 Listen, it's the message right here. Black boy tell me how you really feel. Because I just want to build with you. Black girl tell me how you really feel. I want to keep it real with you. I want to live better, eat better. I want to love better, sleep better. Yeah, I want to feel so aligned. So the next question is kind of, when you say do that shit, it was perfect for the next question. What is the real reason you, women, black women specifically, what is the real reason you celebrate the city girls, hot girls, only fan girls, strippers, and rapper baby mamas? I don't know about the rapper baby mamas before. I like the city girls because they are honest. Real ass bitch, you're both about a nigga, okay? I like them because, I like them because they're like, you get your money and dip. I mean, in all honestly, for years, and we used to be in my eyes, I felt like the guys got what they wanted and dip. So girl, get it back and dip. They be honest about it. That's how they want to do their life. Like that's how they want to progress. I support it. Do you girl and do you well? Who else you said city girls? Hot girls, your favorite? Well, I'm a hot girl, I do hot shit. And if you let me, I'ma spend this income on an outfit. So how do you like, I love Megan because since about to graduate, I graduated. I don't know, I feel so, I feel like I can relate to Megan. And she a rapper, yeah. But she real life went to college. She lost both of her parents and she pushed herself to be successful. She a brown skinned girl like me. She has a natural body like me. Like sister just out here, living her best life, having a good time. Like how can you hate on that? How? That's the life I'm done with, yeah. City girl, hot girl. Who next? Uh, you could throw Cardi B in there. Cause I'm naming the people that a lot of black men complain about, like complain about women liking. So I'm trying to shed some light on like, okay. So men can finally understand, like what's the real reason? Okay, so for Cardi, Cardi is controversial. Controversial? I don't say exactly. Okay. But it's because Cardi speaks how she feels and nobody can pick Cardi in a box. We like her because we don't wanna be fit in the box either. We're not all the same. Yes, she's loud and ratchet and you know, she got a sister named Hennessy. But she know what she was talking about when she started talking. And she gonna work hard. Since came up in the strip clubs, she didn't sleep away to the top like she had pure raw talent and she made it to the top off that pure raw talent. You cannot pick Cardi in a box. She gonna be who she is. You either gonna like it, you're gonna love it or you're not. But she's going to still be who she is. Every woman wants to be that confident in themselves that it does not matter what anybody thinks. I am going to be who I am. I don't know why men hate that. So it's kind of, it's empowering to see women do that unapologetically. Yes. Yeah, I might not wanna be loud and boisterous all the time but the fact that Cardi does it and does not care, it makes me feel like, you know what, I like that. I like that woman. She is who she is. And you said the rapper's baby mama's. Because there were a lot of girls like, what's her name? Little baby's baby mama, what's her name? Jada? Jada Waiter? Yeah. Almost like she's a celebrity too, I don't understand. And what's her name? Thomas the train. Money bag girls, girl. Ari. See, I don't really, I don't really know them well. Like I don't follow their celebrity much and give much input on them. But I mean. You think it's the same reason? I think if you are in that position already, you can relate well to that person. And I don't want to say I'm rude. But if you are a baby mama already, you can relate to the baby mama. I can't speak too much on that because I don't have that relation. But I feel like if there's a connection, maybe that's it. I don't know. The narrative is that women tend to prefer to like to skirt accountability. And they're not trying to hear it from anybody. And they're not used to hearing it from anybody. That's why like somebody like Kevin Sambos is so famous, right? So the question is, why do your friends support slash coddle each other's bad behavior? Who got bad behavior? What do you mean? What do you all mean by bad behavior? I think a lot of dudes don't feel like females call each other out on the shit that females do. Especially we're talking about black people. So black women don't call each other out on the shit black women do. It's almost always, she did it for a good reason or she was put in a bad position. And if she was in a better position, she would make better decisions. Whereas with guys, we don't get that same consideration. It's always niggaz ain't shit. Period. Whereas a woman, she only did this bad thing because da, da, da, da, da, da, da. So the question now becomes like, are women actually having those accountability conversations in their friend group? Or is it more so like, do you think a girl live your life and what we hear? I'm trying to think to my friend groups. Take your time. Take your time. And again, it doesn't necessarily have to apply to you, but help us understand a little bit of the female psyche. I hear y'all. And the fact that I have the real life thinking about all of this, it's a valid question. I feel like we kind of get both. You get the encouragement of bad behavior but you do sometimes get, you know, the conversation of sis, you could have done this better. There isn't an imbalance there though. We do kind of encourage the bad behavior more. Typically, if you have a group of girls, I say a group of five girls, it's probably only gonna be one girl in that group that is going to hold other people accountable out loud. Why? I don't exactly know why. It's a lot easier to keep the peace when you just kind of go with what's going. I will say like I have a friend who kind of held me accountable for decisions that I have made. And honestly, like the first time, the first time it was like I was dating this guy who I should not have been dating, hold it onto it and sis was like, with both of my friends at this point, it was like a full intervention where they would tell me, girl, you need to go with that girl. Like it ain't going nowhere. You've been holding on to this for two years. There's still no commitment like let that go. And I will say I felt the type way but I had to sit and think about, could I make better decisions here? Not every female is mature enough to sit down and think about, could I make better decisions here? In some scenarios, that could turn into a fight and the whole friendship is over because you tried to help your girl. Another situation, I was dating a guy and my love language is quality tongue and I didn't feel like he was giving me enough quality tongue and my friend had to be like, sin. He does not have to be up under all the time he has another life to live outside of me. And I mean, it took me a while to even digest it and be like, okay, she right. But I mean, she was right. He had all another life. So like I said, out of a group of maybe five girls you don't have maybe one who's willing to jeopardize the friendship to call you out and hold you accountable for your actions. Maybe it's a lot tougher because as we know when females have these type of conversations friendship could be totally over, now we got beef. Guys can have conversations like this and go play basketball, somebody win the game. We squashed it, we going to get a break and fries. Why? I don't know. Maybe it's we had too many emotions, but that's my answer. That's valid. Okay, so this is going to be the second to the last question. But it's probably the most valid question right now because some of walkers out and just drop. If you listen to it. Yeah, I listened to it on my way to Colombia the other day. But the question is, why do y'all enjoy emotional extremes? Adele, Summer Walker, Jasmine Sullivan. It seems like there is a market demand for female misery because it's relatable. Why is that? Well, there was a question for me to see. That's my favorite genre. It is, that's my favorite genre. But it's not that I can always relate to it in life. It just, I felt her five years ago, like I was there, I was there with you. I felt her last week, I was there with you. Like when you have an emotion, yeah, you can move on from it, but you will always have had that emotion. So when these songs come out, you can go back to that moment and remember and relate to those songs. At least for me, that's how it is. Like, I could be in my happiest point of my life. But when I take my shower, I'ma throw on some sism, I'ma throw on some Summer Walker. I'ma listen to Jenae. I don't, that's the type, those type of songs I like. Like, I really like the emotion within their voices. Like, you can feel their pain. Like, girl, yeah. I know how you feel that. Like, it's relatable whether you're in that moment in life right now or not. That's kind of fucked up. Oh, how? It's fucked up because, like... You about to walk around singing Gingo Bills all the time. No, I get that, but I'm saying like, I think it creates a perverse incentive because these audits are people. And when they're going through their catalog and they're seeing what their numbers are, it's like, it's better to be depressed because that's what the people want. It's better to be unhappy because that's what the women want to hear. So it's like when Adele lost all this weight, a lot of women were actually upset. Like, she not gonna have that same pain in her voice anymore. It's like, that's kind of fucked up. Like, she's trying to better herself and you want her to remain in misery because it creates an art that you like. So I wanted to like get a better, like, a broader understanding of like, what's under that? I don't know, maybe. And maybe we all have a bitter black woman that's out of us that won't go away. You got to sing to her. I don't know. I really don't know, but I am a part of the crowd. That is my general. Do you consider yourself a feminist? Yeah. Okay. So the question is, and again, this is black, right? I don't care about anybody else watching these videos. This is for black men and black women. This is the conversation. Great, I can see myself a black feminist. All right, I think the term is a femme duro. I think that's the new term that they thrown around. So the question is, has feminism helped or hurt us? I think feminism hurt us initially because it was almost like a pillar to creating the strong woman. You want to women who are going to always stand up for themselves, always put up a fight for themselves and others. They want to work. Don't know why these people want to work. They want to work. But I feel like black feminism is kind of helping. It's weird. Is it weird? Explain. I feel like it's helping because, yes, we're encouraging women to work, but not even just find something to work. Find something that you are good at and build on that. So if you're good at makeup, go out and become a makeup artist in your area or go above and beyond that. If you are a business woman, go be a business woman. I feel like black feminism is like, find your niche, find what it is that you're good at and expand upon that. But in turn, it's still almost like, but be a woman. I don't know. It's hard to explain. It's like, do you, but still be a woman. Still go home to your husband and to your kids or go on dates, be feminine, get pretty, dress up, put your makeup on, get your wig, you know, get your braids, be a woman, but be a smart, bold woman. Not so much variety, but just do that shit. Describe a hypothetical world without black men. To pick your truth. Something's there, something's bubbling in your spirit. It's just gonna be a cold, dark world. I'm trying to find a good analogy, let me see. It seems like a small portion, like black men seem like a small portion of the world, like as if they're not important. But if you were to remove them all ordeal, it's a waste because I feel like black men get the short end of the stick a lot. Whether it's from the black woman, the white man, or the white woman. Black men typically get the short end of the stick. But I don't think black men realize how much black women really depend on y'all. When we're out in public, let's say we're hanging with our friends and maybe this is just how I feel. But when I'm out in public, I may go with my girls. If I go somewhere and I know a black man that's there, I automatically feel safer. There's been times where I've gone to a lounge or a bar and I may run into my cousin automatically. Somebody's gonna make sure I'm good if something were to happen. Literally last weekend I went to a lounge and a friend of mine from the past, her ex came in. And I don't even think anything's happened. But at one point, like I looked across from me, he happened to look across from me and he mouthed, you good? And I was like, yes, instantly felt safer. I hadn't seen this many years. So I feel like in a hypothetical world where the black man didn't exist, the black woman would not be comfortable. Y'all are a headache at times, but in real life, we need y'all.