 And it's simply flipping the script. If I hit on her during the day, I'm gonna accuse her of hitting on me, which is, hey, Jenny, I thought it was really impressive slash courageous how you randomly approached and hit on me yesterday, Robbie. P.S., Wiley was impressed too, that was my dog. So that was a little bit of callback humor infused with the flip the script line. So this is a lot better than sending the, hey, how's it going? Hey, I'm Johnny, remember me? It's just boring, it's lame. Now, who here knows what a meme is? Hopefully everybody. In April of 2013, I stumbled across a meme. And, hold on, let me go back, so I'll find you guys a meme. That's a meme. Any sort of writing with a picture on it, right? And I realized that one of my favorite ways to text girls was using memes. The beauty of a meme is that you can say, the meme does the talking for you. So you can send ridiculous pictures with words saying exactly what you want without being guilty of saying that thing. And I'm gonna come back to memes in a second here because they're one of the secrets to becoming really, really awesome in your communication. So, before I do, the pillars of a text conversation. What most guys do, and Brent Smith talked about this, is they text way too much. They just bomb the girl with information. They bomber with irrelevant details, silly things. The worst thing you can do in a text conversation is have a conversation that you would have in person. That is not what texting is for. Texting is for two things. It's for flirting, reminding her why she liked you, flirting, and setting up face-to-face meetings. That's it. Until you're in a relationship, until you guys have that familiarity, until you've had sex a few times, that's the only reason why you should be texting a girl. Either for flirting and to remind her when she's meeting you, setting up the date. Why text? Self amusement, all right? If all of your texts come from the mindset that you're having fun, you're amusing yourself, and this is not something serious, you met her, you hope to take her out, you hope to have fun with her, you hope to hook up with her, et cetera. But if you don't, it's no big deal, and you're gonna be amused no matter what her response is, even if she doesn't respond, you're gonna have fun with this, and you're gonna be a lot more likely to succeed with those girls that you get their numbers. Quantity, less is more, don't text, don't text too much to talk about nothing. So I have a buddy, his name's Joel, and I hope he watches this video because he needs to know this, and no matter how many times I tell him, I can't beat this into his head. Anytime he'll meet a girl, he'll have a text conversation that's longer than the Torah scrolls. You could launch this thing out, it would go all the way from here to the end of the room, and it'll just be back and forth, mindless whatever, how's your day, how was your weekend, what's going on, she'll be telling him a life story, he'll tell her life story, and it will never result in a date. This guy will spend hours and hours and hours texting back and forth to never see girls. And I'll show you guys how easy it is, you can literally text her two or three times, and that's all you need. So remember, it's all about investment. I use this term a lot. If you're investing more than she's investing, you're chasing her. You want that level of investment to be 50-50. And if you can get to the point where she's chasing you, even a little more than you're chasing her, well then you're in the driver's seat. You can totally control where you want to take that interaction. So, I'm gonna talk about frequency as well. If you text her on a Thursday at 2 p.m. and she responds to you next Monday, and you text her back one second later, what does that show? It shows that you're investing a lot more than her, right? If she responds to you instantly, and you respond to her instantly, well now you're on the same playing field. So you don't have to play games, you don't have to wait three days to text a girl because someone told you that you should. But the communication back and forth should be equal. It's totally fine to have a real-time text conversation where she goes, you go, she goes, you go. But if you respond to every single message within two seconds and she waits three hours, you're never getting a date with that girl. And another thing that you can do to see if you're in, to see how much she likes you, to basically tell if you're good or not, it's really simple. If I look at someone's phone and I pull up a text thread, all I have to do to know if that guy is getting a date is look at, I call it the bubble test, all right? So the texts on one side should be about equal to the text on the other. You guys probably can't see that, but if you look back and forth, there's a pretty much an equal amount of texting going on on each side. And if I look at a guy's phone and I see all blue on this side and very little gray, I know he's dead. I know that's never gonna result in a date. That's all I have to see. That's it. So I covered memes a second earlier. I'm gonna talk about those a lot. Emojis. If you use too many emojis, you'll look really gay. I try to keep it to one emoji for like every two or three texts at the most. All right, don't be the emoji guy. Girls love emojis. Let them use emojis. Don't use too many emojis, you'll look silly. Punctuation and grammar. Don't miss spell stuff. If you use your instead of you are, you'll look like an idiot. Whenever you're communicating in a nonverbal way, be very aware of your intelligence level. You gotta make sure you come across sort of legit. If she thinks you're a total dunce, that's going to kill your chances. So be very aware of your grammar. Don't use too many emojis and memes. So I'm gonna go through this text message thread. This was posted by one of my clients in our group. And it's funny, because at any one time, I'm usually texting somewhere in the neighborhood of 150 to 200 women. Now these aren't girls that I met. These are girls that my clients meet and they post a screenshot in the group and they say, Robby, what should I say to this girl? You can ask Patrick and Tyler and Kevin, the other guys in this room. There's a ton of questions that are purely, how do I respond or what does this mean? She said this, I said this, where do I go from here? And I tell the guys all the time, the best way to become a really good texter is to let someone who's really good at texting text for you. And you'll realize that texting is, it's just pattern recognition. Just like a lot of this stuff is when it comes to meeting women and learning game. So I got good at texting by having a buddy of mine who was way better at it text for me. And I realized what he was doing. I saw a lot of great text that he used. I just copied those. And you obviously want to add in your own personality. You want to be authentic. But in terms of where you are, where you're stand, how much love she's giving you, there's a lot you can learn from having someone else help you through that process. And it's great because it's so easy to do it. Let's talk about this. This is an interaction with Nancy T. He sets up a date. You can't see the text from the beginning, but he sets up the date and he says, meet 8.30 tonight by Parkside Dorms. Hey, Smiley, I might have to work, brownie. I will text you around 3 p.m. to let you know. For sure, happy. Don't use too many emojis. I'll see you look like this girl. He responds, okay, sounds good. So far, so good. Okay, sounds good. Not pressuring into the date. Not jamming her to see if she's going to be available at a different time. Fine. She texts back, hey, I won't be able to make it today. Sorry, hopefully some other time. She's flaking, okay? If a girl flakes on you the first time, it's usually not a good sign. I find that if I get flaked on for the first date, the odds of seeing her ever on a first date drop down to around 25 to 50%. So it's already a bad sign. But how you handle it is whether it's going to go between 25 and 50 or down to zero. All right, if you handle it poorly, it's going down to zero, I promise you that. His response, it's chill. Good, perfect, fine. No pressure, all good. Okay, thanks. He waits a few days and he sends her this. Hey, how was work slash your weekend get into any trouble, smiley? This text as whatever as it seems harmless, this actually killed him. This text is the kiss of death. And the reason why he will never see this girl again unless he bumps into a red. Find it out, find it on the YouTube channel. But you can find him at interconfidence.com and his name is Robbie Kramer. Let's come on up. Until you're in a relationship, until you guys have that familiarity, until you've had sex a few times, that's the only reason why you should be texting a girl. There's no way he's getting this girl out. She already flaked and now she feels badly that she can't give him another time. ABC or tell you to jump off a bridge, which is funny. She doesn't feel that pressure to have to, she doesn't have to feel bad about letting you down. And if you can get a girl to, if you can create a situation where she doesn't feel pressure to let you down, you're going to do amazing with women and you're going to give them options and they're usually going to pick the option that you want.