 You're good-looking let's make a baby And I was no I forget the baby. How about a date? Let's start slow. Okay simple effective Great, okay, so this is this is huge here. I love this is like one of the most important things I've been teaching for years and years and years and years and people used to have they pay a lot of money for this and pay attention biggest secret is Making fun of yourself first is the ultimate defense It's the ultimate way to remove any fears you have about you or what you're doing or what you're talking about It's just making fun of yourself. This is unbelievable. I've said this before but it's really part of this whole thing I'm trying to teach today, so It was a great comedian. I knew once still does comedy and he had a huge nose It was ridiculous even bigger than James Marshall's nose You can check out this not later just walk up to him and kind of go wow there could be stuff And there could be girls up there They're probably have been anyway. I digress so this guy he had a really huge nose and he go on stage and He wouldn't say anything. He's an expert at creating a that social tension So he'd walk up and everyone would look at him and you look at the audience They turn his head to the left and of course everyone sees his huge nose and you hear people start laughing They look over here It slowly turn his head and look at the audience over here and everybody else gets a look and there's more people start laughing at his nose and Then he literally just be doing this for 30 seconds They were just laughing his nose then he turned to the front and look at everybody and his first line to be Never notice How in pictures at certain angles? No matter what you do your nose just looks big Right and everybody laughs because haha, it's not the pictures. It's his nose So how many people do you think for the rest of that comedy show? Make fun of him for his nose. How do you yell? Hey, man? You got a big nose. How many? None because he already made fun of himself first. He's diffused the tension Right so he's able to do his whole show and nobody says shit Everyone laughs at his jokes and he does great and he's doing that because imagine what he would do with that nose If he walks up on stage goes hey, and everybody's laughing his nose in his Yeah, so for my first joke and he starts doing some joke and he doesn't acknowledge it. What's gonna happen? Hey, look at your nose. Hi, your nose is huge buddy. Where'd you get that nose buddy from a camel? Whatever people will just start heckling him and and he's fucked. Okay, so this is a super cheat I don't care what you're afraid of right you want to diffuse your ego and stop giving a fuck what people think bring up Your own weaknesses are you short walk up the girl will be like hi you ever hear that short guys are best in bed? Well, I think you should find out you know, how you doing? Hey, you know, you know what they say about Asians. It's true We're rich. Hi, what's going on? Whatever You know, hey, you know what they say about black guys. That's really true. Let's get out of here You know whatever doesn't matter but just but just get in there and what seriously I got guys are like Oh, well, you know, I'm too old. I can't hit our girls walk up to girls Like hey, I know you're thinking you're thinking I'm probably too old for you But guess what you're gonna learn how wrong you are or you're gonna learn, you know, we're super awesome Whatever it doesn't matter, but just make make the joke, you know, if there's a girl and I think she might be too young I'll walk up to her and be like, excuse me miss. I was gonna hit on you But I think you might be too young and I I like you but not enough to go to jail So how old are you and she'll be like, I'm 20. I'll be like great. I'm Sasha and I find that she goes She goes I'm 15. I'll be like I'll see you in five years and I'll just walk up But but but if I'm really worried about I'm just gonna I'm just gonna put it out there And that's just me kind of circumventing that whole process of like, oh, what about this? What about this fucking say it and put it up there and have fun with it and it's really it's really a super cheat It's a super cheat to disable your ego. It's awesome Does that make sense? Is that useful? All right, good So bonus fear busting game. All right, so this is This is interesting. So this is a little bonus for all you guys that Want to kill your social fear in the face totally And it's also I guess this is good for people who want to start a little bit at an easier temple They don't want to just run straight into like coming up to strangers and doing the crazy stuff So they might want to take it a bit easier and sort of work up to it. This is really great So step one so get a friend Okay, and just what pick a block that has lots of people just walk that block with your friend all the way Take a few minutes and just look at all the people and think up compliments Just think of compliments that guy says that guy's got men and women right that guy's got cool shoes That guy's got awesome hair that guy's got a great walk that girl's got an amazing You know whatever purse doesn't matter, but just think of these compliments and just beat just Observe observe. Okay, that's level one really easy not a big deal. Okay level two same thing But when you recognize that compliment just say it to your friend that tricks awesome that guy's six foot nine That's ridiculous that guy's huge, you know, that guy's got a fake hair. That's a totally a two-pay That's hilarious. Just say it to your friend and again walk all the way back down the same block take a few minutes step three look down the three say Compliments to people as they walk by and keep walking. Okay, this is this is a really crucial step So you're walking along and you know, there's like a girl there and she's got whatever She's got the whatever a most amazing crazy haircut ever you're walking mind Just like hey nice haircut keep walking another dude walks by dude awesome walk keep walking You do the little cute dog my god You're a huge dude with really cute dog keep walking to just throw out these compliments Don't think about it Don't give you don't give yourself that opportunity to start thinking whatever they did just fucking hit it out and keep walking Okay, step four walk down the street give out compliments and just stop and have Conversations with people that seem friendly and you'll see this sometimes you'll you know even in a bar or any situation You'll just say hi to somebody and they'll be like hey, and you're like, okay, that person's friendly Okay, so again compliment game walk down the street. I like you nice walk You've got a great energy and some some people will just be like oh cool And you'll see that friendliness and a stop and be like hey, my name is how you doing? What do you have to and just just have a quick conversation? Okay, very simple and Level five where you want to get to give out compliments and stop and have conversations with women that seem friendly So we're just basically saying all right. Let's cut out these dudes now. Let's talk to girls. Okay, and Just look out for that friendly vibe stop and have conversations with chicks If you can go out there and just do this and literally just take 20 minutes and walk around and just Start cranking out these compliments you get so automated. You don't even think about it You'll be walking down the street with your buddy, but I'll walk by you'll just be like nice shoes You're like what or you'll be like hey nice ask you like what I'm okay. You got a great butt That's awesome and then next thing you know you're talking to this girl and all because you've trained yourself just to be like Cranking out compliments and as her ego goes down this gets easier and easier easier to the point You don't even think you just walk down the street and you're just like hey, how's it going nice hat? I like you you're awesome And that's it You just become that guy who does not give a fuck and just gives compliments and says hi to people and just does whatever he Wants to do and this makes you a baller. Okay, so if you need to use that pass it along to a friend Please do it is a good game All right, so before we get to that slide No, that's basically that's basically it. I wanted to do a short one and just have lots of time for questions so on my website there's a newsletter if you guys want and I made a special but this is important. This is a special bonus. I made this for you guys I put a bunch of my really most favorite ridiculous things to do to destroy your social fear In a report for for you guys here today, and it's there. It's just such be with a comm slash 21 and That is basically the core of my presentation And I want I wanted to say also I Did a talk before in London and it was really funny because I didn't know what the signals were So I got this signal like fuck I got six minutes and I went really fast through it and then and then I got off the stage And I didn't do questions and he was like bro that man 15 So this time I'm like I'm gonna do a short talk get the message out and then do questions And I think I've accomplished that so I feel good. That's not sure. I don't want questions for you like We would you end up in jail if you like have no social anxiety or like come like kill your ego completely But you'd have great stories being in jail There are you here funny story the reason I said that because they're working at school dining hall and There's one girl with work with me and I only talked to her for one hour. I can tell she likes me and Yeah, it's like a slap on her butt a Slap on her butt you slap the girl's butt. Yeah, so hard. Yeah, and she likes it And she likes it and Yeah, just being be real, you know, I Just got email from school that like doesn't manager like, you know what they have camera over there and they saw it I have to count how a conversation is a manager like Guess what you're doing this congratulations Obviously if you can lose you your job like, you know, I'm saying maybe take it a little back You know I'm saying anything or you can get like arrested or really in trouble I would think twice about but generally walking up to people and picking your nose and being stupid and making and you know I'm saying you can never get arrested for it for talking to someone being a read You just cannot maybe they'll get to one point where in Western countries you will be and that's when I'll leave that country and America's getting close But but yeah, so obviously yeah, if you can lose your job or something like that I wouldn't same thing with like being direct if I'm working a girl at work I wouldn't be like damn girl. I want to know I just wouldn't do it because that's using your brain Yes, sir. So in Colorado, I used to kill social anxiety by smoking a lot of weed and This got me kicked out like many different places. Am I doing it wrong? I Mean yeah, because then you're becoming dependent on marijuana We're here you're being dependent on you and your ability to push push yourself Your ability to interact with people and your ability to just take control of your own reality without using any outside source That's the problem That's why in the beginning I kind of made fun of hypnosis because then you might be like well I could you could just get hypnotized and be like I'm not afraid of anything But it's kind of like a cheat and then you're real you're reliant on that What do you do hypnosis every three months or six months if it wears off? You're gonna just keep I was hanging out with a guy a few days ago dude spent $60 a day on weed There's literally gets the thing a weed smokes it all the next day goes on gets more weed And he's productive and he's running a business and he's doing really great. What happens when the weed runs out? What happens when he becomes immune to the weed? You know I'm saying so Yeah, there's many paths, but try and pick the path that's gonna serve you in the long run for let's say many things but Destroying your fears as a man if you have trouble approaching meeting women or working through some issue in your life Sasha daygame is the man to talk to come on stage my man There's many paths, but try and pick the path that's gonna serve you in the long run No, no, I forget the baby. How about a date? We'll start slow. Okay simple effective Great, okay, so this is this is huge here. I love I love this This is like one of the most important things I've been teaching for years and years and years and years And people used to have they pay a lot of money for this and pay attention You