 Hello everyone Welcome to another Narc Survival Live video. I'm just out here by this lake today. In this one I'm going to be talking about how the narcissist's new supply is not about anything Because I know you may see these pictures and video on social media It may look like they're having a great time without you They're doing all of these things. They look happy But actually It is all just a false image and if you look at it, it's all superficial They're just putting it on there to hurt you to try to make you jealous To make you feel bad about yourself To make you feel like you did something wrong I know they had to run off with someone else and are there so much happier without you That's exactly what they want you to think and they know how to put on a show They know how to orchestrate a situation They know how to plan and coordinate the elements to reduce their decide effect To make you feel down Because despite what they may have told you that is exactly what they want They want to see you sad and depressed As though you have no hope in your life you're in a helpless situation That's exactly how they want you to feel when in actuality this new supply is a desperation pick They just settle for whatever they can find Towards the end of the relationship Because they know that you're beginning to figure them out You're confronting them Or maybe they're just getting bored of you because they can never be satisfied with anything and they don't like it when you confront them They want to do whatever they want to you But the last thing they want is for you to talk about it Because yes, of course, they're not completely delusional They do know that something is seriously wrong with them But they like to cover it up and they don't want you to talk about it or to bring it to them When you do that it brings up their shame Then it gives you power over them as long as they can do it without being subjected to any conditions But without being confronted Then they feel like they own you you are their possession They could do whatever they want with you, but when you own it and you confront them on it Then it strips their power away Then they can't control you Because it's like you're putting a mirror in front of them You're forcing them to look at themselves and the mess that they are Because let's be honest they are a mess They are a jumble of emotions that they cannot control They're very impulsive, they're very reckless And of course that is the reason why they end up discarding you and moving on to the new supply And then of course they've got to go and force that in your face They want you to see that They want to make you envious and jealous To make you feel like you made a mistake You did something wrong They want to make you feel bad But as I said it is all a show Everything you're seeing from them it is all a lie It's an illusion They are not really doing good without you They're not really happy It may look like that And they are using your attention They are using your attention and energy And reactions to fuel the illusion It's all validated by you That's why they're putting it out for you to see So that they can live in this shared illusion with the new supply But really they're not happy They're still miserable, they're still the same person They're exactly the same person as they were with you That doesn't change They make it look like it does As though you could never be good enough for them But now they've found someone else who treats them right That is the same story every time They always use that But the reality is that if they didn't care about you They are not going to care about anyone else It's not just something that you can switch on and off How you do one thing is how you do everything So whatever emotions or traumas they had with you And especially since they don't self reflect or take accountability They take all of that with them into the next situation And then someone else has to deal with that So everything is not how it seems They want to make you think that they have moved on And they're doing so great without you But it is all a lie They are not doing good at all They just know how to present it And that should be a red flag to begin with Because it shows That they are experts at manipulating people Which means that they've had years of practice They've done this many times before So it's very easy for them to manipulate your emotions Because they've done it to many people before you So it's nothing out of the ordinary for them They know exactly what they need to do So I don't want you to worry about it Don't stress over it I understand you're seeing these things on social media And you think they're having a good time without you But I can assure you Whatever motive, whatever feelings they had towards you They are taking that into the next situation as well They may try to disguise it in the beginning To make it look like they're having a good time without you Because they want to hurt you These are emotionally unstable people They have to use other people to regulate their emotions By flaunting these things in front of you And making you believe that there's so much better than you could ever be But it is all a lie It's not like that in reality And even Dr Ramani has said The better a relationship looks on social media The more toxic it is likely to be in real life So all of these things that you're seeing where everything looks so perfect It is actually the exact opposite in reality Outside of their delusions and manipulations Which are all intended to deceive you It's just designed to indoctrinate you To brainwash you To cause you to adopt a radically different belief About yourself, other people and the world around you When that is not the truth And you should know that if you've been watching my videos You should know what they're about And you shouldn't worry too much about this person I mean you just got to look back and remember They never even sat down and had a conversation with you They don't even know who you are And they don't even know who they're dealing with with the new supply Who could potentially be a narcissist as well Because like attracts like Narcissists are typically drawn to each other Narcissists and empaths that is not a natural attraction Which is why while you were with them It seemed like they never really wanted to be around you They couldn't sit in that energy Because we are very different to narcissists They prefer to be around their own kind So that is typically what they're doing when they move on They found this new supply Someone who is narcissistic at the very least And they may well know about you And your situation with the narcissist They still don't care They're happy to smile in these pictures for social media To flaunt it in front of you And make you feel bad about yourself But it is all a show They are not really happy So I don't want you to worry about it You're going to the same place You're not worried about it You're going to be alright Just continue to focus on yourself Don't peer too much into their situation And what they're doing Because you should know by now you've dealt with them already They're very fake people Just look at how they treated you You did everything for them and they still left you behind You think someone like that can move on and be happy? No Of course not They are never going to find happiness in their lives No matter how much they may desire and want it And you will find as well that in time they will try to come back to you They will try to re-initiate contact with you again Because inevitably they will get bored of the new supply Of course it's not going to last forever And when they come back they may try to idealise you again They may try to love bomb you They may try to rekindle things in the relationship But you need to be more aware You need to be able to recognise what you were dealing with before To know that even if they come back This next situation is not going to be any different It's going to be the exact same thing again And the only way that it is going to be any different for you If you finally make a choice to pull yourself out of it It's only when you finally pull out and you walk away And you take some time to yourself That you really get to understand yourself and what you went through Because you're not going to understand that until you pull away As long as you're still invested in the situation And it's almost like you're seeking validation You're seeking reassurance from these pictures and videos that you're seeing on social media It's like you're using it to measure your self-esteem When that is not the right way to do it at all To do that you need to pull out of the situation and walk away You can't use them and their new situation as a measuring stick For how you feel and your self-esteem Because by doing that you will always be tied to what they're doing Which means it's never going to be good for you And you're going to end up developing an addiction Where you're tied to this person And whatever they're doing, if it looks like they're happy Then you start to believe that you're no good It's never going to be any good for you But what will be good for you is if you finally make the choice to walk away To leave it alone by recognizing that yes it is toxic, it is dysfunctional It is no good for you And you're just going to be a lot happier if you finally leave it alone And just move on with your life As I have done myself and my own life For me there was no better feeling When I just took off and walked away I finally found my freedom, I found my own happiness Which of course is separate from the narcissist You're never going to find any peace or happiness with them Because they don't have any of that inside of themselves So how can they give that to you We can only give people what we have inside of ourselves And that's how you've got to look at it when you see them in the next situation Because they never had any peace, love, joy or happiness to give to you So how can they suddenly generate it from within And have that to give to someone else That is not possible But for you, you can generate it from within Just take some time to yourself and you can generate your own peace, love and happiness And of course, yes, they will be very envious and jealous of that They will desire to take it away from you And when they try to do that, that's just more power to you It just reveals your value It just reveals how amazing you are It just reveals that you're a far better person Than they could ever desire to be in their entire lives And you just need to remind yourself of that every day I can only tell you so many times You do need to validate yourself as well And the best validation, as I've learned myself Is what comes from within Not from other people Although don't take it wrong I do appreciate your support and your comments Which I read every day But the best validation for me is definitely what comes from within Just reminding myself how I've been doing this now Making videos every day for five years Conducting coaching sessions Almost 170,000 subscribers Over 40 million views Just reminding myself of these facts And how I was already a self-made millionaire By the age of 33 Just all of these reminders It just lets me know how I am a far better person Than any narcissist in my life And even aside from the grandiosity Just knowing that I can enjoy the little things in life Something that narcissists cannot do You know what their idea of fun and happiness is Is taking away other people's joy And even then it's not real happiness It's just a relief, a distraction from their pain They will never be happy They will never experience joy And they will never see the world in the way that you do They will never do anything like that But we can We can relax and enjoy the present moment We can enjoy the little things And that will bring us peace and joy That will make us happy Which of course is the last thing that the narcissist wants to see But that is what I advise you to do Just don't do it like they do Don't just flaunt it on social media Because unlike what they have Which is superficial and lacks any real substance or value What we have is very valuable And it will make predators very envious of us To where they will decide to take it away from us So that is the difference And I remind myself of that every day I know that I am a million times greater Than any narcissist walking this earth Not just because I was a self-made millionaire by the age of 33 Or because I have got 170,000 subscribers From all around the world And not only because I am obviously very attractive as well And still youthful Not only because of all of those things But also because I can enjoy the little things in life I can experience peace, happiness and contentment I can connect to my soul And in all honesty Aside from things like money and subscribers And all of these superficial things I think that is what matters most All of these superficial things that they are so selfish and greedy for Clearly it never brings them happiness anyway That is why they have always got to flaunt it Because they can't find satisfaction in it directly They can't even get a fraction of the satisfaction that you get And even what they do get it comes vicariously From seeing you perceive of it By making you envious and jealous But really it's them, they are envious and jealous of you I mean by this point it should be completely obvious Because all they ever try to do Is take away your peace, your happiness, your contentment They try to take away anything you've got Or anything that you are about to get Because they are envious, they are jealous, they are losers And they will be happy with anything in their lives And that's fine, that's the way that it should be Because they are greedy, they are selfish, they are self-absorbed They lack empathy for other people They've got no empathy to give to you or anyone else All they care about is themselves They just portray these illusions All they do is manipulate people And people like that do not deserve anything good in their lives But people like us, empaths Who are in fact very rare Only 1-2% of the world's population are empaths But aside from being rare We are quite possibly the most valuable people on the face of the earth We are far superior to narcissists And of course the reason why Is because we determine our value by what we give to other people That helps everyone else It makes other people happy And that is just the way that the world should be So when you look at it Who cares about the selfish narcissists on social media Who cares about them flaunting these superficial things Things that lack any substance value or meaning Who cares about all of that It means nothing anyway But what does mean something is going within Appreciating yourself Loving yourself As I said in my video yesterday The most important relationship you will ever have in your life Is the relationship that you have with yourself So remember that And use it to motivate you from getting away From narcissistic people As you can see the sun has gone down now It's starting to get dark It's time to bring this video to an end But honestly don't worry about it I get it, I understand I've been there myself I know what it's like To be rejected To be discarded by selfish people Who only care about themselves and their illusions And then they flaunt these things on social media They act like they're having such a great time without you But it is all an orchestration It isn't real But I hope this message feels real for you Because I do have a desire to help other people And to bring peace and comfort to their lives I just want to relieve your tension Your emotional pain And I hope that I am doing a good job At doing that right now But yes it is getting dark Just don't worry about the narcissist and their illusions Remember they're insecure They're envious and jealous of you That's why they're trying to hurt you How someone treats you That is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves But yes Thank you as always For joining me on another Narc Survival Live video And if this video was helpful for you You can show your support down below By giving this video a 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