 Hey, hey, thank you so much for joining me. You know, I want to talk to you today about Desperation it's so important because I see it so much as a relationship coach. I see so much desperation in love But then I also see desperation in business, you know, just desperation in life And it's very important and I've said this before that desperation is a weak emotion and and it produces weak results Now you can call desperation or despair You know, like you think about like if if the car if a car is trapped on your child's foot And I think they've shown to where like a mom was able to lift the car or something You know, they get the baby's foot from under the tire or something like that and the person say, you know They were desperate and operate from that desperation. But really when you really look at it, no So operating from love It was that love for that person that gave He or she the strength to lift the back of the car up, you know There's an inch off the ground or a centimeter so the foot could be slid from under the tire You know, a lot of times what we are calling desperation is Is is hope you say, oh, well, you know I just got tired of being single and I started praying every day and I said a prayer every day And then I met my husband because I was desperate for love. No, you were hopeful for love. You were Faithful for love. You were in expectation for love. Stop operating from desperation Don't be desperate and I'm gonna tell you, you know, I've been desperate. I've been desperate in business Not so much in love, but I've been desperate in business to where as I was building my brand building my You know, my business I would get speaking engagements that will come in and be like, oh, we don't have a budget Will you speak for free and then a lot of times some you speak for free and it's great It's amazing, you know, because you can see that there's a budget somewhere like put into the event But then some is free and it felt free you get there and it's just a hole in the wall is nobody there Or I would accept less than what I was worth because I was desperate to look like I was doing something to look like I was making moves to look like I had something going on like I had a bunch of speaking engagements And I started to realize that wow if I accept a thousand dollars I could speak two or three times a week and I would never be with my family I could have a hundred and fifty Speaking engagements a year and yes, that would be a hundred and fifty thousand dollars that I made but at what expense At what would be the cost, you know, I would lose my family. I would lose my sanity. I would lose my peace I would have to get into this another type of You know release and when I see men do that I see them end up, you know Cheating on their wife or getting addicted to marijuana Addicted to pornography addicted to alcohol addicted to painkillers because They're operating from desperation. They're taking everything that's given to them. Then on the other side I see women operating from from desperation and love So men do it a lot in business women do it a lot in love And women operating from desperation. So you just jump out there for this guy, you know who you know He is a drug dealer And you know or you know, he's aggressive. You know, he's abusive. You know, he's a womanizer You know, he has 50 million baby mamas and he doesn't even take care of the kids He already has and then you have unprotected sex with him and then the next thing you know, you're pregnant And now he's walking out on you and he's in and out and he's not helping you And it was all because you were operating from desperation So what you got to do is you got to sit down and you got to look at your life And you got to write out what you want. I was thinking I was thinking to myself, you know, because I was thinking to myself and I use myself for an example and you can do this in love. You can do this in business You know general life, whatever But not long ago. It was a tv show, you know that reached out to me and The the network pitched the show to me And and I heard the concept and I was like, hmm, I'm not too sure I'm not too sure about this network Not too sure about this concept And then they had a like a pilot You know, they had shot and and they had a host on there and they were going to be switching out the host You know, because the host had a conflict of interest, you know, had to go do another show for them And so they were looking for a replacement and I'm kind of similar. I favor the host And they sent him and I watched it and I'm watching him and watching this energy and I'm like, okay His energy is different to mine. You know, he definitely feels like he's at home and he's been hosting For over a decade now. It feels like he's at home. It feels like a natural And and he's also he's cursing With his channel, you know, it's a secular channel and and they have cursing on their shows. I don't curse So when I looked at it, I said, hmm, this isn't 100 to fit This isn't 100 to fit, but I was in a a mindset of desperation And so I took and I shot, you know, a demo reel or whatever for it And it didn't go anywhere, you know, they was like, oh, wow, this is amazing what you sent us But then I didn't hear anything else. So they obviously went a different direction But then I thought about it later and I said to him, you shouldn't have even done that Because really deep down you didn't really want it Fortunately for me, I'm covered. You know, I'm covered by he who has sent me God so even when I make a misstep, he's ordering my steps and he has grace over me If you don't feel covered or if you know that you're not covered because of how you're living or how you're moving Then make sure you don't act out of desperation You know, I acted out of desperation, which was really out of ignorance as well But it still didn't go through And I realized my steps are being ordered that I'm being reserved For a certain time For a certain project that I'm being reserved or it may be to remain independent doing my own thing So I have control over my message so I can say God and Jesus And my beliefs freely, you know, I don't know But I look at it and I sit down and I say, well, what do I really really want? And when I write out what I really want It's really what I already have But just on a larger scale So look at your life in in whatever area that you feel you may be lacking in the business area in the love area In the friend area Wherever it may be that you feel you may be lacking and write out what you really want And then guess what when stuff comes your way and it's not that it doesn't match what you put down That you want that you know that will make your heart Happy content and that you will be satisfied with that Then keep it moving don't get desperate just because Your blessing is delayed. It does not mean that your blessing is denied So don't get desperate remain Confident and positive and faithful On your journey because if you are desperate, you'll end up drinking poison You'll end up in a situation that can kill you Don't get desperate. Hey, this is Tony Gaskins. Thank you so much for listening and we'll talk soon