 Hello everyone. Welcome to another NARC Survivor Live video. In this one we're going to be talking about when the narcissist realizes that you are a real one. Because you did so many things for them. So many things that are the goodness of your heart. You wore your heart on your sleeve. You did everything in your power to try to make them happy. To make sure that they were comfortable so that they didn't have to worry about anything. Yes you did that for them because you cared and maybe you felt like you loved them as though they meant that much to you. And you hoped that you would mean something to them after everything you did. You hoped that they would care about you. Do narcissists ever realize that you are a real one? Because I know I do. I know I recognize that you are a real one. You're an empath. You care about people. You want to be there for them. You wanted to be there for the narcissist. And you were there for them. You were at their beck and call. When they said jump you said how high. You said what do I have to do. When do I have to do it. And then you went out and you did it. You made sure that it was done for them. Because you cared that much about them. But do they share those same feelings for you. After everything you've done. It's like they say. Real recognize real. And narcissists are not real. There's nothing real about them. What did they do that was ever real for you? They are manipulators. They're decepticons. They lie. They future fake. They engage in all of these underhanded tactics. So when they're engaging in all of this fake stuff, how are they meant to recognize anything that is real? In fact, everything that you did for them, they just saw that as a weakness. They saw it as you being foolish and wise. And they chose to take advantage of that. Well, they may have seen it as though you were manipulating them. And that's why they always had to be two steps ahead of you to prevent you from having power over them. Yes, that is exactly how they think. So a person with MPD, they are never going to realize that you are a real one. They're never going to accept that. They're never going to give you credit for anything that you've done for them. They're never going to do that. Because they're not on that same frequency. They're not operating at that same level of vibration. They're not being real. So how are they going to recognize the realness in you? Of course, they're not going to recognize that. Of course, they're not going to see it. And you should know by now at this point that they never saw it. They never recognize just how real you are. They never recognize that at all. But even if they could, I don't think they would care. I mean, just look at people who don't have full blown MPD and they're just narcissistic. It's still all about them. And even though maybe at some level, some of them might recognize your realness, they may be able to read into it at least at a cognitive level. But they don't really care. Like I've said before, narcissists are like mice. They run out of the hole in the wall. They grab a bit of cheese or whatever it is. And then they run back to that hole in the wall where they belong. Because yes, they do know where they belong. And if this video is vibing with you so far, please hit the thumbs up button down below to show your support. Thank you. But yeah, they know where they belong. And that's why if you look at their family members and friends who they choose to surround themselves with, they're just other fake people just like them, other manipulators, corn artists, deceptive people. They're all exactly the same. And they may target you together and bond over your destruction. Because that's just how they're looking at you. Honestly, they just see you as a fool. They think you're stupid. They think you're very naive. Some of them even think that you're weak. And they separate these things that you have, whether it's your qualities, your achievements, your possessions, whatever it is, they separate that from you. Because remember, they view you as an extension of them. There's no boundaries. There's no separation between you and them. So they look at it like they can just take whatever they like. They can mimic you. They can mock you. They can steal from you. They can do all of these things because they view you as their possession. As this thing that belongs to them. And that's why they're extremely jealous. They don't like you having your own life, having your own beliefs, values, interests, likes. They don't like you having anything of your own. Because they want to continue viewing you as this extension of themselves so that they can continue using you. For them to do that, they have to view you as this object that exists to serve them. They have to continue viewing you in that way so that they can continue to get their needs met. So narcissists, true narcissists with NPD, they never recognize that you're a real one. Even though yes, you may be. You may be very real. You may have done a lot of real things for them. You may have had a lot of real feelings. They don't see it the same way. They see you as a fool. They see a weakness that they can exploit. Or they see that you're trying to manipulate them. And they're hyper vigilant. They're not going to let that happen. So they're always going to be two steps ahead of you to prevent you from ever doing that. Even though that may never have been your intention. 129 live viewers, if you're finding this video helpful, please hit the thumbs up button down below. I appreciate it. But yeah, they're never going to recognize that you're real. And the simple reason for that is because they're not real. I mean, you've got to be in that frequency of realness to really be able to recognize when someone is being real. You've got to be authentic. You've got to have this innocence about you. And yes, of course, when you're in that state, you are at risk. You are vulnerable. In the narcissist's eyes, you are stupid. You're foolish. You're naive, you're weak. That's exactly how they see it. And some of you may see it as though being in this state, having this innocence about ourselves as we do. Some of you may see that as a curse. When it's actually a blessing in disguise, because that is what allows you to find other real people as well. That's how we all manage to find each other. Because of this realness that we have within ourselves. But yes, in many ways, that did contribute to us getting caught up with narcissists. It did. Because that love that we have, it made us blind to what was actually going on. It may have prevented us from seeing it at least in the beginning. Because you've got to think that if we didn't have these feelings, if we didn't feel so in love, and we weren't desiring connection, we weren't being real, we weren't being authentic, then we would have seen it coming. We would have realized what was going on. We would have been two steps ahead of it ourselves. So yes, when you're being real, when you're being authentic, that can put you at risk of being harmed. And that's why we teach the gray rock method, which is to be dull and an interesting to manage and control your emotions and your reactions so that they can't trick you so that they can't get what over on you, so that you will see it as it is happening. But narcissists are never going to be able to elevate to that level, to that frequency, but they're able to recognize the realness in you. Because for them to do that, they would have to be authentic. They would have to be real. And they're never going to be there. They have a false self, which they use to manipulate you. So that's the vibration that they are on. And they're doing it out of their own fear, guilt, desire and shame. And sometimes even their own pride. So how are they ever going to recognize the realness in you? How are they ever going to know that you are a real one? But I can tell you that I myself, I know that I am real. I know that I am authentic. And yes, I do see the realness, the authenticity in all of you. I recognize that you are real. I recognize that you are about what you said you were about. And you're not just going out and saying that you're about something when you're not. You're not pretending to be something you're not. You are who you say you are. And that is how you may often recognize other people who are the same way. Other people who are real and authentic. Other people who can live in the moment. They don't have to overanalyze everything and think about how they're going to get ahead of someone. They don't have to do that because they've found peace within themselves. And that is a beautiful thing when you find that. But when you do find that, if you haven't already, yes, that does make you vulnerable to narcissists. And they may use that to exploit it and to get one over on you. If you're finding this video helpful so far, remember to hit the thumbs up button to show your support. Thank you. Forget about the narcissists. Realizing that you're a real one. Stop trying to show them. Stop trying to prove a point. They're never going to see it. They're never going to recognize it. They're just going to point out all of these things that are meant to be bad or wrong about you. They're going to target your self esteem. They're going to try and erase your identity and make you lose touch with who you are until you start to think that you're not real just like them because they're going to pull you onto that frequency. But they gas like you and then you begin to doubt yourself. So what I recognize to you is that instead of constantly trying to get the narcissist to realize that you are a real one, instead of doing that, realize that in yourself. Validate yourself. Reaffirm to yourself every day. Remind yourself of everything that you did for them. Everything that makes you real. That makes you authentic. Yes, remind yourself of that every day because you are real and they may not want you to know that but it's important for you to know and most of them they probably don't know that and they never will if they do have full blown MPD but they don't want you to think that about yourself as well. They want you to think that you're fake despite everything that you've been doing for them. They want you to doubt yourself because in their minds that owes the victim, they're justified in everything they do. They focus on your reactions to the abuse, the effect rather than the cause. So how could they ever recognize that you're real? Of course, they're never going to see that. They are in denial and anytime that you confront them, anytime that you demonstrate your realness to them, they're going to want to shut you down. They're going to want to make you feel bad about yourself. They are not just going to accept it but who knows maybe at some level and maybe that's the reason for the denial is because deep down they sense something. Remember they are predators. They have high levels of cognitive empathy. They're able to read into people. So who knows maybe at some level they do recognize it. They do know that you are a real one but they just don't want to accept it because then that would mean that their false character is fake and of course that's something no narcissist wants to accept. They have to believe that their false character is real. It's what they use to get their narcissistic supply so they're not going to let go of that but yeah as I said recognize the realness in yourself. Validate yourself. Reaffirm it to yourself every day and don't let them make you doubt yourself because that's what they will try to do. They'll try to make you think that something is wrong with you. They'll try to get you to doubt your qualities and abilities. They'll try to discredit you and they will play the victim and they will try to punish you because yeah most narcissists they really do believe that their victims are just trying to manipulate them. They think everyone is fake and a lot of people in this world yes they are fake. They most definitely are and I'm sure that many of you have experienced that already but you were not fake. You were there for them. You were real. You actually cared about them. You did things out of the goodness of your hearts but they are never going to see that. They're never going to know it. They're only ever going to see you as a manipulator yourself and yet we wonder why sometimes they turn around and they call us the narcissist. They label us as these bad people no matter how much we did for them no matter how many times we were there for them they really can't see it. They're never going to know but we know because we're real we're authentic so we can see it in each other and we can see it in ourselves and I know that because that's why you're watching this video right now because it vibes with you. You recognize that you were a real one to the narcissist. Narcissists don't think like that. They don't really care. They're not trying to prove themselves as a real one. That's what real people do but at some point as I did as well we just get fed up. We realize that there's just no point we're wasting our time and we'd rather just share that realness with ourselves or try to find other people who are real as well because what's the point in wasting that on a narcissist who can't even see it and even if they could see it they probably wouldn't appreciate it. They wouldn't even care. 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