, like Stanley Johnson. Yeah, because he's just not good enough at all the other aspects You need to be good at to be an NBA. Here's another layer to the analogy David Why date being good at dating is like being an NBA player because it also depends On where you're at which team you're on not all teams and organizations are the same the warriors an amazing Organization, but they're very picky about the players that they bring onto their teams Same with the spurs right same with the spurs particular system not all players will thrive on every team There are players who would still be in the league if they didn't spend Several years on a team that did not help develop them. That was the wrong city for them Maybe that city was too distracting. They should have been in a small market city So they could develop their skills situation matters a lot and this is where i'm saying when it comes to dating advice We don't know where you live. We don't know what city you're in We don't know your means or your ability to travel or move or what your job is Do you have means to spend money on things buy clothes get haircuts take dates out? We don't know but lucky enough. Andrew. We're not NBA players where we have to be traded to a more favorable city You can just up and move right It's kind of like being an NBA player, but you actually you're like a free agent sort of right right So you can sign on to any team you want now There's different teams that will give you that will care about you more than others But let's say you could sign on to any team in the NBA You get to choose your organization and I wish that dating was a little bit more like being an NBA player in this aspect Where you know like NBA players they almost always have agents and those agents are always on the phones with scouts And different coaches getting different opinions being like, oh, okay I think this guy could be good in the dunker position. He can rim run It's funny. But the thing is obviously guys You don't really have most a lot of guys, especially Asian guys, especially Chinese guys They don't have anybody in their corner acting like they're agent They can give them Uh, they're they're essentially proposed market value estimated market value where they think they could fit Where are they going to be a role player here? What's their usage rate? What's their contract length? Do we need a team option or player option? Those all are real details You can like transfer them over to dating like. Oh my goodness. Am I chasing like? I'm not an ABB, but I love ABG women. That would be like me Loving wanting to be a scorer, but the team that I just signed to wants me to be like a udonis haslam role player So there would be like there's a fundamental mismatch and I see like so many people Essentially, especially like Asian guys that are asking for advice on the internet. I just See that they everything's not aligned Like with this analogy. Yeah. Yeah, okay. So the analogy may not be perfect But essentially you're an NBA player That's a free agent that can sign to any team, but you also don't have an agent that's negotiating deals You have to negotiate yourself. Yeah, and he's not he's not like finding out what your worth is on the market You know who's famous for not having an agent. I think John Stockton didn't have an agent He didn't have an official agent this whole time. Well, that's he's just stuck with the Utah Jazz See he made his decision easily That would be like an azn guy who's good with azn girls And just staying in the azn zone his whole life like John Stockton stayed on the jazz and he has the most assists in history And he never had to do any thinking about player movement. He's like I'm saying he got you know, obviously he was lucky enough to get drafted Into a locality Also Utah Very white city. John Stockton white. He very vibe with it too. Yes. What can we learn from John Stockton guys? Listen guys, I'm just saying this man everybody that's asking online like You know what? I mean like all these questions. You got to understand where you fit in this mb analogy first. Hey, David How do I get more attention from girls? send What We cannot help you. We literally cannot so hopefully this video if you watched it it helped you Understand why people can't help you and what you need to think about so next time you make a post on reddit Or you ask your friend or you make a post on whatever forum or whatever it doesn't even even if it's not reddit if it's on discord Give the people some more detail, please We don't know who you are give us some game footage Let us see your highlights and that's why Guys, this all leads back to the purpose of this video is to sign up for our personalized dating coach I'm just kidding. We don't have that. No, we don't have a subscription to any sort of dating coach But that's why there are personalized dating coaches out there That's why people have programs that you know, I think the intention is good I'm not saying I'm not vouching for those programs that they're legit But I'm just saying at least there's somebody who's Thinking specifically about your situation. Listen, if you're born in a Peyton Pritchard's body Please do not look at how much work Jericho Sims Or Javale McGee has to put into their career to stay in the mba and be like, hey, how come they you know They get away with this You in a different situation, man. Well, I'm Peyton Pritchard and I want to play like Joelle Embiid Learn to play like Peyton Peyton Pritchard. All right. But anyways guys, hopefully that analogy was helpful It's obviously something that you know, we're on those forums a lot. I'm curious about what's going on We've made plenty of videos. We're just here to help Hopefully you found that analogy helpful if you know nothing about the mba Hopefully you hopefully you learned a little bit about it. So now you can think about it in that way So dating is like the mba. Yep. Let us know what you guys think of our analogy in the comment section below Let us know if you agree with us on the reasons why we think asking for dating advice online is oftentimes very perilous Kind of useless because the details are too vague. Let us know what you think in the comment section below Keep the debate alive until next time. We'd hop out boys. We out. Peace