 I practice fashion design. That's why you look so spefi. Thank you. Are you shy? No, I'm not. But you look like such a cool guy to be friends with. Where can we get you on social media? I'm on Instagram. I'm on Facebook. I'm on Twitter. I'm on Twitter. What's up? That's my number. Just checking. Hi Kwee. What is your name? My name is Flora Linke. I'm a student at the University of Nero. You can say I'm a journalist so far, but I'm an upcoming journalist. I'm an upcoming journalist. See what I need to do. Have you both told her she looks nice? Can we just take a second and tell her she looks amazing? Thank you. Thank you. That's even better than what I asked for. I like it. Today we're talking about foolish relationships. What do you think of foolish relationships? According to me, a foolish relationship is when one partner is serious with the relationship and the other one jokes a lot. The other one puts all the commitment in it and the other one jokes with it. What would you take a foolish relationship? A foolish relationship or rather the foolish person in the relationship is so invested in the relationship that the other one says, let me use the guy as a burden here. He's not there. Some are just up to a short term relationship but the guy is really serious about it, thinking about children. You've already got a marriage. You've even named three of them. The guy doesn't even know your dad name. That's what I call him. He doesn't even know his dad name. What do you think of foolish relationships? A foolish relationship is something let me call it weird. Let me use an example. For example, if you're all 21 and start planning a honeymoon right now and yet we don't know about our future, that's like a foolish relationship. Really? Yes. You don't have any investments in your life. How should you plan for a honeymoon? When people are 35 years, don't even know what kind of honeymoon they want. You see? Can I tell you a secret? I know a friend of mine, we used to go to the same primary school together. He got married at 24 and his pride was 22 at the time. He was more focused at 24 than some guys are right now at 40. So I don't think really it has anything to do with age. Honestly. I was using that as an example but I'll say it's just a messed up relationship. I'm so interested. Why do you think it's messed up? Do you think youth and youth don't? It's okay youth and youth but let me use the term fat boys. Yes. From now on we're just going to use the first letter F and then we're going to most. You want to say something? Okay. So today it's all about you. Just use the hashtag why in the morning or man crush Monday. Just give us an example of what you think a foolish relationship is. You can get us at WhiteFive on Facebook WhiteFive channel on Twitter. My guy always wants money from me and when I don't have he threatens to boot me. Are we in a foolish relationship and who is a fool here? Me or him? That's a good question. Kwanzaia Mwisha is a good question. Who is the fool really here? Queen, let's start with you. So the guy asks for money from the girl. And when you don't have not when you've eh, so at the end I would be cut. Okay, so when you don't have he threatens to I think get physical with her. In my own opinion that guy is taking advantage of the girl or maybe the girl is too is in love with the guy and the guy thinks he's actually doing her a favor of being together with her. Ha, so she has to try to keep him. Ha, so he demands for everything like money that's it could be a manipulative relationship. Wow. What do you think? I think ladies like that lady there is very difficult to find. I wish I had one. Wow. Angusha CV mami. There's someone whom I take better care of you here. But I think the lady is very good but the guy is really taking advantage of it. They are going to the extent of threatening the lady to live when the lady doesn't send him the money that's being manipulative of the lady. I think if the lady has the money and the guy doesn't have he can help the guy to some extent but if he doesn't have it there's no need of threatening the lady. I think the lady is a great lady and that guy is really taking advantage she will look for someone better like me. Ha, ha, ha. Will you take advantage of your house? No, I won't. I won't take advantage of you. I will take advantage of it. You are a mother and you want to be the head of the household. You want to ask for things. Not just for things. How would you advise this? My advice I will tell the girl to just step out and stop making commitments to what is not perfect because that is not perfect. But no one is perfect. But you won't expect if I was the girl and he was the man I wouldn't say to my relationship you are beating me up because of money. That wouldn't happen. So the good thing for it is just to walk away. You will find someone. Don't even slow clap for you. All right. I like that guys. Get with the program at WIJ-54 on Facebook at WIJ-54 channel on Twitter. Kaisu told me an example of a foolish relationship is when a man finds himself completely dependent on a woman he is having relations with. Do you think that is foolish? I don't know because if you are completely dependent on a woman you are just a sponsor. You are completely dependent. That is how we have grown. We killed Amtuli and Toto Tony we were dependent on someone else. The point of growing up was to try and make it out on our own. It's a thing now. Guys are okay with it now. The world is changing. Oh my gosh! Millenials in Tani Maliza. So it's okay? Maybe it was a situation where this guy got fired and then this girl consisting him. He has no other option. In the scenario when I did my business and came to work I said buy me things Love is not defined by money also material things and connections. Love that? You can never know! I like how are you? Bi idea kuko na huna nga, mtk ya kwa kia? Hachish angry kwa kwa kia ni, kwa kia? Refi kwa mtk ya ! Aka quèili kia, mtk ni kwa isti wiki na kwa ifwendonna isiwezwezu kwa jila kwa hini, kwa hinaji raha mtk ya kwa isiwezwezu kwa kia haji, kwa kia na agaka kwa isiweza kwa hina ni lakia kwa jikia kwa chika wiki ni kwa kia kwa huna nga kwa hii kwa hina ni kwa hina ni kwa iiti kwa hina ni kwa ipwendonna isiweza Most, uki fawatina you will find that that guy atuhio pesa kipiwa he doesn't do anything useful with it mibi anachuku atu ane ndaku liwa na maa gays, maa he takes other girls out That's an example of a man who is just there akuwapo to his wasting time for the girl Ya, ya. Ya, ya. Spend a lot more energy convincing girls to pay for them things than actually doing the job. I think they are good ladies and they are good men. Kuna, some relationships have seen that the lady steps in to help the guy when the guy likes something. And the relationship works well. The guy is not choosing the money for useless things. He extends the money well. Going apart with friends, such stuff. Apatoo, don't die. Chiza sayi. Won't we all dance? No, you nani pay ma. But when you are a lady is such a good lady capable of giving you support, like financial support with that, you shouldn't waste that money going to party. Kamuna tagaku party, just go and assault yourself and get the money. But if the lady is financially stable and is ready to help you, I think you should be more creative and look for a good way to invest the money instead of going and wasting the money. I think it should be understandable if the man doesn't ask for money every time and is not doing a project. For example, if maybe they want to start up something for the benefit of both of them, then he tells the girl, I'm thinking of getting an apartment and I have this amount of money. Maybe you could add up something. But it's not just coming every other time. It's jengi ma zengi. Na taka kwen na api na taka kwen. It doesn't make sense. Pocket money. You're crazy. Hi, Val. Mimini wini. Wiyu jamana se maheizi niyo aju ataki bibi mlevi. Wow. And it's him who taught me how to drink. Wow. He fooled me and I see him more foolish now. I want to go but not before I punish him. What's the worst thing I can do to him? I don't like punishing people. No baby, where much are you now? Okay, just leave, leave, leave. What's your advice? Ono ga nacheka. Yata kwen na jipanish mwenyewe. If you go to the... I think when someone adds you in one way or another, the best thing you should do is to forgive. Forgiveness has a great impact. As long as you forgive the person, you will also feel it. And you will have to go. The burden will go. But if you don't forgive someone mwenyewe kuwachi in one way or another, the pain will always be with you. The pain will always be with you. Kwanzao dendo umuze, the next person. Kwanzao dendo umuze, the next person. Okay, but now that we've talked about that forgiveness, papa kidogo kuwa ati. Okay guys, help me understand. Can I direct this to you? So you get into a relationship with someone. You found them maybe soba and then maybe we're Sunday away. We're not even married. We're not married. We're not married because we're not in a relationship. We're not married because we're not in a relationship. So when one of those... So now girl them and a penda and say, I really love him and I just want to spend some time with him. And this is how he spends his time. So I might as well just start drinking with him. A ya kwa na kunwa, a shanzo kunwa. Then suddenly you don't marry her because you cannot marry a drunk woman. You don't get it, do you? What are those? I will put them ati slikwin, slikwinivi. No, I will put them natural. You know, someone who doesn't do makeup at or short hair and our first lady and all this. Aha. Venakula on point and as a selfish studio yote and a joke picker. But you have a side check when you buy hair for $20,000 and you want your wife to be natural. What is all this, gentlemen? Help me understand. Let me like rephrase it. Okay, let me not rephrase it and let me say, you know, a man cannot be satisfied by one thing and siyati ni like, ni angibu kutumi yadim kama gini pig it's like you're trying to meet your perfect match. So you need to work. You need to like... Keep searching. I haven't seen people should like have side checks and side wards. No, but... Niliambia, they're called supporting agents. Yeah, they're supportive. Very supportive. Okay. So what do you want to say to your wife when she comes back? Annaweza. But... Annaweza. But in those situations, tenna. Uh-huh. Labda, this girl that he is with may be to say ni kichwangumu, very disturbing, not understanding. And then, you know, wale ma diem, very bossy and all that, the man won't be comfortable. Yes. And then Pia, if we get a bit intimate, wakuni mana, you won't even... So the man will like look for someone else who can help him better. There was this adaka phrase someone mentioned to me during the weekend at EO. So say ya kuna waif, as okay, waif ni very loose term because they have children and they stay together, waif. So waif sa agichfunguwa, sa if she doesn't keep herself proper, if she doesn't look good at a tembe atu because her man is to be satisfied. Okay. Ya crazy. What do you mean at the... First of all, umedi shape juya. Uchi ya kaza. Hai! Manzinin beguza kus me fajen kai, bi alafu, when they serve tembe nam tu mingineju. Why? Why are you disrespectful like that, guys? What is the problem? But there are some ladies who don't take good care of themselves. I'm a judge here. So... Suli se muna penda personaliti ya kia. Suli se mani ni perfect match. Suli se mani soulmate. You can love the personality but dem piya na faku take good care of herself. Siya di. Yame, usha wa dem, she comes to the house. Yame za wa toto, you have children. Siya na kwa she's dirty. Adi mumbainu ni chafu. She doesn't take good care of herself physically. Ame nona na plakulati. Hai! High point of not anima slikwins. Wow. Yes. You have a take against my case. I'm sure some of them even don't know how to cook. If you told them to cook for you, my friend, you'll eat something different from what you expect. Would it be a foolish relationship if you got into something and you assumed u dem mani za pika but I easy pika? It's it. I love it. I love it. Why is it foolish? Because... Okay, so why is it foolish? Kusukunze meleni oza je pika? Nachwa, kuna some girls use a very petty excuse. Like sisi kuitu. Sisi fwangi. I don't cook. Tuna piki wangwa like. Inlisku to konishi pika ako. Kibandaski? Yes. Futenda kibandaski. Kuna 24 hours. Ndakonishi. Okay. Hai Val. I'm Joki. Chaliangu. Anashindanga kini sho nani pelika this big, big moz. Hadisai nangoja but it's been two years now. Two years. It's not a foolish relationship. Atikwenda torifa zivi. Chapa-chapa labs juwap yuko. You know. Adi uudem doa. Akwa niya foolish relationship. So foolish relationship. Saki lasi kuna doa vabi atikwende. So why should the lady expect much from a guy when the guy can't do that? Nika mo boy that guy really loves the lady. Nani kip promises. Nani kip kumdanganya so that he can move the relationship further. I'm glad you said that because another gentleman told me wa stana tunapenda wangu. Like they want to tell us the truth but we get upset with the truth. We like being lied to. Do you think that's true? To say mou kwez. Let's be very honest. In that case me I'm thinking sometimes we are guys like you get in a relationship na fukia guy na fakum pelika mall na fakum pelika sedikost yourself unadua you can't afford that. Maybe the girl even isn't there for kupeliko api ama api it's just a mutual thing. But pure I'm just telling you she's a phobia. And I'm sure that guy takes other girls to your two rivers and I want to be her. We are equal social media. We are equal social media. Oh my gosh. Is it a foolish relationship when dey manashin doa kikdanganga like she can't see she's being lied to and the guy is lying very convincingly but dey manashin doa na danganga but they just continue like assuming like nothing has happened. Is that a foolish relationship? That's a foolish relationship. But there's so many insecurities in there you know you know oh my gosh all my friends have boyfriends you know that's the problem with us girls to go so soft such that unapenda umtuna friya mmukotu and I'm sure guys aizu kwa kwa namtumu just someone once told me men are only searching such a kwa ume weza he's still sad. I think if you go to if you enter relationship with that mentality don't go far even if you know even if you know that just keep the mentality that my guy only love ask me alone at least you'll move the relationship further okay oku kwa apu since dey manashin doa na nimi me peki hangu at least search elsewhere nisi jwe now I'm born of search period who are still in search now I'm serious because we're out here killing us first of all as tana kwa as tana na gumbana leave my man alone just kwa ume wengi I can't allow men to appear atasivu bide kwa gii ati tit for tat it's not at your game like that it's like oh you want to see other people okay go see other people now me the people who want to see me let me see them also it's very simple kwa tana kila mstana akuna line ya wanome you've seen young eme got pregnant and she's the tomboy of all tomboys wanome ni wengi so stop killing yourselves first of all and stop killing other girls it's going to be alright hi val you'll be here my girl ni so cute but nimi jingatu niri na tu na tu rali kwa hi ya ya ya akodaw nali pa tiaishu le so so juni fuli sit ko fuli relationship let me tell you this is funny in a way but wanome I think you should date people either at your IQ level or a bit higher for example juzi but last year there was a situation was watua thika wali chimba sujui nini tunnel wakaiba kwa bank and it would have been perfect until he uncle aliyenda ka pelikia shore pesa shore aka piga selfie aka post facebook how now and that's how they were caught you were there with a solid business plan made it lady ruined it atiyo kwa tu katupigapicha na why now such robbery scene in movies nali kwa tu iho do you agree that you need to but pia na nyim na penda kuches na akili zahos tana so she can't be too smart ona kia kia if you get a girl who can control you hi what is this controlling aspect because men are very afraid of us wio usiponi pia pesa minkafugonga baby hiya I want to quote it directly from the Bible it is written in the book of Genesis 3 16 that through this women will bear will have will experience pain while giving birth and they will always desire to they will always desire their husbands according to me the desire means the ladies will always want to control their men but the men will always be on top of them which is written in the Bible so however how much the ladies good, sweet you will always decide one point or another to be on top of the man but the guy will always be on top so it is it is something that has always been there from the beginning of time literally from the time of Adam that is there after this particular time he just wants to control men but men will always be on top there is this guy I met over the weekend he was very vocal to have conversation and he will be content so Ati he tells me in a case where let's say your lady gets physical with you she is very aggressive he is more afraid of where we kumkali and belia ma beshtizake than you as a person do you understand? if you are in a social setting boys will have a good time and watch a ball and they will say I want what maybe I will say if you are in a social setting now the next day when he comes without you to his boys he will say he is more afraid of just that among men than you as a person why now? because it is a foolish relation and then he will say I want to be on top and then I will be like in that reaction he will say I want to be on top I want to be on top so it becomes humiliating disturbing too we had a conversation about battered men like men who are being and he will say I want to be on top they just go ham you will say stop getting so angry you need to fix yourself and then the second thing is that's a foolish relationship because why are you first of all being physical why are you attacking your man and why are you allowing yourself to be attacked because it's a horrible cycle what do you think is happening here? first of all I don't know how to control how to control but at the same time I'm not saying that the lady how to deal with her boyfriend but as a girl always understand let the man be the man in that relationship yesterday we had issues in the house but outside they are a man's ego and I'm very in a Ate na za kwata jeyo outside they just behave like a person with understanding like a sophisticated person so kwa iti kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa yuki j Indians Telikwaj team mali tuo mendo kwa kwa w extra kwa kwa kwa yuki yaal kiwa wele, but so when you insist kukaku wa pasenda as if you paid for the mafuta of a deka ya bimpa kaili wuna jam yaw pweli like guy in CND like more on a couple, like you know why I want to sit in front what's that all about? boys how do you interpret that? is that a foolish situation chip? I think I'm a potato maker now my friend there my friend in that seat and the lady's mentality that seat is preserved for her alone and sometimes that's waving foolishly that lady is foolish I think sometimes they are trying to they know girls try to incite each other let me as an example of what you have given like a girl would go and tell her gang that you know what I cannot be with my boy and then the friend comes in seat actually as the god driver so you see they go inciting each other and then we say her and we are together and I'm with him and then no there's no way there's no way there's no way there's no way there's no way there's no way there's no way there's no way my girl Anna Sema had shita fanya paka wedding night but I was sad and she didn't even want to go I know I am the fool here so number many chanoe me me atakumi piya kwa ohhhh me habibi liya I've never seen anyone sitting somewhere with soil so that's what is happening in your issue Una pika kwen tu mingi nga na kula ma say So stop being fun Jumping to another religion Go fly Hi, what do you think I'm sorry? It's not nice Nkwa niya tapia mingi ngekwa hii nge kwa 2 chesana 2 Let's play this game till the end Nkwa niya wedi nihitu tafikanda uskopa But the guy is the fool here Finally The guy is the fool here because Una mwiwaji, una eka til marriage alafu Yoself kumuna joa na pianafu ngini Why don't you confront her ni niya both that Umulizu Ah mami bida gali yangali aka onapa Gemi nezakwa chingi Oh It's all making sense now It's all to see someone in a way Iri na ways to tell Apa ni ka tata Oh my gosh I'm so sorry Kamao Let's go and be alright Let's perhaps wind this up Your last words About foolish relationships I would like to say If someone notices something strange in a relationship No matter how strange it is Just don't hurt yourself Just walk away Because there are perfect people And good people around us We just need time to connect with them If you're not dating, it's like an issue You come out not having a house Not having food So it's a need So it's high time people need to style up And know the right time will come You don't need to hurt yourself because of someone or something I want to finish with you My last remark I think when you want to enter a relationship Relationship is not a joking thing It's not for kids It's a joke Are you serious? You tend to the perspective of If you let your man go to get a job You didn't need someone to solve it And pay the bill So if your partner is not serious So walk away You can find good people somewhere Someone such is not a try to joke with It's a serious thing That's why many people get depressed And end up killing themselves So if you want to enter a relationship Please be serious It's not something to joke with It was there from the time of Kenabra And they were serious with Sarah Without 100 years 400 years without acting So who are you? So if you are entering a relationship If you are a lady But they want to be serious So be serious with your man And make him want him to be Not that you are looking up to Men should be more serious No, even ladies should be serious If you want to be serious with them The next time you take opportunity That relationship will be perfect If you want to have lunch Then you can buy dinner Say it to me I'll help you I'll help you It's 50-50 If you want to be serious Then you can buy Dempia and go to shop Or you can buy a kwa So you can buy So if you want to stop Then you can buy gas If you want to be serious Then you can buy Then my guy is an engineer He will support me If you are an engineer Then you can buy Then you look for a lady To support you in your relationship And do not enter a relationship Those ladies will enter with that perspective Okay last one I would say first Before you get in a relationship You get to know each other I love to- Ino ni o kanako. Are we fakumet- Are we in a serious relationship? Are we in a situationship? Are we in a monthly relationship? Is it a serious one that Not needed to swear on the word? I love to- Nowadays relationships this make me about money We didn't pay a lot of money, but then you can start from somewhere, finally, if you end up together, you'll be happy, palimli tokana, where you've gotten. That's very deep, okay. I think everyone has their own, their separate growth pattern. You need to know the person you're with, how they're growing. That scenario where there's a very conservative girl and maybe a bit of a not shy guy, yeah, they meet. Because such a mechali and a bambika no dem, oh, she's so conservative, she's so cool and calm and collected, wife, matizio, babab. But yeah, na jua, growth ya ke means, ayende hanye, choke, de arudi apa. Where meanwhile na fkirem na grupa moja. No, know how your person is growing. Nde oneeka, mta kum na pata no kumbele, ama mta kum ki enda evi. Just be aware of your person. Nda kuchuna, but okay, very quickly. Now these guys are entering a relationship kutade moja me, sayma, this one is wife material, this one is girlfriend material, codes, what made. Nda wachuna, mkisa na wacha. Tafadali, if you are entering a relationship, if you are a lady. Tafadali, someone maybe is using you as that term and someone is using you as a wife material. But even guys don't know that those ones that are their wife materials are also girlfriend materials to someone else. So you should be serious with one person. And ladies also be serious with one guy. Kukunze, you break up with a girl, tomorrow she's in a three month relationship. Ogapa wa stana, misawa. Namchona na nenele anga. Okay, let's kuna mtuna kumga. There's a meme for Ate Walami, be like, oh I miss Kevin, oh my gosh. Mke na ako, kuna mtu tuapa na ni sumwa, na najo atu na miss, lakini saatu. So she's covered like five guys in that kuna John Tez, kuna K-4. Nga jata jamtu, I want to say I like that spade, but it's not nice girls, okay. Ate Walami on Facebook, Ate Walami on Twitter. Hashtag of the day, hashtags of the day. Monday health, man crush Monday and a white in the morning. Thank you so very much for staying with us from 7 to 10 in the morning. Kulikwana badi din kiyasu jikuna kaji sa'ii. But I think you should have an amazing day nonetheless. Should we wish them an amazing week? Just smile away.