 Ladies and gentlemen salamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Hope y'all are doing well if it's daytime on your end Hope you have a good day. If it's night time, of course You know you have to have a good night if you tune it into hashtag LNT episode sank That's five in French if you all didn't know but with your favorite man and favorite host Ahmed Ali now before we jump into what's trending today and what the topic is today and trust me the topic tonight Guys are thirsty for it girls are also looking forward for it And trust me when I say this will get you and change your future But let's go jump in what's trending today and we'll be back very short So my shot Allah when we look at Europe and what's going on in the beast from the east Everybody's scared about it Muslim mosques have opened the door in the UK and Ireland for the homeless Who have become or have been in the situation of homelessness due to the beast from the east? We do thank our brothers for opening up their doors for the homeless, of course It's a humanitarian thing not only Islamic, but also humanity needs us So we do thank them very much now the second thing that's trending in the world right now And for the people that are migrating illegally they can go and do this now apparently you can now buy a Cyprus Cyprus Passport now investors who have almost five million pounds or five million Euros can buy a passport and just go around the EU freely no no no need for visa now this guy. He's a Russian investor who bought a passport Cyprus passport and he's traveling freely around EU without any problem now a person who has Five mil or twelve point five mil, you know, you can really go live a life of a king But anyways this guy wants a passport to go travel in the EU European Union if you know what EU is but yeah, we'll go and we'll jump into what's Topic of tonight is so let's go do that Now we can't thank a lot enough for this blessing that he has bestowed upon us now this blessing Depending on who you are If you're a guy, you'll know and when you reach puberty if you're a girl, I don't know what you get but anyways This dream every person in the world dreams about and wishes to happen now as many Who followed us on Instagram and Facebook we did put out the poster with the question Many would actually get to know up to now what the topic is and the topic is marriage The unity of the husband and the wife together in a halal way, of course We don't want any random babies running on the streets not knowing what that is But getting married is one of the things that everyone should look forward to not only is finding a spouse a Worldly achievement, but also completes one's personality and of course reduces one's level of lust Now sometimes sometimes it does but unless you you know you have too much testosterone or you've eaten a box of donuts like from Dunkin Donuts or from Timmy's or Starbucks, you know those donuts, but those doughnuts my days Like I remember those days holy Oh But yeah the doughnuts Hold on Are those doughnuts? Are those? Yeah, Subhanallah, you know what when a believer prays to Allah Subhanallah or has an intention To pray to Allah, you know of doughnuts. You'll get them right away. These were delivered Especially to hashtag L and T with the camera man, but Mmm. Oh Wow That That's actually good That's actually good But wow, I mean Nowadays whenever the marriage the topic of marriage is brought up a Few things are questioned immediately And I'm sure if you were to ask Anyone whether a lady or a guy Why aren't you married yet? What qualities are you looking for? The number one thing automatically Automatically and if you were to ask me, I mean I would have to answer in a certain way, but we can't answer that on TV But if you were to ask any guy or any girl for the girl She's gonna say oh my god. I need a tall handsome man with good qualities For a guy he would ask for a beautiful woman and Honestly in both ways People are making it more complicated to get married or to find the proper spouse because you know you have that long checklist of The things you wish your future husband or wife has to have Unfortunately, the other thing happens when your parents get involved when you know your your your family Or your friends get involved. Oh, I don't like this guy. This guy has attitude or whatever Or this guy doesn't have a nice car or or when you know when you're choosing a spouse You get to tend on Tend to look at the wealth instead of the knowledge Tend to look at the beauty and of course, I mean you have to get married to someone beautiful, you know But everyone's beautiful in the eyes of the person they love trust me when I say that Everyone is beautiful. I'm just saying that because I'm me, but everyone is beautiful in the eyes of the one they love Now tonight we have a very interesting question. We're giving you the opportunity to tell us What qualities To look for in a spouse What are the qualities in your opinion? If you were to imagine right now, what qualities to look for in a spouse you look for? Thomas do you look for? You know someone that's Smart someone that gives good hugs Someone that good gives good cuddles That just goes back to you and and your checklist once I this is true once I Met someone enough for the question. Let's come back to me. But yeah Once I actually did this actually true happen in University. We were sitting in in a class social sciences class psychology and One of the questions I would ask Do you have a checklist for the person you love or for the person you want to love and I'm not even kidding this chick This girl not chick this girl in my class Has a list ready on her phone and She has almost 25 things to check off To find out if the person she wants is on that list or the qualities of the person is on that list Now let us know what you guys think about today's topic. I Think we have a few calls coming in so you can call Via the number shown below on the screen Or you can go on our Facebook channel at Imam Hussein 3 TV and comment to let us know what you think send us a message Send us a voice note the numbers right there plus nine six four seven seven four oh seven six eighteen thirty six That's plus nine six four seventy seven four oh six seven eighteen thirty six To let us know what you think or go to Facebook and Instagram at Imam Hussein at lnt. Show and let us know what you think now. I believe we do have a caller coming in But We'll wait until we get that and of course Let's hope What that person or let's see what that's hope? Let's see what that person has to say about today's topic to let us know What they think about the person or the qualities of the person they're looking for has to have So let's check now To kick it off with I mean Since we have a boss alaihi salam behind us We got to kick it off with with a question or with a quranic verse not a question a quranic verse now If we were to go to look at the Quran Surat al-Nur Rome verse 21 Allah the Almighty says and of his signs is that he has created from you Or from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them and he Placed between you affection and mercy, but we do have a call from Ali From London salamu alaykum Salamu alaykum my name's Ali from London. I'll come to the show now trace question is To say on the topic one thing that's quite underrated in something that I think most Muslim should look for when they're looking for a spouse is Mainly looking at the spouse or the potential spouse's parents and how the parents has raised The daughter or the son because that will really indicate how they're going to raise your children and that's something I feel is the most Now so the call got disconnected. Thank you very much Ali from London but the the idea that I got from from this brother's Opinion is that it all depends on the way you raise your children. Of course in today's world Raising a child is a lot harder than before So the girls and guys Tend to always or sometimes you can't so always get to some sometimes deviate from the path of their parents or deviate from Whatever they have I look pretty fresh today, but yeah, so tonight is the question We just got a voice note from Ahmed from Lebanon. What is he saying? My view towards today's topic about the selection of it as far as this one must Faith and beauty These two qualities really matter for youth from all communities. I think and That's it. Thank you very much Okay, so faith and beauty faith and beauty Ahmed from Lebanon Says faith and beauty are two important things and honestly Those two things together Are great That is your opinion. Hopefully if you're married, that's good. If you're not then let's hope You have the faith and the beauty Coming towards you Now when a lot of people do ask the question if I don't find the person I'm looking for and sometimes they Make the excuse up. Well, there's a guy that's wanting them, but they're refusing and all that now When we do find someone Do they have to have the exact same qualities on our checklist now? Is that necessary or is that not we'll find out right after this voice note that we just received Mohammed from Canada Mohammed from Canada. What is he? Salam alaikum. I'm Mohammed from Canada. I think one should look for family background when it comes To marriage because most likely When the family is known for piety or Code manners then daughter or son will inherit their qualities. Thank you Thank you very much Hamid from from Canada Those doughnuts actually taste amazing But going back this person also says It depends on how you raise your children and how your parents are And raising you on raising the person you are trying To look for now. There are a few factors That we should pay attention to Inselecting our spouse now the first factor Many will not agree You know due to the things that are happening along the wall today religious religious religiousness Religiousness is something that sometimes people won't agree to because a lot of people say I could marry someone that's not religious I'm religious I could marry someone that's not religious and then I can you know talk them into it and stuff Of course, if you have that influence you can But sometimes things don't always go the way you want to go that you want them to go But we are receiving a few phone calls but Okay, so we we're getting a few messages coming in On our whatsapp number shown right below Just now if you have anything to tell us go ahead now. We do have a message from From Ismail from Egypt. So this is personally I look at beauty and personality I know that I know that might not be right, but this is just me I believe that if you are going to live with a person forever She should she has to be beautiful and nice I agree with you 100% and I can't give my opinion yet But the person has to look beautiful at the same time at the same time. They have to have a Certain quality as well. I'm waiting for you to tell me what quality what that quality is now We do have another message Jasmine from Australia. Alhamdulillah when my husband came to my father and asked for my hand I made sure he possessed two qualities strong faith and personality Alhamdulillah, Rabbal Aalameen Jasmine from Australia. Thank you very much And you know, honestly one of the great things that people look forward to should be The two things that Jasmine mentioned a strong personality strong faith and personality and honestly You can ask anyone before marriage and after marriage their personality grew a lot they had things Or they did things before their marriage that after the marriage sometimes they think oh wow more restricted now I have a curfew and all of that but honestly trust me when when I say a lot of people feel Tranquility when they've when they've gotten married They feel like their personality has grown their personality has reached a level all those donuts They're kicking in right now, but Sorry Yeah, we are getting a few messages coming in from Ammar Rizvi from Denmark There are two kinds of standards that should be taken into consideration when selecting a spouse Personality and lineage Okay, now we we had a few personalities, but this one is saying the lineage So it all goes back to the family Or the ancestors of a person now one of the things that are Important just referring back to a hadith is a Lineage now and ma'm Ali no talib. This is very quick when he went to Akil and he told him that he wants a wife He gave a few qualities. He said I want a person or a wife That the most valiant warriors are her ancestors the valiant warriors a person people of faith of bravery of courage and of course They need to they need to be valiant So I can't set give me a month and I'll you know get back to you a month after Akil found them with Benin So we do find that Ma'm Ali talib alaihi salam Didn't always focus on beauty. He focused on Characteristics and qualities just like how we should focus on characteristics and qualities as well Now another thing I keep on looking at the notes another thing that's also important when selecting a spouse is Looking at the fact, you know, everyone says a lot of people disagree with this and I get this I sometimes disagree with it as well beauty vanishes and religiousness continues That's a tag you are watch right there It's not up for sale though. It's not up for sale but a lot of people they say that beauty vanishes and The Religiousness stays a long way and a hundred percent. I agree with that at the same time A lot of people disagree and they say that you know what in the morning and I've heard this in the morning I had to wake up to someone beautiful that person I'm waking up to needs to be beautiful and One of the most important things is Waking up to someone that's beautiful and religious at the same time. That's important as well You know, I had to make that statement go right now but other qualities That We have a call from Fahima from London. So I'm an Alaykum Alaykum Salam. Hello. Yes. Welcome to the show tonight and tonight's question is What qualities to look for in a spouse in your opinion? What do you think? Um, I think Audience have mentioned one or two specific things But I think generally a lot of the times we consider what other people might view Looking a spice or looking for a spouse might be but we actually need to know ourselves first We need to know what exactly we value. What if our beliefs and values and qualities are and how the other person can match that Okay, so we're looking at all, you know, how the families should be, you know Respectful and religious and all of these sort of things But there are a lot of circumstances where even families that are not religious and not very much brought up their kids in the right way But they still turn out. Okay, so it's very much a narrow view point So we got a look at it from an individual's point of view as to how do we know ourselves really well? What are we looking for? What do we think as relationships mean for us and what do we want out of a relationship? And that's what's gonna get you, you know, the spouse that you require according to your own individual needs According to your own beliefs and values So you got to know yourself very well and you need to sort of go and you know seek someone that will match that Okay, that those are a few few good points that you mentioned you mentioned there But thank you very much for letting us know your opinion for tonight's topic One another thing that a lot of people also that Fahima mentioned from London is we always tend to be influenced by the people around us we get to Basically get to be influenced by the people around us, you know the person next to me or my friend or you know Whoever my cousin wants to marry someone beautiful They I have to have the same view. I got to marry someone beautiful more beautiful than you know My friend's wife trust me when I say that there are mentalities out there Where people can pair wives or my wife is more beautiful than his or whatever so so These are some of the mentalities now a Lot of people say you that you know what religion and piety Does not cut it for me. I have to look for someone beautiful and that's that you're right That's a decision that you have to make and as Fahima said it goes back to your Individual and your personality and the choices that you make if you choose wrong then You got to you know take the consequences in and if you choose right Then you hit you then you're living a happy life and honestly Families play a very crucial role into this when selecting a husband a lot of times the family's influence is You know is infringed on the children is enforced on the children to Select the spouse the parents want and sometimes the children are The victims of this Not all the times, you know arranged marriages sometimes can be more successful than a than a marriage that a person chooses to have but sometimes The selection isn't that great Because all of them do fall into the same category arrange marriage and selecting or What qualities to look for in a spouse? These things tend to always either affect you in a way either negatively or positively Now we did get a few points a few messages in a few voice notes saying that personality Piety and all that But we when we go back to look at the Prophet and what he said he says when one intends to marry a woman He should ask about her hair Yeah, am I reading this right? Yeah, he should ask about her hair just as he asks about her face beauty since the hair is One of the two beauties of a woman now. This is So nice Like I like this, you know, he's giving you advice a lot of people have this idea Oh, wow, you know when I'm trying to get married. I can't ask about the girls qualities and stuff Absolutely not Depending on who you follow and the narrations you can look at the person you want to get married to in certain ways That aren't prohibited. So the Prophet is telling us when one intends to marry a woman. He should ask about her hair Just as he asks about her face meaning face means beauty Since the hair is one of the two beauties that a woman has or sustains So honestly right there the Prophet is telling you yes, go for beauty. But at the same time he tells He tells us That's a man who marries a woman for the sake of her wealth Allah leaves him in his own condition and One who marries her only for her beauty will find in her things which he dislikes unpleasing manners in parentheses and Allah will gather up all these things for one who marries her for the sake of her faith Religiousness so basically what Prophet Muhammad is saying and the first quote that I said a Person who marries someone Should look at her hair or she's you know She should get to know about her hair because her hair is one of the two beauties face and hair beauty the Prophet also says if a man marries someone or a woman because of her wealth or because of her beauty these two will vanish but if he marries someone because of Her faith then all of these will gather together in that wife and Yes, a lot of people and and and understand a lot of people will disagree with that You know if I marry someone not beautiful and I and I don't believe in something That's not beautiful I believe everyone in there and in the eyes of themselves or in the eyes of the people they love is beautiful But we do have another call Ahmed is brother Ali from London again. Sorry we cut off Make is something we overlook is Looking at the potential spouse's parents when choosing a spouse Because you get to understand how the household is built and whether it's on the foundations of Ahlul Bayt And whether they'd fit with your family and how he or she would raise your children depending who your spouse is So one thing I find really important when looking for a spouse is Is Looking looking at the spouse's parents So looking at the spouse person what way? Yeah, I think he's at the soccer game or side But yeah, I mean I'm struggling to hear you. Yeah, no, no, it's okay. I mean I was saying And what way is he or she gonna look at the spouse's parents? Pardon Yeah, I don't know if you can hear me. Oh, but yeah, I think he's in it in the sock. Okay. I really thank you Thank you for letting me on there. Thank you. Thank you very much Ali brother Ali from London. Thank you very much but One of the points that he mentioned. I don't know if you could hear me or not I believe he was in the soccer game or something football game in the UK if you want to call that but He was mentioning something about looking at the spouse's parents And of course the spouse has a huge influence the parents have a huge influence on the spouse that you're looking for But we do have a message. What's that message coming up the best qualities? In selecting so Jenna from Bahrain says the best qualities in selecting a spouse number one Is to have a good a good heart and have fear of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and is close to the Ahlul bait And for sure everything will follow Yes, thank you very much Jenna from Bahrain Thank you very much for that for that comment and for that message because a lot of people sometimes might have the wrong idea we have the wrong view of What to select of their or what qualities to have When looking for a spouse now honestly all of these qualities are Just icing on the cake You know if you were to look deep down to into it One of the things that Really astonishes me as the fact that a lot of people don't actually look at the core of the person but yet look at the outside and honestly when I say outside and I've seen Girls in university in high school on the street, you know when you're living in Canada That's just nothing but when you see a Girl with ton of makeup on and honestly now on the night of your marriage, you know, you're looking at someone so beautiful And sometimes girls. Yes, I Do Apologize if I hurt your feelings, but sometimes girls do deceive guys With the looks as I mentioned earlier. Everyone's beautiful. There's no girl. That's you know, I don't want to say the word ugly But there's there's no girl. That's ugly But we do have Sahar from Afghanistan Well, you can see them rahmatullah Yeah, hello So, yes, sorry the question for tonight is what qualities to look for in a spouse And you're ready to question What qualities to look for in a spouse? Here you sorry Okay, so the question is if you're watching us on TV or on Facebook the question is what qualities to look for in a spouse Let us know what you think Well, I think the quality Is first he should have or she should have a strong fate They should put a la sauna Everything does once you have that You should once you have so good personality and good faith, okay Okay, can you elaborate on on on that? I mean and when you have when a person maybe has faith have faith have personality have beauty is that okay? Or is that a no no? Sorry, I can't hear you Okay, so there's a connection problem. Thank you very much. Thank you very much for your Your call that that word So basically She says that if a person has a strong faith and a strong personality then don't hold back from going up to that person Right now. There's a huge guard that girls put up the guys put up when a guy comes to a girl There's a huge guard to you know, put your guards down if you see a Brother, you know Someone that's coming up to you, you know, he has the courage to come up to you and talk to you why you got to put that guard up and There's and there's a huge argument when it comes to spouse selection a huge phenomena that I just came to my mind and that's The phenomena that I say that cannot marry a non-sayed or a say it cannot marry and on say that now This phenomena really Shocks me because honestly when you're looking for someone to marry at the end of the day It doesn't depend on her Their ancestors because honestly you you never know who's a hundred percent say it and who's not and and This is just something that I'm sorry to say this but this is retarded You can't just say no to a believer because he's a non-sayed and you know keep and and I know and I know That there are girls out there Who have passed the age of 30 and they haven't been married yet because their parents won't let them Because the person who's proposing to them is a non-say it now at the end of the day Every quality that you look for is just icing on the cake You need to look at the core of the person and not core has to be fruitful For the icing to look beautiful because when you have beautiful icing and something bad on the inside That won't work out good. Just look at it from the cake Look at it from like this donut right here The icing is beautiful and the core is beautiful too when you look at it like that Go get her go get her a hundred percent go get that woman that you like take it easy