 So, what ended up happening was that I chose a life that was very different from the status quo from the previous generation's designs or roadmap for success. And the main points that I want to make in this speech today is loosely about lifestyle design, looking at how to, which is what is being called like the modern phrase which used to be just called doing things you like doing, having some fun, having a fun life and now is lifestyle design in a package so we can sell it. But what I want to talk about is the way that you can make choices in your life and this speech is for young guys out there because I get a lot of guys contacting me asking me what should they do with their lives and I don't necessarily want to be responsible for men quitting university or real jobs and going out to India. I'm not necessarily saying that's the best thing to do but I do want people to start thinking in terms of what are their real options and that it's not necessarily the riskiest thing to go out and live a life that is on your own terms. Our parents generation, our grandparents generation came from very different economic socio-political times and back in my parents generation it made sense more or less that if you were working class, middle class, unless you were born into extreme wealth it was a good idea to study hard, get involved in a job that seemed stable and stay there for multiple decades, buy a house early in the city that you were brought up in and get married and have kids. That was the way things were done and it did equate that if you studied hard, worked hard, were pragmatic that likely you were going to succeed. Things these days are very very different. There are still some industries where that is like the correct thing I guess or makes sense to do and I work with a lot of these guys as a dating coach, a lot of analytical thinkers, a lot of engineers, IT guys, finance guys, those areas that yeah there's still plenty of work out there for but in terms of life satisfaction maybe that those things are deficient. However, in my opinion as someone who accidentally became a digital nomad, accidentally became a successful entrepreneur because I was never planning to do those things. I was planning to follow passions that I were interested in which originally was martial arts so that meant that I had to go to China because that's where the masters were that I wanted to learn from. So instead of doing what a lot of my contemporary male friends did, buying cars, sometimes buying houses, getting themselves, saddling themselves with lots of debt in order to try and project a certain status to the world around them, I put my limited resources into travel and finding masters and teachers that I wanted to learn from. So it was that I went to the ends of the earth to find the teachers that were really meant something to me. My other passion in life was playing the flute which I play very nicely and so I started a weird wacky funk band which was never gonna work in terms of becoming famous because I was several decades too late for that. If I'd been brought up in the 70s in San Francisco or fucking LA then maybe that would have worked but I was too late for that. However that was what I wanted to do, that was an expression of my passion and moving from these kind of odd choices to odd choice, what I did was I recognized that there was certain time and places to experiment with this kind of stuff and that there was also a time to let it go and move on because I did notice playing music for many years that girls would have sex with a guy who might become famous but they don't have sex with a guy who's definitely not gonna become famous. Yeah there's nothing sadder than seeing that 39 year old guy rocking out in the local pub still just living the dream, still just holding on to that that it's someday it's gonna work. I spent 10 years playing in a weird wacky funk band and I was obsessed with that, that was my life's purpose and at a certain point I realized okay if I keep doing this this is gonna get sad it's been really fun and interesting up until this point but I need to shift and change. I developed over time the abilities that eventually led me into becoming a really effective entrepreneur which the first one was