 Letting the folks get on here See got shared try to get my internet connected here Connected right then I got it set up for the blast tribe Working all too well right now But I wanted to pop in here because I was I had a video earlier today and Somebody comment and I wanted to talk to y'all about it so I could read in the chat I think somebody said The overall state of women Has gone down in the areas of like femininity and all those things Nothing was a lady said the overall state of femininity of women has gone down and I want to get y'all take on that because you know We have women here on the channel and I don't I coach women but the women that I coach are They High performing, you know high achieving that's why they Invested in coaching. So it's a different caliber You know, it's a certain caliber of woman that I Interact with on the phone in coaching sessions, but as far as just women in general Me not working in a job and being in an office and around women all day every day I really don't know but over the last when I posted that video about the women smoking and I'll talk about earlier That was very alarming to me I did not know that so many women smoke and I saw a guy Guy wrote in the comments. He was like boy, you gonna learn about these women someone smoke more than men and I could get it from the stress and You know stress or pain the loneliness If a woman is, you know childhood trauma, I could get it from that, but I'm just curious, you know, I can honestly say that at one point. I was not as feminine as I am trying to be now Question after I think we need to first define femininity talking women coming together to smoke Femininity I can be okay to find that that's what women are to find it, but I'm guessing it mean like Softlife classy how you're thinking put together well-rounded. I Was a smoker due to the men I dated but spiritually it was traumatic for me So I stopped and Nia. That's a that's a huge a Big confession and I appreciate you saying that because that's what I was feeling like I was feeling like a lot of women get into smoking because of the man that they win Because if you notice a lot of women would do almost anything for a man would do almost anything for love for a relationship And it's like that's why we talk about ride or die and You know, that's not a story that really want to be told but even my wife when I was in the streets I when I got back with her I was in the streets a little bit and I went to get a job trying to get out the streets Well, my wife she was there for you know, helping me with the streets for a little bit probably It could have been a week two weeks. I had a few Runs that need to be made, but I was at the job trying to go legal So I had a caller say hey, can you take this right here over the such and such And I remember one time a guy called me one of my clients. He's like man, bro Who is them girls you got working for you? Man, ain't man. You really that guy you really that dude, man girls. It's beautiful it was my wife and her roommate and They have a wife get down now. She shut it down, but it was like She was getting back in like she she would get no hooks in me But in the very beginning she was like Okay, I'm gonna help him while he Transition he trying to work or whatever, but then when she got pregnant. She was like no, that's not the window But that taught me something like You know good women Good women classy women will do almost anything for love Like do do a lot for they man Denise they are entire family It's because who I dated but I decided this year I'm no longer doing those things that Dominique God bless it. We got we got smokers in the bless try Y'all the gunja tribe a God bless it now on now only judge nobody I get it But it's good for me to see because I just did not know now. I'll be honest with you. I Have never smoked once in my life one time in my life when I was about seven years old and this is this example I'm trying to get y'all my brother used to always send me to the store to get her some new ports She always had me go get her some new ports And I think it was Salem new ports or something like that or maybe that's two different thing They were $2 for the pack and I used to go get them and one day I got one out of there and went around the bike and got my match and tried to light the cigarette and try to smoke it And couldn't smoke it. I'm like, I couldn't get the smoke to come in and then How they blow it out. I just want to see the smoke go out. I Want to see the smoke go out and back when I was coming up I'm older than y'all y'all y'all y'all y'all folks, but back in my day They had the candy cigarettes That is a little yellow piece of gum and it's wrapped in a white paper and it got like powder in there like a little Sugar powder that you can Blow or you you know, you could blow in the powder come out like you smoke in a cigarette Like and this was a candy and so think about this and this is what I try to tell people Who smoke if you got kids if your kids smell that smoke They're going to be Curious and your child will end up smoking way earlier than you started smoking But I'm curious about just the state of Women today Because we know the state of men is low the state of men is low right now as far as integrity and character and Sometimes we be like who we be around birds of a feather flock together sometimes It's kind of like if one group of people start to go down then Another group start to go down So I'm wondering if the state of women is decreasing as the state of men is decreasing I'm curious about it. Y'all got to give my mom a massage. Y'all get a little Things compressing and stuff and so It's gonna take It's gonna take some special it's gonna take Here's the thing. It's 300 of us on here. You remember the movie 300 Where they went and they fought for their rights. They fought for themselves and they had to stand up That's what it's gonna take. It's gonna take the small little groups of people And it's other people out here that have a platform that's talking that's talking right They're talking some sense a lot of people scared because nobody wants to be hated Like I don't did messages that had truth, you know coming up that was full of truth That I got, you know, just ripped the shreds by women I've never really been ripped the shreds by a bunch of men It's probably at the most out of scene in the comments if I'm going if I'm talking to the men Like 10 men, but when it's directed to the women, oh my goodness That thing could get on up there to about a hundred And so I didn't delete it messages in the past but now I don't now I don't delete enough now. I'm like Yeah, what it is. I'm getting too old to be around here playing around You know tomorrow in promise Never had a desire to smoke with my ex introduced me to it at 19 And I'm 27 now that was one of the hardest things to give up. I was told you can't get a dick But clearly that's a lot And that's the thing is it is an addiction and I've never tried it for that reason because I saw I saw a lot of people You know, it's easy to quit smoking. It's easy to quit smoking cigarettes. Okay I've seen a lot of people addicted to it. My grandma smoked cigarettes and even when they told us she was gonna die She still had she still she was like, well, I'm gonna go out with a bus She's still here now and then she'll sneak a cigarette. She'll try to do it when nobody was looking She'll sneak a cigarette. She had got dimension everything and uh She had got dimension everything and she still kept smoking I Smoked because I'm stressed out. I'm struggling and every little thing is on me no spouse no friends No family no pets and work two jobs Britain When you're stressing I want you to try to replace that That smoking with something that's gonna push you forward and it's gonna be hard but That could be these videos it could be a favorite tv show and It could be some prayer if you believe if you don't You have to get to a place to where you go ahead and press and Somebody say meditate and help them, you know meditate like try some other things and you might have to keep trying until you find that thing but It's gonna take that because And one thing you're gonna realize is Now that exercise LeVon LeVon just hit y'all with something. I'm gonna try to tell you you go walk 30 minutes You go walk 30 minutes. So you do some squats or something like that. Listen to them It's gonna make a difference Now meditating i'm an overthinker. So meditating sometimes that that mess me up but if y'all can meditate that's a that's a skill and if you're at the same time but We have to one thing I'll tell people Whenever you're trying to break something because they say 99% of men deal with handling So when I had to go through breaking that right there what I realized is that It just was a choice And when I chose not to do it, it was like, yeah, you feel a little tingle sensation. Yeah, you get a little antsy Yeah, you might feel a little anxiety. But what I realized is that I did not stop breathing And the big thing about life is if you breathe them You good And I think a lot of times we think that life means we have to be happy And that life means we have to be Joyous and that life means that we got to be on cloud nine life means if you are breathing You're good So when you're breaking a habit when you're breaking something coming off an addiction You put things in place that you can do That occupies your time that challenges you that pushes you somebody said yo somebody said meditation You know start your business like start writing and dreaming on your business Come up with the name come up with the color scheme for the logo Come up with the plan come up with the programs come up with the marketing and like really pretend you are Jeff Bezos like you're a CEO like you're gonna be a trillionaire and Whatever it takes, you know, whatever it takes and then at the end of the day what you're gonna realize is Bring it on in seven seconds then hold it five seconds then release it four seconds And then you realize you know what I'm breathing. Yeah, I'm stressed. Yeah, everything on me, but I'm breathing and then sometimes Will take when when it's something close to us and I did that I did that with alcohol in the sense of I didn't drink till I was 22 Then I hit a point in my life where I felt like I needed to have me one little glass of wine every night And y'all people are saying oh ain't nothing wrong with it. Ain't nothing wrong with it But then when I started studying sleep All the sleep doctors and everybody said yes, there's something wrong with drinking alcohol within two hours of bedtime Even if it's just one glass And I started seeing where it was affecting And because I see people oh to be grown to be class you got to have your little wine Have your little red wine, but then I started to realize like no You could become dependent on that and then I noticed like good people Good people strong people classy people That one glass of wine turn into two glasses of wine then that two glasses turn into three glasses of wine So I just go to show you like that tolerance builds up And as that tolerance build up Y'all forgive me as that tolerance build up You got you keep going About to put my hoodie on real quick So I say you know what we have to I got a pizza maker for christmas Got a little pizza maker for christmas, but why are you coming home? She texts me but I want y'all to think about that now just and what I want to challenge you to do is I want to challenge you to work on your weak areas work on your weak areas and You tell you let that weak area know and you say to yourself say listen, you're not gonna beat me You're not gonna beat me if you pray then you got power right there with prayer Read your Bible. You got power right there But if you're not a religious person, you know You're gonna have to find something else that you need to do because don't do me no good telling you to do something that you Don't believe in so I ain't gonna be you know that person Trying to force everything on everybody everybody how they path and you'll find it As you go but one thing for me is You know, I I pray I talk to the lord I talk to the lord and then and it gets hard Because what you have to realize is the brain is a very powerful thing the mind is so powerful and When the mind gets on a loop it's really just A response, you know, it's a it's a trigger and it's a response. So When the mind gets used to having a dump a release Into the bloodstream it needs that thing and it wants that thing over and over and over So for me, it's like If I'm going through a bout of just like insecurity and I just want to be asking questions or saying crazy stuff it's almost like My brain used to run that through my head over and over and over it'll run that through my head run that through my head until I got to the place to where I was able to say Okay, I ain't gonna say that I ain't gonna say that that's gonna start an argument. I ain't gonna bring that up That's gonna start an argument. So let me just go without saying that and then I got to that place to where I would try to go without saying it and y'all gotta forget myself on this little bike and using this little phone stand But you can't see nothing in my head But I'm about to get all him a wife about to be back I ain't got my little tripod and then I had to start just training my brain training my brain and I remember when I would Act out in that way or say that ask that insecure question or you know say something that could Start an argument. It was almost like I would get a release Of of peace like oh I got that off my chest But then I had to realize, you know, that's coming from a place of insecurity. That's coming from a place of immaturity And I had to start developing in my relationships in that area And that's what we have to understand that it's going to be painful. It's gonna be painful But you gotta find other outlets and other things to do. So even now in my life, like I got that massage chair I got that sun I got that treadmill I just every now and then I treat myself and even if I got to finance it with no interest Like that song they got financing with no interest because they use a firm. So Still like paying cash, but just not all in one lump sum and I get in there and get me a good sweat It don't take long to put together but I do something like that because That right there helped me to where okay I could get in that song and get in that massage chair still to feeling like I need some red wine Or feeling like I need some cognac or feeling like I need some of the Take a edge off and it really don't even do nothing. It's just your mind is telling you This is healing me. This is doing something for me. It's it could almost be like a placebo And so that's what we have to realize that It's gonna be a year of pruning. It's gonna be a year of threshing. It's gonna be a year of change And it's gonna be a year of growth. It's gonna be a year of stretching And we got to be willing to do the work and you're gonna see me the messages don't get real and and here's the thing You know, I got friends. I got guys that I know that I grew up with that They fall right into what I'm talking about like when I talk about guys who you know Have kids and then don't pay child support or don't want to pay child support. I got a lot of guys that's like that And I got to be around these guys. I got to go see these guys, you know And I talk about to a woman like a having multiple a guy with multiple baby mommas I got guys that's like that that you know that I work with that's right around me But I still have to tell the truth I still got to tell the truth And a lot of the guys they might not really like me or be mad with me because they feel like I'm talking about And they might think I'm thinking about them, but I'm talking about us as a whole But I still got to tell the truth. So one thing you're gonna see the message is gonna be uncomfortable But lock on in and subscribe and get out your feelings now And get out your feelings, but the message gonna be uncomfortable and the reason why they're gonna be uncomfortable because I'm uncomfortable I'm pushing myself every day to grow to be better to mature to go to that next level to be a better husband To be a better father those things ain't easy for me Those things ain't easy for me coming from where I come from. You don't see it a lot So listen, we got to do better We got to do better Mom to car. I see you right there. You got to re Rewire that brain the knees you down bad The knees that mean you down bad system We're gonna pray for you. We're gonna pray for you to then You got a crush on your gay friend Yeah, that mean yeah, we're gonna pray for your sister We're gonna pray for you You know, I mean that just mean you won't love me you won't love But it don't let it be a crush. Let it be you got love for him. Let it be you got love for him And you appreciate him love him like a friend, you know, love him like a love him like a brother, but listen Mm-hmm Because here's the thing now Denise he'll mess around and mess with you now he'll mess around and be with you But then he'll be Coming right out of that Coming right out of that dookie shoot on writing that You have all kind of UTIs