 Hello everyone, welcome to another Narc's Viva Life video. In this one we're going to be talking about how the narcissist is getting their karma now. Because I know a lot of you, you were involved with this narcissist and they manipulated and deceived you. They loved bombed you, they made you believe they were about something for real and then they began to devalue you. And they lied to you, they future faked. And then finally they discarded you. And they may have triangulated you with someone else. And it looked like they just rode off into the sunset as though they just moved on without you. And now they're having a great time. They're not even thinking about you. They're so much happier without you. And now you're left alone to yourself and you're thinking something must be wrong with you. Which is exactly what they want you to think. And of course you're going to think that because you're the one who is alone. They're the ones who have moved on and they're having this great time with someone else. And you felt like no matter what you do, you could never have that with them. You could never please them, you could never make them happy. And yet it's so easy for them to just move on and have this new relationship with someone else. It creates cognitive dissonance to these two conflicting beliefs where you just don't understand how this happened. How they could move on and just forget about you. After everything they said to you. After everything they did. But the reality is that this is just what narcissists do. And they will continue to do that. Yes, they sold you a dream. A fantasy. And all that they're doing is they're moving on and creating this illusion with someone else. They're just doing the same thing again with someone else. They're manipulating and deceiving them. They're love bombing them. And eventually they will be devaluing them as well if it even gets that far. And then they're going to discard them and find someone else again. Just as they did with you. They're going to do the exact same thing again. Only this time because they're perfecting their craft of manipulation they're going to be more skilled, more deceptive and maybe more covert. They're going to know what not to show this new person from what they've learned from you. So they may do things that they never did with you. But it could be different this time where they don't even need to do those things anymore to secure the supply. They might just use their words to put the new supply under their spell. And that may be enough to secure them. But either way yes, it is just a fantasy. It is just an illusion. It's not what you think at all. I know what it may look like but I've seen it so many times before and I've been doing this every day now for the past five years. So yes, I do know exactly what I am talking about. I do know exactly what is going on. And all you really need to know is that you were dealing with someone who was manipulative and deceptive, someone who was self-absorbed and lacked empathy, someone who didn't care about you. Knowing that you can already know what is going on with them after they have left you. You can already know that yes, it is all a lie. It is an illusion. There's nothing really going on in the way that you might think. And I understand a lot of you. Yes, you may feel jealous. You may feel insecure. You may feel like they've just moved on and found someone better than you because a lot of times that is how they like to portray it. But again, yes, that is still an illusion. If it's not an illusion, then why did you feel so disappointed and dissatisfied with them? Why did you never get what you wanted from them? They would have done that with you to secure you as their supply and to prevent you from continuing to question and confront them. So for them to move on and make it look like they have something with someone else, you should already know that yes, that is a lie. It's not real. But of course, they want you to think that it is real. They want you to believe it. They want you to validate it. And the reason why is because that then fuels the illusion. It makes it more believable and more real for them. And as we know or as we should know by now, that's all they really care about is their feelings about themselves. It may seem as though they're worried about you and what you think or feel or believe. Actually, that doesn't matter to them at all. They're not concerned about you. They don't even see you as a separate person. You are an extension of them. So they're only concerned with how you make them feel or what you can make them believe. But it all comes back to themselves. They can't connect with anything outside of themselves. And yes, I do believe that that is their karma. Because every time a person does these silly things where they like to lure people in and then they manipulate and deceive you, they string you along. They make you believe that they're about something but they're really about nothing. Just think about how that is affecting them as they perfect their craft of manipulation. If you thought they were not real when they were with you, you can be sure that it only gets worse because these thoughts, emotions and beliefs are constantly dominating their minds and it's strengthening certain networks in their brains. And it's sending this message, this signal that connection, intimacy, real love, all of these things are not important. And what is important is manipulating people, getting one over on them, just getting what you can get and then leaving and doing the same thing with someone else. That's exactly what it's doing. But of course by this point, they're not going to be able to experience real love or intimacy anyway. If they could have done that, they would have done that with you. Of course they would have given that to you. They could have used it to secure you as their supply to make you validate the illusion. So of course they would have done that but they didn't do it because they can't. But we can, we can move on and have something real with someone else, not with the narcissist. You will never get anything real from them. The only thing you're going to get is real manipulation, real deception, real lies, real future faking and real hatred and envy. Yes, you can be sure about that. Those are the realest things that you will ever get from them. There's nothing fake about that. But of course the very things that are real about them are or should be the very things that you do not want in your life. No, you should not want that from the narcissist or anyone else. But just knowing this, that yes everything you had with them was fake and that's why you never got what you wanted which as we know is a future, a long-term relationship, maybe a marriage, children, these types of things. You never got any of that from the narcissist or some of you did but you knew that something was not right. They didn't actually care about you as a person. There was always something wrong. They were always complaining. They were always miserable. And you did everything you could to try to please them, to try to make them happy. So this is how you should already know. They are never going to be happy. They are never going to feel satisfied. And they are never going to experience a true real deep connection with anyone. They are never going to have that. And that is how you should already know that from what you've experienced with them, how every day it was just this constant complaining. It was constantly just they were over your shoulder. They always found something wrong and they put you on this hamster wheel where you were constantly trying to please them. You were constantly trying to make them happy. It's like nothing you did was ever good enough. They were never happy with you. And a lot of times it just makes you wonder why. Why couldn't I be enough for this person? But I can tell you right now it really had nothing to do with you. It had nothing to do with you at all. It had everything to do with them. They cannot love. They cannot experience that peace and happiness with you or anyone else in their lives. They lack discipline and self-control. And that is why you will find that they are very impulsive. They want things when they want it. And it has to be performed in the exact way that they want to receive it. And if it isn't, then yes, as we know, they will get mad. They won't be happy about it. And they may think twice about doing anything with you the next time. This is just the way that they are. They are not patient at all. And the longer that they have to wait for you, the more that it just riles them up. Because, of course, in their minds, they are the best thing since sliced bread. They shouldn't have to wait for anything. You should just do what they want exactly when they want it. And at the same time, accept that, yes, you are a pile of shit. As crazy as that sounds, that's just exactly how these people want you to think. But that is how you should already know that they're never going to appreciate anyone. They're never going to look into someone's eyes and actually feel like they have something real. They're never going to get to experience that. But to be honest, I don't think they really care about that so much. They're not seeking love and connection. They made a choice a long time ago to seek power and control instead. So that's what they prefer. But despite that, yes, they will always be miserable. Because whether they want it or not, that is actually what they need. But they can't be vulnerable. They can't just let themselves go and accept themselves because they're too worried about what other people think. They have a great fear of being rejected or abandoned. And they fear exposure as well. So all of these things, it just prevents them from being vulnerable with you. Which, of course, as we know, that is what we would all like. Of course, we would all like to see that. And we would accept it and embrace it with open arms. But the reality is, nope, that is never going to happen. You will never get that from them. You will never see it. You will never experience it. No matter how bad you may want it. It just isn't going to happen. And I believe that in many ways, yes, that is actually their karma. Because although they may prioritize other things in their lives, whether it's seeking power or control, making money or whatever it may be, although they may be seeking these other things deep down, I believe that, yes, we do all have a need for connection. But as we know, yes, they do have impossible standards and expectations. So no matter what you do, no matter what you bring to them, it's never enough. Because they've got this fantasy in their minds of this picture-perfect character. And when they idealize you, they love bomb you, they try to turn you into that. And then you reveal that you're just human and that you can never be that for them. And then what do they do? They've got their eyes on someone else. Because it's this fantasy in their minds. They want this picture-perfect character. The problem is that is an illusion for them. Because it will probably never be a reality. They will try to turn you into it or someone else. This picture-perfect character who can supply them. But as you probably notice, as soon as you get close to them, that illusion in their minds falls apart. It's like you can never be good enough for them. Whether it's physically or emotionally, it's just never enough. So you will know from your own experience, you never got that. Whether they would just look at you and smile like they were actually happy to see you. And even the times when it looked like they did, deep down you knew that was just in their minds. It had nothing to do with you. Even though you may have wished that it did, it was just this fantasy, this illusion that they created and they put it on to you and expected you to live up to that. But you could never be that. And you tried your best so if you couldn't be that, no one else will. And that is how you should know that they are getting their karma right now. Because it's very frustrating. No one could ever be enough for them. And I know it frustrates you too. It frustrated me a lot of times. Because we want to be something to this person who doesn't even see us. It's like we don't even exist in their world. But that's just the reality of it. And when you think of it, it's really their karma more than it is yours. Because you can move on, you can find someone else and you can experience that for real. They're never going to be able to do that. Some people think that it's extremely rare, be self-aware, narcissists, but I've never actually seen it myself where I've actually believed it, that it's real. So even to this day, no, I don't believe that it is possible. I don't believe that it's possible for someone who has these illusions, these fantasies in their minds to actually find someone who can live up to that in reality. I mean, yes, they may in the beginning. I mean, it's not difficult for a short period of time, but try that for a longer time. I don't think they will ever get to experience that. With a lot of them, they prefer short-term anyway, but it never really satisfies them because they always get triggered and then they end up devaluing and discarding the person that they're with. So it just never ends well for them. It's just one failed relationship after another. They're never satisfied. They're always looking for something more. They're always looking for something real because in their minds, nothing is real unless it's exactly how they want it. They see it as an extension of them and in the beginning you're this projection of everything. They like about themselves, about the false character and then when they begin to devalue you, you become this negative extension and then you're just no good, you're garbage. They can just get rid of you. They can find someone else. They can replace you in an instant. And a lot of times you're not even aware of it because of course they don't want you to know that unless they can use it for supply. But yes, this is just how it goes and it's good for us because yes, we can experience real love. We can experience intimacy and a deep emotional connection. We can experience all of these things but they will never get to experience that. And yes, of course, I do believe that that is their karma. I do believe that. But it's good for us because we get to experience it. We get to partake in it and enjoy it. So there's no problem for us once we leave and we manage to heal and move on as long as they don't come after us. Because as you probably know, yes, a lot of them will. They will chase you down and they will start these smear campaigns and try to turn everyone against you. And it's all because they're jealous because they don't get to experience that. And the last thing they want is to see you moving on and experiencing that with someone else. They don't want you to do that. But as you probably know, that is exactly what I advise you to do. If it's safe for you to do something safe for you to do so, I do advise for you to leave and go into contact. Take some time out to heal. Of course, don't just jump into another relationship. That's never a good idea. You need to have some time alone first and then when you're ready, when you no longer feel any intense emotional responses to what you experience with the narcissist, that is when you are ready to begin a new relationship. That is when you are ready to do that. And I know that you will all do that in time. Of course, it's not something that happened overnight. This is something that will take a long time. But I know that you will get there eventually, whether it's something you do with a licensed therapist or a coach such as myself. Of course, I do advise you to do that, to speak to someone. It will be very helpful for you. But yes, that's really it. It looked like they just moved on. They rode off into the sunset. They actually rode off into the depths of hell. And many of you weren't even aware of it. You didn't even know, but that was exactly what they did. And they will experience that time and time again. It's never going to stop for them. They will always have that. And there's nothing that they can do about it. But as for you, all you really need to do is stop validating the illusion. Because you've got to look at it like, what is it doing for you? You're not getting anything out of it. All you're doing is supplying the narcissist. When you're looking at their posts on social media, you're looking at their Facebook or Instagram. You're seeing these things. It's not helping you at all. It's just pulling you in even deeper. It's not making things better for you. And sometimes you've just got to put your own mental health first. And think, is this making me better or worse? Because I know a lot of us out of curiosity and fascination. We do a lot of things without thinking. It's like we just want an answer to all of these questions that we have. So we go looking for answers. We go in their social media. And then we see all of these things. And then we emotionally react to it. It's like we may have healed to a certain point. And then we see this one thing on their social media. And then it just pushes us right back again. And of course that is not good for us. Yes, of course that is not good for us at all. To be getting too curious about what is going on with them, with the narcissist. Because you feel like you just want to know when you're doing that, you're just setting yourself up to be triggered. It's not going to help you at all. But what will help you is just to listen to my advice. To know that it really isn't what you think at all. You think that they've moved on and they're living their best lives without you. But that is not the case at all. They will experience the same things again and again. And a lot of times these people end up with narcissist too. So try not to worry too much about it. I know that you've been through a lot of things with them. But things will get better for you. It may take time, you will see that it is all fake. It might look good in the beginning, but in time things will fall apart. So yes, that's it. The narcissist is likely getting their karma right now. They're always miserable. They're always angry. They're always stressed about something. They just can't let things go. They hold grudges for life. They have a lot of bitterness and resentment. So of course they can't just move on. They can't just let things go. So that's it. Yes, they are getting their karma right now. Anyway, I'd just like to thank you all for joining me on another Narc Survival Live video. I do appreciate you all. And you can show your support down below by giving the video a thumbs up if you enjoyed it. Share the video, subscribe. 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