 We'll come back to the power talk show with me Dominique after that short break we're back now we're going to be having questions from the audience about the topic that we're having today university life, sex, power, money and all that the conversation that we'll be having with Ken Munoz as psychologist, clinical psychologist, organization psychologist and consultant so now I'm going to go to the audience who are going to ask questions just say your name and the university you're from and ask your question Hi, Lina Bala from Cooperative University of Kenya Hold up the mic a little bit From Cooperative University of Kenya, so I have a question, Ken, while you are talking you talked of ladies from the university dating men from corporate world as in the outside world, not boys within the university then boys within the university going for girls either down or up so in your statement I don't know whether I was the one who had a poor understanding or it was just okay do you mean that ladies from the university should date men from the university Okay, good question, thank you. Kwa kwa kwa, thank you very much Pass the mic, we've got another second question, go My name is Ami Singota, Cooperative University My question is not, okay it's a question, yes I think it's becoming a cliché that every time we are being told that we should abstain yet it is becoming clear that it is a kind of impossible for campus students to abstain so why can't you guys just, I mean sex education, how to be sexually, how to understand our sexual life I mean how to be sexual active, how to prevent Okay, so the main question if I get it they're asking, instead of telling us it's become a cliché from what they say the chill and all that, abstain and be test, tell us how to be sexually active and safe Okay, then the last question, please go ahead I'm Chelsea Jones-Poka from the Cooperative University of Kenya My question is it's obvious in campuses we have lecturers who want ladies body or vice versa so that can get max and our parents at home are expecting you to reach a certain level and if you don't adhere to what the lecturer wants you will definitely fail any advice on that Okay, when I can, you've got your questions and before I give you a chance to respond as so ladies and gentlemen remember we are on DSTV, channel 376 so you can watch Y254 TV the power talk show you can watch so many other programs that we have and there is a post coming up on Facebook Y254 channel go there and comment and if you have questions, opinions, suggestions make them there and I'm going to be reading them out in a bit so Ken, go for the questions First can I say congratulations to the little beautiful girls who are here Yes please do, you are like amazing right? but I wouldn't do that I don't know whether I would allow You would not, you cannot I cannot Thank you, thank you for the encouragement I cannot But it's amazing right? It is very amazing I have a friend of mine, I know he's watching, he's called Anthony he's from Nairobi Ensemble he does this it has taken him places he's gone to many countries some that I only see on the map because of this so this is talent Alright, go for it Thank you ladies for your questions Can I start with the heated one? Sexually active and protecting yourself there is no one who said you must abstain No one actually I tell people it is your body do what you want to do it however choices have consequences you can choose a scene but you will never choose the consequence of that scene Dambi unaeza jichagulia Maadaraya Dambi How is he? So do it today the Catholic in me cannot start telling you it is either you abstain or you use condoms the Catholic in me will say please abstain because it is best for you there are people who come and teach you condom education there are people who come and tell you what you need to do because there is a bad cliche that is there the one of avoiding pregnancy and not diseases and so many of you are taking epils like it is parasitomo or brufen as if you have in cramps so today you don't mind going to have rosex and I don't know whether you saw it I updated in my Facebook but because you have chemistry you have rosex tomorrow biology will stick in you cannot put sentences like that you cannot have rosex then you look at me and say did you see it I mean I was less there for a minute no they are not friends on Facebook I said I don't know whether you saw it but today you go and have rosex because you have chemistry wait until biologist had seen and that guy will use geography on you to run a marathon you use epils and unfortunately and I have to say it unfortunately some of us don't even know what are the repercussions of using epils anomo person and I want any gynaecologist or any doctor watching us or will watch us to come encounter my remarks anomo person cannot use more than one pill in two years anomo person go and ask any medik who cares about you they will tell you that is the truth but today you are being told use pills here there every day and that's why some of us are exponentially growing without your knowledge you are increasing a lot of weight because these are progestron induced and maybe your estrogen was the one that was high at that particular time you ladies you must have this sexual education so I will say this we will teach you how to abstain if you do not want to abstain know with your guy what you are doing because there is a correlation between lack of abstinence and multiple sexual partners so today you are with this guy tomorrow you are with that and you know I don't know who taught university students how to kupimam tu kama kona virusia mahana kumangalia kwa macho so today you go and have sex using protection kusababumu mezaeana the next time akuna protection diseases will start coming in so I will say this my dear Alice you said it's Alice I will say this let yourself make the decision don't go where others are going I have said this on your program and I will repeat it please don't follow the masses blindly sometimes the M is silent you never know where you are going I like that linear you said yes linear I am not in any way insinuating whom you should date because there are also corporate people who want to misuse university coin students and there are also some guys who are not there they are not in corporate maybe they are in university but they don't have a focus of what they want in life however don't look at only one way of dating and say I misuse date hawa niwa toto I will say this expound your catchment areas go to university look at how your peers are behaving go to the corporate look at how people are behaving if you are Muslim go to the mosque if you are Christian go to the church look at how people are behaving and then you will know where are you going to get your partner personally I got in church I cannot tell people go and get in church because I got in church but whoever I got was not in church that is a story for another day by the way yes for sure but you need to be very sure of whom you are getting there are some people in corporate world and they say our university so they know what they are doing there are also some in university I know love that was blended in primary school and it is still there to date love that was blended in high school and others in colleges and it is still there but the question is what are you looking for and when you know what you are looking for you will know whom to attract okay lecturers misbehaving ethically the reason why we ought to have the office of a dean of students yes Dominic congratulations thank you man dean of students the reason why we ought to have the office of the dean of students is to discuss such issues the problem is when the dean doesn't act I will say this with a lot of humility and respect there is a lecturer I refuse to attend their class not because of STDs but everybody who went through that lecturer would come and say you will never pass that unit if you are not from a specific church I said I school that park it's a Pentecostal university for my undergraduate and he would have a lot of problems with people from mainstream catholic, orthodox, presbyterian anglican somebody came and told me Ken if you go to this unit you will not pass I don't know you might understand and I said I'm not going to do hermeneutics using this lecturer because it's not the only lecturer who can teach hermeneutics and I stayed for an entire 2 times without having done hermeneutics I would have even missed my graduation because of that but I told myself let me allow myself not to go through this and become frustrated please don't allow these useless men calling themselves lecturers to come and frustrate your life in university will use you, misuse you and some of these people are carriers of HIV positivity and worse and they want to come and misuse you they don't even give a damn whether you are the size or the age of their daughter if such a thing happens go to the university dean of student if the university dean of student is not ready to listen to you there is a university nowadays it's called the Kenya university placement if such a thing does not happen please shout to the loudest you can you have Dominic here even if you don't luckily for people like me who travel we have connections everywhere I have a very senior senior official who works in your university cooperative university so if it is happening tell me that and I'll do something you call in psychology shared confidentiality I will say what is frustrating you without even disclosing who it is unfortunately maybe it's because I have seen you on air but I am thinking you have not asked this question because it's you who has been affected you have spoken on behalf of millions so if it is happening please tell someone please tell even your parents and the problem we are having in this generation is our parents don't know how to listen and our children don't know how to talk so we do not have that time of communication but create time tell a big brother somewhere tell a big sister somewhere who can be able to assist you you are not the only student who has gone through this lecturer does it mean that everyone has slept with this lecturer no no no no so you can circumvent you can know how to come across and do something and you'll be able to graduate give it up to Ken that's absolutely amazing so there's a few things that came and I just want to make a quick comment on look just because people don't obey the statement don't drink and drive there's still accidents isn't there but we have not reached a point where we tell people just drink a little and drive still don't drink and drive okay so I was just responding to that question see okay at the same time there are many different voices that you'll be told about contraceptives and all that but we are also offering a different voice a voice that says why can't you respect your body to a point where you you know there's a priest who used to tell a newly you know the bread and bread groom at the altar if you have ever slept with her before this movement I want you to know that you have slept with a woman who is unmarried if you have ever slept with him I want you to know that you are willing to sleep with a man who is not your husband now that's a very tricky statement finally when you watch Hollywood sometimes Hollywood will make you feel like sex is a need it's not a need you might feel like you're going to die if you don't have sex but you're not going to die I've never seen an ambulance chasing somebody and saying I'm a magician I like the magician part but I think you are envious of the reason and the reason it's that you are going to die is sex but I have heard that by the time you die you will feel like you're a virgin and you will die but Dominic I'll have to I'll have to say something yes please for the married for the married sex is a basic human need yes for the married Ya, ya. Actually the reason why they live their father and their mother, is not because of love. She cannot love me more than my brother loves me or my sister. Wei, this conversation for another time. God bless you. Please give it up to Ken Munoz, who is people centric and director and consulting psychologist from there. Thank you so much Ken for making time to come to our show. Ladies and gentlemen, we have come to the very end of our show today, the part auction. I'm so grateful to my guest Ken Munoz. I'm very grateful to my audience. Make some noise to yourselves from Cooperative University and I'm very grateful to my two artists today, Tabital and Hari, who is going to close the show for us. Thank you for watching and being part of this conversation. I'm going to see you next Wednesday with another exciting conversation. Hope you'll be watching. Remember we are on DSTV, we have lunch today. 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