 It is Monday. I am still on vacation. I'm still in vacation mo. Yeah, I feel like my glasses are dirty as hell I really need to get some new glasses. Um My goal was to get some in a couple of more months But we're gonna have to postpone on that. Uh These glasses were about three years old, but they're Versace Versace Versace they're Versace and they're really really good quality Of course I get I had some glasses Two years ago. I got glasses two years ago last year. I got contact So if you know if you were insurance, you can only use your insurance for one of the other contacts or glasses So last year I opted for contacts a year before I got glasses But the prescript the reason why I wear these the prescription on these is a little bit more crisper than the one than my previous one Girl, yeah, my hair is crazy. This is still that Um, but this up here y'all is this better? Let me do it right there. This is still that Girl band two not yeah, I didn't even last at all didn't get me Yeah, it gave me great hold the day of but by the next day, okay And now this is the third day not even having it But I'm going to be detangling my hair today for wash day tomorrow And I think I'm gonna go ahead and review that Q that is I pronounce it I'm gonna look up the pronunciation But I'm gonna compare it with that in the Felicia leatherwood. I can tell you already that dang gone Udek who that that brush that comb excuse me as heavy as hell It's bulky and it's heavy. It looks like a it's the size of a flat iron So imagine using a not even a flat iron. It's bigger than a flat iron. Yeah a huge one of those big Flat irons with you know, not this small skinny one, but a big flat iron Just imagine trying to detangle your hair detangle your hair with a flat Yeah, so yeah, I'm at the gym. I will be going in but yeah, thank you all for all the birthday wishes I had a fabulous birthday. It was awesome We did end up going out and look I am glad that I listened to my mommy intuition and dropped JB y'all because My friend wanted to show it up with her boyfriend now first of all, I didn't even know she had a boyfriend girl I didn't even know and so she showed up with him. She was a little late and normally she's on time I'm like, why is this helpful late? She was like almost 30. No 20 minutes late And I'm like, why is she late? But that's okay. We didn't have any, you know when I'm going out Whatever you show up when you can baby. So When she texts me, she's like I'm on my way. I said cool I order you a drink and she's like what order me to wink wink She sent an emoji that had a wink. I'm like, what the hell does that mean by then? I've already had some liquor in me. So I'm like, whatever girl your ass gonna get one You know, I'll get you another when you get here. So she showed up with her boyfriend Right and so she are she must have already been prepared y'all because I am the same person that you see me here in Person that I'm the same person that ain't nothing changing about me. So I I rarely I Say what's on my mind and when I got some liquor in me I really say what's on my mind So a lot of my friends when they are introducing me to someone else they give them a um They give him a heads up about me You ain't got to do that. You know, they should know, you know already you you'll be oh, they'll be okay Hell so she's like I already told him about you. I gave him a heads up how you are I'm like, what do you mean a heads up? Shit so anyway They walk up and she's like, hey, everyone. Um, this is my boyfriend Francis. I said Francis So he starts laughing great gentleman older gentleman not older 40s in his early 40s Cuz hell we we 38 she's turning 38 in two more weeks actually and she's like yeah I already told him about you. She said I know you don't like surprises. I said, you know You know damn right. I don't like no surprises y'all bowl I was okay But I was a little worried about my husband because my husband is an extreme introverted if you know introverts They don't like surprises. They need to be prepared for who's coming. We need to stop your Facebook page We need to know what's what's coming so but he did good. He was fine. We was fine. We had a good time We were there for like two and a half hours. Yeah Drinking it up eating it up and of course her ass is like she's like we're going to Vegas and And her boyfriend said you guys want to come I said, oh, we can't come we got a baby We we can't go to Vegas and one just like yeah, she's like when they go to Vegas They don't tell anyone they go to Vegas. They do it big for days and we leave. He's like, oh really I see yes We go we we drop some coins, baby, but we don't really you know, we're not the type Again intro introverts. We're not the type to you know flun it on on Facebook You know, you guys saw that vlog a couple of times, but Excuse me, I don't tell people about stuff until I'm actually on my way or when I come back You know, I'm not inviting people you want to come here. No, you can't come on my vacation No, no, you know with family. Yeah, you know, my family was there that time before and that's different, but Yeah, he invited us to Vegas. I'm like, no, we can't do Vegas not not especially how they do it girl They were out to they'd be out to two or three o'clock. She tells me but that's good I'm happy for her. But oh, yeah, she's like, you know, I got this cake. I want you to make me for me for my birthday I'm like girls sent send me the recipe. She wants some straw. She said a strawberry a strawberry pound cake With some type of with coconut icing or something. She said I she's the only one I know The only one I know who could pull this off is you I'm like, okay, girl. I don't see what I could do Yeah, it's getting hot in here. Let me let down the window Window look country as wonder But getting closer to 40 is doing something to me mentally, so Yeah, I was this morning really taking, you know, a little time to think about okay, Vivian We really need to start manifesting what we want to do in life I mean going on some things were kind of put on hold due to my surgery and just school starting and busy with Getting JB situated, but now I'm getting back refocus. Okay. Um, I listened to a couple of self-help dialogues this morning and One of the major things Chia what is going on with this man's hair? I think his hair is still wet and it's sticking up in the in the front like alfalfa. Y'all know what I'm talking about Girl poor thing. Oh lord Jesus. So anyway, y'all I can't laugh Lord. I can't laugh loud because my windows down and he's walking by God forgive me. Y'all pray for me. Um Getting closer to 40 and thinking about I don't know if a lot of people really take into consideration or think about as they hit a certain land mine not land mine. Um Financially I will be the first to admit I've gotten a little bit of trouble Um over the course of the past few years and especially since I I got back with my husband And just being a little irresponsible financially The good thing about it is that I make a good living But when you make my I feel like more money you make the more money you can spend, right? So the way that we work things out in my family, I don't have any problems telling you guys I feel like a lot of people um You know Not going to tell you how much I make but I feel like a lot of folks You know or a little bit secretive to how they deal with their finances finances and especially if they're married Um, they typically don't share unless it's another married couple girl, please Y'all know um in our household My husband take care of the major bills meaning the mortgage the electricity I take care of all the small little bills and of course we both take care take care of any um Depths that we have acquired I sell ourselves Now I know a lot of couples they put all their money together and everything goes I don't want now we do have We have one account that's combined and then we have a savings account for JB that we we both um Uh contribute to but girl we have our own accounts. Are you serious because I'm the weaker of the two Yeah, I can't be responsible for that. Now one of the one thing that I do is that I manage all of the household bills But something that's like a huge project that deals with the house He'll take care of it's for example the solar panels, which we're getting in a couple of more Weeks I can do more weeks are installing it. He took care of all of that financially and organizing all of it I didn't even know about it and so he told me, you know, he's like, I'm thinking about getting solar panels And he took care of all of that. He managed it. I just asked him how it's going. That's how it works for us Um now since oh and I was to encourage JB stuff But but if I needed help with that, absolutely, he would you know provide Financial resources girl. So anyway, um now since JB is in school and I don't have that $400 $500 sometimes $600 a month Um I could use that money towards other things like paying off this damn debt that girl So yeah, I'm just thinking about that and my husband um, and I discussed possibly purchasing land in east texas for mostly for JB Again creating generational wealth right now I'm trying to get out of as much depth as possible before I turn 40 So that by the time I'm in my 40s, I could put more towards my 401k and just have a little bit that I'm just paying on Does that make sense? So yeah, I'll have a good 25 30 years left of working girls So I might as well up my four-way contribution as much as possible Um, but in the in the meantime also try to Invest in something so purchasing some land later on if he wants to retire later on Because right now it's it's very affordable to get it right now. Um And so while we're there in texas next month, I'm going to see about speaking to a real estate agent And I know I have two or three family members who have well They have a house that sits on acres. So it's not like they just purchase land The home that they got is on land. So yeah, y'all just thinking about stuff like that Look, I'm not trying to leave any depth for my child Hill, I ain't trying to have any depth for me Instead trying to have some type of wealth for my child and I think land is the way to go right now. Um I was asking what do you think about investing in the stock market? He said no, let's just take all that money Because that's that's gambling basically. Let's just take all that money and put it into Buying some land for for our child. So I'm like, okay I came all the way up here to return JB's clothes and children's places shut down They were open two weeks ago. They're gone. So I'm wondering if they're doing mostly online stuff because I when I would go to their When JB was a baby, there was no one in there What do my eyes look red? I think it's the setting anyway. So I went to um Rubio's to get me some food Tell me some nachos and they have sangria girl. I got me a sangria and sat down and chilled out um And then after this, I'm going to go to nothing but cake and get me a red velvet cake I hope y'all can hear me. We'll see when I play this shit back But yeah, they got rid of um charm and charlie's they got rid of panera bread They got rid of a lot of different stuff out here Yeah, I changed my nail polish color yet again. I wasn't liking that hot pink anymore. So I changed it too. Um, this is um awful So, yeah, I'm just relaxing so putting up some vitamin z I am home. I don't care. It's kind of cute like this girl Um, I want to look watch claws before I go pick up boo boo. Y'all we we one of JB's nicknames is boo boo We got a lot of different nicknames for him boo boo tuna tuna Um So sweet. He was good this morning. I had to I didn't have to bring up my flip-flop girl That was a little good me time. I text a few people follow up with a few folks to see how they're doing Um, girl, I am not watching roman. It's israeli. Esquire with denzel. Yeah, I can't watch that with him looking a hot damn mess He really got into character for that movie. Um, let me show you what this is I got my birthday cake from nothing but cake if you're not familiar with nothing but cake First of all, if you're not familiar with a bont is bu n d t. It is the shape of a cake pan a type of cake pan Which is a bont cake pan um, mostly used for pound cakes and stuff like that. So, um, bont cake and pound cake can be interchangeable. However Traditionally, you know, we'll do a little history on y'all a pound cake was made with a pound of flour A pound of butter, you know, that's why it was called a pound cake But anyway, so I got the red velvet Bont cake Did I ask for extra icing because she sure didn't give it to me because you're asking me ask for it girl I will probably eat all of this. So go ahead and judge me. Um, because I'm not having dinner tonight That I didn't eat all of those nachos, but it said it was a thousand calories Mm-hmm, and I consumed about 800 This is another 300 I'm trying to do no more than 1500 calories a day. I did work out today too Yeah, real quick when I went to the gym I forgot my headphones and so I asked the little girl at the um Counter I said, do you guys sell sell headphones? She's like, yeah She said, but if you want you could check the loss and found for you know, I'm pretty sure someone You really think that I'm gonna get somebody's else's earphones and put they damn wax in my ear You dirty helper. Yeah. No, that's nasty. I said, oh, I said, oh, no, that's nasty. Um, they could have They could have like staff or something So she had some torch me seven dollars seven dollars. Um Mm-hmm This is so good Y'all when I tell you and they put um chocolate chips in it Yeah, my job gave me this bought me this for my um My baby shower they they hosted me a baby shower at my work when I was pregnant So What I was kind of saying while I was at the um, I know you're really probably couldn't hear me is that I'm getting burnt out on product reviews Not necessarily hairstyles but product reviews. I'm getting burnt out on so I still have the woman to woman series coming up More than likely in october But um, as far as hair related. I am done with product reviews. I just am y'all. Um Hmm I have those two product reviews coming up And I have soltanicals coming up. I think it's september Um Of and I'll let you guys know that's I don't I don't feel like a lot of youtubers other youtubers let y'all know You know as far as sponsorships and stuff like that I probably have I say about once a month. I'll have a company reach out to me to do a product review Now I think I mentioned when I when I was with naturally curly It was a lot more frequent because they had an actual reviewer program. Um And sometimes I would reach out to people and they would be like cool. We'll send you stuff But now I'm like no, I don't want anything girl. Um I don't have any more room in the back like there is no more room I've built up all four shelves. It's ridiculous So I don't want to you know make any promises Or I want I don't want to do something that I know that I can't stick to um, so instead of you know coming on and I don't know I think of that for me realistically to do a Three month update six nine 12 month, that's realistic, you know, perhaps as well if I'm going to try a new diy because I'm you know I'm about my diy if I have some, you know, some diy um deep conditioner or a pre-poo Then I can share that but to actually go out and scout quote-unquote for new products I won't do that. I won't be doing that. Yeah, I'm sorry Um, and the products are essentially free because what I do is when I get my youtube coins on the 21st I take that money and turn around and pay myself and then I go by, you know About 50 60 dollars worth of hair products. So yeah girl We ain't just Using our own coins to buy these products. So this stuff is expensive. I don't want to add more type of content meaning I'm already doing cooking Vlogging reviews tutorials. That's a lot in my opinion. Oh and the series, you know So that's a lot. That's like five different areas. That's a quite a bit And I will more than like, I know y'all see don't slow down on the cooking. Will you help us? Not everyone watches those So Yeah, that will be coming to 8n. I mean, yeah, no um It takes twice as much time for me to produce produce like on it It takes twice as much time for me to create those videos and I don't have nearly as many views I'm spending twice as much time to record edit Try to come up with the recipe Just to get 200 views. It's not worth it. It's as Ask any other youtuber what they do that. No, it's not worth it. It's not worth the time and hassle putting together I actually have like two cooking videos on Private because I'm trying to think of what the recipe is Because I don't I don't make recipes. I mean, I don't use recipes. I'm typically in you know, I'm a country cook y'all so I don't have to edit those and jot down the recipe or you know link one that's similar and I can make those available but No, I did a couple of story time videos when I was living in my apartment. Um But I'm a little private. I know I'm a vlogger, but I move there's some things I don't really care to share um So I think I did like three story time videos There was one on I'm taking off some of this ice and look I'm talking about I wanted some extra ice and then took our path of it There was one um my staying in the icu when I had to ask my attack a couple of years ago was just scary then I had another story time on What was it about y'all? My first flight airplane because I know there's some of y'all who's never been on the airplane girl I got sick my it wasn't technically was my first flight as an adult because I flew as a child My first flight as an adult. I got sick and then there was another one on. Oh, there was one Hold on hold on Oh lord, y'all. I'm sorry. I'm so silly. There was one where my mama's my mama's boyfriend He fell off the roof. No, it wasn't a roof. He fell off the balcony y'all when I tell you That story time is so funny and I'm laughing. I'm crying laughing. That was so funny I know it doesn't seem funny and it was sad because he broke both his legs But his old ass decided to get on the balcony Oh crusty butt on that balcony and fell and I knew he was down there and I wouldn't tell my mama I was I was a teenager though Oh my god, okay, so I'll link those videos I'll link that story time in the card up here y'all She's so silly so my point is I want to do story time again because yeah, all right y'all I'm not talking about nothing. Um, I really don't have much going on this week. Um Yeah, not a lot going on starting back to work. I see a bunch of foolery coming in on emails I had to respond to someone I normally don't like to do that because then you set an expectation that you're gonna work on your pto But it was a lot literally it was about 10 or 15 emails going back and forth Well Vivian can take care well Vivian will be back tomorrow Vivian is here right now to answer you help us Yes, I will be back tomorrow, but let's just go ahead and get the situated right now. So Yeah, um, just gotta catch up on work and That is it, you know getting closer to The um high school reunion. Oh girl. Let me let me talk about this I am never shopping with my husband Y'all when I tell you I was irritated to the 10th degree power. First of all, this is someone who was used to 1970s fashions No, it's not that y'all my husband not that oh, he's my husband in his late 40s, but he'd be acting old He you know the clothes that he has his dress clothes They do fit but they are a slim fit and he doesn't like that He doesn't like the you know the slim fit Um, which I think he looks great in because he's athletic Now the pants are not slim fit, but the tops are a little slim fit and he's tall. He's six two almost six three so um, we were out shopping went to jc pennies and First of all men's clothes are so expensive so expensive. He's like his budget is 200. I say what? for uh So he's like, yeah, maybe that's that's just minimum $200. So I'm like cool go to jc penny jc penny has gone down jc penny is closing a lot of stores. So their stores is not you know, not what they used to be right so Of course, they're gonna jack up the prices, but it was still 50 off, but it was still expensive So excuse me. We found something, you know, I was saying well, what color are you looking for? So he's like either black or beige. I'm like black or beige Okay, fine. So find him a black suit But girl finding that took almost an hour and he finally he finally found his fit. First of all He's like, I think I'm a 48 long 48 He put that on it was huge. He said this fist. I said that does not fit That is too big on you. You look like you about a 46 Sure enough the guy came around and said you were actually a 44 try to get Y'all So he put the clothes on put the suit on we went in the back trying it on He must have turned around. I was getting irritated because I'm like, this is somebody who don't even care for fashions But he turned around and the damn mirror for like 10 15 minutes. I said, are you okay? because It looks okay. It fits because he was he was trying to make sure it's not too tight He's like, I just want to make sure it's not too tight. I'm like look You were just wearing this for two hours at this reunion. It is not tight. Yeah that So he got the suit and he's like, well, I can get a white tie and a white um dress shirt I said, yeah, well, let's find your ties and so Got that. Oh, I said, you know what you should do. We're gonna do black So we're gonna black on black on black. That's sharp hung. That's some damn, um, john wick stuff So I'm gonna get him a black dress shirt and a black tie I told him don't even do that. Just do a black dress shirt. We don't even need a tie a black dress shirt Really cool black dress shirt the black suit black black on black is very sharp with my pink Oh, yes, we're gonna be bad. So yeah y'all I'm not shopping with that old man anymore