 Should you forgive a narcissist? Forgiveness can be defined as a conscious deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance towards a person or group who has harmed you. It does not mean that they deserve your forgiveness. It does not mean that you're going to forget about what they did to you and it does not mean that you accept their behavior. It means that you are seeking to reclaim yourself. You are cleansing your soul. It is about detachment. Separating yourself from the narcissist. Forgiveness can help you move on, but only if it's something you feel genuinely. If it is, it can be very good for your health. Forgive the narcissist and forgive yourself for getting involved with them. Let go of your anger and use that energy for healing. Don't waste your energy on the narcissist. They've taken enough of it already. Keep that energy for yourself. You need it to heal and this is why I believe that you should forgive the narcissist. Not for them, but for you. Where attention goes, energy flows. And as long as you are focusing on the narcissist and feeling all of these emotions for them, you are feeding them. You are feeding them with your emotional reactions and you are taking the focus off of yourself. This is exactly what they want you to do. They want to distract you from your healing. They want to distract you from yourself. They want 20, 30 years to go by. And for you to still be miserable. Still looking back and holding on to what they did to you. As long as you do that, you will never be free. You will never grow or progress because this will always be holding you back. It will always be preventing you from achieving great things. So let it go. Take the weight off your shoulders and see how much lighter you feel. Relieve yourself of this burden. Let go of your troubles or worries. Worrying about it isn't going to solve anything. Holding a grudge towards them isn't going to change what they did. It's not hurting them. It's only hurting you. It's only keeping you back in life. And that's exactly what they want to see. They don't want you to progress or move on. They want to see you being mad at them. As long as you're focusing on them, they're comfortable. It makes them feel powerful. It makes them feel as though they are something significant in your life. But if you are able to forgive them and what they did to you, you are removing the significance that they once had in your life. You are taking back the power that they once held over you. And now you can use that power to move on and live your life. Forgiving the narcissist doesn't mean that you're going to let them back in. It doesn't mean that you're going to give them another chance. It's about you detaching from them so that you can move on with your life. I do not recommend giving the narcissist another chance. Forgiveness has nothing to do with giving the narcissist another chance. They know exactly what they've done wrong. They know why you want nothing to do with them. They will act stupid as though they don't know why you're trying to get away from them. But they do know exactly what they've done. And this is not the first time that they've been rejected. This is not the first time that people have not wanted to deal with them. They experience conflict and confrontations with just about everyone they get involved with. They will act as though they're completely bewildered about why you don't want anything to do with them. But I can assure you that they do know the reason why. They just don't want to acknowledge or accept it. It's too painful for them to deal with. They constantly experience failure and disappointment. They do the same things again and again. Receiving the same results. They are emotional vampires. Parasites. They have unresolved traumas which results in them lashing out at you. Throwing their emotional baggage onto you. And it's very draining. You can forgive their behaviour but you cannot give them another chance. You cannot let them back into your life. When you give the narcissist another chance they just see you as being weak or cowardly. They know they're not deserving of another chance. They know they don't deserve to be around you. And that is why they manipulate you. That is why they always invalidate you and try to put you beneath them. Because otherwise you would look at yourself and wonder what you're even doing around them. This is why they have to trick you into looking at yourself in a negative light. They have to make you doubt yourself. They have to make you doubt your own worth. But if they do manage to trick you into taking them back of course they're going to use it to prop up their false self. They're going to use it to make themselves feel as though they are incapable of being resisted or withstood. They want you to let them back in. They want you to give them another chance. But it's not because they care about you. It's not because they understand what they've done. It's not because they're going to make an effort to change their behaviour. They just don't want to be rejected. Narcissists are a lost cause. Your attempts to change or influence them have no chance of succeeding. They cannot be changed for the better. There is nothing you can do to improve the situation. There is nothing you can do to make them understand. They just don't get it. They are unable to correct their behaviour. They cannot adjust adequately or appropriately to the environmental situation. So do not expect them to. Do not expect them to change their behaviour. Do not expect there to be an understanding. They're going to be the same way for the rest of their lives. They have a limited awareness of their behaviour. And that is why they continue to repeat the same mistakes again and again. They don't adjust anything. They don't change. I do recommend forgiving the narcissist. But not for them. For yourself. So that you can detach from them and move on with your life. Take your energy and focus off of the narcissist and put it on yourself. You will find that it could be very beneficial for your healing. Holding grudges and resentment will only drain you of your life and energy. It will only make you miserable and dissatisfied with your life. And that is why at some point you need to let it go. So that you could be happy and experience true fulfilment. But one thing I do not recommend is giving the narcissist another chance. Letting them back in. There's not going to be any consistent change in their behaviour. There's not going to be an understanding. They don't even give a shit about you. They just want to make you think that they do. So that you will give a shit about them. Thank you for watching. I hope this video has it with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. 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