 Oh-ho-ho, Dr. Mike, how the tables have turned! Now it's time for me to review you. What is up, everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about mental health. And what I like to do is pull different topics from the YouTube community to try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being. So if you're into that, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos. And I have such exciting news. So much exciting news, all right, for all of you Rewired Soldiers out there. One of our amazing followers, Sabi Lu, I think I'm saying that right, she created a Discord server. And Tristan and I hopped in there last night, I was tweeting about it, I sent it out on the mailing list. And this is huge, like I may, especially with the boy in a band video I made yesterday when I'm talking about friends and support and everything. And I had so many comments where people are like, what if I don't have that? Like my whole vision with the Rewired Soul was just to make this massive, massive mental health support community. So some of you know that we have a Facebook group. A lot of you say you don't use Facebook. Like if I'm being honest, I don't even like using Facebook. So Sabi Lu started the Discord server and we already have like over 100 people in there. So come in, join the Discord server. It's going to be linked down below. I use it on my computer. Tristan's been using it on her tablet. So if you don't know what Discord is, I can download it on your phone or on your computer. Come join us. There's a ton, a ton, a ton of supportive people in there and we're going to be doing some cool stuff through different chat rooms and everything. So come on in. The link will be down in the description. I will pin it in the comments below as well. All right. So this Gabby Hannah and Dr. Mike video, this was a widely requested video. I've gotten DMs. I've gotten tweets. I've gotten all sorts of stuff. People were talking about them in the Discord. And I've had a lot of people request me talk about Gabby Hannah and I just, how am I going to check out her stuff? Like I listened to her song that she had not too long ago and people say she talks a lot about mental health. But anyways, like when, when something gets like widely requested, I'm like, okay, I'll check it out. So I, I checked this video out and it's Dr. Mike and I'm, you know, I know a lot of you out there don't trust doctors and you don't trust therapists. And hi, welcome to the club. But let me tell you, let me tell you a spoiler alert. Dr. Mike is the man. Like he just gained a new subscriber in me, but in this video, I want to break down some of the things that he talks about because they're so important. And I just want to elaborate a little bit more on a few of the points he made. Like for a big chunk of this video, all right, they talked about how mental health and physical health are so closely related. And it gives so many good tips, so many good pieces of advice, and it also helped you find a good therapist or a good doctor. All right. So let's get started with this clip. And it wasn't until I started talking about it and just kind of ripped myself open and gave it to the world that. What was the response like from the community? It was great. I mean, first of all, the YouTube community who started talking to me about it was like, thank you so much for talking about this. I've never been able to, but you put it into words. And then obviously there's so many people out there that relate to like anxiety and depression, needing disorders. And then they were seeing somebody who they kind of looked up to suffer with the same stuff. All right. I wanted to start out with that clip right there because I got some backlash the other day about a video I made. But Gabby Hannah, like she just explained why I would like, I would like in a perfect world for more YouTubers to talk about their mental health. Like Gabby has found a, how therapeutic it is for her to open up and talk about this stuff and see that she's not alone. But also she sees how much it's helping other people like you guys. Something that makes my day. Something that makes my day is when you all comment in the videos or you tweet at me or you DM me or you email me and you say, Chris, watching your videos inspired me to go get help. Watching your videos inspired me to go to the doctor. Watching you inspired me to go to a therapist. Watching you inspired me to go to rehab. Whatever it is. Like that's all I want. And then somebody like Gabby Hannah who has millions of followers who can do that and send that message out to even more people. Like, yes, that's all I'm saying, you know? So like, I really think Gabby Hannah is a good role model in that aspect when it comes to mental health in the YouTube community. Like the difference between, let's say, a narcissistic personality trait versus a narcissistic personality disorder. Oh, please go off, Dr. Mike. This is so important. I already know what you're going to say. Please go off. No, no, no. They sound incredibly similar. And when you're talking in common tongue, you're just saying narcissist, right? You're not defining them. But in reality, there's a small but very important difference between the two. So things got a little awkward right here. I was like, ooh, like they're kind of dancing around and stuff. And I was wondering when they were going to bring up the Shane Dawson thing. But yeah, real quick, this is something I talked about in one of my first Shane Dawson videos. Like, he explained like, you know, why it's important to talk about narcissistic traits versus narcissistic disorders, right? Same thing with sociopathic traits and sociopathic disorders, right? And one of the things is when it comes to mental health in the language we use, we run around just labeling people left and right. So many of us have certain traits, but we don't have this actual disorder that's affecting our life in a negative way. And this is actually a good thing because a huge part of mental health, like you guys, something that I haven't talked about enough is mental health does not mean a lack of a mental disorder, okay? Mental health means doing your best to have more control and manageability over your mental and emotional wellbeing. That's all it means, right? Like, you don't need some crazy disorder to just have anger issues, right? You don't need some disorder to have trust issues. So I think it's important to recognize what traits we have, then figure out ways to hone in on those things and talk about them and work on them individually. And when we're talking about labeling people sociopaths, we need to be very careful because if someone is under the influence of drugs, let's say, whatever they're taking, they could be abusing Adderall or they could be using cocaine or marijuana or alcohol and they're acting a certain way because they're under the influence of drugs, you can't really call them sociopaths or having antisocial personality disorder. This right here is one of the reasons why I love Dr. Mike. Like, he explains, he explains the complexities of diagnosing a mental illness, okay? He talks about how, like, there's so much. It's not just one sit-down with somebody. Sometimes you've got to get to know somebody. You've got to sit down with multiple sessions. Like, that's why, you know, it kind of bumps me out when I see people, like, finally go to therapy and they thought that we're going to get fixed in one session. You know, like, most of us, most of us out there, like, we don't trust people. We don't open up. Like, we don't fully open up to people and, like, meeting somebody for the first time and opening up to them fully in a first hour. Like, what? What? Like, that doesn't happen. This is why it takes multiple visits so they can get to know you, so you can get to know them. It's going to take a while for you to build up that trust with them and open up about certain things. So, think about a person who suffers from bipolar disorder, for example, and then to sort of self-medicate, they use all sorts of substances. Like, this is a hypothetical example. Now, that person, because they're having extreme mania at times, which they're very hyper and they're also using drugs at that point, they can exhibit all sorts of tendencies. Narcissistic tendencies, sociopath tendencies, but they're not any of those things. And right there, right there is why we need to start talking about substance abuse even more. Throughout this video, Dr. Mike talked about self-medicating. That's huge. Most people, did you know, did you know that the leading cause for addiction is mental illness, okay? Because so many people are trying to self-medicate rather than getting help. But what Dr. Mike is talking about, when you actually go through, like the DSM, right? Like, you have to, you have to look for substance abuse issues before you diagnose anything else. And the analogy he made about bipolar disorder is perfect, because if somebody's in a manic state and like say they're like using meth, like, it's going to be really hard to diagnose any type of illness. So, like, for example, working in the drug and alcohol treatment field, we cannot diagnose somebody until they're fully detoxed, right? Like, it's hard to see if somebody has a mental illness, especially because any substance that you're withdrawing from is going to have symptoms of like anxiety, depression, irritability, insomnia, all sorts of things, right? So until somebody is like medically stable, right, or their mental illness is under control, it's really hard, or their withdrawal symptoms are under control, it's really hard to give them a proper diagnosis. Symptoms like anxiety. If you think about what anxiety is, let's take social anxiety. It's a fear of something that's not actually life-threatening, right? Like, if you go hang out with friends, no one's going to kill you, I mean, unless there's a crazy circumstance, but generally no one's going to kill you. Where'd you grow up? Because my town? Brooklyn. Yeah, I don't know, maybe. But in general, no one's there to harm you with your friends. But people that have social anxiety create an anxiety. Their mind creates this anxiety. And it doesn't mean that there's something wrong with them. Their mind is protecting them by causing them to worry about that social anxiety instead of their repressed emotions. I love this. I love this part so much. This was such an amazing description of social anxiety or anxiety as a whole, right? I was just watching a video yesterday about how, you know, we have to medicate anxiety disorders and like, no, you guys, you need to understand how important therapy is. Like Dr. Mike, what he's explaining is, is like, this is the body's way of not dealing with the real stuff, right? So you have things that happened in your childhood or past relationships. And what it's doing is it's causing you issues when you go out in public. It's causing you issues when you go to work events. It's causing you issues when you're meeting new people, right? Because of something that happened in your past. That's why you go through therapy and you get down to the root of the problem. Like, once you start tackling the root of the problem, everything, everything in your life starts getting better. But the thing is, is that so many of us are spending so much time running away from those thoughts, those memories and those emotions that we're having issues manifested all sorts of different ways, like social anxiety. Because those seem to be so dangerous that let's have them worry about something not so dangerous instead. But it also does the same thing from a physical aspect. Let's have this person have a muscle spasm and have some back pain right now. Oh, wow. And they'll be thinking about their back pain, how to treat it, what doctor to see, they'll complain about it, and they won't be thinking about their repressed emotions. And right now, right here, I know Dr. Mike is dreaming, but this right here, this is where I fell in love with Dr. Mike. This is the part of the video where I'm like, okay, I got respect for this doctor. Because some of my issues with doctors in the past is that you can tell, some of you who have been watching me, you know how I analyze people and read people and stuff. And one of my issues with doctors is I've met a lot of doctors, not all doctors, but a lot of doctors who come in, they hear your symptoms and they already have a diagnosis in their mind. And what Dr. Mike is trying to explain is there's so many mental health issues that can cause physical issues. Okay? Like, if you're struggling with anxiety, you can get heart disease. If you're highly stressed, you can struggle with these things. Mental health problems can cause physical problems. That's one of the reasons why I try to advocate for better mental health care in the United States. Because it's been proven that when we treat people's mental health, physical health gets better as well. So what Dr. Mike's saying is as a doctor, he tries to rule out anything like, you know, deadly that might be going on. But at a certain point, he sits down and has a conversation with you about it. And this is important. Like, I have personal experience with this. Like, you guys, when my mental health was a mess and this is something I actually forgot about because it's been so long. When my mental health was awful, I was a constant stress and anxiety case. I would get stress migraines. Like, it was so painful that there were times at work when I had to run into the bathroom and throw up because the pain was so bad. But guess what? Since I started working on my stress and my anxiety, I haven't gotten one of those stress migraines in so many years now. So many years. So like, I know how this stuff happens because I've been through it. But this is another reason why it bothers me because so many people like laugh or gawk at like meditation, right? When we talk about using meditation or other holistic methods to work on your physical ailments. No, you guys, the mind and the body are connected. They're all in the same vessel. Okay. If you work on this thing, other things start to calm down. Like Dr. Mike said, like certain mental health problems can cause rashes, coughing, aches, pains, right? Like, why do you think people get massages when they're stressed out? Because the body responds to how your mind is acting. Once I realize everything's fine and we try some, you know, conservative therapies like physical therapy, some home exercise program, stretching, icing, that sort of thing for physical pain. And then it doesn't work where the pain fluctuates. And I see that it has a very unique history to it where the person keeps getting these aches and pains. I bring them in, I just have a conversation with them. And it's a simple conversation about like, what's going on in your life? What was childhood like? It's not very in detail initially. Right. And what people do and what they've learned to do is they repress their emotions incredibly in ways that will surprise you. One of the things I want to point out real quick is that Dr. Mike is kind of talking about the ACEs test, okay? That's adverse childhood experiences test. So sitting down and just spending time with a patient, this is why sometimes I tell you guys like, even if you don't see a therapist, go see a doctor, right? Because if you find a good doctor, they'll do what Dr. Mike's talking about. We're like, there comes a certain point where they're just gonna sit down and talk to you and be like, okay, like what's your life like right now? What are your stresses like? What's your job like? What was your childhood like? Right. Because adverse childhood experiences lead to a lot of things like they found, I made a video about this a while ago, I'll link it up in the info card, but they found that this is one of the leading causes of obesity is traumatic events in childhood. But what bothered me is they said that this doctor can cure anything. He has the answer to anything. That was a quote from their video. So them talking about them dying, whatever they want to do, go do it. I'm not going to even judge that because I don't know their medical history. I will. All you. Okay. I just had to toss this in here to end this video. Like I get so many people, I get so many people who ask me what my credentials are and they ask other YouTubers who are in the mental health space. What are your credentials when stuff is going on with Katie Morton and Shane Dawson, people are like, what are your credentials? Like, I don't know if you guys heard about this thing going on with the dying YouTubers, but they went to a freaking chiropractor, a guy who has a PhD, right, and is clearly doing something unethical in a YouTube video for these YouTubers who have millions of subscribers, right? And these guys are giving the idea that not only are they dying, but a chiropractor is curing all of them. Like you guys, credentials does not always mean ethical. Okay. Like please get that through your minds. Be wary of doctors that say they can cure anything or over promise things. Yeah. The smartest people in the world will be the first people to tell you that they don't know. And I love what Dr. Mike said right here. Okay. Like this is something that I think is huge for all professionals, not even professionals, people as a whole. Like my life started getting better when I started realizing that I don't know that much. Like Dr. Mike says, when you get a PhD, you realize that you have more questions than you do answers. Like humility is like one of the main things that makes somebody a good doctor or a good therapist, you know, because they don't think they have all the answers. Like that is why we have a discord server. That is why we have a Facebook group. I do not have all the answers. Right. I have a very small, small portion of answers. But when you connect with other people who have been through certain experiences, they might be able to give you better advice. Like for example, some of you asked me to talk about certain mental health topics. And I'll be honest with you, there's certain things that I've stayed away from because I do not have that much knowledge about them. That's why I want you to join the Facebook group or the discord and find other people who can relate to that experience, because they might have way better suggestions than I can ever offer you, because I'm willing to admit that I don't know nearly, nearly as much as some people. But anyway, to wrap this video up, I hope what you're taking from this is go get help. And again, like I always say on my videos, I do not care where you get help. Like go see a doctor, like Dr. Mike. It might take you a minute to find a doctor who thoroughly understands mental health compared to physical health. Like I personally have an amazing primary care doctor. She understands physical health, mental health. She also understands that I'm in addiction recovery. She's phenomenal. We sit there and we talk for like an hour every time I come in. Love that woman. You need to find yourself a doctor like her, all right? But go get help. Whether it's seeing a doctor, look at your insurance policy, see if there's a therapist that you can see, right? Because like I said, you have to get down to the root of the problems. Like I know my videos are helping some of you out, but like I just want you to notice like what's happening on the surface level, but it really takes working with somebody to understand what's happening underneath the surface and those root causes. So if you would like an option, I am supported by BetterHelp Online Therapy. There is an affiliate link down below. What that means is when you sign up with BetterHelp Online Therapy, it helps you out and it helps me out. But BetterHelp is an organization that I back because my beautiful girlfriend, Tristan, met her amazing therapist through BetterHelp and has made leaps and strides since using it. So if you would like to sign up for BetterHelp, the link's down below. But if not, just go see somebody or at least join our support groups, okay? But anyways, let's talk down in the comments below. How has your mental health affected your physical health? Like here's a great example. I've noticed some of you say that you stress or emotional eat, right? So that's an example of how your mental health is affecting your physical health. But ex-pains, if you got stressed migraines like me, like let's have a conversation down below, all right? But anyways, that's all I got for you with this video. If you liked this video, please give it a thumbs up. If you're new, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos. 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