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Bahali ake smooth weekend Loving the show from east side Ojim, Pendawengi, Jasto from Kisi I prefer gambling, should continue Manze ina sa idea wa se mob, DJ ako late Ani chaze figaya ethic You ita come through Ethic, point easy Ya, but that one was not as bad as I was at Kitamu Ya za, ya za kel mutwa taku japa kifumi ya I don't know if we have some more comments Yes, we do We have litmas Sports gambling shall not Shouldn't stop because this is a platform where those who are born with luck get to use their talent Sports betting pier in a sponsor, almost all KPL teams We need it Esbon kichels, no because Some people are getting their living there Una jua, wewa wezi jua Ju you are employed, okay So gambling is just fine to some use from LD, representing, thank you so much for your feedback Sia Godfrey, tune in from Nakuru, say hi to Iwa and then DJ Russian Hi On the topic of today, gambling is a game and are living to most young generation on my point of view if it is banned then it will be bringing about rise in criminal cases because most young generation will look for another other means of to supplement it DJ Russian nichezengomaya root boy together Okay, most of these people are supporting it Okay Ha, litmas kisumut colokts Msewa madem All right, okuna angapi I believe he is a manager Inatuangusha sana sana Sana Msewa madem once again play for me wa mlambez Litmas, DJ Russian umewesu sana Show equal lit Michael wawero wacha watu waji jenge gambling Waji jenge gambling indale kwenda and tell the DJ to please play for me Christmood party by Jeff Mirak Do you know that one? I don't know that one, you know it Msewa madem again Yup, this is because it reduces capital Liz Tami Dakute watching from Kita Kitalem Okay, Liz Tami I think it should not be banned because most people are making hands making hands from gambling play for me Godobai Aroboi at least there is a lady who has spoken and she's supporting it All right, I don't know what you think about it but the problem is the age and people thinking that this is the only way to to earn money I don't think that's right That's not right Yeah, that's not right Yes, I don't know if you have some more comments All right, then that's about it We'll be just keep sending them and we'll sample them as the show goes on So my next guest he goes by the name Stephen Amimo he's a counselor he's a motivational speaker among many other things Welcome Thank you, thank you so much Thank you So how are you feeling today? I'm feeling good because at least I talked to fellow youths you know now this is youth to youth so we talk to them and we encourage one another Yes, so kindly introduce yourself My name is Stephen Amimo I'm a motivational speaker and I'm a person who is there to at least help fellow youth to understand one another you know this is the game that maybe somebody might not be understanding what we go through sometimes so helping fellow youth to understand how we can make the next trade so that we can achieve our success which is very vital So today you want to talk to us about taking responsibility for our lives Yes So how do we do that? And why are we supposed to take responsibility for our lives? You know one thing that is very important and one thing that is very paramount is about taking responsibility of your life it is just like the first step that every person should take many times you see people want money they want even they will want people even in a relationship many people will be crying for I want girlfriend I want a wife they will be crying I want resources but have they taken responsibility of their own life because if they have not taken responsibility of their own life even if you are given all those things they will go into waste if you are a man you are given a wife you will just waste if you are a woman you see because when I take responsibility of my own life everything that happens in my life I am accountable totally for example if someone hurt me even if my girlfriend hurt me I ask myself what was my own contribution to my hurting you see but so that is very important because when we don't take responsibility of our own life means that we leave the burden to other people and when we leave the burden to other people those people will leave the burden also doesn't care who cares more about you so you are saying in whatever problem you are facing even if it is not just yourself there is a part of you that contributed to that problem yes it must you must have a contribution anything that happens to you and sometimes for example like maybe some things which are above our control few for example the death of maybe our loved ones we don't have control over them so but as much as even we don't have control then what is responsibility that do I have to take after that happen you know yes it has hurt me will I still be lying down you know it's being said that those who succeed are not those who people who always get it get it get it but those people who wake up very quick when they fall you know sometimes some of them take too much time down so how do I take that responsibility by taking that step very quick to move on yes why is it that you decided today you want to talk to the young people about taking the responsibilities what have you seen that has made you decide that people are having such problems because they are not taking responsibilities for their lives because you know you have seen many people even me I have been a victim at one point why because I felt that at some point I was in a state for example coming born in a low low income family so as much as it was something that happened in my life so sometimes I felt that I should cry so much because of this kind of position I have I should get sympathy every time sympathy I go to somebody explain and you know when I go to somebody expect that that person much sympathize with my story but yes the people will sympathize but not all will sympathize so that tells me that I have myself and also many youths here even me sometimes I will be crying that I don't have resources to do something for example I'm a musician I will be crying yes I don't have a money to go to studio to shoot a video can you just take your phone every day in the morning or even when you're working and you do a selfie a selfie video well when you're singing you do it and you send it it might inspire someone you might never know that song might reach you never know who is watching at that particular point so by saying that's why I'm saying you know let us not just cry of what we don't have means that when I take responsibility of myself already I'm taking accountability of what I'm already in possession of yes so it's not about what you don't have yes use whatever you have so that you can get what you want yes you know when you use what you have it will be a pool to what you don't have you're just taking a step yes a little example if I have a body and for example have a body I'm a man I have a body if I'm this my body I protect it well yes I don't miss I don't miss beer I even go to sport my body is strong very well yes it can give me money the people who are who are doing hard words just because they have just unbuttoned their shirt and we'll sing that I think you've seen them because I've just used what I have but you know somebody will be crying of what he doesn't have for example somebody will be crying of even coming to tv and I have not this opportunity of coming to tv but the people will say they will talk to them yes so that particular what do you have even as a lady for example as a lady you are body itself not just to do maybe to do bad things or to behave as a to make you look a natural model but you can use it we have seen some ladies who are protected their body very well even with the natural natural things like aloe vera so their body are shining very well vaseline take them they market when we see them we see wow like they come from the sky no they just come from the earth using what they have yeah just using what they have so what hinders people from taking responsibility you know is the narrative that has already been created you know like for example when we'll get the narrative for example of young people who want to be entrepreneurs the narrative will always be there's no capital yeah so when there's no capital why do I want to start start a business I will not start because already I have the idea that there's no capital that's this that narrative all this narrative that's been created that maybe to get capital is is hard so I don't want to crack and go against this odd I don't want to go against this already created narrative so there are a lot of created narratives in life for example even in school you get a narrative that maybe chemistry is hard physics is hard that's already created so when I'm there I cannot take responsibility of taking a book and reading day and night day and night day and night every day so that I can fail read again fail so that I can see is it really hard because if I can read something then tomorrow I write it in paper the same same thing then I'm getting it wrong you're getting yeah no it is impossible yeah you see so that so such are narratives in life maybe from your from your own background home you have a such narrative that there's no person from our family who have gone past that has ever succeeded you see so such are narratives that people have and these narratives a lot of them in us in life you see that narrative that maybe there are only good good jobs yeah some good jobs can job some jobs are not well paid even a a cook some cook make very very good money a very good money very good money the white color yes the color jobs you know so those those are such narratives so means that all people will be running for all all all those white color jobs those banking jobs you see but even just sweeping if you can be a good sweeper and think think of this sweeping as a business now yes you know just not just being a sweeper but having this sweeping and thing as a business so you know like somebody will just be seeing sweeping us a job so such narratives that have been created and we already absorbed them and we use them then they hind us what about excuses seeing a lot of time in life we tend to take excuses when things happen to us for example already even we have touched you come from a low background family and you'll be asked why didn't you even perform in English or why didn't you perform in composition I never went to a good school you understand but you can you ask yourself even the book of English the textbook just the general textbook did you have take a chance to read it all of it from page one to page two day did you even take even a chance of reading even the magazine that your mama bought was wrapped with some let me say some food stuff yeah you know that because that will help in practice so a lot of time we take excuses rather than knowing that these excuses are our own faults so many and you know these excuses give us they like they act as our so-called observers yeah so they cheat us yeah they you okay you okay you're not doing this because you don't have this yeah so we like keep you in a comfort zone comfort zone yeah so you know when you even yourself you to all that's what I'm not rich is here because I don't have I've not reached it here because I came from this family I've not reached here because of this my name you see for example like even name like we know yaskanya sometimes we believe and at least or we can have some some proof that it is tribalistic yeah and so man because we believe that my name come from this tribe and so because of this my name I cannot go pass this yeah that's an excuse go knock those doors even of of those tribes that you believe cannot accommodate you they will accommodate you I believe at least in each part of this country even in each company even which is on with even which which kind of person they must have at least some some some people from different they must mix it a must so means that some of us have not knocked yes and if you are too good to be to be ignored then no matter your tribe no matter your name no you will you you will be accepted so you know some people have not knocked some doors because of such believe some such excuses and this to the narratives the narratives you know those excuses become also you know now those excuses become our own created narrative you know there's some narratives which were created by the society but this now our own created narratives yeah and they tend to cheat us they tend to back up us and we continue with the life so being a counselor there is that period where we had so many deads of young women especially from maybe people who are in relationships with them what was the take on that and maybe if you encountered someone who has had such problems and how you guided them through it yeah you know sometimes when we get inside in this relationship sometimes we get with our old self without even giving the second thought without another thing we get with too much expectation you know in life when you expect much expect also a lot of us you know that's why I was saying about taking responsibility even of your thoughts and emotions even of your happiness so means that we expect love we expect happiness from people people to give us flowers to give us happiness you see people to buy us shoes to give us happiness people to hug us to give us happiness you see so means that if that person is not there if that person is hug another person then I'm dead if that's that's crucial yeah expecting other people to make you too much you make expect so means that even love we should have what is called self compassion self love love yourself then you will attract somebody and that person will automatically hang on you even you are the person who will say I it's too much because when you have already you have that love it will shine and it will be now just who's in it how it will be who's in it and people will will want to have it and you just get attracted attracted that love and even you need you not need even to teach people to love you you need to love yourself when you feel the happiness your happiness you take care of your happiness even you take yourself out you need not afraid to take yourself out you can take yourself out yes read good books you see me that's that's about also loving yourself because when you read good books they train you We take our time thinking of even people who doesn't even think of us. Sometimes I'm thinking of somebody who's chatting with somebody who's telling me, or her, I love you. And you're here stressing yourself about this person kumbe. Because I'm telling another person. What if it happens? I know it happens. I know because sometimes when we are growing up, because of this habit of first love, but let me tell you the challenges of something that I've realized. Yes, I did criminology in investing. And with some units in psychology. And that's why I have that personal psychology. And when we were doing psychology, we were being taught about how the child would affect you as a person. And I find it true. For example, you are a lady. There are some people who have not grown, not even a lady and even boys, that those people have not grown with their father's love. That father's love is very important. For example, you are a lady. This lady grows without a father in his life, without a male person who is a father in his life. You have never seen a hug. You have never seen a hug. So this person have never heard the word I love you from any man. So when you get it from another man, he clings on it. This is something that I miss, but you see, for example, me have a child, I have a little baby girl. When I go to the house, when we play, I give a pek. I carry her. So me that he already got even the embrace of of a male person, of a father. You see that one. So me that even one day, even if another man is going to tell him, I love you, this just loves that he would get many love from another man. So another man cannot play with in the heart because already even, but you know something. She got any from the father. The father figure. Now you understand again. This society that most and you know, these are phenomena because of some of us, some even men, some of them are not taking responsibility of their children and the children are outside there. So this children grow even without love of that father. So they grow just carelessly, grow with no love of a man. And even with even your brothers, you grow in a dysfunctional society where people just jumping, and disorganize society. Even your brothers doesn't embrace you. So when you get such love from another man, he will manipulate you. And you know you know that this. You have you do not get that. So you are clinging to it when he lives. You're broken. You understand because this is something that your mama cannot give you. And even it has been proven that unlike terms, it is not seen. It is proven. Even God never brought to Adam like. Adam and Adam. So when you are going, even if you go to your mama, when you are at broken crying and your mama tell you everything is okay, because you even tell your mama you don't understand what I'm going through. Because you can, yes, she can provide the mother in love, but she cannot provide other one. So you see that is a challenge. And we are even likely to more to experience it because there are a lot of more irresponsible maybe parents and responsible even men living children. You see even you are watching Jeff Kwenange live and you see about absentee fathers. You see such things. So when we talk about even those heartbreaks in psychology we don't just look it as a matter of something that has happened. Deep background. The things you know like a child if you read psychology even jazz this one, eating your nails it has something that will portray it even portrays something that will be in future. For example, if you look at it those things happen in life because it doesn't just happen because of things that happen to you now. It's rooted from your child. So when we talk about even taking responsibility for now we have to talk about ourself but when we talk about this generation we should talk about parenting and take responsibility. We know when we start talking about parenting, now we are going to blame game, which already cannot even help us. Now when we look at youth to youth, we tend to now tell them, yes it's already happened, but we need to have these classes. When we talk to even about these girls, we have men who can embrace, who can embrace fellow, even who can embrace these young ladies on safe hands. And also ladies who are sometimes are afraid because some men are not also safe. So me that they still, even their uncles, for example you will ask me, if their parents were there, what about their uncles? Could their uncles have helped them this? But even they are afraid because we have seen of our parents even raping their own children. So even maybe these ladies can be afraid. So because they are afraid of people, so they will tend to fall on wrong hands. Yes, okay, so we are running short of time and I want to just in a few words to tell us the key points in taking responsibility of your life. Yes, advise the youth and tell them why it is important for them to do so. Thank you. In taking responsibility of your life, the things that you must do, first of all you must be a person who is positive. A person who always see good in the life of others. You see, yes I believe that not all people will be good to you. But you must try as possible that you see good things tend to all on good things. Because when you tend to all on good things then you will not be hurt so much. You know sometimes yes even you will have your wife because yes young people even you see there are a lot of voices for young people. You have your wife but do you look even on good things or you tend to only look on bad things. So be somebody who always look good on good things on people. Another thing you should be somebody who stops blame games, throwing issues on people. For example yes for example me as now straight throwing my failures on my father. My father never saved for me. My father never did this for me. You see my father never they never took me to good school. Yes, yes those already happened. Those already passed. Leave it behind. We leave it behind and now we move forward. And that take us to our next point that we should live in the present. We should stop living in the future rather stop living in the past. You see there are some people who live in the future. Yes. You see even ataku wewa onava in the future. But can you live in the present because when you tend to live in the past you will be so disturbed with the things that happen. Yes. If you live in the future you will be it will be so much expensive because you will try to do things which even sometimes you don't have the capability of. Means that you must tend you must try and do your best to live in just in the present. Another you must stop excuses. At all stop excuses. When things happen take responsibility. Say yes it was me. Yes. Did it work the glass? Yes it was me. Not that you place the glass on next to that just next where it could fall. Just see it was me and move on. You impregnated this particular lady? Yes. Then what is now the solution? Step 4. Don't run. Stop excuses. It was the lady who came. You see such things. Another one we must now stop complaining. We complain too much. Complain complain. Who is ready to hear your complain? Nobody. So you should stop. We all go to it. We must post it on Facebook. Complains after complains on Facebook. It's a solution for problem. It's not anyway. So those are the points. The last one is stop procrastination. When you take responsibility of life you must stop procrastination. I will do. I want to be a musician. I will. I will. No no no. Start now. Call few people sing to them. Yes. Either way do I say shoot on the stop procrastination. I want to read now even some of you I know. Your plans of reading some books, novels. Stop saying I will read. Take the book read even two pages. Yes. Yes. So you must do it now. Now. Still in the future. So if someone wanted to find you on social media for advice. So I can find you. You can find me through Facebook. At Stephen Amimo. Find me even in the Facebook page. That is called SM Amimo. In Instagram SM Amimo. In Twitter at Twitter you will find me at Stephen Amimo. Then in YouTube also there are some videos that are placed there that I'm using to advise. And to encourage people even to motivate people and to look on things which are affecting people. So comment and even call me. My number is there. I'm ready to share as we grow together. Yes. Because we are young people we grow together. Yes. I know there is so much to talk about. Yes. But I'm like I said we are short of time. Thank you. So we will find time to expand more. Thank you so much. So thank you so much for making time to join us. Thank you. Yes. So as you have heard from Stephen Amimo there are so many things you need to stop complaining, stop giving excuses, live in the present. There are so many things you can do so that you can take responsibility of your life. So we are taking a short musical.