 What's going on, you guys? Welcome to the Single Guy Channel. My name's Lloyd, bringing you practical and actionable dating advice that really works. Today we're gonna be talking about five charismatic tips for men when they're talking to a girl that they like. Okay, well, these tips are gonna be good if you're trying to attract a girl that you're talking to, but they're gonna be probably good for any types of situations, you know? You're gonna be charismatic in your everyday life, work, networking events, whatever it is. And when I saw people doing this, I even remember looking at certain people when I was going out to bars and nightclubs or whatever, and certain guys would be able to captivate a girl's attention. And, you know, if you take the looks thing aside, there were certain guys that could hold a girl's attention and they would be super interested in her, or they could take a girl that was kind of on the fence with them and, you know, maybe didn't know if she liked him or not, but by the end of the conversation, the girl was totally into him. And I really spent a long time trying to figure out how to do this because when I would talk to women, I would have the opposite effect. They kind of would like look away, they wouldn't really wanna talk to me, and eventually they would just kind of make an excuse to go to the bathroom or something like that. So I made a special effort to try and figure out how to do this, and after going out a lot, you know, reading different books, practicing a hell of a lot, I can do the exact same thing that those guys could do. You know, I could take a girl that, you know, may or may not like me on the fence, and then as the conversation progresses, now she's decided that she's interested in me and that she wants to get with me. So if you wanna be like this, pay attention to this video, pay attention to the five tips that I'm giving because this is really gonna help you out. You know, there's small things, but if you add them all together, they're gonna make a huge difference. Okay, before I get into the tips, if you're looking to coach by me one-on-one, where I teach you guys exactly how to do this sort of thing, fill out the form below. Basically, if you fill it out and we feel like you're a good fit, then we'll get back to you and we'll see if it makes sense for you to work with me one-on-one. Okay, cool. The first tip that I'm going to give you is a pretty simple one that some of you might do, but probably not enough, and that's be active listening. And what I mean, active listening, I mean, nod your head. Kind of give a little bit of a subtle acknowledgement after somebody says something. So if you're having a conversation with somebody and they're telling you a story or whatever, just literally just looking at them with a friendly face and being like, huh, interesting. Oh, okay, cool. Nice. Just looking at them and nodding is a really great way to build rapport with somebody. They not only have they done studies on this, but they've also seen, you can also see this in everyday life. I mean, when someone is very actively listening to you, looking at you, acknowledging the stuff that you say, you feel better about yourself. You want to tell the story more. And the studies that they've shown, they've shown that men who do this were rated as more attractive than guys that just didn't really give much reaction to the conversation. Not just that the women felt better about themselves talking to them, but they actually rated the men that they were talking to more attractive as well too. So listening is a huge part of the conversation, probably the most important thing in the conversation. And the way that you show that you're listening to a person is by nodding your head, looking at them, making a good eye contact. And then just acknowledging the things that they say. You can also mimic the reactions that they get when they tell you a story like, oh, I just got promoted. And you're like, oh, cool. So you mimic their reactions a little bit. And that'll feel like they're more connected to you. Okay, so this leads me into my second point, which is after they say something, after they finish, pause for just half a second before you respond. There's a lot of guys who do this really well, a lot of politicians, but I think Bill Clinton probably, and I talk about Bill a lot on this channel, regardless of what you think about his politics, Bill is probably one of the most charismatic guys on the planet. You know, I can't think of a more charismatic guy than Bill at the moment. You know, if you could think of one, put it in the comment section below, would love to hear it. And what they'll do a lot is Bill will be talking to a guy, or he'll be getting interviewed by somebody, and they'll ask him a question, and they'll say, hey Bill, so what do you think about this? And rather than just responding super quickly, which is what most people tend to do, because a lot of people, they are not, rather than taking the time to listen, digest and respond, they are just waiting their turn to say what they want to say. But what Bill does is he really listens to what the person has to say, he digests it, and then takes the time to respond. This makes the person feel a lot more important when they're talking to him. And if you know anything about person-to-person interactions, if you feel really important around another person, you're gonna be really attracted to them. So what he does is they'll say, hey Bill, what do you think about this? And he'll be like, hmm, yeah. So when, and then he'll go into what he's saying. So just pause for half a second. Rather than, what do you think about this? Oh, well, I think, rather than, or cut people off, you know, like, let people finish, be more relaxed, and just take that half a second to respond, and it'll make a world of difference. Okay, third thing, tonality. A lot of guys, when they are going into a conversation or when they're speaking to people, especially when they first start talking to them, they get into their tonalities all bad. If you come into a conversation and you're ending things with a slight upward inflection, or if you're talking with like, or everything's kind of sounding like a question where it's a little more high-pitched, it's not gonna sound as attractive or as charismatic as if you end things at the end. So if I walked up to a group of girls, and I was like, if I was gonna ask how a group of girls were doing, and I looked, I was like, hey, how are you guys doing? Any way little up, as opposed to, hey, how are you guys doing? The second one was a lot more attractive than the first one, okay? Women like men with deeper voices, but they especially do not like guys with a voice that is rapport-seeking. Repor-seeking is when you're ending things with a question because you're trying to get the person to like you, okay? People who end with their statements ending upwards a little bit, that's rapport-seeking, meaning you're trying to have rapport with this person, okay? Or sorry, not that you're trying to have rapport with them, it's more that you're approval-seeking with them, okay? And that you basically put yourself into a submissive stance with them, and women do not want a submissive guy, they want a guy who's more dominant. So to have that dominant frame that man to woman connection, you need to end things with downward a little bit more. And this brings me into my next point, point number four, which is speak slower. A lot of times what will happen, and this is a problem that I have to you guys, I don't know if you notice on this channel but I'll do this sometimes. If I get really excited, sometimes I'll speak really, really quickly. You wanna speak slower because when you speak slower, it's more deliberate, it sounds more dominant, and it sounds more masculine. But it'll prevent you from ending things upward when you speak really, really fast and you just wanna get everything out. See, it just kind of goes up a little bit. But if you speak slower, that doesn't happen quite as much and things sound more secure and assertive when you say them like that. So I recommend if you feel like whatever speed that you talk at, if you feel like you speak too quickly, speak at about a third of the pace. And actually this is really good for the bar and clubs environments because they're really loud. There's a lot of stuff happening and if you speak clearly and people can understand you, it's more likely they're gonna wanna keep talking to you. All right, cool. Before I get into my last tip, you guys, if you're wondering if there is a group of, or community out there of like-minded guys where you can connect with, you can post about your stories, you can contact me a lot quicker, then I would recommend that you join my Facebook group where there's a lot of like-minded guys that are trying to improve their chances with women, trying to better themselves. And if you're one of those guys, please join the group down below, answer a few of those questions and we'll approve you. Again, I respond to things a lot quicker on that Facebook group than I do as opposed to an email or something like that. Okay, so the fifth and final thing is eye contact. Having good eye contact. Remember what I was saying with the nodding thing? Have good eye contact when you have this. Now, when you're talking to people, a lot of times, and I've had a few clients make this mistake, where they just continually stare at the other person and they just like, they just don't break and it freaks people out. So you don't wanna have 100% eye contact. They've actually come up with a number and I don't know if it's exactly right, but it's pretty close. It's kind of what I do. It's around 72%. You wanna have 72% eye contact when you're talking to somebody. That number is around what you should aim for. I was thinking it was around 80%, but numerous studies have proven that it's around 72%. So we'll just go with 72. That means don't stare at them the whole fricking time. Give them a little bit of a break, rest. Now, look down, maybe look up, compose your thoughts a little bit. If you have a drink, maybe sip it for a second. If you stare at them the whole time and you don't blink, people are gonna think you're a sociopath and you're gonna murder them. So bear your eye contact, be more relaxed, nod your head. When they have a statement, take a little bit of time to respond and digest the information, then respond. Make sure that you're also, what were the other ones? Make sure that you're using good tonality where you're ending things not with an upward inflection, but you're speaking in a low tone and then ending things downward, making them more deliberate, assertive and dominant, and then also to speak slower. Okay you guys, those are all the tips that I have. 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