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You just put a hat on your ear. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. I don't have anything. I don't have anything. I can't. They give you, like, actual challenges. Yes, so I know. You're gonna go 15 hours and 25 minutes to get anything done. Like, that's what all this takes. Hasn't been able to say one of her classes, she stopped getting homework, and I think a lot of us are going to do some homework. Yeah, yeah. And she's like, that was pretty realistic. She's like, yes, I don't do the homework, I don't submit the homework, thanks for getting rid of the homework. What are they doing today? They're teaching students. No, they're just like, they're just two of them. So each teacher has, like, five classes that they're going to make. So what they'll send to, like, a mid-rise workload, they have to grade all the people they're going to give. So they'll just pick, like, the smart kids that they know will do the homework. I've done that, too. There's been times in my Spanish class I haven't done anything that's been done. I know that the teachers will send one of the smart kids that will do everything to make their students jump. So they just see, you know, they just see my big names, whatever it is, whatever it is. They turn it over and they say that it's just like, it's just random. Okay, that's how it is. I didn't want to be a teacher. I was just like, I don't want to be a teacher. I don't want to be a teacher. I was just like, I don't want to be a teacher. I just don't want to be a teacher. I just want to be a teacher. That's just how it is. Here's how that works, we're going to start out really strong, we'll take one a day What was the first thing you did in meditation? And this is where the east came from And this is where the middle kids came from It was only the middle kids, it was so airy And they had the practice sitting above Like for every two kids there was a proctor sitting on a chair, on a table, behind them With the lights behind them It's like an army of proctors and then one proctor with like the other 200 people and the other So it's like Please join me in a moment of centering silence and please remain seated as we sing our in-gathering hymn Number 377, which is also printed in the order of service Good morning on this sunny Sunday, welcome to First Unitarian Society of Madison This is a community where curious seekers gather to explore spiritual, ethical and social issues in accepting and nurturing environment Unitarian Universalism supports the freedom of conscious of each individual as together we seek to be a force for good in the world My name is Joe Kramer and I'm a member of the Board of Trustees On behalf of our congregation, I'd like to extend a special welcome to visitors We are a welcoming congregation, so whoever you are and wherever you happen to be on your life journey, we celebrate your presence among us Newcomers are encouraged to stay for our fellowship time after the service and to visit the library, which is straight in front of me Which is directly across the center doors of the atrium Please bring your drinks and your questions. Members of our staff and lay ministry will be on hand to welcome you You may also look for persons holding teal stoneware coffee mugs These are FUS members knowledgeable about our faith community who would love to visit with you An experience guides are generally available to give a building tour after each service So if you would like to learn more about the sustainably designed addition or our national landmark meeting house Please meet near the large glass window on the left side of the auditorium over here And we welcome children to stay for the duration of the service, however, because it is difficult for some in attendance to hear In this lively, acoustical environment, our child haven and commons are excellent places to retire if a child needs to talk or to move around And the service can still be seen and heard from these areas And speaking of noise, this is a great time to silence your cell phones And if you've teleported in from 1985 or a part of the medical community, if you could also silence your pagers, we would appreciate that as well I'd now like to acknowledge those individuals who help our service run smoothly On sound we have Pete Daly, Lay Minister we have Anne Smiley, our greeter was Claire Bot, our ushers are Bob Ault, Martha Hollis, Daniel Bradley, and Ken Gage Making coffee for us, in the back is Blaise Thompson and Biss Nitschke And our tour guide for today after 9am is Pamela McMullen So please note the announcements in the red floors insert in your order of service Which describe upcoming events at the society and provide more information about today's activities Some special announcements are in June, we're going to be saying goodbye to Reverend Michael Shuler And in August we will be welcoming an interim minister Why an interim minister? What's the process for choosing such a person? There are hopes, dreams, concerns and questions about the interim period Basically everything you ever wanted to know about it can be answered from members of the interim ministry search task force Who are in the commons after service today and are ready to answer your questions And I've heard a good word that if you ask a question you'll get a piece of candy Also we're going to be having Reverend Tandenka is going to be coming to FUS in just a couple of weeks Please register online or find paper forms in the commons Registration is going to be closing soon because we're trying to get numbers especially for meals So please get yours in today, that will be a really special opportunity for our community Again welcome, we hope that today's service will stimulate your mind, touch your heart and stir your spirits For our opening words today we're going to do a bit of a meditation Reverend is a little tough, both to hear I think and to deliver so we're going to breathe together Stop, take a breath and then another, notice three things that you see Name them to yourselves or out loud, take a breath and notice three things that you hear Name them to yourself or out loud, take a breath, notice three things that you feel And name them to yourself or out loud and take a breath Our lighting of the chalice, the words today are by Laura Wallace If you can come help me with the lighting, you'll find the words printed in your order of service If you can rise and join me in body or spirit As frozen earth holds the determined seed, this sacred place holds our weariness Our worry, our laughter and our celebration Let us bring seed and soil into the light of thought The warmth of community and the hope of love Let us see together, hear together, love together, let us worship And on this hopeful spring day please turn to your neighbor and exchange friendly greetings The young and the young at heart up front for a story for all ages I got here first, it's going to be a fun group All right, make sure you can see the pictures if you'd like I don't have the book with me today We're here first, it's true, I got you I was here first, it's true All right, once there was a tree, this is called The Giving Tree by Schell Silverstein And this is something that I don't know has been done very often But I am reading a book, I like this book but I don't agree with it Is that kind of a hard thing to get? I like the pictures and I like the words And I like a lot of what Schell Silverstein writes But this book kind of has a message that I don't agree with So if you can listen to the story and some people out here love this book And some people out here don't like this book, it's very controversial But if you can listen and try to think why someone might really like this book And why someone might disagree with this book And then I'm going to ask you at the end Once there was a tree and she loved a little boy Oops, missed a slide, that was my fault And every day the boy would come and he would gather her leaves And then make them into crowns and play king of the forest He would climb up her trunk and swing from her branches and eat apples Has anyone ever eaten an apple before? Of course You think everyone in the world is eating an apple? Not everyone And they would go play hide and seek Has anyone ever played hide and seek before? Do you think everyone in the world has played hide and seek? Yeah, that might be true You don't think it's true? That's true, a baby that got born five seconds ago Well, that was kind of a hide and seek though, didn't you think? Being born Come out, come out, wherever you are No When he was tired, that's very controversial Hide and seek or hide and go seek This book shows hide and seek You like hide and seek? I'm going to light myself on fire And when he was tired, he would sleep in her shade And the boy loved the tree Very much And the tree was happy But time went by and the boy grew older And the tree was often alone Then one day the boy came to the tree and the tree said Come boy and climb up my trunk And swing from my branches and eat my apples And play in my shade and be happy I am too big to climb and play Said the boy, is anyone here too big to climb and play? I want to buy things and have fun I want some money Can you give me some money? I'm sorry, said the tree, but I have no money I have only leaves and apples Take my apples, boy, and sell them in the city Then you will have money and you will be happy So the boy climbed up the tree And gathered her apples and carried them away And the tree was happy And the boy stayed away for a long time And the tree was sad Then one day the boy came back And the tree shook with joy And said, come boy, climb up my trunk And swing from my branches and be happy I am too busy to climb trees, said the boy I want a house to keep me warm, he said I want a wife and I want children So I need a house Can you give me a house? I have no house, said the tree The forest is my house But you may cut off my branches and build a house Then you will be happy And so the boy cut off her branches And carried them away to build his house And the tree was happy And the boy stayed away for a long time And when he came back, the tree was so happy She could hardly speak Come boy, she whispered, come and play I am too old and sad to play, said the boy I want a boat that will take me far away from here Can you give me a boat? Cut down my trunk and make a boat, said the tree Then you can sail away and be happy So the boy cut down her trunk And made a boat and sailed away And the tree was happy, but not really After a long time, the boy came back again I am sorry, boy, said the tree But I have nothing left to give you My apples are gone, my teeth are too weak for apples, said the boy My branches are gone, said the tree I cannot swing on them, I am too old to swing from the branches, said the boy My trunk is gone, said the tree You cannot climb, I am too tired to climb, said the boy I am sorry, said the tree, I wish I could give you something But I have nothing left, I am just an old stump I am sorry I don't need very much now, said the boy Just a quiet place to sit and rest Well, said the tree, straightening herself up as much as she could Well, an old stump is good for sitting and resting Come boy, sit down, sit and rest And so the boy did And the tree was happy, the end So, why do you think some people might like that book? Does anyone have ideas? Do you want to say it in the microphone? I liked it You liked it? So if you liked it, a lot of people must like it What did you like about the book? I think it's on Because it was happy You got something? Okay I like having my mommy here You like having your mommy here, that's what I did in this book? I liked the book because the tree was generous Because the tree is generous, yeah, that's nice I'll get you a second Because my favorite is cookies I liked it because the tree helped the boy Alright, and why might someone not like this book? What do you think I might not like about this book? Or other people might not like? What do you got? It's kind of sad It is kind of sad It is kind of sad Because the boy kept cutting down the tree Or taking it apart Yeah, well you had a trigger friend there? Yeah, did you have something? No You got another one? Okay The tree got smaller Uh-huh What do you think you would do if someone came to you and said I need a boat, but to make a boat I need to cut you in half Would you give that person a boat? No The thing I don't like about this book I do really like how nice the tree is I don't really like how insensitive the boy is How he comes and goes and only takes stuff and then leaves again What I really don't like is that in this book One person is taking everything and one person is giving everything Now it's super nice to give and it's super nice to take But it's not nice to do just one or the other Do you agree on that? Yeah Okay So you can think about that We're going to have the team choir sing one more song And then you're going to head off to classes So sit tight and enjoy the song Thanks everybody Very excited today to have our friends at the Odyssey project Return to share with us today Now in his 15th year The UW Odyssey project takes a whole family approach To breaking the cycle of generational poverty through access to education Today our own James Morgan I have the program along with Marisol Gonzalez Who graduated from the program last year And Shar Braxton who you met last weekend Will be reading some of their own works today Please welcome them Me again Good morning everyone Okay Some of you know it's difficult for me to stay on script But I'm going to stay on script this morning Greetings everyone This is so wonderful And again a privilege for me to be here And I'd like to take a moment to first say thank you For what I know will be your generous support Of the UW Odyssey project Again as TK informs you I'm one of its alumni And assure you that the wealth of knowledge Experience and support For every student Involved in the UW Odyssey program Is life changing I've been asked to speak to you this morning On emotional labor A term and concept that until a few days ago Was foreign to me And so I want to thank TK and Emily For putting this into context for me So emotional labor As I have experienced it Has centered on social and community justice issues For a number of years I've been working with those in our midst Who for whatever reason And for whatever intents and purposes Have been invisible in our community And I'm speaking about the homeless The previously incarcerated Single mothers and fathers Looking for employment And other services within our community Who for whatever reason Find it difficult to have their needs met I've heard and witnessed People facing situations and circumstances That are truly heart-wrenching And until just a few weeks ago When I was hired as a peer support specialist For the Madison area urban ministries or mom Being in the midst of other people's crises As well as my own Was not something that the larger society Placed any form of monetary value upon Truth be told I don't think society can or will fully compensate Someone who gives time and attention To those persons whose hearts, souls and minds Have been damaged by our country's failure To live up to the democratic ideals Most of us hold so dearly And capitalism at least And as I understand it Does not take into consideration emotional impacts And outcomes relative to its individual citizenry Being emotionally present for others Means having to know your own capacity To be vulnerable And I think a lot of us find it difficult To be vulnerable in certain situations And circumstances But to have an open ear, heart and mind When helping others to cope Or to learn how to cope with being depressed Angry, homeless, locked down Or looked down upon and invisible Is something that requires a lot of emotional labor Emotional labor is the cost In its totality for those who for whatever reason Find their calling in the service to humanity They ought to be more recognized and compensated For their work and self-sacrifice In the service of those in our midst Who are most needy Good morning, I'm Char Emotional labor Exhausted and tired I put you to bed Earlier I fed you, bathed you And combed your soft, tangled hair You had given me advice And shared memories of World War II pain Hamburger was only 12 cents a pound And it was day 175 Since my family members had been around Friday I picked up my paycheck For $437.22 I looked in your room and it was empty I ran down the dining hall It was to the dining hall It was empty The TV room, it was empty The staff member walked by and said Mrs. Williams died at 247 Hi, my name is Marisol Gonzalez Emotional labor Some people think women are weak Some people think women can do certain kind of jobs Some people think the woman should stay in the kitchen Behind the reception desk Teaching in school Helping others as a nurse Caring for children in a nursery room Or doing all of those so-called easy jobs We are capable to do those jobs and more We have the ability to do the emotional labor That all of those jobs require Women care a lot for others We do those jobs with a sincere smile A friendly voice and our best attitude We have the ability to change the mood Of the grumpiest person When we are cooking in tears Streaming from our eyes And one of our children noticed and asked Why are you crying? We hang out into our tux Wipe off our tears And then said with a big smile It's the onions we hard That makes me cry Even though the truth is deep In our hearts It's our job to pretend that everything is okay In the world that we live in today Even when we know it could be much better If we as women were the leaders If more women were leaders We will tear down the walls and build bridges We want to spread families apart Just for not having a green card We will respect the work of all workers With a fair check and health insurance We will never harass them undocumented immigrants By not letting them drive, work or study Instead we will provide the tools for them For their success It's in our shoulders to keep up the big show For getting our own worries, desires and dreams Whatever we are as women Whatever we do as mothers Mujeres y madres Let's keep up the good work With a big smile and the best attitude To keep running the big show We are no weak Our jobs are no easy You can feel lucky For not getting a bill For all of the emotional labor That we documented And undocumented women do for you It's a little weird not to sing blue boat home to that one We are not survival of the fittest But survival of the nurtured Those are the words of attachment scientist Louise Cosolino that came to me by way of Tara Brock We are not survival of the fittest But survival of the nurtured If you just want to tune out now And just contemplate that for the rest of my sermon I understand Of course survival of the fittest is still true It's just that fitness for humans Most often means those who are part of a nurturing Supportive community We were raised in community We succeed in community And we fail in community Humans, all humans Even the most sociopathic Have a drive to connect It's who we are When Arlie Russell Hochschild Wrote the managed heart Commercialization of human filling In 1983 She gave new and powerful words To an alarming trend In the years leading up to the publication of her book She delved deeply into the lives Behind one of the most iconic faces of modern life The flight attendant For most of human history We kept close in tribes And complex networks Of interdependence developed Now globalization has fundamentally distorted Our understanding of who constitutes A member of our human family Building on the work of Russo Hochschild was intensely interested in how personality Had become a form of capital In this new, post-modern world A whole set of human behaviors That were once a privately negotiated Rule of filling or display Is now set by the company's Standard Practices Division In her research, Hochschild detailed Not just how flight attendants were instructed To behave to succeed at their jobs How to smile, how to compromise, how to accommodate But they were actually instructed how to feel They were taught that to be successful They had to really believe That the airplane cabin was their living room And all the passengers were invited And highly valued guests Worthy of all the accommodations Of behavior and desire That a good hostess would make For this work of intentionally managing Our own feelings to accommodate For the feelings of others Hochschild coined the term emotional labor Any functioning society, Hochschild reminds us Makes effective use of its members' emotional labor We do not think twice about the use of it In theater or in psychotherapy Or in forms of goof-life that we admire It's when we come to speak of the exploitation Of the bottom by the top in any society That we will become more morally concerned And who is it that does the bulk of emotional labor And is thus far more likely to have Their emotional labor exploited Both at work and at home? Women Both men and women do emotion work Rights Hochschild and private lives end at work In all kinds of ways, men as well as women Get into the spirit of the party Try to escape the grip of hopeless love Try to pull themselves out of depression Try to allow grief But in the whole realm of emotional experience Is emotion work as important for men As it is for women, Hochschild asks And is it important in the same ways? I believe the answer to both questions is no Of this, of course, is an accidental Men have been exploiting the emotional labor Of women as far back as I can read But the rapid expansion of both the commercial Exploitation of this labor and the global reach Of those in the position to most benefit From this exploitation has dramatically increased The immorality of this system When Hochschild wrote Managed Heart In the 80s, she believed that those our society Most relied on for emotional labor Were middle class women But her continued research in the rapid globalization Of the service industry led her to write further texts Such as her essay Love and Gold Arguing that women of the global south And the American lower class are increasingly Being pulled into or coerced into This system of exploitation as cheaper and cheaper Emotional labor is sought This imbalance has been great for ensuring profits And privilege but awful for pretty much everything else Yes, we are survival of the nurtured Men, especially white, middle, upper class men Have made sure that they own the rights To the emotional labor of an increasingly Large number of women In an attempt to guarantee their survival And the survival of their privileges But as the motto for one of my favorite books Of the year, Station 11 states Survival is not enough The coalt of masculinity that has developed To perpetuate this system Systematically denies men the experience Of their own emotions And the value of their vulnerability Not as a byproduct of its worship Of power and privilege But as a direct support to its agenda Of commercialization and exploitation Of the emotional labor of others This imbalance is not only deeply unfair To the women at burdens But also incredibly destructive To the men who never learn How to properly control their emotions Or perhaps even more importantly How to nurture in a sustained and meaningful way That nearly every mass shooting Is carried out by men is not necessary To prove the brokenness of this system There is more than sufficient evidence For that conclusion But it does bring to life It does bring the life and death results Of this system into stark relief Combine that with the knowledge That nearly every teacher that was on strike Before their victory in West Virginia And every teacher that's about to go on strike In Oklahoma was a woman We see a fantastically shameful example Of how the exploitation of emotional labor Combined with the cult of masculinity Results in violence and great suffering We should do, of course, whatever we can To pass gun control But until we learn how to appreciate emotional labor And teach it to our young men Violence will not stop This isn't a problem in unitary universalism, is it? While combating sexism Has long been a stated priority Everywhere, progress has been very shaky And I think the topic of emotional labor Helps to really illustrate How a consistent uniform inequality Continues to exist within the walls of this church I know I bring this up in every sermon Or almost every sermon But it's my favorite UU talking point And it's this, I think we can all acknowledge That our denomination has led the way In transforming an organization That was almost exclusively led by men As little as 45 years ago Into an organization where the majority Of pastors are women And with the service of interim co-president Reverend Sophia Bettencourt And the now president, Reverend Susan Frederick Gray We are now the only sizable denomination That I could find that has had More than one female president I would be much more comfortable to be frank If that number was much higher than two And if that 55% of pastors Was more like 75% Because I still think we have a lot to learn About truly hearing women's voices And allowing for women to shape these offices Away from traditional patriarchal images Of leadership When it comes to the leadership of women This congregation is no exception Our members have benefited from the outstanding ministries Of reverends Kelly Crocker Karen Gustafson Marianne Macklin Joni Armstrong Ruth Gibson Carol Taylor And Colleen McDonald And recently by interns Sarah Goodman Sasha Ostrom And Julie Brock And the executive leadership of Susan Canig And Monica Nolan Our board is diverse Our Our other higher Ministry teams are also diverse But I'm sure each woman In each one of these positions Could tell of the many times when their leadership Was undermined by the sexism of others These women have led the charge In a progress towards a more equitable Popin And administration When women cease to appear on the stage In the role of the other person Argued Danish social theorist Suzanne Broger But instead steps aside and says I am Cracks appear in the patriarchal armor For those who have tried it And not died of it There is no going back This is not a zero sum game Man are doing just fine in ministry But as we've diversified our leadership Our support systems remain Inexcusably gendered Part of that gendering is that As you can read in this month's newsletter We, one of the largest and most stable congregations In the country, have consistently failed To receive enough pledges to compensate Our mostly female staff At anything near the UUA recommended guidelines Were more than $100,000 short How we compensate all the caregivers In our lives merits deep consideration Our volunteer system isn't doing much better Go to any social justice meeting in this building I'm not even talking about chalice groups Meditation groups Go to any social justice meeting in this building And you will see it being run And attended Primarily by women Go to our website and on the homepage You'll see three main pictures An empty atrium auditorium Which in its emptiness Is perfectly gender balanced A full landmark auditorium Which in its fullness Appears also to be fairly balanced Probably 60 to 65% female Then you see our black lives matter Our black lives matter weekend action From last year And there's not a man in sight Women who are retired Women with jobs Women with kids and without Are doing the daily labor That gives this place any right to call itself A social justice congregation My email inbox is full every day With women organizing Women sharing Women contributing That's not saying the men are And also making a difference A contribution They are Every man that makes coffee Every man that joins the knitting group Every man that plants the details Plants the garden And picks up the compost I salute you Yes, okay, you're just doing the work That women have been doing forever But you're doing it when other men aren't And that means you've been thinking And feeling and changing Now maybe we could find some programs That directly appeal to male interests And get a bullying team together or something But when we can get men to show up For social justice At the heart of what it means To be a UU We need to ask ourselves We need to ask ourselves Is it the programs or is it the men? We are about to enter into a time of stress And growth for our church My fear for this congregation Is that when the gap opens Only women will step up to fill the void Overburdening the already overburdened I know it might be a hazy line Between school violence And the vulnerability of social justice Meetings But I stand here to testify that there is a connection And one that must not be ignored One of the reasons for the hope that is within me On this issue Is that it seems like the generation coming up Is getting pretty sick of this paradigm When you look at the students from Parkland organizing When you go to a Black Lives Matter organizing meeting You'll see that gender balances are shifting Not all the way, but they are shifting We will have today Some very fine students from West High School Tabling outside in the Commons I invite you to go listen to them Learn about their plans for their walk out this week And see what you can do to support them The generation that is coming up is also much more aware Of the flexibility inherent in our human gender spectrum And sexual identities I know I've had a lot of man and woman talk today And I think that's partly because I myself And still caught up in old ways of thinking It's essential that we recognize How this man versus woman problem exists Partly because we allow so much of our society To be shaped in exactly those terms According to a recent study By the J. Walter Thompson Innovation Group Of 13 to 20 year olds Less than 50% of them Identify as completely heterosexual As opposed to 65% of my millennial generation 56% said that they knew someone That used gender neutral pronouns Such as they, them, Z or others And 70% said that they support Providing consistent access to gender neutral restrooms Now make no mistake I take some emotional labor to do the work Of living in a world Where you can't assume the sexuality or gender Of anyone you meet And take some emotional labor To work on learning people's preferred pronouns But it is nothing compared to the emotional labor The emotional labor that we have foisted on queer people Who have to go through the world Carefully guarding their selves, their true selves Because they have no idea who they can trust Any bit of that emotional labor We can take on in meaningful and informed ways Should be a welcome effort for anyone Who cares about making this world a more nurturing place This is why we are going to begin offering pronoun stickers For anyone, no matter their pronouns If they wish to put a sticker on their name tag You'll find them today at the welcome table after services This is an increasingly common practice In queer inclusive spaces Including already a few UU churches It is a way to allow those who wish To invite others to do a little more of the emotional labor Of remaking the world into a more inclusive place Listen, I know I'm not preaching to the choir here I'm preaching to Amir I'm not the most emotionally intelligent person around I'm usually not great at sharing or opening up One of the reasons I love this job Is it is one of those rare jobs Where doing large amounts of labor, emotional labor Is expected of men And these jobs are always better compensated Than the emotional labor jobs of women The only place growing up where I saw my dad get emotional Was behind a pulpit When he shared brief glimpses into his spiritual life But as I put in work here I find myself often even less emotionally available at home Shifting childcare burdens onto your partner While you struggle through writing a sermon on emotional labor That should be titled things women have said on Facebook And books my wife has given to me to read Is not going to do great things for your self-image I can tell you that right now A woman, a person of color, a queer person Could all preach about the experience Of having their emotional labor exploited Better than I could Which is one of the reasons I am so glad That the folks from Odyssey could be here today Despite that, here I am preaching Partly this is because I, cynically enough Believe that as a white man Some people will listen to me preaching about this subject More than they would a woman or a person of color I am a man, I like being a man But, and this is the other part of why I'm preaching today I hate how masculinity has stripped us men Of so many opportunities to practice emotional labor This is not who we were meant to be Emotional labor is not negative In fact it is quite the opposite The problem isn't that emotional labor is happening It is that our yin has become incredibly out of balance with our yang I know there are men and women and gender queer folks Here today who need all the nurturing they can get Just to survive We welcome you and bless you in your struggle We'll do our best to support you For the rest of us, balance is the watchword We are a survival of the nurtured, yes But we are also the thriving of the nurturer What we have now is one group of people Who are doing almost all of the nurturing But not being able to survive because their work Is underappreciated and under compensated And another group who is using all of that nurturing To ensure their survival but are failing to thrive Because they have never learned how to share anything back I am determined in my final months of this internship To help anyone interested in beginning to change this system To find the resources and companionship they need on this journey So shoot me an email, give me a call And let's get this started I end today with the words of Shalja Patel Read women, cite women, credit women Teach women, publish women, present women Acknowledge women, award women, amplify women Hire women, support women, promote women Hear women, believe women, follow women Pay women, pay women, pay women Amen Philosophy and history, students improve their writing Reading critical thinking skills Find a voice and obtain a new sense of hope Graduates of the Odyssey project have moved From homelessness to master's degrees From incarceration to meaningful work in the community Please be generous We're now going to have a lovely video From the folks at the annual campaign I really like it and I hope you enjoy it If I could think about it, we would not be left behind Our new day-to-day, new year We will continue to First get a tissue pack for the new shade That's awesome, I'm happy with what I said That does some pretty good Get a portion of generous It's time I read, what's not If I have a reason in my life I'll be generous if I need it Great stuff Our closing hymn is number 109 Please rise and body your spirit This is an old suffragette hymn So sing it with some gusto You may be seated Our benediction today comes from Clarissa Pincola Estes Book, Women Who Run With Wolves The doors to the self are few but precious If you have a deep scar, that is a door If you have an old story, that is a door If you love the sky and the water So much that you can almost not bear it That is a door If you yearn for a deeper life, a fuller life A nurtured life, that is a door Blessed be, go in peace And please enjoy the postlude