 You know how when you save a game and the game goes like oh don't turn off the power and if you turn off the power the file gets corrupted and you have to delete it and start over again? I believe that when depression hits you your file is corrupted. Somewhere along the line your file got corrupted and now you're living in this world that's corrupted ass safe file where every s*** is f***ing terrible and dark and there's no way out and you gotta just delete that s***. Sky Williams just came back with his series Slayin Mayware he answers a bunch of people's questions and a lot of them were about depression and he gave some very good advice about depression as well as a little bit of bad advice so let's break this thing down. What is up everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health and what I like to do is pull different topics from the youtube community to try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being so if you're into that kind of stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell so before I get started like I gotta keep myself in check and I love all of you for keeping me in check like I know kind of my thing on here is talking about different things going on in the youtube community and pointing out different things to try to teach you how to improve but something I'm a big advocate of is humility and staying humble right and this is why I always tell you that you need to keep people around who tell you what you need to hear and not what you want to hear so I've mentioned that we have a discord server it's gonna be linked down in the description comments come join but there is a specific channel in there for video suggestions right and I somebody recommended this Sky Williams video she was like yo Sky Williams did a new video and it's about depression and it's really good and my ego came out to play I'm like you know what I don't even want to make that video I actually tweeted out I'm like I don't think I'm gonna make a video about this but here go watch it because it was a really good video and my reason why here's my reason why right and this is why we need to keep people around to call us out on our bf I was like you know what I'm like I love Sky Williams I love Sky Williams so much and I'm so proud of him but this fool acts like I don't exist so I don't want to make a video about him right and here is what she says to me so in the discord Queen Unlikable says I say go for it he makes some great points and if you think it would make a good video then absolutely plus like you always say it's not really for them although hopefully yes they see it and it helps but the message is for whoever watches the video subscribers and anyone else who comes across the video who may find what you have to say helpful that's how I found your channel honestly so as much as it would be better if he were to acknowledge and see your video if you think the video will be overall helpful then I say do whatever you want and make the video whether he sees it himself or not even though obviously it would be ideal for him to watch it but that's just my humble opinion and I'm like damn it Queen Unlikable calling me out on my own stuff I love it and absolutely absolutely like you guys part of the issue with growing and one of my biggest fears is changing right because I'm always trying to teach you to watch other people and see what happens to them and learn from their mistakes and you see how people begin to grow and change so I need people like all of you like Queen Unlikable in discord to call me out because she's absolutely right I tell you guys all the time this video isn't for the youtubers it's for all of you so in that moment in that moment I got very selfish and self-centered and I was about to deny you guys some mental health advice some really good mental health advice because I'm upset that Sky Williams doesn't acknowledge my existence like how selfish and self-centered is that like real quick y'all get some people get really upset when I call people selfish and self-centered but it's the truth it's the truth and most of the time we don't even realize it and this intro is way too long some of you are gonna complain about it but sorry you just got a little bit of a story time so anyways about a week or two ago I made a video about Sky Williams he came back and I talked about how he overcame depression I'll link it up in the info card very good video I love this dude he's hilarious very unique and I just think he's like a genius with the way that he does his videos he's amazing at editing but anyways I guess he had a series I never saw it before it's called slay and a and he lets people ask him questions on twitter so he's back and he finally and he came back with a series and a lot of people ask him questions about depression and there's some very good tips in there and I want to break it down and explain why these are good tips and give you kind of like the therapeutic as well scientific backing for some of them it wasn't just one thing that happened in my personal life that was bad what depression kind of does is it takes your mind and just and then puts it back in your head it's a vicious cycle and it's gross but not everything that went bad was because of depression right I mean it certainly wasn't depression that made youtube strike me for no reason that is an excellent point that is an excellent point and this is why it's important to understand what depression is and why I make so many videos that aren't just about like mental illness as a disorder like so much of our mental health is based on just life circumstances so it's awesome that sky pointed out like a lot of what he was going through was depression but some things were just like yo that sucked like you guys sometimes we just get unlucky you know what I mean like right now I don't know if you're gonna hear it but they're like trimming trees right outside that's unlucky that's not my depression you see what I mean it's important to distinguish the two because something I talked to you guys about is this psychological thing called the the locus of control right an internal locus of control helps you with your depression and anxiety because when you have an internal locus of control you believe that you're in control of most of your outcomes so when sky williams acknowledges that not everything was because of his clinical depression now you can start moving and shifting things in your own lifestyle to try to make things better what has been your biggest weapon to fight depression could others use it to alcohol don't do don't use that you shouldn't drink when you're depressed but damn it's fun especially with you with people alcohol psas piss me off so much it's like in my head when I hear like don't drink I'm like alcohol is accessible and fun and in moderation could be a great stress reliever and it brings this together and it makes straight men kind of act a little curious I'm just so I'll be honest this is the only the only bad tip and sky williams was joking but it gives me the opportunity to talk about this saying that alcohol helps depression now you know I don't drink I've been sober for a while that's cool if you drink that's totally cool all right but I just want to touch on this because I just talked about it in my tan emoji um enabling video this goes back to the habit loop like for example did you know the leading cause of addiction whether it's alcohol or suck or drugs like it's a mental illness and one of the reasons is because of that habit loop that reason is because of self-medicating so I explained yesterday that the habit loop is a trigger behavior and award reward right and once you go through that loop and lays down a memory in your brain so your brain knows to do that again so what I'm trying to explain is is if every time you get depressed you drink alcohol and you feel better your brain is saying oh okay so the next time I feel depressed drink alcohol and I'll feel better and you keep doing that that's how a dependency is created because your brain is training itself to go for a substance every time you feel a certain way all right this is why a huge part of treatment is cognitive behavioral therapy and what that is is swapping out an old unhealthy behavior with a new healthy one I made it kind of like a mission every month I want to find an rpg or really any game that I like that I normally wouldn't pick up and I want to beat it from start to finish and what really helped me is that when I finished a game when I accomplished it it really helped me put small goals into perspective because it's really easy to look at everything you're doing and be like well oh that's just so much oh there's so many things but when you beat an rpg like that or when you beat a video game like the game will teach you small steps and large steps and you get a bigger sense of accomplishment especially when you're finished oh my god oh my god sky williams I love you like this is what I keep telling you guys this is what I keep telling you guys and I'm so glad you brought up video games okay something I've mentioned in a lot of my videos is if you want to work on your depression set up small achievable goals for yourself like I always say you don't have to do everything just do something so something I always say is like just you know get out of bed just take a shower that day just like clean one room of your house do something because when you set up small achievable goals your brain actually gets little spurts of dopamine and serotonin which helps you get out of depression so sky williams talks about how he's made it a new mission of his to get a video game every month that he hasn't played play it all the way through and beat it and that's an accomplishment like you guys do understand do understand what we're saying like you can literally if your goal is to play a video game then do it like I don't care if you want to read for an hour that day I don't care if you want to beat a video game I don't care if you want to knit crochet meditate set up small achievable goals for yourself they can like this is why you craft them to what you're into and this will help your depression okay youtube started to look like fox news and I was like hmm I just felt this compelling need to try to make youtube fun again in any way that I can and making content is one of those ways so I'm here this right here is great and I can really relate to that so sky williams is kind of back because he found this like call to action okay now I will say real quick you got to find a balance between like trying to save everything or your ego getting in the way thinking like oh I'm going to save youtube because the platforms you know there's so much negative content but we got to look at these things as a call to action so I'll share my personal experience it started when I used to go to meetings back in the day I still go to meetings sometimes but okay when I would go to meetings and I'll go to meetings and they were just such a bummer right like sometimes people were just in there and all they were talking about was the problem and no solution and I mean 12-step meetings by the way these weren't like work meetings but anyways people were just talking about the problem and like I was very self-conscious and had social anxiety and I didn't want to share but it was suggested to me that maybe that feeling I'm getting is a call to action like maybe I should be the one to share and maybe shift the momentum of that meeting maybe shift it from being this like downer negative meeting and shift it into that positive kind of swing of things right so I've taken that philosophy and I've used it in the rest of my life like one of the only reasons I have this channel was because I was so sick and tired of seeing like different websites out there that were just like talking about the problem with mental illness and giving no solutions no suggestions at all I was tired of watching YouTubers out here just talking about depression and giving no solutions at all so I've made this channel and I have my little tagline we talk about the problem but focus on the solution because I saw a problem and I wanted to help with it right this is something I mentioned a long time ago in a different video but my my view on complaining is I do not complain about anything unless I'm willing to do something about it so I'm not going to sit around whining and complaining about other YouTubers or other websites or whatever it is unless I'm actually willing to do something about it so that's why I started this channel so think about that in your own life like what what is something that's causing you turmoil what's something that's making you depressed what's something in this world right like maybe it's your neighborhood maybe it's family maybe it's you know whatever it is just think of something if you don't like it do something about it look at that as a call to action to make this world just a little bit better of a place at josh spiker I ask this as a longtime fan and someone is rooting for you in career and life in general what's different this time uh-oh what separates this combat from the five or six other times you've quit and come back damn okay you're right all the best love from Seattle yeah man he just caught me he's like oh I've seen this before this is one of my favorite questions and it's so interesting like you guys know how my brain works kind of I'm always trying to find these like similarities I try to teach you guys find the similarities rather than the differences this question that sky williams got about like what's different this time what's different about your depression this time like I can relate to it with my addiction right as somebody who had multiple relapses as somebody who constantly let my family down as somebody who constantly let my son's mother down somebody who constantly let my friends down right how many times did I say I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm gonna change I'm gonna change I relapsed multiple times multiple times right and you know but this last time over you know over six years ago this time was gonna be different when I first got sober I kept telling everybody this time is going to be different right and people were asking me the same thing that they would ask God like what's different what's different and I'm like dang you right like what is different and this is so important this is so important from both sides of this okay but something I always try to teach you is actions speak louder than words okay this is what shows change this is what shows um that you're actually sorry like I can say sorry a million times but like the reality is like you're not going to be able to forgive somebody overnight you're not able to going to be able to see change overnight like so with sky williams case the only thing he can do is prove with his actions how it's different maybe he's taking care of his mental health more maybe he's documenting it maybe he starts therapy the biggest indicator is going to be if he consistently makes videos I've been following sky williams for about a year now and this is the most consistent I've seen him in the entire time and it's just been three weeks right so I can see he's moving in that right direction but for me personally my actions spoke louder than words by staying clean staying sober becoming a better person like for example how many of you have anger issues and you're constantly snapping at people who love and care about you you're like sorry I'm so sorry I'm sorry about that right but then you just do it again you just do it again because you're not doing anything to work on your anger issues so remember that remember that your actions speak louder than words and I I'm really emphasizing this point because I have clients who call me all the time and they say why don't they trust me yet why don't they believe me yet why haven't they forgiven me yet and I'm just like because you're not doing anything or you're just being impatient like especially for people like we've done things for years we've done awful things for years like we've done something for years and then we expect somebody to forgive us in like a week like think about that logic real quick especially when you're still holding a grudge against some kid from eighth grade who like stole your lunch or something silly like so remember it's very hard for you to let go of things so why do you expect other people to let go of things that you've done so easily think about that practice a little empathy man I love slamming it's been so long since I've done one and like every every single one of these is like so thoughtful and actually sweet as hell everyone's so nice I'm not saying like oh I don't deserve it or anything but like you know how when you're in trouble with your mom and you're expecting her to like beat you with a fish or just like yell at you but then like she doesn't say anything and you're like well just punish me like please get it over with hit me mom you last but not least um I want to I want to talk about this gratitude that sky williams has not even just gratitude but this kind of shock you know what I mean um that people are being so kind and nice to him when he's you know quote unquote screwing up even though he's dealt with mental health issues like yeah I just made a video about this about um you know how I don't deserve my amazing friends like there's a there's definitely a balance with this because I know a lot of us we struggle with negative self-talk we think we're not good enough and all of that and like we need to realize like like sky williams just has a very caring compassionate audience he has people who are right or died they have people who understand and empathize and we need to accept that from people we need to accept that people love and care about us and forgive us and give us second chances you know what I mean because some people who don't forgive us and don't give us a second chance like sometimes we don't deserve it but sometimes they don't deserve us either and it's just better that they're out out of our lives right sky williams was close to a million subscribers he's lost a ton of subscribers but now he has a chance to rebuild with a very solid fan base who loves what he's doing you see what I mean so be willing to accept the forgiveness that people give you if they do forgive you okay use their love like it's a cliche old saying a man neo made a song about this a while back but let them love you until you learn how to love yourself and another plug for the discord server come join the discord server okay because that is a place where we give you love and we'll love you until you learn how to love yourself all right but anyways let me know down in the comments below are there any of these depression tips that you can use or anything that you can relate to all right or let me know this what is that small achievable goal that you're gonna give yourself on a weekly basis or a daily basis or a monthly basis are you gonna read are you gonna play a video game are you gonna meditate what is your small achievable goal that you're gonna do all right many ways that's all I got for this video if you liked this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos and a huge thank you to all of these beautiful people we're signed up over on 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