 One of the things necessary for human happiness one of the things necessary for human happiness Is self-esteem and I know you've probably heard a lot about self-esteem and you probably at school They had self-esteem and all this stuff, but what is self-esteem? self-esteem is a certain sense of confidence a certain sense of Ability that you have about your own life about your ability to succeed about pursuing challenges and goals Without that sense you cannot ever achieve happiness You will always undercut yourself You have to you you will never challenge yourself. You need to have the confidence in yourself to be able to challenge yourself It's a sense of all being about yourself. It's a sense that you are worthy That's what self-esteem is now where the self-esteem come from Now we're taught that self-esteem comes from getting a ribbon in school, right and the more ribbons We give to more people the more people will have self-esteem Self-esteem comes from patting people in the back, right? No Self-esteem doesn't come from other people. Nobody can give you self-esteem Self-esteem comes from you Self-esteem comes from you setting goals and achieving them and when you achieve them patting yourself on the back acknowledging your own success Acknowledging the fact that you've made an achievement that you've done something special That's where self-esteem comes from and self-esteem is crucial Crucial for the idea of happiness Now what activity in life do you think? Generates the most self-esteem where you're gonna get the self-esteem from where is it that you're gonna be challenged? Where is it that you're gonna be pushed? Where is it that you're gonna have this opportunity to pat yourself on the back? It's primarily Where you spend are going to spend whether you like it or not, and I encourage you to like it Where are you gonna spend most of your time? Which is at work? Which is doing stuff creating stuff so I want to I want to talk just a little bit and then I'll end about the virtues of Work and having a career and taking that career seriously and Not just going to work for the sake of going to work not doing work that you don't like But finding work that you love finding work You're passionate about and going to work because you love it and you want to do it and it's exciting to me This is the most important decision. You're making life Because the fact is that whoever you marry or whatever hobbies you have or however much weightlifting you do everything You're gonna spend a majority of your life at work You want to make it count you want to make it good you want to make it fun you want now It's not always gonna be fun, right? I mean the challenges, but you want to make it something that you are passionate about Don't settle just like I would say don't settle for a relationship. That's just there blur right don't settle for a job That's just find something that really excites you and then challenge yourself and push yourself and Achieve stuff and when you achieve stuff recognize the fact that you've achieved it and don't wait for your boss to recognize it I mean what external people think of you is not that important in life the most important thing in life is what you think of yourself So patch yourself on the shoulder go out for a nice meal celebrate Build that self-esteem Build that confidence that you can attain stuff that you can build stuff that you can make something of your own life And if you do that systematically over life if you find something that you're passionate excited about if you pursue it If you achieve stuff, that's what's gonna build this sense of happiness and success and prosperity be productive Mouches people who live off of other people are never ever happy From a completely different topic people who receive welfare are will never be happy. I Can guarantee it You cannot achieve happiness off of somebody else's back. This is the big tragedy of welfare It's not that they're taking my money to give to somebody else, but that they're giving it to somebody else Because that somebody else is now deprived of the ability to ever achieve happiness Happiness comes from working for yourself creating. I mean the money money's not money's just a piece of paper It's what that money represents When you get a raise, it's not about more money It's about the fact that you earned a raise that you cannot take care of yourself better than you could before That you are now creating more wealth than you did before It's about the stuff that you can buy with that money not the money in of itself But it's what the money represents which is your skill and ability your achievement All right money represents your achievement when you earn it But if somebody gives you the money or if you win the lottery most lottery winners are incredibly unhappy people Five ten years later because they didn't earn it. So it's meaningless to them You think that it's the yacht that's gonna make you happy. No, it's earning the money to buy the yacht That will make you happy the yacht is just cherry on top of the cake But the real cake the real happiness the real good stuff is the making the money. It's the work It's that your knowledge that you were worth This right that you earned it