 You've decided that you want to stay in the church and you've decided that you will live fully as a queer person. And you can have it all. Here are eight tips to care for yourself in a church. Number one. Know your limits, know your boundaries and stick to them. Number two. Make community with other people. Yes, other queer people. Number three. Prioritize agency over all else. Number four. Take breaks when you need to. Mmm, rest. Jesus did it. Number five. Seek therapy or pastoral care. Or friendships. One is not a good substitute for another. And in a perfect world you would have all three of those things at the same time. Number six. Journal. That's where you write in a book. Perhaps you may find that you're coming back to one idea that is healing and transformative. But whatever it is, write yourself free. Number seven. Dance. Dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance, dance. Now stop. Now let them up. That's good. Number eight. Leave. Leave. You should not stay anywhere that you are being harmed. Nope. And leaving that church does not mean that you're leaving the church as a whole. It just means you're looking for other ways to be faithful. That's cool.