 Bismillah, Alhamdulillahi Rabbil Alameen Wa Salatu Wa Salam Al-Rusul Al-Kareem Wa Al-Alihi Wa Sahbihi Wa Min Tabiat Sunnah Tahu Ilayyumuddin As-Salaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh Welcome again to another episode of your weekly Islamic chat show Lift by Islam And today inshallah we'll talk about something that in theory everybody has generally speaking and that is some kind of friends or some kind of companions and we want to focus today on the effect of having bad friends or bad companions and to do that with me is Ustad Abdur-Rahman Hassan As-Salaamu Alaykum Wa Alaykum As-Salaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh Zakhirullah for coming on again Now like I said, I mean in theory everyone has at least a few friends if not more and friends are something that in many a time we see that the kind of companions that someone has can either lead them to a good way or leave them to a bad way so we want to kind of talk today on the importance of having good friends and the effects that bad friends can have on your in your religion as you as a Muslim Alhamdulillahi Rabbil Alameen Lahu Alhamdulillahi Hassan Wa Al-Thana'u Al-Jameel Wa Shadu Allah Illa Allah Wa Hdahu La Shariqa La Yaqulul Haqqa Wa Hu Wahdil Sabeel Wa Shadu Anna Sayyidina Wa Nabina Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Alaa Ali Wa As-Shaabihi Wa Al-Tabi'ina Lohun Bi-Hasanin Ila Yawmi Dina Ma Baad Friends no doubt as Allah SWT when he brought us into this world he made inside us the desire of wanting to live with one another we can't generally live without each other humans we are nature is to be around each other so what the Shari'a did was the Shari'a here has to work with our essence and how Allah created us so Allah SWT so our well-being and the way we are is good Allah SWT he told us who we should be in their company and whose company we shouldn't be in and that is why our messenger SAW was commanded in one verse who he should be with and who he shouldn't hang around with this is the prophet of Allah Wa Sbir Nafsaka Wa Sbir Nafsaka Ma Al-Ladina Yad'una Rabbuhum Bil Ghadati Wa Al-Ashi Yuriduna Wajah Wa La Ta'adu Ainaka Anhum Yuridu Zina Ta'a Hayati Dunya Wa La Ta'adu Ainaka Anhum Wa La Ta'adu Ainaka Anhum Yuridu Zina Ta'a Hayati Dunya Wa La Ta'adu Ainaka Anhum Wa Ta'a Hawa Hawa Kana Amruhu Furrao Ta Allah SWT be patient with the righteous people Wa Sbir Nafsaka Ma Al-Ladina Yuriduna Rabbuhum Bil Ghadati Wa Al-Ashi Yuriduna Wajah Those people who supplicate into Allah who are hoping for paradise and jannah be patient with them and stay with them Mohamed Then Allah says in the same verse Wa La Tut'a Man Adhafana Qalbahu An Diqlina and do not obey nor should you be with those who are evil those who are the oppressors Also Allah says in another ayah And from this point onwards When the reminder has come to you Don't be in the surrounding of the wrongdoers The criminals So the person has to stay away from it If our prophet was told Stay away from the evil people To be with the righteous people And he's the best who ever walked on this earth He is Aleyhi Salatu Wasalaam Guided by the book of Allah And he was told Be with the righteous ones And don't be with those who are Those who are evil in the wrongdoers Not only that The Sahab has realized That the effect that it has on them Who they are around You know the famous hadith of When he said When we're with you Our Eman creases We're righteous It's like we can see the Jannah and the Nahr But when we are With our wives and our children Our Eman, it decreases The Prophet SAW said If you are The way you are with me In your houses The angels will come down And they will shake your hands In the path on the roads In other words Your Eman increases in my gathering They admitted that So when you're with the righteous person An obedient individual You as an individual deserve So your Eman increases Your Eman increases And the fear of Allah SWT The conscious of him If you read Surah Tulkaf Allah SWT He mentioned to us The young kids The youth who were in the cave The youth who were in the cave Allah told us about them But Allah mentioned something else with them And what is it that he mentioned He mentioned the dog The scholars of Tafsir they said The dog got mentioned Because he was with the righteous people So Allah mentioned them Mentioned the dog Because the dog was in a company Of righteous people And now the dog deserves to be spoken about And he deserves to be mentioned In verses that are going to be Read till the day of judgment So imagine if a person is hanging around With the righteous You're a human You're not a dog You're a human And you're in the gathering of righteous people Then it benefits Your Eman is going to increase But it's like you know The famous Hadith of the Prophet Allah SWT Which is in Sahi'ah That the Prophet SAW He said About a person who goes by a gathering He's not sitting in the gathering He's not here to listen to the lecture He's just going by So the angels are told Write every one of them In the book of the righteous They write his deeds for them And Allah has forgiven each and every one of them Angels they say Allah there is a person in that gathering Who isn't from them He's just a bypass He's just bypassing by And he wants to leave What did the Prophet SAW say? He said They are a people The one who sits with them Is never going to lose out Just by being with these righteous people now And being in their gathering He's got a reward with it And that's something I always say to people You know Even if you say to yourself You know I'm not a student of knowledge I'm never going to be At least try to attend these gatherings Even if you're sitting in the back somewhere Because inshallah you'll fall under this thing And you know Yomul Qiyamah When you need something And your sins have mounted up And your bad deeds Overwear your good deeds This could be what takes you out Just because Like you said You happen to be someone Who's like passing by Who just happens to go That doesn't maybe make notes Doesn't But you're in that good environment Therefore You know you're affected by I mean that kind of reminds me Of that famous hadith Where Prophet SAW said I mentioned that the good companion Is having a good companion Is like the person who's Like the perfume seller And if you go to this perfume seller You're at least going to get You know you're going to Either he's going to give you A perfume as a gift Or you're going to leave with that smell And then he gave the comparison Of the bad friend Or the evil friend Being like the blacksmith That either your clothes Will be completely burned From the sparks Or the very minimum You'll leave having a bad smell Of this burn And that's the problem So you know It's important that we Look who we're going to be Hanging around with Because it's no doubt That you're affected And as you know The Prophet SAW said The person is on the religion Or the way of his companion So let each one of you look Who he takes as a companion So there's no doubt And I think any of us From true life experience When you start to hang out With a certain group of people No matter how honest you are Or how pious you are And you hang out If you start to accompany Those who are less pious Or truthful Or they do certain things It ends up affecting you There's no way you don't leave Like Hadith says At least with that bad smell For example Some bad trace Will be on you from that I remember one time The Hadith that you mentioned Which is in Sahihain From Haditha In Musa Al-Asha'ali In the Mammatah Al-Jalees Al-Sadiha Al-Jalees Al-Suq Al-Qahamin Al-Miski Al-Nafiq Al-Qir The Prophet SAW In that Hadith When I read it to a group Of youngsters one time I remember One of the youngsters I've always wanted to pray the Salah And I've always been stopped From praying Because of a group of people I was with They ridiculed me When I put my head on the floor They laughed at me Are you going to pray now Look how young you are And he said I missed a lot of my righteous deeds Because of the people I was with And of course I said to him Alhamdulillah You've at least realized it now Because you could have been From those who Allah says You might regret the day of Jinn When you come That you're hanging around With the people who've Diverted you from the path Of the Prophet SAW And you cry about it And so Your friends don't just Benefit you here This is the thing that Many people don't understand That the friendship Is one that carries The righteous friend It goes on with you To the hereafter as well And so You might regret The day of Jinn When you come That you're hanging around With the people who've Diverted you from the path Of the Prophet SAW And you cry about it And so To the hereafter as well Allah tells us The two people The believers And the disbelievers Allah says about the believers He says That the Brothers that day The day of Jinn Who are very close With one another Who are caring For one another The righteous ones And it's funny Because Your mother's going to Run away from you that day Your children are Going to run away from you Your relatives are Going to run away from you But the ayah here Is to be together that day The righteous friends Who are together in good You see Another thing is The disbelievers They're going to wish When they go to the hellfire If they only had a good friend They say We don't have No intercessor today No we have A caring friend Who could really care for us So the disbelievers Are going to regret The fact that They don't have good friends That Could have brought them here And not even friends Are going to care for them Rather The evil friend that you take Is going to free himself From you the day of judgment That day The friend that you were Hanging around with Who's evil Who took you away from The straight path Not only is he Not going to help you But he's also Going to free himself From you He'll abandon you there And he's going to Walk away on you that day So As you said Also the prophet Said Don't be a friend Except a righteous person When you're friending somebody Make sure that it's a righteous person That you're with Who you are around And Today If you think about it Any person Who hangs around with a person Who's not righteous You realize that That there's a reason Why you chose this person Because you never see A pigeon fly with a duck The poet would say Don't ask about him Ask about his friend For verily the friend Follows what his friend does If I really want to know Who you are Ismail I just have to ask What type of people are you around Who are around you Who's around you Are they people who are good Righteous Or are you around wrongdoers And criminals If you're around wrongdoers And criminals It's funny because I had nowadays When they interview people And they're taking it from companies They look at their Facebook friends And who they hang around with And how they share And how they share It gives the people an understanding That's how you think And this is who you are And I will lie in the UK We've learned this principle Truly and it's a reality Which is That a friend drags you down He takes you down with him A lot of youngsters we've seen Who went in prison Some of them who were in prison You know He's taking a crime Of another friend of his So are you going to switch Are you going to tell me What will happen But he's taking a sentence For a person that Does really even care about you And if you actually sit With a lot of them And you ask them Why have you ended up in where you are It's just His friends pushed him Pushed him to a level That made him so evil And so bad So La Shaka wa Al-Araib An evil friend Is what destroys a person And a good friend Is what uplifts you And makes you And that's what Imam Shafiq said He said If it wasn't for two things I would never have wished I would never have chosen To live in this world The first one is He said Standing up in light And he said And the companionship Of righteous people He said With these two Imam Shafiq said Is why I wished And I loved to live here It's because of the friends That I have The righteous people around And also The Qiyamul-Lil And the praying at night So the daytime When you wake up You have those people Who you could Who would increase your Eman There's a story I'm going to mention Which is What I read is called Fiqhul-Adriyati What I've written by Sheikh Abdul-Razaq Ibn Abdul-Mahsin Al-Abad Al-Badr Hafidahullah Wata'ana I read this book I finished it And I read it once Not twice Not three times I even summarized the Kitab And all the benefits I needed from it I wrote a content page For it I benefited from this I'd book I'd done it I gave my mind to it It's a Kitab Which is very comprehensive By the Sheikh He summarized All of the works And Ibn al-Qayyim In this Kitab In this book of his Sheikh Abdul-Razaq This book Increased my Eman Without a shadow of it That And it made me really admire The dua and the adhkar But it didn't touch me As much as When I met him He Came a visit to us In a city In which I was at Which is In Saudi Arabia I was in Ha'il At this particular time The Sheikh came over To Ha'il And he had a lecture To give for us Which was called At Tawakul And before he started the lecture He prayed Salatul Maghrib And I ended up praying Right next to him Maghrib On the front row I prayed right next to him He was right next to me On my right And when the adhan went off Before the iqama The shikh lifted his hands up And he made dua And I could hear What he's saying I could hear The words that were coming Out of his mouth Number one Seeing him The way he was Begging Allah Supplicated It really touched me It truly touched me I was amazed It really made me Honor the concept of dua The second thing is One of the du'as That he was saying The sheikh I heard Is that Allahumma inni Ya'udu bika minyum su Oh Allah I see Refugee in you From an evil day And from that same Du'a hadith Hadith in the Imam of Tabarani In writing this Du'a In it is that Wa min sahib Su Two things I left with Number one Is the sheikh's action Just by being Around his Perfume shop I benefited Knowing the importance of it The second thing is The du'a that he made He would seek refuge From Allah From a bad friend Which the Prophet used to do A.S. So it's amazing that With being Sometimes reading Volumes of books But hanging around With the righteous person It could be more beneficial for you I think on that point We'll just We've got about Three or four minutes left So we've obviously discussed The importance of Having good friends We mentioned different hadith About the effect of Having good friends And we've mentioned The effect of having Evil friends So maybe in the next Three minutes Just to end the show Do you have any tips For people Who On how to Try and stay away From bad friends And some advice You would give them For those who keep Making bad friends Or keep going back To that old group Of friends That they're trying to Stay away from Without a doubt A bad friend Is always found In bad places So a bad friend Is always found In a bad place And if you're looking For a righteous friend You're always going to Find the righteous friend In a good place That's why The Sahabas They knew that It was the masjid And we mentioned the hadith That these people Who were going through The circle Who were sitting down Just to listen to the lecture But they're not from it They gained the reward Of being forgiven Because they came To the righteous people's hub The righteous people The masjids And so they came there And then they got The reward with it They accompanied The righteous people In their place So this is the truth This is the reality A lot of people say I always tend to fall In the hands of the wrong People The reality is that You're probably going To the wrong places If you come to the masjid If you come to the circles Of knowledge You'll always find The righteous people If you connect yourself To the masjid You're going to find The righteous people And as a prophet He said to us in the hadith Allah is with the Jama'a Where the Muslims are And the devil eats The wolf eats The goat that is alone Or the sheep that is alone If you ever want To know if A shaitan is going to get you He's going to first Take you from the Jama'at Of the muslims He's going to take you From the masjid If you look at every person Who became deviated Whether in their beliefs Whether they became Sinners You'll always find That they're not connected To the masjids They can't So that's why I say That if you want to attain Or want to have good friends Around you You have to go to the right places You have to hang around With the righteous people Another thing is that A lot of us have In a fiority complex We feel like We're low We look down at ourselves And anyone who's Out there is better than us And because you have that in you You always can be influenced By others But if you're a strong minded person You have You respect your religion And no one can really Like if you want to go to Salah You say I want to go to Salah If you want to Read Quran I want to read the Quran And I feel like Because you have Peer pressure You feel You look down at your own name And your deen A lot of these people They feel like Without even bad friends They go to school But they think They have to change their name Just have to change it They just don't let people say Mohamed They say Mo There's no friends there Nothing But they have the fiority complex So where does this all come from? Coming to the masajids Where you feel honour in your deen You feel honour in your religion And Allah SWT He gives us good friends And makes us righteous JazakAllah JazakAllah for coming on the show And also to the viewers InshaAllah we've given Some good points there On the importance of having good friends And the effects Of having bad friends And some tips inshaAllah So inshaAllah until I'm in the same place Within the next week I'll leave you as always With the greetings of As-salam As-salamu alaikum Warahmatullahi wabarakatuh