 Hi, I'm Matthew Coase from commitmentconnection.com and today I have a question from another woman in our community who Asked me, you know, why does a man who said that he's interested? Complementary and who spends time with me becomes someone who is not as interested in furthering the relationship so just because a guy's interested in you and is Complementary and spends time with you doesn't mean that he wants a long-term Committed relationship with you. It doesn't mean that he wants anything other than to spend time with you and be interested in you and and probably want sex because most guys want sex, but If it there's this thing that I talk about in my program the keys to his commitment and In there I talk about this idea of urgency Right, and if a guy doesn't feel like there's any kind of urgency to move things forward with you then he won't move things forward with you at all and so if you want a guy to move things forward you have to Create an experience where he feels like if he doesn't take you off the dating market Then he's gonna lose you You know, that's really one of the big big things that a guy needs is to feel like he needs to take you off the dating market immediately so that he doesn't end up losing you to another guy or I Don't know another woman or something Another reason that a guy might not move things forward with you is if he doesn't feel like You're in alignment with him if he can't see you as somebody that he could be with in the far distant future and The last reason that I'm gonna give you here is that a guy might feel inadequate or unworthy A big complaint that I get from a lot of women is guys that come on really really strong at the beginning And then kind of drop off and and one of the reasons that that happens That there's several reasons that that happens But one of the big reasons that it happens is because a guy sometimes will Overpromise or try to make himself look really really good in front of you and He might not be as Awesome and badass as he tries to appear to be When he's first when he's doing that so Yep, those are the reasons and that's it for this video If you'd want if you want more information about how to attract a quality man into a committed Lasting relationship make sure to subscribe to my YouTube channel. I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon