 Y254 TV. This is still wine morning. If you were not here when the conversation began we are talking about online sex exploration and social media influence on young people. Before we went on that short break she was talking to us about the effect of social media, the implication of social media on the young people. And I love the point she had raised where we were talking about the influence on mental health. What social media does to a person's mental health? So it has contributed to both positive and negative. If personal you will not be able to maintain the status of the social media influence. Sometimes it has made people to go on drugs. Ah, yeah. And others affirm themselves because I am sure we have heard about cyberbullying that is very common in online platform. And I came to understand that one is not for the because if you do not have the emotional stability to handle what goes on there it can easily drain you down. Because we have people that can exchange anytime any one of communication as in Matusiote, Hemiving, you get it. And so if you are not cyber enough emotionally it can drain you. And it has a negative implication because once you start to dislike and there are issues you cannot be able to deal with you become isolated. Once you become isolated emotionally start draining you. And when emotionally start draining you it is linked to mental health. So we always ask ourselves before even you step in and say I am a social influencer or am these am these. Are you able to learn the ways? Are you able to keep the speed? Sometimes you see even the socialites exchanging once and you like become aware who is who. You get it. You are like and what's next. So emotionally social media I am to a jipimengufu. You know and the first question you ask yourself why am I doing this? Because if that I sent self affirmation and even affirmation from your family, from your parents, you know, if you believe you are good enough to do this no amount of anything can shake you. And because when you have emotional balance sometimes you already think we are so strong until something happened. So ask yourself if I want to maintain this standard how far is far? How far can I maintain it? Is it about the fashion? Is it about the hairstyle? You know, their type of celebrity who does the air, we keep on liking and loving and hey, I like the glaze. Little don't I know that glaze maybe on a face I guess is your font. You get it. There's those that's one at a cover come out to fool on me. Each and every fashion in Natokelezea I want to keep on trying. Sometimes the negative greatest impact is some of the people. Let's talk about men. There are men who love to maintain a certain class, a waltz, kiatu, you know, let's talk about men who loves cars. And because the sea celebs so and so is you know, is driving few da, I don't know, there's these CDs or whatever types of the car that someone's loved. And I had one of friends who say and I was wait a minute this car you bought it last year it's barely two years it's a very it's KD something it's them Do you have to change your car because of your friends and says where? Okay, see this person will not show up with their car. They will go to an extra mile of taking a loan to kahaia they're going to this meeting with their friends somewhere I have a friend of mine my gone list is so in peace because these lend him to hell and you go back home he has lent a liars not high You see this is the kind of man I want if you sit down and get photos and you follow him on the social media you'll be easily influenced let's go buy in the curtains went in the last this person the lantern is on his neck what abuse behind the camera this person is taking loans east center this person in one day this person will tell you I have six hundred thousand years and in the next day needs to me as to be so barely so where did six hundred k go to clubbing influence status to what end to what end by the time this person is getting help I remember what they called me and told me I think I need help please leave for me to one of the counselors and like finally I told you you can't maintain this standard we left to the hospital mentally block and the pleasures then we lost him that was so sad that was so sad so how how do how do we take care of our well-being I always say learn your lace I couldn't manage to make me work we have to reach a certain limits there's no competition be you is this is what I can afford I be me personally let me talk about all my personal experience I've worked with people who is who and in my social inflants I've come to meet with who is we even in the government and I am friends coming up in a family where my brother is called Helik Helik is well let me see that but he has a state of class whereby he knows who is who and growing up being the last one so it's a me in friends you see you're going to this hotel there's we can do koku this we can do koku so I also wanted to maintain that standard and my friends my circle of friends they're driving you get it I almost fall to the trap of taking loans wow in 2020 I met with one of my friend now he's gone here and by the time I'm meeting him do you know what he looked at me and told me young girl you need to learn your lace you're not competing with anyone be you if you can afford to go with a motorbike take your growth in one step at a time and gone places so that is when I started learning out of debt because east west debt is because I want to maintain a certain standard I want to be who is who I want to meet them in those hotels and pay the bills but some of the bills are helping I'm paying for you graze we are having all types of fun but once I go back in the house I'm wondering yeah so that moment I realize self realization that this is me Julia it is my limit I can grow within my limit and there is no pressure self evaluation self affirmation self realization it's become so easy so that's what we need I don't have to have a very big gauze and mansion to learn into death because I want to maintain a standard standard if you can't do it god bless you if you can't there's still a process of growth and I'll talk to our young people because one day we want to be an intern the next day we want to be the manager it is a process and we're having even a challenge because I've been in conversation where managers will say like now we would rather hire to train the light attitude more than hire with the degrees and the PhDs solely to say I'm a manager in one of the children home and sometimes I fire people you find someone is looking for internship a simple task of filing in the morning to evening is not yet done why they are on social media we become so addicted to that extent you get my point yes and I've had many company complaining of the same until some organization they keep up the wi-fi because there are people since they get in the office it's nothing else in the social media and someone who say I would rather take a phone for a drop who is having the light attitude to be trained and be ready to adapt more than someone who's really graduating it's well and good it's going to have papers but your focus you just get in the eye guys are back in the office hi guys you know how far is far having your limits so always see there's time for everything is is always a process today we want to be on weeks tomorrow we want to be on this tomorrow we want to be on these it's a process of growth amazing as we wind up this conversation what's the future like the future is bright and we also need to grow with the technologies it's growing but the future is always better for who knows what do I want who I am what am I bringing on the table and that why I say in my disclaimer is if you cannot be able to handle the pressure on the social media please can't it's not for for the fate you know be you be you be little as you can yeah sorry if you go to a restaurant and you find you cannot use those fork and whatever be you wash your hands be you it is because now we are trying to in France or we are trying to be someone that we cannot be yes we can but can we keep up some some when your friend was talking about going to gym and I'm like one day I just thought I need to go into this my friend Grace let me tell you story I did it for two days they're not doing the fourth day and I was like I was to tell my friend you know and because when we're going hiking and everything everyone is dressed in a way like ah you feel they're looking young and I used to tell them I remember I used to tell Maggie she's my colleague you need to have a crop top you get it and I said hey he need a cutter he need a cutter I started going to gym I started drinking he said it is okay but let me tell you the second week you I see in whole Jesus I love the inflowers yes I can see her so I'm like how do I she used to tell me two weeks I look at the Mila and saying they look beautiful yes they look good yes that was all that I thank you so much for having time to talk to us thank you for educating and enlightening us on some of these pertinent issues affecting young people you know it's one thing to talk about say social media influence and then it's another thing to please let us know where we can find you because you're a psychologist oh my goodness and I don't have facebook pay I know you don't exactly the whole conversation we'll be talking about your social media so it's great for you to tell us coffee oh my goodness I'm telling you I can read before on facebook my facebook is juliet favor it's in someone can leech me how I do most of my focus is on teen it's good if you give a chance to mention that I work in a children's home where we deal with straight childrens and orphans basically deal with youth mentorship and teens so you can easily leech out to me with the facebook page and you know you know tongue yeah and take shock amazing juliet thank you so much I will go home and weigh myself yeah because some of the social media just in a govia snapchat I do not have strength to do this with one million filters I tell myself if I can't take a phone a photo let me finish my saying this you see now like you say if you get that time for a friend of mine give me a package for the makeup and under in the morning I look and I say okay this is the process one two three the following day I say this is not me please let me be I think once they were taking home because we need to really go yes we need to pay way for wcw but I think one of the things I am taking seriously carrying home from this conversation is that run your race yes there is no competition yes there is no award for posting photos there is no way you will be told well done good and faithful photographer you know well done good and faithful post time who wants a tiktoker you know run your race you are not in a competition with anyone it is your life that is the second thing I am carrying from this conversation measure your ability to carry what you are able to carry don't carry everything you see on social media not everything you see on social media is real someone told me some time back that they post photos that we as I'm go say you can remember I love you by about your time and I'll post say she's posting photos of two years back so you will think those photos needs a say who came on a say she's expect I'm like why that is social media for you we were on strength of a woman with that conversation on social media influence on the young people we are paving way for valentine to come back with wcw don't take we are taking a short break do not go anywhere