 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel my name is Lloyd So today we're going to talk about a pretty important subject and that's a rejection So I see a lot of my clients a lot of my students and viewers of this channel When they get rejected by a girl a lot of times it takes them out of the game They're not able to process it correctly and because of that they don't succeed with women and They could be succeeding with women a lot better if they processed it in a different way the way a high value high status kind of guy Thinks of himself the way he processes it. Okay, so what is a high value guy? Well, high value guy is someone who values himself who knows his worth. So basically in this video I'm going to show you how to process rejection correctly I'm going to show you a bunch of examples of ways guys do it incorrectly and then I'm going to show you the better Way of processing this rejection So let's get right into this video the first thing that I'm going to talk about when it comes to rejection And this is something that I see a lot of guys doing is they reject themselves even before They talk to the girl for example, I have a client who you know We recommended that he go to a lot of group activities during the week. So he's doing that and he's doing great However, when he goes into these activities sometimes if the mood isn't right Sometimes if the people aren't talking to him right away. He assumes that they don't want to talk to him He assumes that they think he's a creep. He assumes that they don't like him now What kind of evidence would there be to suggest that they don't like him? Well, not much other than the fact that they're not really paying attention to him as much as they used to and so in these Situations, he's preventing himself from even taking action Before anything has really happened and I see a lot of guys doing this So if you can think in your life when you've had certain social situations where people are just you know They're not talking to you at that moment and then you assume that it's because they don't like you or because they think you're a creep Most of the time this is all in your head. Usually people aren't thinking that You know, I used to think this too when I was going into different environments where I didn't know the people too Well, you know, I travel a lot and sometimes when you're at a hostel or when you're at Oh, I'm not really good at hostels anymore But when I'm in different environments like I'm learning something new for instance at my Jiu-jitsu gym if I go to a jiu-jitsu gym and people don't act the same way they do at another gym I sometimes they assume they don't like me, but almost never is that the case It's just because I'm a new guy and they don't know me that well yet So after they get to know me after they talk to me a little bit then I find out they're actually really cool guys They really enjoy my presence and there was nothing happening there before You know, a lot of times people tend to assume that other people are standoffish or they don't want to talk to them When in reality, they just don't know them that well They're shy or maybe they were occupied with something else So if you think about that in your life always assume the positive because that's gonna be the trend here Assuming the positive is what a high value guy does He assumes that he's a worthwhile person to talk to and that if something doesn't work out It's due to situations and not necessarily due to himself I'll give you another example. So if you walk into a bar, let's say I don't know and there's a cute girl Ordering a drink or something like that you walk up to her and you say hey, what's up? My name is Lloyd nice to meet you and she says Nice to meet you. Hey, and then just turns away to her friend and starts talking to her Okay. Now some guys would interpret that as she rejected you. She doesn't want to talk to you. She doesn't like you and They're probably wrong because what happened right there was that she talked to me for literally half a second Shook my hand and then turned back to her friend. Now. How much of that? Could she learn about me? How much from that? Does she know who I am? How much can she really reject me per se? The only thing that she could really reject are my looks So she there's a possibility that she might hate my face That's a possibility but for me knowing people unless you have some horrible disfigurement or something like that or you know You're really maybe people think you you look unfriendly or something like that They're probably not thinking that okay What probably happened is that she was talking to a friend about something something really important And this random guy interrupted her thought process and she just wanted to get back talking to her friend There was no rejection there Now the guy who interprets it as oh, this girl doesn't like me. This girl hates me. I suck How likely is he going to be to approach another girl after that? Probably not very likely. Okay. He's going to be thinking about the whole thing. He's going to be thinking about himself He's going to be getting down on the dumps But the high value guy who values himself and knows his worth and knows that people People deserve to talk to him and he's an important person He's going to interpret that as hey, maybe this person's having a bad day or maybe she just wanted to talk to somebody else Okay, or maybe she was having a conversation that interrupted her Nine times out of 10. That's probably what's going on you guys Okay And so if you take it personally if you get down on the dumps over these sorts of things Then you're probably not going to be successful because you know when you're going out as a guy Like you're going to get girls that don't want to talk to you and that's fine That's totally okay. It's part of the game. It happens to me too I still get girls that don't want to talk to me But when they don't want to talk to me, I don't think all I suck Like, you know loy like you really messed that one up Bulba now sometimes I mess up and that's that's fine too, but In these situations, I laugh. I think I guess she didn't want to talk right now And then I go up and I talk to another girl I still keep that positive mindset because that next girl might want to talk to me And if I come in with a negative frame if I come in with this, uh, I suck I'm I'm shitty type mindset. She's not going to see the best side of me And I'm probably going to blow that opportunity Okay Now the truth is is that when you're going out and when you're talking to people like Most guys will Talk to a bunch of girls that don't want to talk to him. He's going to have to make a couple rounds He's going to have to put himself out there to a variety of different people now successful people People who are successful not just in dating but in life in general They know that when things don't work out, it's not always their fault Now they process it and they feel like hey, what could I've done better there? And that's always a very important thing to do, but they don't dwell on their mistakes So if you've been if you think you've been rejected Think about it. Are my am I really taking into account all the possibilities? Am I really taking into account what could be going on? If you've been talking to a person for two seconds, they probably don't know you It's probably incorrect for you to assume that they're rejecting you It's more the situation and I've had it so many times you guys Where a girl has turned me down even a girl that I've been texting for long periods of time That I wasn't able to get on a date or maybe I messed up the third date or something like that Or maybe we were together for a little bit and I messed that up I've I've had so many situations where the girl has eventually come back to me where I've won her over in the end This has happened to me so many times that I know for a fact that it is almost never over Okay That's the mentality that you kind of got to have and it's look it's a cheeky thing to think Because look if somebody's married, okay, maybe they'll be with them forever But with the divorce rates in this country, you know, who knows but If you think about it like that, then you're going to be much more likely to go out there again and not beat yourself up too much Okay The guys that do well that are my students are the people that understand this Young guys, especially or guys that have that come in there with a lot of negative mindsets that I have to unravel The biggest impediment to their progress is themselves their interpretation of reactions So if you find yourself interpreting things as negative all the time, you're probably not that bad It's probably your negative mindsets that are holding you back And so if you want to change that rewire your brain Take into account some of the examples that I've given you in this video and you're going to be a lot more successful Okay guys, hopefully this helps if you may tell you consider subscribing If you want to get coached by me in person check out my live training schedule down below If there's a city in the united states that i'll be coming to january for every march sign up for it Dude i'm looking for guys that are ready that are motivated that are going to get out there and take action So hopefully that's you thanks to let you guys good luck out there