 Good day everybody and welcome back to another aughty time live stream. How are you all doing today? I've been a bit rubbish again With not going live our usual regular scheduled time, which is a Friday I've been really rubbish with that at the moment. So I apologize for perhaps being a little bit inconsistent with my content production at the moment I've been going through quite a Bad sort of depressive period this this week probably like Three or four days this week Just there's just a lot of kind of changes going on in my life at the moment and it's Being very very difficult for me to manage a lot of things and because I'm just coming out of My very very long burnout. I'm wanting to be a little bit more cautious with it than usual So hopefully we're all good. I got a leaving present from my workplace Which is I think a four liter bottle of water Which I mean if you were to say to like Sort of you one of your friends saying oh what what did what did your work get you as a leaving present and say like a Massive bottle of water. Most people are like, oh, that's that's that's mad Like shouldn't they get you something a little bit more interesting. This is actually one of the best presents I've ever got Because I am really really awful with keeping on track of my hydration and if I can have like a bottle which just Like Handles all of the water that I need for the day. It's it's kind of kind of golden So I'm feeling feeling quite happy about my water bottle. So There's been been some of the good things And um indeed is Zaya hello, it's been a while Much appreciated. Hello Austin. Hello OCD brain. How you doing nice to see you Hello, mr. Jordan, how you doing man? Don't worry about it. See I'll cast it's it's one of the ups and downs of living with mental health conditions It's nothing nothing really New I suppose um In my life, it doesn't mean that it's necessarily the easiest when it when it comes around and I have these dips, but I'm at least used to it some degree like I know what to do when how to sort of Keep keep myself well get myself back on track. So I'm assuming the next week want now that I've had a bit of a break We can get back to business. I've got some really interesting Long-form videos that I'm wanting to put out um at some point Some of them addressing some really important issues actually that I've seen particularly online And also some some sort of expansions on some of the posts that I put out are both on youtube and instagram so There's a lot of cool stuff around the corner going to get try and get to recording some more videos next week and um I'm really enjoying doing these videos and I feel like it's a lot more manageable for me in the long term because I'm not the best with organization and communications so limiting like the amount of um Like contacts and like organization that's required for me to to to put out a video is important Um for me long term so that I don't get burnt down. I don't miss dates and things like that Um, I will be continuing the podcast so do not worry about that Um, because it is quite an integral thing for me, but it's gonna the podcast is gonna be something that's kind of like an as-and-when basis kind of thing if if there's a guess that that I really want to have on and we've been chatting and We get it organized and I can I can put it out then it will um, but I'm not gonna try and sort of Put them out weekly as as a once did I feel like that that's a little bit too um far out of my sort of energy Preserves if that makes sense Same mate. It's been a hard week for me too. We'll pull through. I'm sorry to hear that brickman But we will we shall Planet marsh says change can be hard especially for neurodivergence. I feel you 100 And hello, mr. Joshua G welcome back. You'll be very happy about my four liter bottle of water. I I expect What part of the uk are you in I'm in uh, north yorkshire. So the north of the uk so my my voice kind of Once sounded perhaps a little bit more yorkshire, but I think being online and like Wanting to let annunciate a lot more. It kind of I'm kind of a weird mix of northern and southern accents. I guess in some ways But it's it's completely artificial Not artificial in the way that I'm putting on but artificial has in like it's it's just something that my brain might my I've learnt to do over time trying to communicate better No, no offense to any Yorkshire's out there. I love the accent Sometimes a little bit. It's a little bit too hard to hear depending on like the the intensity of said accent Yeah, I'd like that too. I love a good water bottle, especially the big ones OCD says hi, you're a dream, bro Jim bros where you at? I am a gym, bro. Um although Perhaps from an out I wouldn't classify myself. I wouldn't cause us. Hello. Tom. I'm hello. My name's Tom. I'm a gym, bro but Jim is very important to me I think the thing that I like the most about the gym is that it's it's kind of like the the ultimate, um Sort of process. It was a delayed gratification it's pretty much like a a whole degree in Practicing delayed gratification, which if you don't know immediate gratification is kind of like Those things that you can reach to that like sugary snack something That you eat it and you just instantly feel good or the delayed gratification is this thing where you put off feeling good for A certain amount of time where it's like the work or gym or things like that and over time you get the rewards from from doing those behaviors and the great thing about the gym is that it's it's very much that it's like You put in like a ton of work you you try and to your best of your ability to end morph your diet into something that's good for sort of long-term progress Not the best best edit if I'm being honest, but I do try um And so and and over time like it as long as you really Put put the hard work in obviously like keeping yourself safe and learning technique and and stuff is also going to help But if you put hard work in over a long period of time And you you eat right and you do it right You you will like make progress and that I think that's one of the The great things about it for me. It kind of teaches you um always taught me You know if I put the hard work in over time, it's gonna It's gonna it's gonna sort of realize at some point and something something's gonna change. It's it's gonna be a good thing for me long-term Uh So that's that's that's what that's why I like the gym so much um, it's also like a really good source of stimming and Just general like mental health I find Uh, not here lol I think austin I think you are a prime candidate for a gym, bro In the in the best meaning in the best way possible If you haven't checked out austin page austin's page everybody like I highly recommend it Do you want to do you want to drop us the app because this man's got serious strength? It's very admirable I hope you're all staying staying hydrated with some water. We are indeed four leaves of water very very glad to see I am I am Happy I am very happy Uh, with my with my big bottle of water Um, I keep looking at it and just thinking like wow, I I filled this up for like an entire day at the end of the day and Man, I'm still drinking it. So It's kind of it's kind of running out at the moment I think the straws like I have to keep it kind of level in order to drink properly out of the straw And it's it's at least like it's at least like four kilos when I'm holding it so I can do some like This is like dumbbells Curls of it. Why you love my voice while I'm glad to hear that I've got a lot of mixed reactions about my voice. Um, some people find it to be monotonous and boring some people find it to be uh, soothing um, hence why people keep asking me to make ASMR videos, but Maybe if I come across somebody who really wants to like actually Make and produce and like organize ASMR videos. I'm very happy to to be a part of that. I just don't know if I can Like spare any of more of my mental energy To to make some more stuff like that I would love to though. It's definitely like something that That'd be really cool Neoja virgin here with a shoe gaze band do metal band industrial techno Producer hit me up if you want to talk about obsessions and interests. That's cool. Um, send me an email Uh, hi Hi at tomasenley.co.uk Delayed gratification is better. I agree. Yeah, I guess so. Um I think it's good to have a healthy mix, you know, because it's The thing is with delayed gratification, especially in very complex realms like work or like being productive Things like that. There is always an element of Well, I mean even in the gym, like there's always elements of like your Genetics, there's always elements involved with other people Chance look whatever you want to call it Um, and so sometimes like a little bit of immediate gratification I I don't see anything wrong with that especially if it's something That is also good for you. The the interesting thing about me talking about To like gratification with the gym is that I I experience immediate gratification at the gym, you know as well Right, particularly just after I finished like a sat or just after I finished like a day at the gym a couple of hours So I guess it's kind of best of both worlds for me, but that's because I enjoy it It sounds like gratification has to do with dopamine Uh, it would go well with ADHD if you know what I mean Yeah, I guess so um Interesting thing about dopamine a lot of people have some misconceptions about what? um Dopamine does like people associate dopamine with like feeling pleasure Um, whereas pleasure is actually Uh, the production of endorphins in your body Dopamine is sort of like a motivation mechanism that you're having your brain So dopamine makes you want to do things basically so If you have a lot of uh, if you really really want to go to the gym Then obviously going to the gym is going to produce a lot of dopamine for you if you really want want to have some like chips chips fries if you're american from at donals um You know if if you really want to have those as soon as you Actually get it. You know the dopamine systems in your brain will like okay So we produce this dopamine and then we get this endorphin endorphin rush around this this particular action that we've done um It's quite it's quite a big uh miscommunication. I think I mean it's it's You can still use it. It's still applicable. I suppose it's not correct, but it's definitely still applicable um like in The context of like helping people understand like Uh, why we do think the things that we do Matias says um I don't think I will ever have a partner. I don't enjoy socializing so long well, you say that but like There are people out there who also feel the same way You know, you could find a a fellow um introvert Who is very happy just kind of um Doing their own thing and you're doing your own thing, you know, you don't always have to to shoot this kind of neurotypical expectation of of love or relationships rather You don't mind being signal single signal Um, sometimes I feel really lonely. Yeah, that that's that's one of the I suppose the the You know, there's benefits to both I would say You know, obviously the the ideal is that you are with somebody who um Meets enough of your needs and makes you happy and you don't feel lonely. That's great. Um, but sometimes being single is also like a good thing for sort of being Installing a bit more independence in yourself also like being able to Sort of manage those those feelings that you have as well as negative feelings um It's difficult, isn't it? It's like you want to say sometimes you want to have friends, but you're like Man, I've got to maintain this friendship over a long period of time in order to continue having this friend and Um, especially if you are like going for a burnout or you're not feeling very good Um, it can be very very difficult to maintain. Um, even if it's really sort of beneficial to you Going on a lot of rants here. Uh, you're very welcome as with all orty time live streams to ask questions um, you I could do that. I am just kind of rambling today. I'm quite surprised that like my verbal ability is Like okay today um, I don't Feel like I'm in the right headspace to go on lives, but apparently I am so I'll take it as a win Mindful healer says I was diagnosed with autism last year I believe this is what you're saying eat right and exercise practicing mindfulness helps me a lot too Yeah, you say you say that with the uh, the mind mindfulness stuff and I am actually going to be doing a series of reels um with My very good friend nika nadia who is starting up a charity called sacred spectrum This is all about autism and yoga. So We're going to do a few videos on the benefits of such practices um For autistic people. So that's going to be really cool. And um, nika is great if you haven't go go go check out a page It's very very very popular in like the belly dancing kind of yoga worlds um Definitely encourage you to go check her out Just also on it's also also on tiktok and youtube and things like that. So you'd be able to find her I agree exercise is a good source of staining helps with my mental health too. I am glad to hear that What do you think about lateral thinking to socialize? Hmm I think lateral thinking is is perhaps one of the the most interesting parts it's it's something that I've seen within myself, but also with with other people um And a lot of the really interesting conversations that I have tend to have some air of lateral thinking sort of like Making connections between one topic and another topic and or connecting pieces of information and Sort of pitching like an idea or a thought or you know, things like that So I think it's definitely a good thing The thing is is that you have to find somebody who is also interested in having like deep conversations, which is not always um You can't always find those people and also Not not everybody all the time is going to be interested in that. So it's it's a very kind of more niche Thing for like deep conversation, but I would say that lateral thinking is definitely like a good thing And even even yeah in socializing I'm an otterness and boring the voice too But Holder says hey there guess guess what next week. I'm moringa I have job interviews and I have a date lots happening to help me Believe maybe the world wants me I'm very glad to hear that. That is so nice to hear I'm really happy for you. It sounds like things are going well My 20-year-old son of Asper just prefers to indulge in material geared towards The disenfranchised. What do you mean? interesting like comment I prefer my own space Yeah, being with people feels weird invasive in some way I think that's that's uh, that's a fair thing like not not everybody even lives with their long-term partner, you know Um, I know quite a few people who have made it work like a very long term Um, they don't live quite close to each other, but they're not like in the same house, you know You got you got to think about You know, obviously when you are trying to do trying to arrange like Sort of an agreement between two humans and it's not the norm. It's always going to be harder to find that But you you can find people who who feel the same, you know It's not necessarily something that um particularly I want sort of like You know, I think I think I but the thing is I haven't really had the opportunity um in my life really to sort of Live with somebody And it well I did have one Occasion and it didn't particularly go well. I didn't particularly like it Uh, but that was less about the actual act of living with somebody. It's more about like the person, but um Do do do Hello eternally born you have caught this live Welcome You're a a romantic. That's a very interesting It's a very interesting sort of Um aspect of the a spectrum. It's not really something that I Um can relate to but if that's something that you feel is is quite integral to Sort of your your own sexuality then All the power to you How do you improve the great? How do you improve gray area thinking? What do you mean by that? Is binge eating since early childhood related to ADHD? I'm not too sure about that I know that particularly I've always had some difficulties with ED Something that I've I've had to deal with in life both sides. I would say both the weight loss aspects on the weight gainer sites um Yeah, I I'm not too sure about ADHD. I would hazard a very uninformed guess That it perhaps could be related to to ADHD maybe because of the Sort of the impulsivity. Maybe I don't know I wouldn't want to make too much of a Um an opinion on it because I'm not ADHD Hello, hey, welcome to the stream Concrete jungle says I find I feel more lonely when surrounded by people that don't understand me Would rather focus on my own work and hobbies and just socialize with a few people instead I think that's a great way to go about it. I mean that's that's how I go about it I Dislike small talks so much. I find it exhausting. Yeah, I don't find it exhausting. I just find it really really boring and uninteresting It's one of the reasons why I don't necessarily like Go up to people and start conversations with them Just like out and about in the public when there's no, you know, obviously like if I did something or something related and like met up with people and you know, there was kind of Sort of an air of like People are coming to talk about stuff that's not necessarily superficial then then I would probably be more likely to do so I hope you're staying hydrated. It's quite a bit. I have indeed I love how soothing it is to hear you talk. I'm very glad Are you reading comments off another platform? I have indeed Uh, I do We we go for these oddie timelines. We go on youtube and instagram I think as as my platform start to grow I might have to like start deviating between them because um initially when I first started doing these It was more of the case that I was Just trying to get enough questions for me to like continuously talk But um now it's I am very much like I feel Um, but it's it's very different day today. So I could say okay, all right I'm just gonna go on instagram and then I don't really have a lot to talk about because For some reason just people are not wanting to watch lives today um And over times there might be a lot of people so At the at the moment going live on two places is quite good for me Just keeps keeps me being able to talk about things. Have you read the umbrella gang? I have indeed My son hates being sick single. He fears In the end he will die alone I think that's that's a pretty um Common feeling for a lot of people um I'd say that it's probably intensified when when you're a different person and you struggle with those social aspects so um Yeah, I I can understand definitely um Yeah, it's it's it's one of the reasons why I do try to talk a little bit more about relationships because I feel like that is um One of the really key areas in like understanding sort of different brains and like empathizing with each other and um sort of understanding autism in the context of Not just on our own but also with other people. I think that's quite important thing And a lot of autistic people that they do want partners and they do want friends I Finds I feel more lonely when spreading. I have read that already. Sorry Calt says late arrivals. Sorry. Hi from Denmark. Hello Calt A says I think if I have lived with someone I would probably choose to have separate bedrooms because I need my own space I think that that's definitely another option that you could explore If you really just don't like constant kind of social interaction I don't see anything wrong with that How do you approach someone you want to date with autism when they have autism? um I'd say pretty similar except that I'm a lot more direct about it like I will just kind of I do I will just kind of lay my My feelings out a little bit more than I usually would if it was a neurotypical because it you know, it's a fine balance that you've got to strike sometimes But In general, yes, that is the way although I wouldn't say that that's necessarily like The best way to go about it. It's just I feel You know if the other person also likes direct communication and I do and we both possibly have a like Sophia I'm here. It's probably good to like voice like voice feelings and how you feel and things like that. So um That's that's the way that I would probably change my approach Hello, it's nice to see you I wasn't diagnosed until I had my son and he was diagnosed Diagnosis as an adult is a hugest experience that keeps going. My whole life makes sense now Well, I'm glad that things are starting to fall into place for you. I can imagine it's Very very difficult going most of your life kind of Not really understanding yourself. It's it's um It's very it's a Well, I'm glad that you're in a good place now. Yeah Last month was ADHD OCD awareness month interesting I tend not to think too much about like the days because um, I try You know, I think like seasonal content Like stuff where I like halloween fireworks Like it's obviously gonna be good if you can do something about it on that day but when it comes to something like mental health awareness or like um Autism awareness and and things like that. I already do that stuff Like well, I try to do as much of that stuff as I can just on the regular so Deviating sometimes depending on like what season or what events are going on at the moment Um, it's not not always the best thing for me. It kind of throws off my internal Routine a little bit Did you get my questions? I will check them out ks It says there's no questions left It says there's no questions G&E in a bubble says I just started Work out in the studio last week and went straight into an overload Do you experience that too in the beginning any tips 100%? um, and I'd say that throughout my sort of lifting I was going to say lifting career, but my lifting experience I have had um situations where I've Gone into the gym feeling already very over stimulated anxious wet whatever And um had a had a meltdown or had to shut down or a panic attack it's It's it's one of those things, you know And you can do a lot to mitigate it and a lot of these situations where I have um had difficulties is is So I've been a consequence of mental health combined with Not having my sensory supports available so like Perhaps I spent all day working. I'm very stressed I forgot to charge my earphones, you know, and then I go to the gym. I don't have my earphones And then it just happens to be very busy and you know There's going to be times like that at some point so During your kind of fitness journey Um, it's just important to be like, okay, right. This is happening now I'm not going to force myself like I'm going to try my hardest to to go And if it just doesn't feel right and they don't feel good We just literally I try and we just leave it for another day And not feel bad about that and just continue as sort of reset the day reset the week or whatever you want to do That is the approach I would take and I I completely Um, empathize with that that experience. It's it's not the best Especially if it's in an environment that you don't um You know Um, I am very behind on on the questions and comments, but I will try and get to them. It's like As fast as I can. Uh, I was just talking about that in a sense that like You know, perhaps maybe I do need to start um Sort of going going live on different platforms at different times That might be the best thing to do Uh, at some point I will try my very hardest to keep to keep sort of going through Comments and questions, but always I will try and make sure that I answer the ones That are earlier So if you are like commenting on stuff, and I'm not like replying to you It's just that I haven't I haven't got to it yet because I like to I like to listen to what people have to say first and not sort of like scroll past it as much as I can Laura says hi, I'm Anne Ranth. Uh, we talked about burnout last week I just wanted to say thank you again. Your advice is really helpful and I'm feeling much better Although I'm also recovering from covid Well, I am glad that um, it has been helpful to you and it's uh, nice to see you Kamala says do you have any tips for Relationships where both people have autism everything I see on youtube as soon as one partner is nearly typical Um, I will actually try and produce some content like that At some point I think that would be a really good topic for one of my future videos actually, so I'm gonna I'm gonna drop that down and when I go to Hopefully if everything goes smoothly goes to plan I will be able to record Um, another four videos next week and I'll be able to Add that because that is a good that is a good topic I will check that out Um, I think most people would say that the reason why there is less content geared in that fashion is because We tend to have a lot more in common with other autistic people and some of our traits and differences kind of mesh well together Whereas if you are dating someone of a different neuro type There's always the obviously going to have those miscommunications that are sort of embedded unless you know about them um, some difficulties in like meeting each other's needs and in a sense, uh I think that's that's that's why you tend to see a lot more of that kind of content But I will try and put a video out about that because that seems like something that we should talk about Thank you for that Uh, hi just hey, uh, just in are you talking to someone else? Mr. Gray Rogers says hi I did a podcast in for you once a lot of positives have happened to me Uh since then I wouldn't mind doing another one. That sounds good, man I'm listening, but I'm not autistic. I find it interesting to listen and learn your thoughts are interesting Your voice is beautiful. By the way, it's calming to me. I'm glad Um, and yeah, you you're very welcome in this in my I wouldn't I don't like say my community You're very welcome within my follower circle You know, um, it's it's an open It's an open forum. It's not like autism exclusive. You know, anyone who wants to learn about autism really CBS says, uh, I love watching lies. It makes me feel like I'm interacting with people in real time I suppose so I guess one of the difficulties with this situation is that I'm running like really far behind in mess in terms of messages. So, um That's a little bit more Little bit more than the videos, I guess I've been single for a few months now. It's been quite near quite weird, but quite nice at the same time if you know, I mean 100% Isabella and production says as I try to unmask I often experience myself thinking that I'm weird Yeah, I mean The the idea of unmasking is that you Become more more yourself and if your audacity you tend to be a bit different um I mean people have different reactions to the to the word weird I quite like the word weird because it assumes that you're not normal and I find normal to be an insult um Like it's like no one wants to be called average and normal like that's like they're like two of the I'd I'd prefer like people had polarizing opinions of me You know, um But I was just saying anyway, yeah, it's it's it's a common thing and You know, it's just something that you've got to advocate for yourself with Um when you're talking to other people, but also within yourself You've got to say like It's okay Like it doesn't matter There's there's you know So many humans in the world. Why not why not just be a bit different and just be okay with it? It's like I hope that was helpful. It doesn't just sound like I'm palming you off Being masking my entire life hello mind your autistic brain nice to see you Do do do Hope everyone is enjoying their guy forks night Indeedy is it bonfire night tonight? I thought it was yesterday because I heard a lot of bonfire fireworks going off Uh, Laura says so pace and rest is my way to go these days with very good results I won't get want to get back to work, but no rush 100 percent 100 percent You don't do bonfire night Uh, A says I always appreciate directness and clear intentions even if it's about rejection I appreciate when people don't play guessing games and say something Well, they mean something completely different. Well, I don't think there's it. There's there's a more sort of Like common feeling like Through through people I feel like that's that's a feeling that a lot of people get through through sort of the dating process Goughbosh says uh, tell me about it directness. I have a great appreciation appreciation for it 100 percent. It's hard Like because to be direct you've got to be honest at least like about how you feel or what you think so That's that's always going to be a difficult thing to do and so if you if you manage to put that across in a nice way And you can communicate it well and you're doing a good job It's a difficult thing Get a personal assistant Have you ever played mirror's edge? No, but I watched my dad play it quite a few times Um back in the day when I was a bit younger You have a good voice to be honest could do audiobooks. I would I would love to narrate audiobooks if there's like Anyone who's created a bug recently um About autism and they want one or mental health and they want someone to Uh voice over it put put me in contact. I'd love to do that. That'd be so cool Justin says absolutely agree with variability and anger Only 2.5 days in just needs to stay away from my family. Hello woodsheds. How are you doing? It's nice to see you Nice to see you how How could one give a gift? um about an interest without it come across as rude or judging And I feel like anybody who who has an interest in something if you buy something related to that interest they're gonna appreciate it Hey a lot is a lot has been happening with me, but how to accept myself for who I am That is that is the the golden ticket question It's also a very long question Um, I could talk about it for ages CBS says Yes, I embrace weird and normal feels like an insult indeedy That's just my feeling though I think like if people have been called weird sort of in a negative way sort of over time in their life Then perhaps people might have like a bad reaction to that word or feel like it's a bad thing, but You know, what is what is weird if it's just not a deviation from normal? it's like How to how to define not normal when one has trouble defining normal everyone just functioned differently Yeah, um I think in my mind's normal is Normal is the most the most average state of being for most people like if you took the aggregate of everybody and Lay them out and got an average of them. That's what normal would be Um in my eyes So anything that's not that's sort of out of pocket That's a sort of rare personality trait or rare like thing, um I suppose you could consider that but Again, like that. There's a lot of factors involved like involved in that not just The average person is a lot of like social cultural factors and stuff involved um CBS says I finds when I talk about this I'm stimming more. I just caught myself rocking kicking my leg up and fingers coming up at the same time. Nice Ethan Kent says how do I love myself now? Um, I know I'm autistic. How do I navigate the world now? I know um Again very very good question It's probably gonna have a very very long answer. There's a lot of aspects to that Um, I hope you understand um, I'd I'd say the the first step is um Knowing who you are first like really really understanding getting to grips with what you value what um How you want to be perceived by the world how How to how you can better represent who you are inside on on the outside um I'd say that those are those are probably good starting points and over time Advocating I guess for the your way of being I'm just being like hey, this is me and feeling okay with that Thanks, king. No worries Simple answer is fine the man A says I constantly get misunderstood as unapproachable because I'm considered attractive and many people believe Mysterious I that pretty women are always snobbish when I'm just shy um I feel like a lot of people would say That you are unapproachable because they're too scared like To to come up to you. I mean if if I was in your shoes I would just find someone that you like and go talk to them and You know if if you do like them you go on with them then go on a date with them if you don't then do uh Take a bit more of a forward sort of moving position on that see if anything changes I think you'll be surprised at like how many guys are Like happy to be approached by somebody in in a romantic sort of dating fashion I'd give it a go if I was in your shoes I Used to wear black nail polish and black lipstick difference is fun at times. That is pretty cool I don't think I'd wear black lipstick because that that I don't know. I just I feel like it's too much effort for me to maintain You know, but I've I've wrestled with the The thought of dyeing my hair black and like a particular color, but Um, I'm not too sure on it yet because I've got quite fair skin I don't know if it'd make make me look even more like a zombie, but then again, do I Do I really not want that? I feel like I would want Being being the very goffy person that I am to look a little bit more like that But again, it's not like the norm of what is considered to be a good look. So You know, I'm I'm still playing about with You know my style and things like that I think I'm definitely wanting to pivot a little bit towards the goffy side of things, but Um, not not so much that I have to maintain it a lot you know My what might wear some some like Some black eyeliner or something, you know That was pretty cool I really I really enjoyed it actually because I went went out on a halloween to a party It's kind of like a small kind of gathering. Um house party thing And I dressed up as a vampire and it had like Black eyeliner on and I was like man, like I'm liking this look Oh, dude I like I do like it I think I might try and I might get myself some eyeliner I'm just a little bit, you know Hello DJ mega aim productions. How are you doing? It says when I like someone I get extremely quiet and stressed because I don't know what to say Unless he happens to say something that is an interest of mine And then I open up Yeah, it's um It's it's difficult the small talk aspect of things because you don't necessarily know in what ways You You're both are similar in what ways you're different and what you can have conversations about Uh, I think it's just one of those one of those things, you know Ethan says I haven't got told I'm not forward um Not forward to blunt how How do I change of his perspective as me? It doesn't bother me to be honest um I mean You could if you feel like it is something that you would like to do then you can You can definitely try Would you say Softening things so perhaps you can be more direct but Perhaps less blunt If you want to but then again like If it doesn't bother you and you're you're happy just being yourself and being blunt and Some people like it and some people don't then that's that's cool It's cool Yes, I need to learn how to chase an approach I wouldn't say chase. I think chase would be Not not the ideal but um Definitely be upfront about stuff and like approach people like if if you know if you're you're a pretty person You're probably gonna have a lot of people who are Wanting to talk to you and so I feel like it would be a bit of an easier time But then again, like it does risk the possibility that they don't want to talk to you and you're feeling bad about it It's kind of it's one of those things, you know You got to put yourself out there and sometimes you get You know, you get Things go wrong And other times things go good you know Oh, yeah, I think you'd see eyeliner. I do I do I'm I'm Very confident in saying that I do see eyeliner, but Whether I am actually going to follow up on that we shall see I don't know if I can be bothered like taking it off at the end of the day It's not as silly as that sounds Scrunch as pumpkin says I have a disability. I'm legally blind And I also have problems around loving and accepting myself. I'm only starting to learn it. Well, thank you for sharing that um You know, I I suppose it is sort of a different it's a difference, isn't it? Um, are you autistic as well? I think you look like a zombie. Yeah. Yeah Thank you for the the consistent and great content on your channel keep it up. It doesn't Does not go unnoticed. Oh I appreciate that. I'm I'm trying my very best to get some some stuff out. So I I appreciate that a lot Uh Rita says hi Thomas and everyone welcome back Rita's nice to see you Uh, I don't mind being single at all. That is the age thing as well. Yeah, I suppose so you you got a bit older you kind of um You know you feel full for more um capable in being independent sort of You know, and I I think like especially if you have a group of friends or you have some close friends then Perhaps being single was you know, you can sort of manage the social interaction that you need That that is saying that you don't have particular sort of other needs That you would want in a relationship Nova Scotty says hello Thomas and all welcome Nova Nice to see you Joshua G says been loving your videos recently like a lot. I got watching your last video on rsd and it really really liked it Thanks. Well, I did tell you that I would put one out for you Joshua So it's it's been realized and it shall hopefully be realized with the the one about um two autistic people dating each other so I'll have a look into that Emily says, uh The makes makes sense. I gave up makeup pretty much all together once I realized how much it was to fit in Insecurity not worse the hassle. Yeah Yeah, totally 100% Um, I think I think the difference with me and choosing to wear eyeliner is that like I would be making myself even more different Like from most guys You know, so that that's it's it's a little bit different as per in in my circumstance Concrete during the says yes small talk is so scripted. I have an answer honestly to the question How are you only to realize they didn't actually want to know but why do they ask? Well, that that's exactly the approach that I have Like someone asked me how I am. I will tell them And sometimes they're like, oh, okay And they just continue the conversation sometimes the light actually like asked me about it And we have like a good conversation really deep conversation. So I live for those like Moments, you know, I'm just kind of being myself and being open and I have a good conversation with a stranger. It's it's nice you know 100% Rita says I enjoy the company of friends there indeed. So there you go. You got that That's such social connection that important social validation. It's nice For he says I started to see a guy I was Upfront and it's worked out very well so far. Awesome. I'm very glad to hear that That's what you want And the thing is like Being upfront about it Uh in a lot of situations is probably not the best way of you like get like finding a partner or dating in a sense because um, you When you when you're being upfront about things and you're not being difficult and you're being consistent and you kind of You know just interacting with with someone with respects um, then You are like somewhat selecting for those people who are who are like yourself who are kind of like a bit more sort of securely attached um whereas if you were to employ all sorts of crazy sort of chasing and those kind of crazy dating things that I've seen um, you're just going to find other people who are doing the same thing and it's just going to be a whole difficult Annoying situation. You know You don't want that Overthinking and dating and relationships is something I do. Yeah Uh, I also don't have a structured routine To I feel anxious about knowing what to do. I feel like I'm in a void Um, have you watched my recent video on burnout Matthias because it sounds like you might might be Experiencing something similar to that um You know it's a structured routine is definitely like a A good thing that I always, you know, recommend people do if they can Even if they're not autistic to be honest, like I feel like that's 100 percent, you know Emily Thompson says true, but it feels more you Feels more you do it. It can be scary, but go for it. Yep Glad to make it to live stream. Hello dark moon doll Matthias says they ask because they want to talk to you. It's Is like an initiator Or they feel like you need to talk to feed them To feed their needs to socialize interesting No, it says I'm not sure it's an awesome thing, but I'm fascinated by people that seem different The guy with the eyeliner would catch my attention I might not ask outright, but I want I'd want to dive deep and understand That's cool. I am also like I also gravitate towards people who both look and act differently So I understand that Especially interests are more important than friendships. Um, I think it depends, you know, I think ideally you would have both I think like One cannot underestimate the the positive impacts of Even a small amount of social communication with somebody who wants to talk to you too You don't find my burnout video Uh, it should be on my my channel It's pretty clear. It's it's got like a red thumbnail With my face going You know I believe so special interests seem more important than even food and toilet break. It's easy to ignore friends Same so so relatable with the scripted response thing Like I usually go pretty good or that I'm great for example. Yeah I know how you feel Okay, so I'm just wondering like how long I've been we've probably got about five minutes left on this live stream If you have any burning questions that you want to ask Please go ahead Maybe maybe in the grand scheme. Don't worry. But when you're in the zone, there's no getting out of them Yeah, I know how you yeah When you're when you're in that hyper focus zone, it's so blissful, you know Your default mode network has been inactivated You chill in you're doing your own thing. You're in like your zone Getting up and going getting a drink of water Talking to people That that is I think Underestimated just how much that can impact because that can really if you have gone go through like an entire day Hyper focusing on something man. You're gonna have like no energy for anything else once you've finished Once you manage to like break yourself away from it 100% Mark Durea says a surreal from real with living dead girl Um, so you also like rub zombie. I do I do I very much like the the darker side of music. I would say and life. I think um A very goffy person at heart DJ says I don't know why it's a social rule to play around And doing a song and dance instead of being upfront and direct about things such as that um I mean if I'm if I'm honest like I feel like It obviously depends what your attitude is to it as well, but Dating these days can be very very difficult. I think and um A lot of people have access to a lot of other people And so You know, everyone's wanting to get the best deal when it comes to like a relationship In that it sounds like a very horrible way of of propositioning like what dating is but You're trying to find the best the best person for you. Um, and everyone's trying to do that But because there's so many people Um, sometimes you're not sure and sometimes you just kind of dance around things and not don't just be upfront And say like oh, let's let's let's be in a relationship and stuff like that. So You know I'm in a neurodivergent relationship Since 14 years and almost all my friends are neurodivergent makes life so much Easier, but sometimes I forget that there's also a different world. Yeah I feel a similar Feeling from sort of being online being in the autistic community too Don't be an honest What's the weather in yorkshire, uh, it is gloomy and dark I don't know. You couldn't with darkness be considered to be a weather Aspect I suppose it is because they say that when it's sunny Then that's that's a weather aspect, but if there's no sun then Yeah I'm off my rocket today. What can I say people? I need some more hydration Galax says, uh, how would one know if one loves someone or if it's more love for a sibling thing a person Close to me has got my heart in hold like if one person Like if one loves that person as a sibling Um, I think there's a difference between There is different like types of love that is being characterized. I think So like the greeks came with like five six different types of love um I'd say that you can love someone and care for somebody but also not be sort of interested in a relationship and physical things There are autistic people that don't stop talking and They are There are those who like pace and slow Like you and I'm also like that. I used to think that I should talk more to be normal like the rest Yeah I think it's I don't know why particularly that happens I find that the people who do talk like quite quickly they tend to be odhd Or um ADHD I find that my processing time is Sort of the biggest thing that sort of impacts my outward Perception my my social abilities as well Like it's it's just I'm naturally just a little bit behind in my brain That means I'm processing what's what's going on what I'm trying to say things like that So I could say that I started antidepressant the other day, but it backfired bad and really messed with my head So I haven't taken in a couple of days. I'll be going to a therapist in june. So I'm excited. Well Well, you got to remember with antidepressants that there will be a period of time um Like two to four weeks it might Don't quote me on that. It might be a little bit less or more than that um Where things might get harder, but after after that period of time it'll it'll get easier and that your mood will stabilize a bit more so um I I understand I I would always like consult your doctor and ask them about it um, because it's that that That is definitely one of the difficulties whenever I have been um increased on my dose of antidepressant um You know there's been other measures put in place in order to make sure that I'm okay you know Simon says do you think Autism can help or hinder one's creative output Being that we generally see things differently compared to most people Hmm I think it really depends on the person um, I I find that autistic people tend to think a lot more about things like mull stuff over a little bit more Even when we're not actually Like within work or or doing something creative. We might be thinking about it thinking about different ways of doing it Um, so I think in some ways it can help um But also I think there's a really big aspect of like someone's personality involved in that If someone's really interested in things Someone's very like conscientious and they're Really interested in the inner workings of like material things and items They're probably not going to be necessarily as creative But they might be creative in the lens of that profession if that makes sense um But I find that the majority of autistic people that I come across um kind of countering the idea that that we are A little bit kind of restrictive in our imagination and stuff um A lot of them like they have some really interesting hobbies and like different skills and creative creative outlets that I don't really see from A lot of other people so I'd say that that's the most like common What I wouldn't I don't like the word common, but um I'd say that that that Profile seems to fit a lot of people so I'd say that yeah, we probably are a little bit more creative but also in a different way, which is You know all lateral thinking different perspective things like that. I think it can definitely like 100 percent Darkmoon doll says the man I'm dating suspects. He is autistic too. I want to ask him if he's autistic as well I've known him for over 20 years You could ask. I mean, I think one of the It's something that that's happened a couple of times Uh where people have asked me like oh, how do I like convince my partner that they're autistic? um and that's Not necessarily the best way of going about it. I think you can Sort of gently nudge them about about it But you've got to be careful because people have a lot of Stigmas and stereotypes in their brain and Not everybody wants to be like told that They have a disability, you know Or they they have a different neurodivergency. So You've got to be careful around that. Um, if you if I don't say anything wrong with asking them um But I have heard that from from a few people, you know, you've got to you've got to respect someone's desires and autonomy Um, even even if it is something that you feel like could improve their life Quite quite massively, you know, you've got to you've got to take a bit more of a a softer approach with that stuff Isabel says I find creativity hard to judge in a sense that the way neurotypical people define this And other skills and personality traits different and how it works for us neurodivergence Yeah um Maybe innovation is the better word to use you know, um Doing things differently that other people haven't done or Incorporating different parts of other people's creative work into one thing, you know, there's there's lots of different ways of doing it I suppose Um, it is a very difficult thing to judge. I guess um But I mean I I feel like we could somewhat standardized creativity in a bit in the same way that we could standardize like intellectual Capabilities like IQ intellectual quotients. I think that's the right word intelligence whatever um, I I feel like Someone's ability to sort of create new things could be measured to some degree Imagine like you give someone a word and you think of all the words that related to it Perhaps the more creative people might be able to think of some um more obscure words that other people haven't thought about um You know Give a lot more than than other people have or could perhaps But it's it's very dependent, isn't it because like, you know, we see a great thing involved in that creative understanding someone's level creativity is having a good vocabulary Which is always like You know, so I think you could do it in some some methods, but it wouldn't be flawless Uh, I've realized that I've gone like 10 minutes above the time that I said that I would sort of end things up So I'm gonna go through a couple of the Uh, youtube comments and we will try and wrap things up I always assume Big thing with playing the social game is fear. Some people just can't handle honesty or criticism Mm-hmm Emily says oh if not already could you possibly do a video about music you enjoy? Oh, I don't think people want to hear my music Just being honest. I I don't think people would want to I do have my Spotify playlists up um I will pod over on to my instagram story a link to my Sorry, there's big noises outside Put a link to my my Spotify if you if you are interested listening to my music Listen to my top favorites Zachary says at least at least those are theories anyway. Yep Uh, yes, I have a critical thinking brain and this leads to falling out with people socially. I'm down I'm too darn honest Uh, I've DJ says I've not been diagnosed But I'm planning on getting an evaluation for both autism and ADHD in march Maybe earlier depending Um, I do have cystic fibrosis I'm sorry you have cystic fibrosis. That's awful But um, good luck with your evaluation 100 percent Uh, do you like more sound bass songs than one? With lyrics, uh, I I prefer the lyrics ones not gonna lie, but I like a good Good bass line, you know Good biscuit bass Uh, do do do Concrete says odd HD here and have always taught fast slash a lot I have no control over it. My processing speed can be slow and delayed though Interesting I suppose if it's coming Coming internally and you're not having to respond to a question that someone's asking you then I suppose like the Processing delays not necessarily as much of a thing I guess When it comes to like speaking a lot I'm very much just very crafting here guys like It's a very very interesting like our pocket questions, but I like them Autism is the evolution We don't care about social things more practical things that could help with future humanity like space travel Just a way to see it I I prefer to think of it as like a co-evolution kind of thing like I don't think that we're like the next stage of like human human beings I feel like there are a lot of things that we can in general struggle with a lot more than neurotypicals And I think there are some things in general that were a lot better At that then neurotypicals. So It's like a co-evolution thing like if they can support like extracting the innovation out of our brains then That'd be grand um Good advice. I just noticed his traits are similar to mine and I will be getting an assessment for ASD in the next one Thank you. No worries. Darn me I spoke with an aunt about father's distance and an unaffectional personality and she told me about aspergers But it was kept hidden because about then My country was a taboo I'd say the same from like my granddad like my granddad is definitely autistic Um, he's not he's not also like the best person in the world um just being honest, but um Yeah, the same like a very unemotional kind of very scared about social interactions and paranoid and yeah I don't know as people have to go through like a lot of crazy crazy sort of life experiences um 100% I do make instrumental songs time to time. That's cool I do want to hear what music you like. My favorite band is Meisuga Hmm I want to show you like the bit bit more of the The metal variety very much very much proof of that Um, I tend to listen to dark trap or funk music That's that that tends to be what I listen to but I do like a lot of different other genres It's just that that's why I tend to listen to the mouse because I go to the gym a lot and it's Pumps me up and things like that. So You know evolution like a pokemon Maybe Maybe maybe just like a different like a different e-volution, you know, like narrative pools they go in they go jolty on and They go, you know, they poury on and flarey on whereas we we neurodivergence we go and Level up in like the wilds We turn into espion or umbrion or whatever You love funk. Um, it's not funk funk. It's funk p. H. O And p. H. O. N. K Um, it's it's an acquired taste. I don't think it's for everybody. I'm not gonna lie, but That is what I enjoy listening to I'll put it on my Spotify I'll put it on my instagram story if you want to go check out my playlist at the end I am gonna have to wrap up and and get things going Started off very strong with this stream like being able to put my brain together a little bit. I feel like I've um my energy My brain energy is is not on point, but hopefully it will be a little bit more next week Um, and I'm looking forward to getting out some really cool videos that I've got lined up soon, so we shall see and um Indeed, I hope you guys are all having a lovely weekends and you're okay about tomorrow I guess get some sleep get get keep yourself hydrated get one of these water bottles That fall leaders like life changing. What the hell? And uh, I shall see you guys In the next week, um of aughty time See you later And you guys on YouTube. Thank you so much for tuning in again Um, I hope you're enjoying the content that I'm putting out at the moment and uh, yeah, uh Hopefully we'll be on it next week and putting some more videos out and all that so Much appreciated Been loving the videos good. I'm glad I'm glad All righty guys, it's been a pleasure See you guys later