 Why the narcissist is never there for you. The narcissist is never there for you because they lack empathy. They lack the ability to understand and share your feelings which is why it will seem like they just don't care which is why you will feel emotionally weak whenever you are around them. If you need emotional strength you need to find somewhere else to get it because they're not going to be there for you. You may want their emotional support but they're not going to give it to you because they don't have enough to go around which is why they may often seem detached when you need them to care for you. They will go off and do something else. They will play on their phone because they don't want to deal with it. They don't want to deal with your emotions. They don't know how to love and care for you because they were never taught how to do that and you cannot raise someone who is already an adult if they don't have empathy now. They're never going to have it. It's too late. They're not going to care if you're upset about something or if you need their emotional support. It will just irritate and annoy them and it will eventually anger you. It will cause you to become resentful because you're being treated unfairly. You're not being treated with a love and respect that you deserve but they don't have enough empathy to give to you. They barely have enough for themselves so when you're upset about something they're not going to be there for you. They're not going to share your feelings. They're not going to give you sympathy or support. They're not even going to try to understand you. You will have to get that empathy from somewhere else because even if they do give you what little empathy they have they will expect something from you in return. There's always a double standard with the narcissist. They won't show any care or concern for you but they will expect you to do that for them. They will expect you to immediately stop what you were doing and attend to them. They will expect a lot from you but you can't expect the same treatment from them because they won't do the same thing for you. You may be very kind and generous but before you do things for the narcissist you need to ask yourself if they would do the same thing for you. Would they take the time to understand you? Would they help you to feel better? They probably wouldn't but you keep doing it for them because you think they're going to change. You think they're going to learn from your actions. You think they're going to see the error of their ways but they won't. You cannot teach a narcissist how to care for you. They don't care about you. They will only do something if it benefits them. They won't do it for you so you need to take that kindness and generosity that you're giving to the narcissist and give it to yourself because they're not going to reciprocate. They're not going to give anything back to you in return. They're not going to replenish your emotional energy so you're going to end up emotionally starved which is why it is so important for you to recognize that they do not understand your emotions. Before it gets to that point you need to recognize that your emotions irritate and annoy them. They don't want to deal with that. They can only express their emotions through sexual acts. That's their idea of comforting you and even then it's still all about them so don't expect empathy from the narcissist. Don't expect them to be there for you. Thank you for watching. I hope this video varies a bit with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate my PayPal link is in the video description. Coach the inquiries. You can email me at coach.naks.fivert.uk. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.