 When you can make a habit of being present and giving people an opportunity by turning towards those emotional bids and responding, letting that person know that you see, you hear, you care, you're present, goes a long way towards creating the space of true connection, which we'll get into and really talking about empathy. Obviously turning towards is what we're aiming for. Turning away, not a good thing. Turning away is what Dr. Gottman argues, builds that resentment, fosters that feeling of disconnect, that feeling of this person doesn't care about me. So that example of the purple parakeet, right? If you call your friend over to see this bird, you're the bird watcher, look at this purple parakeet and they don't come over. They say, yeah, that's cool. I got to finish my homework. I got to finish doing the dishes. You feel let down. You feel unheard and that builds. And when that's too much, when the checkbook is out of balance, if you don't have a very patient partner, you're going to be partnerless. You're going to be friendless.