 Oh, it gets to the whole idea that we were trying to have private minds and even the whole thing of part of the mother concept is that there's a responsibility for the children. And somehow it can seem even stronger when you're younger, where it seems like, yes, I'm responsible for my five-year-old's behavior. Well, yes, I'm kind of responsible for my 14-year-old's behavior, or 18-years-old, and then it seems like it crosses over, but there still could be a remnant of, I'm still responsible for this other human being's behavior. And decision, too, it gets into a well-being. And knowing that she's having a hard time getting her money to stretch far enough, too, so you're concerned about her financial. Yeah, I mean, probably the bottom line comes down to, I think, well, she's moving in with me, and so therefore it will probably end up being my problem. Well, there's certainly one aspect to fear of projected out into the future in some place. Nothing that's happening right now that I'm afraid of is, like, the fear of the future. Yes, thinking, well, it could be, you know, it's just like borrowing trouble, saying, well, you know, if this happens, well then this could happen, too. Well, again, it gets back to that thing we were talking about earlier on about the mind-things and others. I mean, even thinking you know what somebody else's decision-making process is, or thinking you know what someone else's motivations are for doing things, it also gets back into a little bit of a specialist in the sense that it doesn't, you know, command down the street by the GO and chooses to do this or that with it, or you see on TV a troubleshooter report on somebody with the GO like, oh well, that's not my daughter that we're talking about here. And that is a self-concept issue. And once again, you come to the point that everybody who believes they're here in this world has a deceived mind. Everyone who seems to have come to this world has forgotten their true identity. And it seems like as you go along and you learn the ways of the world that you become a competent mature adult that can figure things out pretty well. As a matter of fact, thank you very much. It's kind of a feeling like that. And when you really start to move along with spiritual paths, you start to see how that, more and more, is not the case. That the mind thinks it knows, even in some cases, what would be best. One of the lessons in the workbook, I think it's lesson 24, is, I do not perceive my own best interest. So if I can't perceive my own best interest, how can I perceive my brother? Anybody else can talk nicely to my brother. It's very humble. It's a real state of humility when you come. Now, of course, from a place of defenselessness and a place of peace, you may be guided to make suggestions. And a lot of times parents are guided to the children with employers, employees, neighbors. You know, if you're guided to make a suggestion, that's one thing. It's the spring. It's when it seemed more as advice that I would very strongly urge you to take into strong consideration here. Like that, you can see where here come those hooks and strings. But there's obviously expectations, but... And that my happiness depends on you accepting the advice that I'm giving you. And if your daughter seems to be even coming over here and possibly even moving in, this is going to be a great teaching learning opportunity to let go of all those strings. And it's still, it's not like we're saying, oh, become a good doormat, you know, where she becomes totally passive. Or cut her off. Or you cut her off, or any of those things. But it really is coming to clarity of mind and coming to more and more just bring up the question of what is this for? What value do you see? I mean, if you can point people in the direction of even beginning to ask some of those questions, that can be really helpful. It's like sorting out of priorities that we all have to go through. Do we value the material thing of the world more? Or do we value the attitude of love and acceptance? Well, it seems like there are certain cases specifically a lot of times with family or significant other relationships where there seems to be a lot of investment in what the partner or what the other person is thinking, what they're saying, what they're doing. But it seems like if money means nothing, then why do people even become concerned? I guess it's an ego thing. The more you think that's an important issue because when I think about it that way, I think what difference does it make whether she brings the car or doesn't bring the car? If money is nothing. Let's look at money for a minute because I know that as we go along that will be one of the things that for most people that's on their mind in some way shape or form that comes up, financial. And the course is teaching again that everything in this world is just symbolic. It stands for something and that the deceived mind has given meaning to everything that it perceives. Some people see a mountain view or a sunset and they just want to stay there. And they say, this is breathtaking. It takes my breath away. And someone else could say, hey mom, I want to go down and ride my motorcycle. Can we leave? No, it's not taking my breath away. I'm not perceiving the same thing you are. And so everybody seems to have a different perception. And that's based on the value or the meaning that it's giving it. Some people with money, it seems to be a real, real big issue. And for other people it seems to be less of an issue, so it's all those gradations. But if everything's symbolic and the mind has given meaning to it, the reason that money seems to even have more of a charge on it than a lot of other things and it seems to be so important is that it's a symbol that's interchangeable for a lot of the other symbols. If we talked about the Holy Spirit or love, it's like the universal language of the mind. We could say the universal language, so to speak, of the world is money because it's so exchangeable for the other symbols, for the food symbols, for the clothing, the shelter symbols, for the activities and all the different distractions and things that seem to go on that seem to help alleviate a lot of the problems. That's why we were talking earlier how money seems to... If you seem to have lack and scarcity and deprivation, money seems to have a way of answering lack, deprivation and scarcity. And of course, if it's a belief in the mind and you use money to make it go away, then of course the belief's still there. If you feel the belief gets questioned and you still perceive yourself as a person with needs, then you still have to keep using the magic of the money to kind of keep solving it. So again, it's very helpful to think of it, wow, if I keep going into this and examining my beliefs and lack, my beliefs and scarcity, if your dollar would move in with you and there would be this thing about extra $800 or this or that, if you really trace it down, you can start to think, well, I may need that $800, or you could start naming some things, you can see that it relates again to, if you trace it down again to the body, that bodies are the things in this world that seem to have needs and they seem to maintain them in a sense of a basic way, seems to require money or resources and then beyond the basics. You know, there's like, well, I just don't want to survive. I want to enjoy and it seems like there's that whole layer on top of that, but they all can get traced back to the body. What the Course is saying is that the lacks and the scarcity and the needs are really in the mind. It's projected to the body. And Jesus is such a good model again. He would say, you know, I am the bread of life, kind of a good symbol that, you know, you know, eat of my teachings and you'll come through an everlasting peace and happiness where you don't have to drink again. So it's just starting by situation, the Holy Spirit. Those are two different outcomes. So in this case, is it really Brenda that I should be looking at rather than the car and seeing what my feelings are about her? You know, do you project your feelings? Like, am I projecting feelings about her onto the car and making it seem like the car is the issue when really it's our relationship that could be the issue? You could just talk about that screen though. Yeah, but either one would be on the screen. It would be, again, looking at the meaning, just the meaning you're describing to these situations. Because it can seem that way in relationships. A lot of times, like, it's never about the little things that seem to be happening but it's about something much deeper. You know, when you mention that, Brenda, you know, like I could very easily see and trace it all back because that's your thing with the car. And it's probably the same way with me and my son in this bathroom thing. Very simple. But I think it's when we... See, because our ego selves, that self gets threatened in some sort of way. I guess in your case maybe she's not listening to your good advice. And in my case, he's not learning the good lessons that this father is teaching him. So he's sort of denying this self, you know? And as long as I got this self to deny, I'll suffer, I'll have pain. And, you know, so, you know, that's what I have to get rid of, that self that can be hurt, that can suffer. And again, move towards who I really am and that spiritual being or that mind where none of that exists. But it's so hard when you've invested so much in this self. You know, I spent all my life developing this person called Ron Clark, you know? And you just don't want to give it up. And I think that's the struggle and that's the pain for me with my son is he's saying that you don't amount too much because I'm going to do what I want to. And it's like, oh, you know. And that's probably the same thing. Yeah, I mean, boy, I sure did teach her better than that. Yeah, you know. So we get rid of that self that get hurt. And the ego will always put that self up there with that to happen because, again, he wants you on that treadmill, so to speak. Clarity, how old is your son? 20. That doesn't clean the bathroom? Okay, just give me a point of rest. Yeah, maybe not too. Maybe not really. And then it makes a difference, though. Yeah, I really do. And it may seem like it would make a difference, but what we're really getting at is if the son falls. It was four. It's an age-appropriate request. It seems like an age-appropriate request, but once again, that is expectations that are tied in. And what we're talking about is coming to a clarity where you don't, you can come to such a clarity and such a sense of being totally relying on the Holy Spirit that you don't make all these demands unless they change or unless they live up to these standards, because the world has taught us that there are certain things where anger is justified. Because, of course, the teachings of Jesus are that anger is never justified. But we're not talking anger here, are we? It's irritation. When we talk about anger or fear, where, again, Jesus makes the thing he says, there are no small upsets. Any upset, even annoying, even a minor irritation is taking me away from peace. Even mildly annoyed about it, then that's worth taking a look at. I'm worth looking at. Well, at this stage, you can imagine, this could take the rest of my life just looking at every little annoyance that seems like that. But again, God Almighty is though, even though there are every little one on the surface and out there on the screen, there's only one. They all start. Yeah, they get betrayed when you come back. We're looking at various fractures, but they're all pointing back.