 Listen, we are aware, just so you know, that people parent their children differently. We are speaking from our personal experience, and we're not experts, and we're just letting you guys know what worked for us. I would say the best advice I receive from my parents, we have four siblings, we are all distinctively different. So don't compare each child. Each child is different, and each child has their own needs, and actually discipline them, and treat them accordingly. You know, what works kind of like what Adam said, what works for Aiden may not work for Aria, and I feel like as parents, it is our responsibility to be attentive enough to see those differences. Another advice that I got. Can I play off that too? Because off of that, you hit a point there that I remember the other thing my parents said when I was a kid, mom and dad would say, see so-and-so, or see so-and-so. Their parents are their best friends. That was wrong. Don't cross that line. You want to be their friend. You want to be their friend. But not their best friend, because the fact is, that crosses a line. That can happen later. Yes, it can happen later, but there's still a difference there, it still has to be a line. Right, it's my best friend. But there's still a line. Like she still knows that you're her mother. But I think, when you have to understand, we're different. We're a different age group. We're different. We're different. We're the same, but we're different. And I think it's really important that that line remains there. Be their friend. You want them to come and tell you anything. But don't be their best friend, because then they become too comfortable and you want to make sure that they still respect that and still respect your opinion when you have something important to tell them. My mom would always say, hey listen, look, I am your friend. I could be your friend, but also know that I'm your parent as well. Don't cross that line. So basically, just to give you an example of what Adam's talking about, I was like, we were laughing, we were kicking in, and I was like, girl, you crazy. I was like laughing, and then all of a sudden my mom had this look on her face. She was like, first of all, don't ever, ever call me crazy. Second of all, I'm not your girl. I'm your mother. Don't forget that. And that's basically what she was saying. Like just don't, don't forget that we can, we can have fun, but don't lose that level of respect. And I think nowadays, I mean, we're more of the old school way of raising kids. I think nowadays that is sometimes what you see some homes are, might be missing again. Don't want to judge, but I'm just saying you want to make sure that there is that parenting and they know the line. Yes, they, they know the line. Another great piece of advice that I got. It actually did not come from my parents. Um, I came from, uh, I forgot who it came from. Oh my God. But I remembered it. It was remember. Oh my God. What? No, it came from Tia. Came from my sister Tia. What? Am I talking too much? Oh my gosh. I am. Focus. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I was so short of time. If you notice I haven't talked over you. Have I? Anyway. Okay. Just really quickly. This is really important. Remember, you only truly have God willing 18 summers, 18 summers with your children. They usually go off to college. They usually get jobs. Uh, you usually want them out of the house or they usually want out of the house and it goes by so fast. We've already had seven summers with Aiden. We've already had now it's going to be five summers with the ride. literally I know there are moments where it is hard it is exhausting I call parenting blissfully blissfully exhausting it's a blissfully exhausting job but remember we don't have this we do we're gonna be parents forever but we don't have those really sacred beautiful moments where they're staying at home for a long period of time and I feel like that helps me we actually agree on a lot of the parenting things that's what I recommend too is that we don't we're not gonna be the same parenting style that's pretty much impossible for anybody to be exactly the same I think we're on the same page way more than we're not but we've come to understand there's times when she's like hey listen I got to handle this this way or also listen because there's times you don't know what's going on earlier in the day or whatever so I think we respect each other and then we're also willing to call each other I go listen he's been tired or she's been and I think that being able to work together and understand it's us versus the problem or it's us dealing with the kids together it's really helped I'm a little more laid-back I was about to say I think I'm a little and people are usually shocked when they hear this definitely more laid-back I think I'm more of the I don't want to say more of the disciplinarian I am just more I'll give you an example I'm just more like strict you know you there's always one in the household Adam will give the kids maybe three chances I give them one I'm just like you have one if I say no I mean no but there's one other difference though she's all that I tend to once I make a decision your phone is gone for today I think he's not my phone the phony uses to play his game well when I make that decision it's gone for two days it sticks once in a while even though she's very strict she's definitely more desperate I am I'll come upstairs I'm like hey you said like five hours ago it's because Aiden has those gorgeous blue eyes and I'm has these big gorgeous like brown eyes and these these big cheeks and she's so cute when she cries I know that's weird to say but she's even beautiful when she cries I'm just like and I will tell you this though it's really really important we never say wait till your mom gets home or wait till your dad gets home we never want one person to be seen as the bad parents we work together we think that's really really important even if one of the parents out of the house more than the other because that's what my solidify that yeah household that's one of the things that my parents going back to somebody advice I was given that was given up on my mom and dad both separately early on when we first had Aiden whatever you do don't make the other one don't make Tamara to be the bad guy because you don't want to deal with it and I was like huh and a couple times I actually caught myself going wait till your mommy gets home we're gonna deal with you together that works actually like you should still a threat when mommy gets home when dad gets home we're gonna we deal with you together what kind of parenting styles you guys have I know for a fact I'm not a helicopter mom I was all I I'm when they were younger I was they would the labels the labels don't make any sense to me cuz it's like all right what's a helicopter usually do that I think I know dad dad's don't really I mean maybe they do you know why I actually love that you just said that Adam because the problem with labels is then it gives an open to judge oh you're a helicopter mom oh you're a tiger mom you know I think it's how about you're a great mom how'd you deal with the terrible twos well in our house the terrible twos weren't that bad it was the three majors oh my gosh nobody tell you about that twos weren't that bad we learned that Aiden is more communicative than Araya so for him it was very communicative is it tomato tomato I don't know I thought it was communicative guess what if I've been saying it the wrong way I'm the dad I'm making the word up it's communicative I don't know I'm maybe so the point here she comes let us finish that us finish okay daddy you want to sit have her in your lap okay I'm a little more laid-back I was about to say my princess Aiden was more he we had to realize he was very he had a very big vocabulary at a young age so he but he would try to communicate things and he couldn't get so frustrated we were good we get frustrated and so three the three those those 11 12 months of threes into the first part of the fours were rough can we ask you how was how our mommy and daddy his parents do you like mommy and daddy's parents oh you don't want to you don't want to do this anymore wait but you got to ask the answer the question do you like mommy daddy's parents do you like mommy and daddy's parents yeah yeah I beat it no so I would say because the question I think was how do you deal with terrible twos I would say just have patience have patience with yourself have patience with your toddler like Adam was saying you're gonna have frustrating moments because everyone's learning and I find the frustration comes from them wanting to them wanting to express themselves but not being fully able to and then no it gets better soon they will really know how to express themselves and you'll be like oh well I think understanding is a lot of it I think that depending on your child it could be twos it could be threes like a riot was tougher at twos I think cuz you're the more crying and threes were easier for us Aiden was easier at twos I'm like oh my gosh Tuesday's not bad threes were miserable so I think that I think it's depends on your child and when that communication those breakdowns and under also understanding rules starts to begin also with Aiden in his defense when he was three a riot was just born so Tamara was going through postpartum she had a child she was working at the real traveling so I think that yeah Aiden had the new child in my house a new energy he'd been he'd been the guy for a long time so in his defense threes may have been harder because of all that was kind of piled on his where when a riot came through the three we already we've been doing this for a couple years now we got into our routine there's one thing that I will say I'm a little nervous about is when the kids become teenagers because so I have heard oh you think that it's challenging now raising kids but in in you know in these ages wait till they become teenagers you hear that a lot and I remember asking my friends why well they say it's because you're battling the mind yeah at one point meaning and social media and social media now which was completely different when we were growing up wasn't there but I know just speaking from my personal experience when I was a teenager I thought I knew everything and now that I am like my blue I realized I didn't know nothing so I feel like one or something but I didn't know as much as I thought I did but I now I understand why the parents are like it's just so frustrating because you're trying to teach your teenager listen look no no no that ain't it bud and they're like yeah it is I can drive I can do this and then dealing with the hormones my brother my brother I remember telling he had his Elena was older and Alex was younger so was the other way around from us remember calling him one day and he was frustrated my brother's not usually frustrated on the phone he's funny as can be and so I remember like what's wrong is like Elena turn 13 and I have no longer have any answers and I think that's some of the things I worry about but the good news is for us I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm gonna put this out there that Aiden being two years ahead of her in school and we've already been pushing them as being friends and protecting each other we're on the same team he's gonna be my weapon in disguise well a riot is not gonna like that because women are very smart and she's gonna realize that she's gonna realize that there is a spy in the house and they're gonna be going to be going to be in the same team so I think ultimately he's gonna not be on the same team all the time no all time he'll protect her I know how I watch I know he'll protect her but what's gonna happen is that she's not gonna want his protection that's what's gonna happen he's gonna want all of her friends over though you know that yes so maybe that's the deal that they can make but I will say this I feel like I don't know I have two brothers that we're so close we're very close there was a moment in time you know I'm very lovey lovey huggy huggy and there was a moment in time where they're like don't talk to me don't kiss me and if you wave at me wave at me from like football field distance apart so I feel like you have a sense yeah I am prepared a little bit I'm joking but so I do think I'm a little bit more prepared I do know how the mind works you know there's a lot of slamming the doors leave me alone you know and I feel like that is the age of where they start learning about their insecurities you know because I like a girl like guy they don't like them back and I like to think of myself as a natural encourager so maybe I'll be good I don't know well give us your in it together give us your advice yes we're gonna need we have absolutely no idea I mean listen we have an idea what to expect but also we don't know what's up I mean there's so many things that happen along the way so how you handle your teenagers what can we expect any suggestions feel free to leave in the comments below because we do read them we may not comment all we read and I think you know for us it's just continue to adapt continue to put those things we just talked about into use which is communicate communicate communicate can I tell them you gave me the greatest advice when you really have to start parenting teaching them skills teaching them not to punch or kick or bite you know their their friends or their schoolmates that's when the ish starts to get real that's when you take on the responsibility as a parent to make sure that your child is a positive addition to society not the other way around and we take that seriously and there are times when my my kids you know they it just appeared that they weren't listening and I would question myself I would sense that I've I've I failed and Adam you would say don't take this personal yeah don't take it personal I forgot I told me that that's a great yeah don't ever take it personal but it's not because I mean in the end your kids are gonna love you and they're gonna respect you more if you obviously love them back but also of course they're gonna cry when they don't get what they want that's the other thing structure my brother told me that and you know we again with Aiden at the threes the crazy threes I call them you know we weren't we were kind of disjointed structure wise we had a lot of things happen in a new child in the house we I was you know I was working yeah Tamara show you know there's so I you know structure structure structure kids need structure now granted you want them to be free thinking and all that stuff as well but ultimately there has to be some sort of structure faith to faith is huge whoa lots of praying yep I was I was prayer and praying it's okay they got it yes don't forget to subscribe to the house