 Let me see you got some new member make sure I get this thing working y'all forgive me See should be the blessed tribe now y'all I got my blue light glasses on Take these y'all They gonna bother my nose. Y'all got to forgive me Got my blue light on not sure how my Wi-Fi is On this end, forgive me One to pop on here. I just put a title on here, but For when I'm talking random, but I actually will be taking questions on here Tonight from the blessed tribe because I've been coming on here and preaching And we haven't really been doing q&a So, you know, we'll do a little q&a Now the e-glass thing got no medicine in it just blue light the blue light glasses So I have my wife order me some off amazon But these ain't got no medicine in it. I got perfect vision. I got 2015 vision See, I ain't know what that was but the doctor told me 2015 better than 2020 So I hate to make y'all feel bad who well glasses with medicine in them Y'all thought I was in the club. No, I'm not in the club. God bless you though I just eat them a blue these more blue light glasses so um What's the name? balka mix So yeah, these ain't got no medicine in them My grandma used to say If I wanted to pop on here now, we'll be taking questions y'all remember if you in the blessed tribe put hashtag q In front of your question that'll let me know when I see it that it's a question and help me and then I threw this title on here because this was on my spirit because when you start to look around as you're looking around You're going to see That is there's a lot of craziness going on and each of us Are in the dark battling So I want you to really start being mindful of your battles and the things that you're going through behind closed doors And I also want you to understand that it's very important That you stay prayed up And that you remember Why you are going through what you're going through And the sole reason because it hit me today. It hit me today, too I got hit today And got paused On my purpose got derailed A little bit today and I said and I had to sit back and say whoa hold on Why is this feeling this feeling of anxiety or worry or stress coming about And the reason was Is that spiritual warfare? That spiritual warfare is very real It's very real. And so you got to remember You got to remember What the issue is Now the e-blue light glasses not y'all Don't y'all go Speaking bad vision on me now. This is why I don't get no bad vision But they got a got a reflection in here. So it's showing you what's in my screen Which is a good thing though because you're gonna notice ain't no Urnarty pop-ups coming up though So then you can be like, okay Yeah, I remember I got on the call one time With a guy He he does uh, he made apps And he was like, yeah, I'm gonna share my screen and then I'm gonna show you You know what we do and he shared his screen and he went into his documents And as soon as he opened that document, I see a picture of dangling I say oh I just act like I can't see it. Oh He clicked that thing so fast. He bought a thing so He tried to it was his I'm I would like to hope it was his and not somebody else's But it was a picture down like he had to send somebody that I said, oh my goodness And uh, he was an Indian in india So and I'm trying to get it out for the load So that's why I was dealing with india because they do stuff way cheaper than americans And I just like man Sun deep. I ain't no yet. I ain't no y'all get out like that. I'm like, whatever you see you over here sitting Sending deep pics I'm like, oh my son deep. I'm thinking I thought y'all just over there doing just studying you over there nasty But I ain't say none. I like I ain't see it. So see this reflection in any blue light glass that you see my screen They say you don't know this ain't no foolish. They're popping up and as soon as I say that I get a pop up from the email that say Your account balance is a little low If you be zooming in on the glasses What a guy need more than two years to know if he wants to marry you I'm 32. He's 26 just dating but he's worried about finances You know, that's the go-to word about finances But honestly, I'ma tell you it's good and bad. So for one, yes, a man will need more than two days today Three years at max though But also a man is not a man until 25 So he really have 25 to 27 So you got him as a baby. So he's only been a man for one year So that's what you got to understand about that. So that's why he's not ready He also worried about finances because women put so much emphasis on finances that Y'all really women really make me and feel like crap If we having a tight time financially and make little underhanded Backhanded stuff when a man is going through financially. So that pressure is real and even Even when you're doing good Is every now and then I hear a little backhanded some from a wife and I'd be like, hold on. No, no, don't try me like that Because we got to go to London And I said something about London doing something in London. She was like, I'm not doing that be over there bro I'm like Like what you trying to say about me I'm like, what you trying to say I came for London Oh, hold on. Don't try me like that now. Don't try me like that And we've been married 16 years and my wife got everything you could think of she got every type of item A woman could dream of my wife got it and I still got to hear a little underhanded stuff sometimes So that's why he worried about finances not at the same time It's a legitimate reason for some men and it's also An excuse for some men at 26 is I lean more to legitimate Because he 26 you really don't have your footing financially at 26 yet And then you 32 so he feel the pressure of being able to do even more Because you six years older than him and that's really out of the territory for a man to be dating somebody six years older than him And so you just got to make it clear to him that you're not worried about Finances and you know that y'all gonna build and you there with him you supporting him You can build in with him and you just got to look at his character and make sure he not the type of man That's gonna get finances and then run off on you. And so that's really what more so you need to be focused on Understanding that Now y'all remember if you have a question put on Q on there so I could see it I like this hill chat on hill on this hill little system because they stay kind of in right there um, can you give advice on Handling my mom and boyfriend that she doesn't want us My mom and boyfriend. Okay Her boyfriend that she doesn't want us her grown kids to meet She is 69 and disappears and won't answer her phone when she's with him. It's been over a year Well, you got to understand your mama 69 She'd have been round the earth and back 69 She didn't she listen She know her way around the old microphone. Yeah, baby She'll need y'all help So if if she don't have dementia or something like that She'll need y'all help And so let a little let a little just pray for please please the blood of Jesus over When you do get the seal splash a little olive oil on And just let a little like let a little like because she know y'all probably gonna 69 she probably saying she don't want to die alone So she's probably willing to make some concessions and y'all might be like no, mama You deserve better and she's gonna be like listen. I'm 69 I can't be out here. You know picky and so Longest longest, you know She ain't the type to just be giving away money and all of that And uh, look at caramel Kisses on hill putting the old blessing on there now The old blessing on now Now y'all wait on The mother's day sale But I want y'all to go to Tony gas Academy night First tonight so you can see the prices. Well, wait on the mother's day still Sunday So, um Is it possible for a man to fall in love with someone He knows little about and has not had much conversation I feel from your talks this person is trying me, but I just want to check Yeah, he's definitely trying you He's definitely trying you Simple a mirror. I made no relationship card. He's definitely trying you So and no it's not possible for a man to fall in love It's hard for us to fall in love with somebody we've known years for years because men are not raised for it for love So you got to understand that Simple a mirror Answer to me I can't give that answer for $1.99 a month get the sign up for a session No, I'll see that right down No, this ain't my truck. I had them a white trucker had I wore it just because I like the little cursive on them But she getting ready to make one sell y'all Now I got some shirts back here. I ain't put them up yet. They nice now They nice they say they dick old quality say consistency right there. I'm gonna change a little patch on it, but these are exclusive for some water Y'all simple a mirror. You got the sign up for the year coaching program For me to get a plug I ain't gonna be able to get that one now Because see it'll be different. This is just blessed ride. See this ain't anybody can watch this only blessed ride could comment But I can't be given that No, sir Sherry blue light glass and I now y'all make sure y'all put your hashtag cute Now in between y'all questions. I'm gonna talk about our topic that I got in the title and I don't want you to get caught up going down a Going down a rabbit hole out here. But when you start to look around and you start to see What the people is doing and what's being taught what's being shared out here You're gonna start to realize the importance Of you staying grounded And praying and locked in and focused You're gonna start to realize that what you please differentiate My car really need to put you a picture of the between talent and character um Maybe you meant integrity in character I think you meant integrity and character Maybe you meant that um Because talent and character have No correlation Okay, let's your car with mail. All right Where can we buy the cars? So now the cars is on my etsy Page and I think I posted it on the community page And on my etsy page Which I know my etsy page I put it on here etsy Um caramel kisses I took that site down So you got to post that one the relationship credit I took it down But it really crashed on That's on my etsy. Look on the community page. You'll see the link to the quiz cars Yeah, y'all definitely buy those I only made it $10.9999 Y'all definitely getting old. It was an idea I had I wanted to try I'm gonna make a course on this So the people who buy a pack of cars you're gonna get a course for free I'm gonna probably charge a hundred dollars for the course But for the if you buy a pack of cars, then you're getting it for $10 and whatever you pay on shipping Let me see can you talk more about the group that you started? I'm interested in business and branding training So the growth group Let me get the link for it on here The growth group is just monthly The growth club is monthly coaching So it's monthly coaching We actually got a call tomorrow night It's just for this year. So when you sign up you sign up for this year and We have a call Once a month and then we'll have bonus calls Now they're wrong for that. How might they have trouble with my internet connection? Come on. Y'all tripping Okay, it's still went through So that's all that is God told me who my husband is but I'm nervous to go back To a place where I can meet him church because my weight is not where I wanted. What do I do? um I mean if God told you that's your husband then your weight might not matter as much as you think If God told you that and I see the problem when People say God told him something A lot of times we be lying On God A lot of times that don't be God A lot of times that be indigestion And see a lot of people don't understand that indigestion give you hallucinations So I want y'all to be careful about Speaking for God Because see what you have to realize is God is not the author of confusion So when God told Mary you finna have Jesus He had to send over there to Joseph to let Joseph know your wife is knocked up But not from no dandelion so Pump your brakes Hold your horses Yes, she's carrying But it ain't from no angeline So if God tell a woman Who her husband is he gonna tell that man That you his wife So when you go to the church, he already know But me personally I don't believe God tells a woman Who her husband is not in that sense. I believe he'll give you peace in your spirit Meaning a man who he who finds a wife or man who finds a wife finds a good thing So you got to remember it's the man who got to get on one knee So take that out and say lord, I ain't gonna speak on what you're saying If that's you if that was you lord and not that Dairy that cheese on that pizza If that was you lord Then when I show up in this church let that man give me some eye contact and pull up on And so because y'all be saying that and then y'all be disappointed So I'll just hold on on that one now And then get that weight off of you just set your routine 30 minutes of walking a day Cut out sugar as much as possible added sugar Go to eight hours of sleep Drink water Just get your little some little non negotiables And just do it Slowing for show You ain't got to do nothing crazy I'll be drinking all that detox tea and all the little different little raggedy stuff to do something Just that you could maintain and let that weight get on off of you Not my ex-boyfriend started watching the man in the dark after we broke up Now he's telling me I need to be cooperative and insubmissive He is ambivalent about getting back with me says he wants me to wait on him well You need to check into what he means by cooperative and submissive Those two words are not curse words And we are making submissive A curse word. It's not a curse word. That's biblical And to be honest with you if we really want to When it go biblical not the bible tell a woman to Respect her husband as unto the lord now by And the man the love his wife is christ lord of the church So when we listen to them parallels To them comparisons i'm like hold on lord now. You know what christ did for the church. You want me to love her like that I'm like hold on hold on hold on that's a lord hold on That's why his name is christ So he could do what i'm not capable of lord um Husband love your wives just as christ loved the church and gave himself up for her To make her holy cleansing her by the washing with water through the word And to present her to himself as a radiant church Without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish but holy and blameless In the same way husbands ought to love their wives as their own body He who loves his wife loves himself After all no one ever hated their own body But they feed and care for their body just as christ does the church For we are members of his body now Before that instruction to the husband was this submit to one another out of reverence for christ And then let what they said now Wives submit yourselves to your own husband. See you respect the boyfriend But you're not in a state of submission To a boyfriend because when you were the boyfriend You could be following somebody who don't know where they're going You could be submitted to somebody who ain't submitted to god. So you got to understand that now, but When we talked about Husbands loving your wife is christ love the church that thing changed my life that thing floored me. I'm like hold on now Lord, that's a lot of love now And I fall short of that every day But because i'm saying this rat nine i'm finna start loving my wife the way christ loved the church I love my wife nine But i need to get that i don't want to get on tattoo, but i might have put that on the glass and love your wife away Christ love the church and That's a lot but now listen to this now wives submit yourself to your own husbands If somebody come in on this part and they miss the part about the husbands y'all just put in the chat Y'all miss the part by the hook Why submit yourself to your own husbands as you do to the lord Now this grips the tattoo Oh y'all give me what's them call my wife. Oh, baby. Y'all just trying to see if you could check um That scripts i i'm trying to think what the world translation is this it say Why submit yourself to your own husband as you do to the lord I'm trying to you know how google is though And then it say for the husband is the head of the wife as christ is the head of the church His body of which he is the savior Now as the church submits to christ so also wives should should submit should submit to their husbands in everything Oh See sometimes we abuse that though Husbands love your wives just as christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy and cleansing See, that's why when i listen to that that's why i try to That also saying a take great care of And so when when we look at this a lot of people get this confused But when we look at this This is really equal Like this is equal This equal love it's it's not a loss in there, but you just got to make sure it's reciprocated. So My name is shanti god bless you Gina really god bless you that that question might disappear on them because they'll find all of them they be disappear And so it's really equal So if the woman is told To submit unto her husband as she does unto the lord That's why we're not in no christian society right now Because don't nobody want to hear that it ain't a woman on the face of the earth want to hear Submit unto your husband as unto as you do to the lord Hold on hold on lord on paul you tripping And we have an argument with paul because we like hold on that paul where you sing or not Where you putting a lot of you putting some high standards out here paul not to be single at the dollar bill So now come on in here paul get get married Then talk to me paul and see if you heard it's the right way Because so that's how we try to argue with The word because it's telling the woman to submit to them to her husband as unto the lord And it's telling the man to love the husband the love his wife as christ's love of the church And it's like if anybody believe in the love of christ, that is an exponential amount of love So I struggle with that one just because i'm like hold on It's just one jesus christ now. How you want me to love like he's loved He got something that ain't got lord, right? And and the word say no just what i'm telling you to do and so Now What I what y'all also got to understand about the man in dark god rests his soul now that man Who was in the podcast in the dark And y'all got that from me He became a father Two millions of men I saw a man the other day He did a video of like Maybe his birthday or his or one year Since he passed and I was like wow I was like wow like This is a grown man Like celebrating another man that he probably never met Just because he spoke up for The underdog man Who get ran over and mistreated? and by women But did it From a place of anger a lot of times, but it's a lot of stuff that said that makes sense And so I think the confusion here Is that You can be good and bad at the same time A person could be smart and dumb at the same time a person could be 80 percent right and 20 percent wrong But that 20 percent wrong could cost you everything And so that's what happens is A lot of these men who are asking these things of women They have a point And especially if it's biblical not a man in the dark in the dark was not a christian and Did not carry himself as such and kind of You talk things that were not christian and so that's what confused me when christian men worship men And pedestalized men who are not christian who condone fornication As soon as a man condones fornication I came to hear him no more because Although we may fall short and sin we can't condone it We can't teach it I'm never going to tell somebody to go have sex before marriage Because you're taking a huge risk You also sinning against god So what i'm going to say Is don't look at my mistakes and say oh because i made the mistake you can make the mistake because my grace ain't your grace My story ain't your story my life ain't your life So we can't look at what somebody else did and say oh i'm gonna go do this because they did that ain't how that worked And so What you got to understand this is a mix of the two where In one side he's saying be cooperative and submissive which are not curse words But you do that for your husband not for no boyfriend you respect the boyfriend But you're not following the lead of a boyfriend So you have to let him know hey listen. How do you want me to be cooperative and submissive? And you're not my husband And you're asking me to put my life on hold For you to be unsure so If i'm going to be if a woman is going to be in submission To a man The man has to know his mission A man can't have No human male or female should have they can't eat it too If you want to eat the cake Then you can't sit and watch it look at it be pretty So you either want to eat your cake anime Or you want to sit it and let it look pretty you can't have both You're going to eat the cake or you can have the cake, but you can't have your cake and eat it too so You got to understand what men have to understand is that You have to have a mission In order for a woman to be in submission And what women have to understand in order to have a man A good man. You're going to have to Respect that man in submission submission Should not be although they put it in a dictionary as such Almost related to slavery. That's not what that is What it is is you saying hey I trust you I love you I know who you listening to you listening to your creator So i'ma follow your lead And that's what a woman has to be able to do in order to have A good man Now the world is perverting that but like I say when you go read go to Ephesians Chapter five Verse 21 through 30 Ephesians chapter five verse 21 through 30 and it tells a man and a woman the husband and the wife How we ought to love each other and what you will notice is the world is trying to pervert that Now hey again for the new people on here. These are blue light glasses. Okay. I got perfect vision I want nobody I don't want nobody claiming me in your in your bad vision club. Okay. God bless you. I'll pray for you All right, if I had what jesus had I spit on that hand and rub it on that eye and uh Like that pastor did to a brother up there on that stage But I ain't got that gift What do you think about living together before marriage was having this chat with someone and he believes it is important? I disagree Listen the thing That councils out living together is building real love So if man really loves a woman And a woman really loves a man Then how they love I mean how they live it's not going to make much of a difference So i'ma leave the toilet seat up My wife may leave something out You know, I might see a lady brought up somewhere I might I might see some some draws inside out. She might see my draws inside out I snow And for those y'all speak properly that's snore For some reason I start snowing So my wife that wake her up some nights She's not filing divorce She might be tired, but she ain't filing divorce. I'm trying to get the hell weight off for them. It's like start snowing but That's a part of living together When my wife me and her was living together like standing together. We had our own place. We were standing together before marriage I didn't snow I was 170 pounds now on 200 pounds so I snowed now So what did living together before marriage do for us? Nothing When we were living together before marriage, I never seen a lady brought up After marriage I saw lady brought up When we was living together before marriage, I never passed gas in the bed now after marriage I'ma pass a little gas here not in the bed drive my wife crazy. She'd be ready to stop Listen, I'm a little bit of gas hot now I'm not fit to be listen I'm not fit to be getting up every time I got the gas now. You see what they putting in our food So what you want me to get out of the bed and walk all the way to the bathroom To pass some gas That's what I had to want. I'm like you burping That's the same thing. It just you it come out your mouth it come out my behind So you holding it from your behind and then so it it's going to come out. So it'll come this way Me personally, I don't like burping. I said, okay, you enjoy burping. I enjoy passing me a little gas so Neither one of us did that when we lived together before marriage So living together before marriage ain't gonna show you nothing And all it's going to do is prolong the marriage Because when you live together before you fall in love with each other Now you don't want to get married because you don't love each other But when you build love When you build love Then when you move in love conquers all But when you live together and you writing on lust And you writing on like And you writing on a little bit of love but not in love now the things the person does is going to disgust you And that's why people Live together And then never end up getting married because There was no real love you put the cart You put the the cart What you call it you put the cart before the horse for skills Like a person that's killed but they have no character but they can be so skilled as if Their talent can be like their character Carmen that's that's the lord gay that you The lord gay that you Carmen That's that's for the lord that lord want you to flesh that one out That lord want to flesh that one out. I get it and don't get it. So lord called you to teach on that down And so much for being a blessing me someone blessed me with access to the blessed tribe However, what access do I exactly have so somebody bless you with this god bless you have access to do what you're doing right now The chat if you notice everybody in the chat got their little sign So you got access the chat and ask questions When people who not in the blessed tribe Can't ask a question the night Not in the regular chat now they could do a super chat With somebody did a super chat, but the thing about the super chats is They disappear So if especially the five all of us So it's it's gone. They put a timer on them Yeah, I made the cards now. Yeah, I made a card. I wrote all the questions. I wrote the questions and all the answers Come on. Nice. Telling nobody else stuff now Now I am not I'm working on I just got a logo made. I am working on The website for the blessed tribe members To be able to sell y'all products To my community at large So I got the logo done getting the different sizes and then I'm setting site up blessed tribe members will be first To be able to sell y'all list your products. So it'll be like our own etsy It'll be our own etsy, but I'll be marketing it on my videos So that your products reach an audience that you wouldn't otherwise reach And the blessed tribe members will be able to sign up And I sign people up by You know approval, but you got to have stuff in order. So if you sell a product t-shirt hats body butter Yaki Indian rimmy Get you some good pictures so you could upload your stuff on the on the site Why does it feel like There are way more Women compared to men in the dating scene It makes me feel like I'd be overlooked because of the seal options and how to deal with this Is it may be more women than men And one of the things about women is a lot of women know how to be single all the way completely single whereas Most men don't know how to be completely single most men a lot of times have a little Woman friend a little lady friend That he might be power driving And living in some sin with friends with benefits fwb and then A lot of women could go and shut it down Men can do it too, but it's it's fewer Now what you have to realize is You really don't You're not overcrowded. You're not hiding when you work on yourself. That's why I talk about the three beads Now i'm planning a three beads conference for january 2024 So i'm getting the money together nine because I got to invest in myself So I might pre-sell some tickets to help me pay for the venue So if y'all see a link go up for the pre-sell Just go ahead You're gonna have a seat and I'll let you know what event you're gonna be it's gonna be in Atlanta We're gonna do it in Atlanta. I don't live in Atlanta. Okay So that's why I go to Atlanta because I don't live there. I live there. I probably go out somewhere So y'all get ready that three beads conference now. It's gonna be real It ain't gonna be cheap though now because we only got limited seats We're probably gonna have about 400 400 seats unless we find a bigger place My name is shanti. God bless you All right Place the order for the cars. So the link for the cars is on the community page I'm 36 been called an old soul entire life by friends and family constantly approached by older men only But none my age are sure how to change this or what this means sister You will have to start experimenting A lot of times to be honest with you You a sister so black don't cry A lot of times what aids you Will make you look older than your art is the hairstyle and the outfits It's a lot of women who dress like they like tea and they grow them on and so When you raise by old souls A lot of time you end up dressing like them And On your picture, they'll look like you got a church fan That might not be a church fan That's a church fan that might explain it to you So i'ma tell you something box braids Boss braids gonna make you look younger Every now and then try some boss braids If you're gonna wear your low cut you might want to blend you might want to blend get your little taper Right here on the side get your little taper right there on the bike You might want to put your little part in right there on the side You might get your little swirl You might do your little blonde streak but You want to experiment to where You alter in your packaging So and the same thing happened with women I hear women say a lot of times a lot of times women think it's just men being picky But women say the same thing There's so many times I Coaching a woman and she said Tony. He's an amazing guy. He just dressed terrible. He can't dress and so What do you need to do? He needs to adjust his packaging because you could be a diamond But if you're a diamond in a brown bag Then you're gonna lose out to the moisonite or the cubis arconia in Cubis arconia moisonite actually a lab wrong diamond, but cubis arconia In a Tiffany's box So sometimes when you know you're a diamond of a person You just got you just got to create your Tiffany's box because the first component Of a relationship is attraction So you have to know what The opposite sex is looking for And that's where we have to You know Get out of our comfort zone All I'm saying along for the time. God bless you Now the patreon I'm thinking about starting me a little Patreon.com for its last Tony gas. I'm thinking about starting me a patreon exclusive show Whether it be a show or a podcast or a patreon exclusive Q&A I just got to carve out the time But everybody on the patreon. Thank y'all. God bless you because I just pure support. I just pure supporters right now pure supporters I really appreciate y'all my ex said after less than two months dating He didn't want to be in a relationship because of finances And he wanted to be selfish. Does that automatically mean he's a grown boy? Or just human He's a grown boy. That's a grown boy mentality But that is also a result of the narrative online. I'm gonna tell you something The thing about being a grown man Today it's hard to be a grown man today Because there's so many grown boys and everything the grown boys say it's music to soar ears or Soothing bomb to itching ears Like what the grown boys say and this is what I want women to understand What the grown boys saying When you hear it as a man it feel good It feel good. I'm not gonna tell you no lie. You have to be a grown man to refute it But when when these men hear another man say you need to be selfish you need to focus on you You need to stop putting the woman first You need to stop focusing on the relationship and learn about a woman and pleasing the woman You need to stop doing that and you need to be selfish you need to focus on you You need to get your money right and then they will hear this man Who is broke busted and disgusted say don't get in no relationship until you got x amount of dollars And that's stupid advice It's really stupid advice, but it's so many grown boys with a platform and to be honest with you I'm gonna I'm gonna be honest with you. I'm comfort. I'm comfortable in certain spaces I'm comfortable long form Long form does not work in a microwave society So that's why my message is not as viral as it should be because I'm comfortable on youtube I'm not comfortable on tiktok and instagram reels But that's where the grown boys are getting the message out is through tiktok and instagram reels because it's only one minute To a minute and a half three minutes or so on tiktok or a minute and a half on reels So when you have limited wisdom When you really don't know what you're talking about you could sound good in 90 seconds But when you got to talk an hour and a half like I've been talking you got to really be abreast of your subject And you got to really be a little more schooled in your subject But the grown boys They go and they do these hot takes and then they are raising a generation And so they got the men running from love and running from relationships Because of the narrative of these Men who are suffering from their childhood trauma are the narrative that they spewing online So a lot of men don't understand that they actually being influenced by men who had no father They've been influenced by men who had who has a lot of childhood trauma They've been influenced by men who was cheated on By their first love they've been influenced by men who was cheated on in every relationship And so a lot of men with a microphone in their face is actually speaking from pain Speaking from hurt speaking from loneliness speaking from Desolation desperation isolation annihilation Ignoration they speaking from all of these places, but a place of love And so that's what's Helping break down society because everything you hear sound good. It's just like if you if you go to a debate The person for it and the person against it both of them arguments going to sound good So whoever talking that's who side you're going to be on and you're going to be on this side until the other person Start talking so when these men are hearing grown boys talk And the grown boys are louder. They're more consistent. They're more viral It's sounding good to them And but if they come in they hear me talk Then they also going to say well, he got a point But then when they hear a grown boy talk, they're going to say well, he got a point because when I hear a grown boy talk I say well, he got a point because guess what Some evil look like it got a point y'all remember the movie with samuel jackson a time to That right there what samuel did It's against the law But it looked like it made sense right now when he did it Sometimes things that are perceived as bad going to look like it's a time for it Sometimes things that are ignorant going to look like it's a time for it. Just like freaking it That's ignorant, but it looked like it was a time for it Just like when you when y'all on that hooker Y'all on that marijuana That's ignorant, but it's going to look like it's a time for it when you getting drunk That's ignorant, but it's going to look like it's a time for when you twerking online That's ignorant, but it's going to look like it's a time for it. So what we have to understand is that It's good and evil, but it's not always balance And that whatever side you listen it to is going to sound good That's why you literally have people who worship the devil It's literally people who worship the devil either somebody sent my link about There is a devil worshiping club in california for the kids at the school And that the state had the past that these kids could could do this because That's what they're listening to and they only hearing that that message at that time and it sound good to them And that's absolutely crazy. It's absolutely crazy, but that's how it is So it's like this right here If you listen to a christian like myself talk You're going to start to be curious about christ You're gonna start to be curious about christ. We share god bless you You're gonna start to be curious about christ And you're gonna start to wonder you're gonna say, well mad ton it's on it. Don't look in and sound and blessed So the christ thing must be real But then if you listen to a muslim You're going to be curious if you listen to a buddhist you're going to be curious anybody you listen to It's gonna have it's gonna Peek your interest and until you know what you know that you know for sure So I could because I'm a Christian and Because I have a relationship with Christ because I have experienced a power of Christ. I could listen to a pan-African I Talk for eight hours and I'm a choose Christ. I could listen to a muscle. I could listen to a atheist I could listen to a Jehovah Witness. I could listen to Air a Buddhist or Hindu or Jew I could listen to all of them talk for eight hours and I'm a choose Christ Because I know that I know for myself now and that's what you have to realize and understand a God dumped me because he has high status job versus my lower status job married someone else and divorced Now back saying he regretted letting me go truth Yeah, he probably regret it. Yeah, he probably regret it, but it also mean he just wanted a little sympathy love It's like, okay, you regret it, but that's what you get. That's what you get little with your choices you made your bed little with it and If you want him back there, you need to pay a price He's like, okay put up a shut up there I'll come back on about what you regret when you had a clear choice. So He won't you he won't you and to be honest with you. He's a he's a grown boy Like a grown man does not care. This is another narrative of grown boys a grown man does not care if a woman is a janitor The fact that that woman is willing to work the fact that that woman is Ambitious enough humble enough courageous enough to work a lowly job When she could go strip She could go get naked on only fan She could go get a sugar daddy get on one of the sites to get a sugar daddy The fact that a woman gonna work a Grown man ain't gonna never look down on a woman who is willing to work Because if a man so high status of a job He could get that woman a job If he got his own company, he could get that woman a job or he could get that woman a job See me. I honestly as a grown man. I Really want to pick my staff like I really like the young lady. I just hire She will she were four hours a week at Accounting office and then she served food on Saturday and Sunday at a restaurant So that let me know she willing to grind She willing to grind the next staff I pick it's gonna be out the Mike Donald drive-thru because Mike Donald's is nasty Mike Donald's serving poison and Mike Donald's Be dirty they don't treat you right It really ain't a whole lot of room to grow because it's only gonna be a couple of manager and owner operator of positions So if this woman is willing to work in that Mike Donald drive-thru She humble Cuz her friends got to come through there her family got to come through there. Oh You work up there Well, thank you great to see you and as soon as they drive Oh, do you know who I just see working at the McDonald drive-thru? Oh my good. I can't believe it. So the next staff I heard I'm hiring from the McDonald drive-thru Because that's humility. So the man didn't leave you cuz of your job He left because he want you and then he went to somebody else cuz he wanted her based on her looks And it ain't work out cuz he chose Based on the wrong things Is it possible to still have love with someone you have had three sons with etc Together almost three years told him together. Now. Did you say married? Together almost three years told him I need to see something more now. It's like crickets Okay, not secure you carry them on here with your personal it's a government name. I'm about to look you up. Oh, it's the ground Blue viewer who this is reason My goodness now you walking in your story now gone write a book on it now Now that you put this question up here You need to go and write your book on how threesome ruin relationships that go your book We need a mouthpiece of a woman Who gonna tell about the detriment of them threesomes now? I'm gonna tell you as a man I'm gonna tell you as a man now see this the thing. I am a Christian man. I'm a good man today But when I tell you I was terrible I was terrible. Okay, but I was a young man I met my wife at 21 But I still was terrible So I want you to understand In my lifetime now I have slept with three women in a 24-hour period But a man with two women I've never had a threesome now I had two women in the bed with me at one time and When one said no she wanted to do nothing the other one said yeah, I was a young man that was before my wife I'm gonna tell you as a man. I think a threesome is senseless Because we barely could please one woman We barely could please one woman and men don't even understand Males don't understand the female body So 90% of men don't even know how to get a woman to a release to a climax So having two women Is just all about ego It's ego, but it's also about childhood trauma So a man who want a threesome is actually a sick man He's actually sick in the head and he needs therapy Because to ask another human Who has the same genitalia and the same makeup that your daughter will have or Has if a man have a daughter That is absolutely disgusting It's actually really disgusting how men how we objectify women and How we degrade women although women are degrading and objectifying themselves a man should never Condone a woman objectifying herself. We have to get to the place as men where we say hey, let's listen I know you wouldn't do that, but You you can't go out like that you can't go out I was asking you to kind of see where your head was on that I'm gonna tell every woman on the sound of my voice and you tell every woman that you know And send her this video or you could put this part don't ever in your life have a threesome Don't ever in your life have a threesome and if a man asked you to have a threesome that man If y'all was the last two people on the earth here kid, you ain't eat you don't ever have a threesome I'm trying to tell y'all women is Don't ever have no threesome Don't ever go to a strip club and don't ever tell a man he could watch porn or masturbate Don't ever condone Fueling Demonic lust Don't ever do it. Don't ever do it. Our society is so lost women have no Clue no idea what that does to a man. It destroyed man. It destroyed man from the inside out So you have to understand that So Can you have love anything is possible? But it's the difference between what's possible and what's probable So you got to understand that though Me personally, I'm not in the business of trying to correct all the stuff that didn't went that far and Especially the fact that it's been three years and you told him it's crickets now one thing about men is Men don't like for you to switch it up So you can't you can't be doing threesome then all of a sudden you say oh, I want to be classy like Cherie Gaskin She never had no three Because the man like hold on now that ain't who I met yet That ain't who I met I chose you because you because you wouldn't to do threesome now you now you want to bike out so That's switching it up a little drastic for a man who nasty enough to want threesome And so what you end up having being that you got a man who have threesome what you end up having is a man who will Make you think y'all monogamous, but be having threesome with two other women Because that right there in him They're right there in him now. Can he change? Yes If he give it like the Christ and he starts bathing in olive oil and speaking in tongues And he walking like talking like acting like smelling like looking like Jesus Christ Hey little crease though y'all wait But if you know if when you sit by that man, you don't start to get you a little holy ghost cuz of the spirit on him No, he came no, he ain't changing. He's not changing He is not changing. Let me tell you that now So sister you and the fact that you say it's crickets that let me know he's not interested in change Cuz if cuz if he was interested in changing it wouldn't be crickets. He'll be like, you know what that actually was a very weird Part of our life and I'm past that I'm over that and I want to be with you, you know, I wanted to be us More pressure than rule the God bless you now She jumped in the VIP line y'all didn't want a second blessing tone I know your thoughts on men in the military, but what about women and family member wants me to join for the benefits associated with the service Thanks, listen It could be benefits with that service that also could be death with that service It also could be PTSD with that service. It also could be trauma with that service and if you blight Yes, I got a lot of clients in the military, but they know they also know my stance on me personally I don't I don't believe in that's going to the service for benefits is is no different than Remaining poor to be on welfare It's like there there are a million Benefits like there's first-time home buyers program You don't need a VA loan There's first-time home buyers program that'll help you with your down payment help you with your clothes It costs you only you don't need to go serve in the military for that The only way you need to go to military is if you love the military for God and country do not go to no military for benefits alone and They wrong for selling the benefits to us To get us in now because I'm gonna tell you like this right here. I have never met A white person who come from middle class Who went to the military for benefits Now is they'll go there because they love it for God and country Because they granddaddy went When he was lost they don't realize they granddaddy was lost when he went and then their daddy went And then so they'll go but They sending minorities in there For benefits the same way We stay on welfare and wick and all of that don't ever go to No military for no benefits Tell you that now it ain't worth it Y'all I would answer another question that came in on the chat And see y'all gotta realize now it dangerous for me to be talking like this You ever want to tell it it's dangerous But y'all know it's something happening to me You know why Tony Tony started hitting on two-month truth now the government say hold on now But you put your head in the hot pocket but hold on So a little can we do a little oddity attack Now listen. Yeah, now me I sit down like Westminster night bottle tell everybody that money I sit down do by the three years Hey If you need to tell what I give to you You know I've been strong on me and I'll fit to be in the jail or phone Still get the message out. You mean I'm being a jailer. I don't convert the whole prayer that you don't even want to put me in I'm convert the whole prayer that everybody come out and be coaches and speakers and offers that be like, man, we sent these people To get them out of here Husband can see the child slash affair stay as child was Uh, no one knew We received counsel while separated got back together another affair this year stuck on will he regret it now divorced I That's tough enough It's tough enough. I'm gonna tell you I'm gonna tell you something you can't ever assume A person will regret something because some people people do what they are And when somebody do what they are they don't regret doing what they did when they do what they are So you can't ever assume somebody regret it what you have to do is just get a lesson from it You gotta get a lesson from it And you got to ask yourself Am I ready to heal and then you got to heal and then you move forward knowing what's possible But loving as if you've never been hurt before but Just a lesson and let this be a lesson to every woman in your family Every woman that you know share your story with every woman Not the overstay her welcome That when she see the sign when a man shows her who she is Like my antelou say to believe them tell your story don't worry about being shamed Tell your story don't worry about being shamed now on consistency gear dot com We got about making one or two more hoodies left And I got some new shirts by nothing. I ain't put them up yet. Now they good now I would go over there and get one. They some good quality now I'm gonna change the patch, but I got a hundred of these all y'all y'all gotta get the hundred off of it Not for me to change the patch now Why does it seem like they're away? Okay, I already have this question because you put it in the multiple time Most of the same behavior You just got to move on so you really ain't no better bike to move on. You just put one foot in front of the other Read books do what you do and be here get new knowledge You got to get new knowledge get you some therapy or some coaching or both and heal and I think men regret stuff at a certain point when you get when we get to a certain point we could regret it, but When you don't know no better you don't regret it and you don't know no better You could know better, but life got that really Sight that lesson in Okay, leaner divine. I see you here ask this question And I went get into it fast enough. So you jumped in the vip lie. God bless you I'm glad you able god bless you in the ear recession able to jump in that vip lie Lessons on to you and your family Tony. Why do most men have the mindset that women have no value after 35? And they claim that women are least likely to be valuable to marry least likely to be valuable to marry after that age To be honest with you I really don't know And I know I'll be on here be having a little bit of answer for about everything, but I really don't know why men Feel that way Especially the fact that a woman living to 90 years old So I don't know. I don't know how at 35 she had no value But what it says to me is that just perverted men to be honest with you because It's to a mind of a grown man a woman age like wine So if you could have 35 year old Wine versus 19 year old Now, of course, I don't know about trying to keep my wine that long, but You get what I'm saying like if we really become adults at 25 A woman at 35 Is really 10 years as a real adult A woman at 20. She really got five more years to go She more Influential and that's why a lot of these guys like these young women because she more influential, but Being more influential go both ways that also mean that she don't know the repercussions of a lot of her choices. So She's so a woman at 20 could be like a leaf in the wind 25 leaf in the wind The man act up. Boom. She going to hop it on another dangle lane a woman at 35 The scene a little more. She know a little more. She got wisdom a lot of mistakes is behind her So actually a man ought to want a woman with a little more maturity a better grasp on life And not somebody trapped in a microwave society mentality somebody like a leaf in the wind So really I'm gonna be honest with you The real reason why this is is because of what I was talking about last night porn babies A lot of these men is porn baby. They're so nasty. They're so shot out And see I could understand this because When you're not in it, it's kind of like if you go to if you go to a dope house And everybody on that dope if you're not on it, you could see them But the people that's on it, they can't see themselves and they can't see each other So a lot of these men that think like this is because they're so nasty They can't even see how perverted the mentality is To want this really old young super young woman They can't even see that that come from pornography that that come from what they were watching and what they get into and that A woman at 35 she's gonna be more mature. She's gonna be more seasoned. She she wiser She's stronger. She's smarter so That's really if a man is that age if a man 35, that's really what he ought to want But it's just the perversion of the world It's the perversion of the world. That's all it is That's all it is Is it possible to still have love with someone after you? Oh sister, um, she kind of changed that name Yeah, so we've not already had that on the screen Unless you had two or not, so say, well, let me change it today Put the hat on. Oh, so we still can see you So that's what y'all can't be asking the question like it just me and you on here nine It's it's people on here nine and then after this it's still gonna be more people to see it And it's gonna be up for lifetime now. So y'all so the coworker. Oh, I work with her Oh You're gonna be at work tomorrow. They're gonna be like, oh, hey, how are you? Um I'm thinking about ordering three items for lunch and you're gonna be like, man, what happened Yeah So we already answered that question for those y'all who miss it you're out to watch the replay Hey, I'm about to be done in 15 minutes nine. That'll be what what that'll be That'll be whatever that'll be Well, I can't know her 9 30 watch it across the hour See when you married and you and your purpose see a lot of men think that The simps that they call us they think that the simps can't work in our purpose Think that our wife just got us wrapped around her fang and just Whiffing on and that we can't remember. Yeah, my wife ain't even calling me. She ain't texting me She in the bed sleep. I'm at the office doing the Lord work That's what a lot of these Wrong boys don't understand It benefits to being a wrong man I've been getting no someone a week. We haven't officially met yet He he finally had an off day yesterday And today but went no contact since monday Is this a red flag? All day Tuesday and wednesday Hmm So you've been getting to know him while he had a job And now that he off he with his woman. Okay. Yeah, he's been talking to you while he at work And now that he all he either with it one or he don't want to visit it one Stand with her That's definitely a red flag but if he living now Now if he if he if he deceased or in the hospital then that's different So you need to look into that But now if you could verify he living check a pulse on him I mean if he on live posting in the store or something And that's a red flag you need to move on about your business And see i'ma tell y'all ladies If a man try you like a baser Okay, a baser baser The way I said it baser If a man try you like a baser, that's a free baser. That's a crackhead If a man try you like a baser In the first couple of weeks That's a clear sign you need to run When you meet a man this man ought to be so sweet So charming So consistent So thoughtful So amazing It sweep you off your feet Because whatever red flag that a man shows you And a woman too it go away Whatever red flag somebody show you in dating Is going to be three times as worse in marriage So you got to understand that Because when we get comfortable we get complacent So if we will show a red flag before we even comfortable It's going to be very terrible When it get deep so that's what you got to understand now Tell them to have Therapy tell them you got to get therapy Tell them you got to get therapy And that's a non-negotiable If a person want to help themselves you got to help them And if they want to help themselves then you got to leave them to themselves Because a person who won't help themselves Going to end up hurting you that's what you got to understand Welcome to the new members here Y'all to join you'll see the join button under the thing The reason why I've been going live is because I've been working all day And I haven't been able to shoot the video I shoot my videos the day of I don't pre-shoot them And so when I can't shoot it in that day, that's why I go live at night. That's why I've been going live Nah Karris kept on posting her questions. So y'all Forgive me Now these are moderators and he'll be blessing me now Be blessing me Hey, thank you for supporting. Thank you for supporting Well one thing we don't like to do as light folks Is support So I appreciate all the support now when you go from just spectator to supporter That's a blessing I unfollowed and removed my ex off instagram And a few months ago. He liked my recent picture and we followed each other again I'm healed from the situation, but I'm curious on why he would be on my page He would be he on your page to Play mind games And to see if he can stroke his ego By getting your attention again To see if you really bought that what you did to really see if you really stand on business And you showing him that you don't And so If the situation was petty and you overreacted that's different Now if he cheated on you Or some serious or you know something like that, then you playing yourself You was playing yourself Thoughts i'm seeing when raising boys alone. No young boys can lose them the rest of them. Can you give them more input? well If you don't have positive male role models The best thing a woman could do Is set expectations Standards expectations boundaries Have consequences You got to have expectations Boundaries and consequences So Have your ask what you asking of him And we'll call it the abc's What you asking of them You have your boundaries And you have your consequences They'll go your abc's. I just made that up now Now why somebody Be on instagram real next week now. This is what you have to do. You have to have your abc's you ask Your boundary and i'll be sitting up And it'll go viral and get a million likes too But a lot of times women feel inadequate The reason why women feel inadequate when raising boys a boy will try you But a boy does respect you the reason why We as boys try to get over on our mama is because of inconsistency A boy will do the same thing to a man But The difference between a woman and a man is a man to really lay down that iron fist And so that boy he recognized masculinity He's not going to respect a woman the same way. He's going to love a woman. He's going to love his mama He'll buy a house. He want to retire Retire her but he's going to try you He's going to try you so you have to have expectations boundaries And consequences And you have to be consistent with those consequences It can be do what you want to do This day and i'ma just let it go and then next time i'ma get on to you the next time let it go He ain't gonna respect that And then you put him around Positive men what you got to be in the mix too Because a lot of men just because a man is a coach does not mean he's a good role model There's a lot of ignorant coaches. There's a lot of ignorant male coaches There's a lot of ignorant male teachers and instructors So you don't take your son and just turn him over to a man just because he got a dandelion You sit right there in that session And you hear what this person telling him and then if you see realize this man is toxic and immature and ain't He'll from his childhood trauma you take your son out of that From up under that man and you go to another team or club or organization if it's robotics or if it's football You make sure that whatever man Speaking into your son life is a is a man with the character that you would marry If you wouldn't marry this man Name time out looks and all that if you wouldn't marry this man's character And integrity don't have him around your son. Don't have him speaking in your son life And I had that with my my youngest boy Tayden. He was on the soccer team Last year and they had a coach this man was so childish and immature I wrote the director and I I wrote the new one And I think the director told that coach because that coach ain't say a word the rest of the season Because I'm like ain't no way in the world you finna be out here acting a fool like this But my child and my child you finna look up to you and think that's what manhood is No playboy got like messed up Hey, Tony, what would make a man get into a relationship with an adult actress? So when you say adult actress, I assume you talking about nasty movies And what to make him get in that relationship With adult actress is his relationship With adult actresses on the phone So he has watched it so much That he is what I call A porn baby And so now he want to bring it to life He want to bring it to fruition And that's why he'll do that. That's the only reason why a man to do that is he is shot out He's shot out and he's absolutely nasty He is completely as nasty as he could be um 52 god bless you now god bless you now Did the growth god bless God just meant I don't want to talk I don't want to talk because he smokes. He cursed me out Saying that's a lame excuse He called next day saying want to love me and told His mom about me Hey, that they tell him that way that smoking calls you bro. Is it worth it? Nikki be god bless you. Welcome to the bless try that way that smoking calls you listen Not wanting someone because they smoke is a standard. That's not a preference. See standards Is rooted in morals and values preferences is just rooted in superficial things superficiality Standards is about a person's morals and values. So if you don't want somebody because they get drunk They smoke They gamble They watch nasty movies Stuff like that morals and values They curse like a sailor Or even curse period, which nobody is that strict about it. That's how I was. I ain't want a woman who curse I'm gonna be honest with you and that's what a lot of time women don't understand Women be looking at certain men who marry and who faithful and be like, oh, I want a man like that And it's like do you because every man I know that's like me Now I want us to marry a woman that curse Now because we don't curse So we're not finna marry no woman with no nasty mouth because we trying to raise sons and daughters So if the woman is cursing and we don't curse because we learn how to bridle our tongue And how to watch our mouth and we don't want to mix The sacred with the profane. We understand a curse word is profanity And we trying to live a sacred lifestyle because in order to be faithful to a woman And to be faithful to god, you've got to be sacred So if you sacred you're not gonna You don't want to introduce and play with the profane So therefore a lot of times women be saying what type of man they want and don't realize that that type of man won't even choose you Because a woman smoking the women smoking hookah smoking weed smoking cigarettes Cursing like a sailor ain't talking about the d word when you stomp your toe And all that ain't talking about you know, but a f word s word I'm gonna be honest with y'all and I hate to say this because I know a lot of women who curse like sailor. It's it's honestly it's disgusting It's it's disgusting. And so that's why I try to tell y'all a man of standard Who is going to be faithful when I say faithful to you as a woman? I'm talking about he's not cheating on you with pornography either So I'm faithful to my wife physically, but I'm also faithful to her spiritually. I don't watch pornography So for me to live on that level It's like listen, I got to be now by pristine Now I'm gonna have me a little bit of yike, but I ain't gonna get drunk That's the thing. You ain't never gonna see me drunk. You ain't never gonna see me Jesus turn water in the wine The sin is to be a drunkard to be a wine bibbler To abuse it So You ain't gonna ever see me drunk Now I might drink socially or I might have a little sip at the house But I'm not gonna be a hindrance to my brother. So even when I go out in public I don't want to drink in public because the person across from me might be struggling with alcohol And the bible tells me don't be a hindrance to your brethren If I go out to eat with somebody who don't eat meat. I'm finna eat some salad with some croutons Because I ain't finna sit here and chomp on no meat in your face If you don't eat meat because I'm instructed not to be a hindrance to my brethren If you don't eat swine I tell me some swine up, but if you don't eat no swine, I ain't finna eat no swine And cuz I don't want to trip you up Or make you throw up So listen to me You got to understand character Now we ain't got much time. I'm gonna get on off him starting to get a headache. So ironically I ate breakfast this morning. My wife brought me a breakfast sandwich and a black coffee Because I'm doing no sugar right now And that was probably Nine this morning 9 30 this morning ain't eight nine cents then I'm starting to feel it Now it's some benefits to intermittent fasting It's some benefits, you know, and I'm feeling the benefits, but I'm also feeling the other side of What if a woman has been married and isn't interested in being married again But still wants a boyfriend or male companionship is it best to just abstain? And definitely yes, it is. Yes, it is best to abstain and If you don't want to be married then don't date because the purpose of having a boyfriend is marriage So again, you can't have your cake and eat it too So if you don't want to get married that means that you are not healed Because marriage is of God So if you don't want to be married then don't be in a relationship because the purpose of relationship is to get married So otherwise otherwise you're going to end up in a relationship and you're going to get plucked induct And then dipped on you're going to get used So Only date intentionally Only date intentionally It's writing a book about my process of accountability that pertains to marrying my ex-husband. The book covers childhood, trauma, good paramarital How do I tell my dad? uh Just saying that I want to talk to you I want to talk to you and then set up a little talk y'all go to the park and say, you know write my story and A lot of part of my story has you know, you and momma in there I told my daddy that and I asked him to read the book and he didn't read the book And then I published the book and boy, they were mad. My mom and dad were mad But guess what after a couple months they got over because they realized their son was doing something And writing a book was better than me selling drugs and I was stepping into my purpose I was doing the work of the lord so they got over and I remember my daddy told me after that He said son I will never not read a book again any time the next time you tell me read the book I'm read the book But I'm actually glad that he didn't read it because if he would have had a problem with it I probably wouldn't have published it And that would have hindered what god got me doing today. So The moral of the story is you can't worry about what nobody else Feel you got to do you got to walk in your purpose So if you call to help people through your story You can't worry about what nobody else Ain't nobody else and they ain't gonna get you in the head So you got to do what you call to do and understand that Hey last question right here a day. It's on a while back. He's not one of the men Couldn't get a title I left him 10 years later. He's back ready to commit wanted me to call each other Me first I don't believe I'm going back but not that far back Not that far back If it's been a year Okay 10 years. No, boy No, don't try to come back. I don't know 10 years. Well, no, you don't went out there and found out what you thought was out there ain't out there I'm gonna tell you something It when you let somebody when you let a man come back After several years it makes you look stupid For lack of a better term it makes you look stupid It makes you look stupid It makes you look lonely It makes you look desperate It makes you look weak because imagine this Imagine you leave somebody standing on the stoop And you go out and you live your life and you have all kind of fun And you come back 10 years later and they still stand on that stoop You really finna look down on them like a bomb Even if you went out and waste all your money and you with the prodigal son You finna be like at least I went and live life. You've been here on this stoop this whole time So when a person running in and out your life The only implication is not that they love you But that you are standing still So you have to understand that So I'd be probably I'd be trying to get in position and loving myself to where I could attract I could attract somebody who won't be the first time around And still to not sure about me don't want me want to go on about their business And they don't want to come back. No, no, I ain't got the time going about your business You keep doing what you were doing. Stay where you at Hey, it's only guys in here. God bless you The Mara we got a call two hour call is gonna be on Zoom And um What a growth club if you're not in the growth club, it's a group coaching So for those of you who you know a hundred dollars an hour and all this that it costs for Therapy and coaching other like and things of that sort Ain't affordable. That's where I started this group coaching to try to make that $47 a month that once a month coaching session where you getting the coaching lesson And then Q&A so your questions and other people questions And so we building and helping each other. That's the growth club I'll put the link in the chat, but you'll see it right on tonigastralacademy.com So y'all join us in that they'll hit just throughout the rest of this year Then I got decided for my door again next year Well, God bless y'all And um, I answered this question Oh lord, I ain't see these other Um Super chats Y'all forgive me Y'all forgive me. Y'all to put me over time. I see I got to answer these because I don't want nobody to spend no money on me and I don't do what you Need from me. So y'all forgive me. I got to go in the overtime I'm turning your head. I'm so hungry and see the bad part about fast like this and I want more bit might If I were to eight on a regular schedule, I could have had that grill I'm white got some grilled chicken and rice at the house. I'm going home I reviewed that big mic He is 31 and had a vasectomy after having twins Who are seven now? I am 30 with no kids. What desire kids? What do you think? Why did he get a vasectomy so early? Well, for one, you don't know if that's his only set that might be the that might be his kids that he claiming He might not know you well enough to tell you about the three other ones he got I really don't understand a man having a vasectomy out of two kids It's like my goodness to me having a vasectomy out of two clear kid mean he'll meet slanger Mean he like to slain me But also if you want kids and he don't That is a foundational thing So with certain things that's a part of your foundation Remember foundation start with an F And a lot of the things that's a part of your foundation start with an F too So one is family You want a family that's that is comprised of kids? He is saying he done with kids So if you can't come to terms on that elf and there's some other elves like your friend groups your faith Your fitness how you view fitness your finances So all these elves I call it the five elves in my book single is not a curse If y'all read You'll read that in there. So with that right there if family not being on the same page It's a no for me dawg like a randy on with him and a randy on the american got title Yes, he's living It's a no for me dawg Got to go They didn't two years. He is good to me early in he said might have a child he Test first child, but wasn't his second baby daddy unknown Feel he's not doing enough to find out If he ain't doing another find out then that mean he might feel like his heels or he can't take He can't take the feeling of it not being his because if he test the first child and it wasn't his that That's for a man a lot of men don't come back from that A lot of men don't come back from that Well, I restart the hood is yet the hood is coming back So I think he just get to go through that again That's very very traumatizing for a man to have been sleeping with a woman And you thinking that it could be yours and come to find out if somebody else is But that also says to me that's a man without discretion So as a woman I would that would be a little red flag if a man is with a woman who is that loose Because she's sleeping with him and sleeping with other men And ain't no telling how many other men yet could have been one other man, but it also could have been three other men so A man is with a woman who get down like that And when a woman get down like that as a man if you have discretion you could sense that Not all the time now it ain't always that easy, but you could sense that and a lot of times you could sense that based on how she moved with you and so a lot of times women Be dealing with a man That has the worst discretion in the world And it kind of speaks to where he is in his life And so that might be his level of woman Now if you're not that type of woman to be sleeping with multiple men at once Then that means you will upgrade to what he used to being with He might not even appreciate you and end up still cheating on you with one of them slaughterhouse women and So I a lot of time look at a person discretion, you know like the quote that say um Don't tell me what they said about me. Tell me why they felt comfortable saying it to you It's the same thing like that right there like okay. Don't tell me What she did tell me Why you was with that type of woman why you couldn't See that just the type of person you with like what what you was on you thinking with your little head I gotta put a time out for laughing my red No, that's what they here to do now true star That's what they here to do When we doing the chat is only questions in the chat Because when y'all put the other stuff in the chat It feel the chat up the way I can't see the questions So the moderator they remove all the little nonsense all the extra stuff because you gotta remember Yeah, once we get going they start removing in the beginning. They'll let all the little smiley faces and all that stuff they'll go and uh Oh man, I didn't even realize I clicked that next question And I don't need like put people name on my page But I did two three videos on that. I just ain't say a name because I don't like to say people name because me I I shoot by my name. So that's why I'm like I speak on stuff. But if I don't call you Then don't come over here because if you come over here on my way out And you're gonna wish you didn't come over here. So if I don't call you by name Then don't come So that's my own speak names. I speak on the situation without speaking without saying the name not out 10 times What I say the name is because the person is so far removed from me. Like if I say Pete Davidson That's a white man A white male celebrity. He probably could bump into me my message and have conceived me But the demographic so far But I try not to say black people name Because it's not a lot of black voices That are positive on that have millions of supporters online so Once you get to a certain level as a black person As far as your brand Pretty much any and every black person Maybe has heard of your name Or even if they don't know you especially influencers or celebrities so That's why a lot of time I don't speak names, but I did speak on that several videos On these last few days of our character That's how we seen that one. Thank you so much for that blessing Okay, I answered that one. I'm just looking for the super chats right now To make shame missing because sometimes I'm missing. I'd be feeling terrible Hey, so God bless y'all. We are all done. I really appreciate the support And I'll be on here when I can this Saturday Is a life coach training Saturday, it's going to be in Atlanta Again, I don't live in Atlanta people think every black influencer live in Atlanta. I do not live in Atlanta Too much sin going on up there for me I would never live in Atlanta unless I'm got me a tv show and it is a Cheek Connected to it. You'll never catch me living in Atlanta. No offense. Y'all who live in Atlanta. They're too much sin up for me I got to be close to the lord Atlanta too far from the lord Y'all path to the digging off and stuff So Saturday life coach training In Atlanta so new coaches And current coaches who have taken my training and welcome You got an email support at tonigas.com to get request pricing And get your invoice There's only a few seats left based on the room. It's a little classroom I had a co-working space and so we're gonna be there. So hey god bless y'all Oh and London for those y'all in London when y'all see this June 11 from doing a meet up in London. It's not a meter. It's a full day training So it's a high ticket day But if you're in London And you want to do be a part of the full day training. I'll be there June 11 God bless y'all. We'll talk soon I'm gonna make it round these different cities Yeah, that's them on Atlanta. I'm gonna get on about it. Uh, especially if you're ready to cheer You're gonna put dresses on your side Yeah, you can put you in the dress on. It's okay. Let me get go