 When the narcissist continues their reign of destruction you shouldn't even be shocked when you see this You shouldn't even be surprised Because they have a mental disorder Which is characterized by dysfunctionality Where they are unable to sustain anything for a long period of time Where they are unable to succeed Some of you may say that they look happy And it may look that way in the beginning Because you're not seeing the bigger picture Narcissists are unstable They suffer from sudden and extreme changes of mental state Which means that things could change at any moment It may look like they're doing well But that's only because they have someone who is building them up They have someone who is taking care of them Someone who is interested in keeping them around Even though they're being taken advantage of Even though they're being abused Because enablers overlook things They don't pay too much attention to it Because maybe they have something to prove to people as well Maybe they want to show people that they can have a successful relationship So they will take care of the narcissist And that will be enough to keep them around at least in the beginning But if the narcissist is on their own without any support They will fail every time Because it's the nature of the disorder They can't consistently behave in a positive way They can't consistently experience harmony, regularity or steady continuity They can't work in a well-organized and competent way Which is why they will never have anything that lasts for a long period of time They will even do things to block their own success They will do things to prevent them from reaching their goals Because they don't want to be independent They want to remain a child and never grow up They want to remain youthful and immature So that they can always have an excuse for not responding to the best of their ability Because then they can remain in need And they will always have someone there to feel sorry for them Someone to help them Because otherwise it would have to be efficient and effective on their own And they don't like to be alone So they'd rather find someone who is willing to take care of them Which is why if you see them doing better after they have left you It's because they've managed to find someone to let them live comfortably They might be with someone who lets them work and keep all of their money They don't have to pay rent They don't have to pay the bills They don't have to pay for a car They don't have to take on any responsibilities like a normal responsible adult They can still be a child So they see it as though they can gain an advantage by being with this person Because they have the upper hand While this other person has the short end of the stick So they will stick in with that type of situation And it may look like they're doing better than when they were with you Because when they were with you They had to be accountable for everything You expected them to pay their way But now this new person is taking care of it So they don't have to be accountable for anything All they really care about is having more for themselves Taking care of themselves So that they can do what they want for themselves And if they're in a situation like that why would they leave But if you put them in a real life situation They will quickly fall apart They wouldn't be able to deal with it They can't deal with stressful situations Put them in anything like that and they will quickly run away from it It may look like they have an easy life And everything is going well for them Maybe they're taking pictures with this new person They're going out to restaurants They're driving in a new car But that isn't anything of substance They're just putting on a show for this new person Who they have to please in that moment Because narcissists do not change They do not adapt or adjust to a personal situation They will repeat the same mistakes again and again So you should already know how this movie ends It may seem like they're doing well but they're just being enabled by someone else They haven't changed They're doing the same things that they were doing with you They just have someone who is willing to put up with more than you were willing to put up with Because this new person has their own issues Maybe they don't want to be alone Maybe they don't have any other options And once the narcissist is wet of that They will take advantage of it They'll go wild They'll run carelessly and recklessly They will play on your fears and insecurities They will push your buttons to make you agree with them To make you obey their rules Because you're afraid of losing them again But whatever you're seeing from the outside with them isn't real It's never what you think it is When you see these things from the outside You have to realise that whoever they're with doesn't know what they're getting themselves into Whoever they're with doesn't know that in time they're going to be regretting that situation Because nothing good comes out of being with them There is never a healthy association with a narcissist But they will try to do better because they want to prove you wrong Maybe you told them that they will never find someone as good as you So now they have to do whatever it takes to prove you wrong They have to find someone and be good to them They have to show high moral standards to make them feel like they're something to value Because you bruise their ego But they're not going to let you see that They don't want you to see how much you have affected them So now they have to try very hard to attract someone else's attention They have to make it very obvious that they want a relationship with them While trying to avoid thinking the same mistakes that they made with you But eventually even that doesn't work out Because they have so many issues So in the end they may just go and mess everything up on their own To show bolder fines and disobedience to you To show you that they don't care what you think When by doing that they're actually doing the opposite Because they're still reacting to something you've said or done But they're only doing it because they just don't want to be accountable They don't want to be required or expected to justify their actions or decisions They don't want to be responsible They don't want to explain anything or make something understood They want to remain a child Because there's no incentive for them to be accountable They don't see any benefit in doing that They see it as though that's giving you the advantage Because then they have to act accordingly Then they have to treat you with respect When they have to benefit from people They need people to help and assist them People who want to uplift them No matter how much they mess things up Their enabler will still be there to support them But it's not a good luck They're just taking advantage of an opportunity without planning or principle Without thinking about the effects on other people Because they see a chance to gain some advantage But their enabler is blind to it They don't see what the narcissist is doing They're actually open to new suggestions and ideas from the narcissist They don't see it how you see it So now the narcissist doesn't have to work as hard to hide a lot of the things that they're doing Because this new person doesn't even notice it Or they don't see anything wrong with it When you would have been on them like a ton of bricks It doesn't even phase this new person But it would phase someone normal And that's how you should know they haven't found the solution to their problems They haven't found the answer You've already seen the movie You know how it's going to end Thank you for watching If you found this video helpful, please give it a thumbs up Share your thoughts in the comment section Hit the subscribe button to receive the notifications If you would like to support the channel, you can donate at paypal.me-survivor You 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