 Go sit down. Sit down. I'm kidding. So, hello and welcome to another video here on Me Plus You Is Us. Her name is Elaine. His name is Kwame. That's a good one. Okay, so yeah, we're back with another video. Yes. As you may already know. The video you've all been waiting for without wanting, without knowing it. Which is what? I don't... How we found out that we were expecting a child. Yeah, how we found out that we were expecting a child. Yeah, so... So last week we talked a bit more about the process. Of getting in there. Not the physical process, but the mental process of prepping to start a family. Yes, what would that mean for us? What do we envision? All these things. But of course there's also the practical side of things. Yeah, we're not going to tell them the practical side of things. We're going to tell them the story about how we found out and what we've been up to. Yeah, so interestingly, if you rewind, it came at the same time that we got Nana. Which is interesting. And it all came as one package deal. Yes. So maybe now as the guardian of the baby, we don't know. Or the other way around. Could be. Anyway, it's magical anyway. How did we find out? Well, we went on Easter break. And then when we came back. With my friend, who came from the Netherlands. We drove all the way to Bourgeois. Yeah, Bourgeois. I had a couple of club beers. And then, certainly after that, I was going on a work trip. And not just any work trip. Three countries in three weeks. Three events. So I knew it was going to be intense. Of course, for Kwame, he was also taking care of Nana on his own. So for both of us, it was quite like we had to adapt a little bit. Yeah. And it was mostly Francophone countries. So I went to Mali, Abidjan, Ivory Coast, and Cote d'Ivoire. And Brooklyn Faso. So in Mali, I think almost at the end of that trip. I think we called, because I had like cramps and stuff. And we're talking like, okay. Yeah, the cramps was bad. And she was having other symptoms. Like, you know, a headache and... Yeah, it was like, I was a bit... She wasn't well. Yeah, I was a bit disappointed. I was also like, okay, so this month it didn't work out. Yeah. Even though we're not counting all these things, but we're like, hmm, okay, it didn't work out. So cramps has been a symptom of the PMS. Yeah. But then nothing came. Like normally you get your flow and then... I don't know why I'm explaining periods to people. This is not an educated thing. So that didn't come. So I was at Abidjan and I felt some kind of way. And I was like, no. Because I just knew something felt different. So I was like, oh my God. What am I going to do? And I also wasn't sure, like, okay, I had like kind of two options, right? So get it checked there. So get a pregnancy test, go to a pharmacy. So I googled pharmacy. So I was like, ah, this is not how I imagined this. Yeah. Because I really wanted to do it with Kwame and not go out there explaining French to some stranger that I needed a pregnancy test. Then do it alone in my hotel room and not being able to tell anybody because I would want to tell Kwame first. Preferably in person. So I was like, nah, this is not it. So I was like, you know what? Hold on. I'm just going to keep it for myself. Not tell Kwame because I didn't want to tell him over the phone and just... Also to not get me worried. Because for me, I was already worried about the headaches and how bad the cramps were when she told me about it and how she was feeling unwell. So I was automatically panicking and thinking that, oh, with the cramps in, headache and you know, a bit of a cold or whatever it is, whatever you're feeling. Is it COVID? Should you check it out? Yeah. So I think she didn't want to bother me further with such details. Nah, and I also didn't want to give it to you... Over the phone. Over the phone. And it was also like... So for me, I wanted to be sure before I would call you and tell you, but that would mean I would go out there on my own, get a test. It could have done, but I was like, oh, it's so different than how I imagined it. So I was like, okay, let me just keep it for myself. So I did. I made it through. And then when I came to Burkina, things really got bad because I got really nauseous and I couldn't eat anything. Everything made me nauseous. And we have very intense day with events and I was literally like, how am I going to get through this? So at that point in time, we also spoke a little less because I didn't want to share how bad I was feeling because I was far, far away, but at the same time, this was like that thought of, okay, it might be here. For me, immediately, that part was, I felt peace. I was like, that part didn't bother me. It was just like the side effects that were literally throwing me off. And I was like, I'm not sure if I can do this. But I made it through. And the camera picked me up from the airport, which was really nice on a Friday. And on the airport, that's when... Not at the airport. I waited till I was in the car. Because I wanted us to be in one space. In the car, that's when she was like, this is what she had been feeling. No, I said, I haven't been honest with you. And then he looked at me like, what is happening? And then I... Well, a lot of emotions came also because I was kind of repressing all the... Things you had gone through, so... Yeah, so I cried a little, and that was like, I have this, I have all these side effects. And so I think it points at me being pregnant. And he just went quiet. He started sweating. Do you remember what you were thinking in that moment? I was happy. I was happy. I was like, whoa. We need to check immediately. Because, yes, you're telling me this now. Like, no way. Because I was putting two and two together in my head. But she says she was having cramps. But she didn't actually say that after the cramps. The flow came. The flow actually came. So in my head, she is flowing. And yeah, that's it. So I was like, ah. Like, wow. But I was happy. I know I was happy. I was very, very happy. And I was like, you know what? We need to get the Test Kids ASAP. Yeah, because that's what I also said. Like, I think we should go to the pharmacy right now. Before we even get home. Because if it's not it, then something is really wrong. Because all these things came out of nowhere. But it was also funny for me to watch because I have had like one and a half weeks, two weeks to kind of process it. And then it's quite a lot to dump on one person when you're not finding out at the same time. So I have had like all the thoughts already. Like, okay, what if this goes well? What if, like, you just like, okay, what if it's, you just get a lot of thoughts, right? And I saw that for you in that moment. All like bloop. But I was, I mean, yes, I was overwhelmed. I started sweating and everything. But like, it was happy, like, you know, news, it's just a happy rush. Yeah. You know, it's like, whoa, like, it's actually happening. Yeah. So excitedly drove, actually drove slower than I ever do. Because all of a sudden, I don't know, my instincts were like, you know. And we were also like, where should we get it? Like, where do you even get a test? And like, we should get a credible one, whatever that means. But like, I drove slowly and, you know, anxiously home. We got to a pharmacy. We got a two-in-one kit. And then we came home and we tested. Yeah. And then I immediately, like, didn't take, I don't know how long these things take. The test, the test, the test said, ideally should wait for like two or something minutes for the bars to, seconds. Yeah, it was. Seconds. The hormones were clearly better. Seconds. In the P. Like it was just like that. Yeah. So we got to know, as you're seeing on the screen at the moment. And just a week after while Elaine was driving to work, something terrible happened. Yeah. So in the beginning it was a bit, how do you say? It was tricky in the beginning because the week I came back, I drove to work. And while I was parking in, literally I was at work. I was parking. I was next to a main road. And there was actually no traffic. Normally there was traffic there in the morning, but there wasn't. But that's kind of encouraged people to speed, especially truck drivers. So the, a truck drove into the side of the car. Oh, she was turning in. While I was like, I was actually almost parked. Yeah. So suddenly I had a truck roll on the right side of the car. We immediately had to check. Yeah. While we had already booked our first ultrasound for a week or so, two weeks. Yeah. We're not supposed to check it the week that accident happened. But we immediately had to check because we needed to be sure that everything was fine. Yeah. So it was like, it was of course overwhelming anyway. And also because I already have a bit of anxiety on the road. And then this happened. It was like my biggest nightmare. And the interaction with the driver wasn't also pleasant. And luckily my colleagues were around. And then later Carmen picked me up because I wasn't even sure what I was supposed to do. But it's always, so it's always better to get checked just in case. And that's what we did. Everything was fine. And that was also the first time we saw the baby. Of course it was like this. Yeah. It was really tiny, like a lentil, I think. Yeah. At the time. You have this app that gives it a fruit every week. So that was good. But then I think that was on a Thursday. And then the next day we already booked our first appointment with our own gynecologist. And thank God, grandma had said, I was like, oh, we don't have to go. We already have pictures of the baby. What are we going for? We already have proof that it's fine. And then I was like, no, we still have to go. Yeah. So he said, why not? It can't hurt. And it's good to meet the gynecologist. I was like, okay, fine. But of course I wasn't feeling well. I wasn't going to work that day or even that Thursday just to get some rest because your body gets really tense. And so he went to see the doctor. And then she actually noticed a small crack in like the... The sack. The sack where the baby is in. Yeah. The membrane outside that sack had a little... Yeah. And she said that... She prescribed a bed rest for two weeks. Yes, for two weeks. Which for me was very shocking. Yeah. Because I was like, oh, yes, she was like, are you fine? I was like, yes, I feel fine, blah, blah, blah. And then grandma was like, well, you had an accident yesterday. I was like, yeah, an accident. But here are the pictures. Everything is fine. And then she was like, no, let me look myself just to be sure. And then she said, okay, there's a small bleeding. And you had a bed rest for two weeks. I was like, whoa. So what's happening now, though? You keep burping? How often? All day. It's not nice, huh? No. It's supposed to be early morning, but not for me. Fun, fun, fun. It'll be fine. Because I didn't see that coming. And it's weird how it flipped from something exciting to suddenly something very... The responsibility is now daunting on you that, whoa, I mean, daunting on you that... And quite quickly. That, whoa, okay. Anything you do has to be really like, you know... Yeah. I was very, I was a bit sad because I was like, I was sad that because of somebody or because of that situation now something that was very exciting and a happy thing turned into something that is very fragile and might not happen and you get all these scenarios in your head. And two weeks of bed rest is not easy for me too. Yeah. And then I had to travel immediately after. So I wasn't around for the two weeks. Yeah. So yeah, but after all... Luckily, yes. So after two weeks I went back. There was nothing to be seen. Everything was fine. I was very relieved. I cried a little. Not a little. No, you were not there. So you don't know. Yeah, I know. Just a few tears of relief. And there's nothing to be a little. Whatever, you weren't there. And then that was at the time you had left your laptop at security. That was the same thing. Wow. Karma was flying out in it. Wow. This laptop at security. So this pregnant lady asked how to go after the good news to the airport. That's what happened. We're fine. Yes. We've been going and checking up on the baby. Yes. We've been planning. Since the rough beginning. Everything has been... Everything has been okay. Has been good. And we're working on preparations for meeting the baby. And we hope to take you along on that journey as well. Yeah. But this was the beginning. This was the beginning. So now you know the story. Yeah. And we'll end this here before we commit too much. Okay. More. So that... We'll tell them more next time. Yeah. We can share more with you in our next video. Yes. Okay. So thank you for listening to us talk about how we found out we were pregnant and what happened a few days after and how we've been managing with all the things that we have to do, the supplements, the hospital appointments and all that. Thank you very much for being here. But yeah. We'll catch you in the next video. My name is Kwame. I'm Elaine. Baby boom. Thank you. Bye. Thank you. Talk to you later. See you in the next video. Stay healthy. Stay well. Bye. Good night. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye.