 Hello Welcome to dare to dream. This is Debbie dashing her my pleasure to be with you I have a special show today It's special to me in my heart and I think by the time we're done You're gonna see why it is a special offering to you as well something that Can ostensibly help you or anybody you know who's going through a tough time. It's interesting because I Think I was last week was dr. Sue mortar and we ended up having a conversation She was actually giving some amazing exercises to help people to get through a difficult time and was actually very potent exercises and The one thing we she and I both wrapped up with is you know into everyone's life Something something's gonna happen or a bunch of things are gonna happen Trees gonna fall in a house people are gonna lose money. Look California fires recently. We just lost our radio station it burns and And I'm just gonna mute all the people who are here And if you would all mute yourselves, that would be great because I hear lots of stuff And I want the audience Jenna. Maybe if you can mute yourself here, I'll meet you Etc and Kim as well. I'll mute you fantastic So you could all unmute yourselves when I'm ready to bring you in but you see these beautiful faces They as well have been through something in their life and they were brave enough to step up to the plate when they heard the call for an anthology book called I am still here trials turned into Transformation and they were willing to pull back the curtain and tell the story about the time in their life That was probably quite excruciating and they weren't sure they were gonna get through or the person They wrote about was gonna get through and yet somehow like all of us one step at a time through the dark night Of a soul made it through to the other side I'm guessing and I'd like to find out from them a little bit later that one of the questions I have is how did your life change? 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I am still here trials turned into transformation It is an international best-seller and it is available on Amazon and I'm going to welcome the authors all too dear to dream and You can go ahead and unmute your beautiful selves And I'm also I'm co-unmuting. I'm co-co clearing you So anyway folks Well, first I just want to welcome you to dare-to-dream and thanks for being here. Just say hi to everybody This is like the Brady Bunch on It's amazing, I don't know who Jan is and all that and who little Cindy is But you know you guys I mean I first just want to acknowledge you for having been brave enough So let's start there. What what what happened for you when? You read or you saw the Facebook live or you watched my videos somewhere where I said I'm creating a book And I want people who have a real story to tell We're willing to tell the story about something in their life or someone else's life But a very difficult time they went through and how they got through the other side What was the call inside of you Merilee? I want to start with you. Oh Okay, so start with me. What was the call? You know what? It's the perfect opportunity Lay the foundation to where my message started. So, you know, everything is whatever the question Love is the answer. And if you put me to the test, I'll show you the way And so what this book does is tell you, you know, yeah, I've been through my stuff and at each test I've had to apply love and believe in it and the outcome was phenomenal Thank you. And how about you spike? Basically for me it was meeting you at a media podcast and seeing how honest fresh you were And so I realized if I'm teaching CEOs and business leaders how to tell story and and move their businesses To greater profits than I'd better get on the same bandwagon and tell my own story So and I did have a story to tell them and that's what's come out in the in the book Beautiful. Thank you. Thank you. Kim. How about you? What was the call that brought you here? Oh? Wow, you know, I think it was just that it was so My story is really raw and I've never My business and my life calling has just taken off since this event happened that I wrote about and I just I've never actually Yeah, I don't know something about your the way you presented it. I went wow. I have to finally tell Everyone how this all began, you know where I really not that I haven't been doing my calling for most of my adult life but something about this event just Made it take off and and I just felt really you know called to tell the story of where it all started Oh my god Yeah, the theme that's coming out here because before we go and I just have to reflect and say You know, that's really saying something what you're hearing here, and I hope there's an inspiration right there. It's true, right? We're called dreams are expensive Visions are bigger than we are always and we don't know we don't know But the only thing we know is that there's something in our belly or wherever it is you feel it in your body That's a hell yes and the moment you allow that hell yes to guide you forward Then everything that's magical and miraculous will unfold it really is being presented to you for great reason if you'll step into it I say Screw fake it till you make it right doesn't like it Forget it. I hate that saying Here's the deal step into who your future self already is so when you get that calling It's your future self saying here. I am I'm leading you here Let's go those who resist and stay behind and machinate and try to figure out I can't because of this and I can't because of that. I'm so worried. I'm so anxious and but You really destroy the energy like it has to be almost with the innocence of the child to move forward And it is there's a reason why they call it blind faith You're really moving forward. Maybe in spite of whatever you're thinking in your head So kudos to the authors I want to keep going but I had to reflect on how powerful that is right there and curry What about you my dear? What was the calling that made you feel like I have to be part of this book? Can you hear me Debbie I hear you great Really you because when I met you many years ago It was in access consciousness classes and I was working so steadily on coming out of my own tragedy coming out of my own I would say I guess machinations you know who am I and what do I choose to be in the world and When you reached out to me with this I actually have my book finally after five years is six years in the formatting stage and you reached out to me And I went oh my gosh, the universe has my back This is my first action for me to be honest and say okay here I am so I'm just getting started and I'm so grateful Debbie that you reached out to me and even though I've been doing smaller classes all over the world teaching and Facilitating people to be them. I Needed to facilitate myself and you were the beginning for me to help facilitate myself And see that's another very cool thing seeds can be planted years earlier And you never know and curry and I have known each other for Seven years I'm thinking so yeah, you just never know where Relationship is going to lead and how you can help each other up give each other a hand Erica, how about you? What called you to this book? Hi? Well, it was you again. It's the others same thing. It was you Debbie I met you at a small little speaking engagement and and I saw you and I just knew that this was something I had to do I'm an infant in the whole Consulting world and as with others leading other executives and telling their story And I'm brand new at this and but I have gone through so much in my own life I just said I'm going to be authentic from the start and I'm going to tell my story from the start and of course Debbie facilitated that and and I was just ready I was ready to say what I had to say and and you gave us that opportunity and it was just again I've heard it through the others the universe has your back everything aligned perfectly and and me just being able to have that Platform through you Debbie has been absolutely phenomenal As an aside Erica is calling her consultant firm in its infancy But if I could just had they just landed a government contract, so I don't know how baby it is Impressive right I am a little I am now a certified small business through the state of California So I am I am landing government contracts So it's just again, but it's just everything, you know when you're ready to be your authentic self as you have Let all of us to be authentic selves. So many more doors just open Exactly mom right and Brenda darling, how are you from the UK? Tell me darling, what was your calling? What brought you here? Well, this is gonna sound like a broken record. Isn't it? I'm gonna say the same thing as other people. It was meeting you Propelled me forward, but for years. I've been thinking I am fed up of actually just being and under the stone, you know hiding Stone I needed to get you know, get out Just push the stone out of the way and get out there and share my message because a lot of people have been telling me You know, how much I inspire them how much I motivate them How much I'm out there for everybody and My previous profession was very much about giving, you know, I was in social work for a long time So I've only been in coaching full-time. That is for the last three years and Something just propelled me, you know to really really just You know, be visible you got nothing to lose share your message and And I know that I want to share my story if I just inspire one person to take that first step I mean, you know, there is a saying isn't there that you know The journey of a thousand miles Just that single step If you just manage to take a single step, you're off or you take off and I feel now I've got, you know The wind beneath my wings and I'm ready. I'm ready to share my story And that's what brought me to this, you know, to this book and I'm knowing that I'll be safe in your in your in your hands And you know, and you just pushed me even when it felt that I was getting out of my comfort zone Which is a good thing is some way. Mm-hmm. I agree. It really is. It's okay to go or you've never gone before And Jenna hi great to have you here, what was your calling that caused you to want to step forward and participate and write a chapter? Okay, maybe we lost Jenna. All right. Um, so I'm gonna move forward Keisha. Hi. Hi, Debbie Yeah, so for me it was actually a referral from my intuitive advisor and she sent me your video And she's like she should take a look at this video and I've as soon as I saw you on the video I felt instant connection. I was like, all right She's gonna help me birth so many things into you know, that I've been manifesting From years exactly what you said it's all about planting the seed and many of these seeds for me have been planted about five six seven years ago And now everything is coming into fruition and I just like I said, I felt that connection and it was like, yep This is it. You are the person Yeah, at least I hope you're getting gooseies like I am. I'm like I'm on fire Everybody this is like inspirational talk best here great Sally welcome to dear to dream. It's so awesome to have you And let's unmute you and have you share. What was your calling? Well, I saw you at two conferences in a row last year and the first one I told us right And I knew I had a book in me and I didn't feel like I was quite ready So when I got your email about this, I'm like, this is it. This is my beginning And I had this story that I've wanted to tell And it's taken me time to get to the place where I was really ready to do it. So everything just aligned So here I am That's a such an amazing Reason why to do this and I'm glad Sally talked about it So the listeners viewers know That there are many people out there who want to write a book and the statistics are not good 85 percent of people who want to write a book never will and then there's even a percentage out of that the ones who Quote-unquote are going to move forward and they'll start the book and they'll never finish it So I got to tell you like get a book writing coach do something that's going to create accountability So you move forward and create that dream And why that was important too is because often it's for some people not everybody But for some people the idea of taking on a full book is too much a it may not be their calling for b It just may be too big, right? You don't need the whole buffet But maybe you just need a planner and often doing a chapter gives you A lot of view and experience of how to do this and a lot of confidence that you got this So it's a great reason to do that and I love that she brought it up also because Because of this book and because of one of the participants who's not here today who was in the military He approached me and said I want to do a book for vets Next year early next year was starting in january. It's going to be anthology for veterans So if anybody's been in the military or has had family in the military and has a story to tell You can go to this website debbie d dot net slash anthology. It's de bbi God no, what is my name de bbi? Flash anthology And you'll see everything there, of course You can also email dare to dream radio at gmail.com if you're interested in doing a chapter So that's going to be very exciting and you know, the right things always come always come in the right time And I think the only person we have not gotten if I'm correct at this point is jenna Okay, jenna. We're ready for you girl Okay, we can't hear her and now you're not muted here So I think you're muted somewhere. Ah It's on your cell phone. Now you're good to go I love it. That actually is a great intro for what I wanted to share Give an opportunity to laugh um and make something really positive out of a tough situation You know, which is what we're all talking about. So yeah, I was a clear yes before you even asked really debbie I was a yes before you even asked um you and I had gone through a year long personal and professional development programs together Led by marsha weeder also a mystery school, which is really an amazing experience and I Saw how powerful the work that you're doing is and I saw you turn her Book into a bestseller while we were in that program and I was like sunday I am working with that woman and I just didn't know what it was going to be and I didn't know what the book was going to be that I was going to be writing exactly But I really had a strong intention to work with you in capacity at some point So I'm really grateful for that and then coming back to the the hardship piece is you know, I I went through tremendous. I've been going through tremendous losses One after the other really in the last five years and it's been really tough to talk about and to find ways to feel safe to express it and also to feel heard An opportunity for me to find my voice through that and also to recognize that Through the losses have come great Gains have come great rewards and the losses that I've endured Have really turned my life around in many very positive ways and I've created this comedy career for myself that has come from you know saying As I have nothing else to lose and I'm going to do this In the name of you know, the people who can't who can no longer do it, you know, who is specifically my parents who both had comedians in them and now I'm doing stand-up comedy and I'm super grateful for this opportunity and really honored to be with this incredible group of people and What a wonderful adventure to be on. So thank you so much for this opportunity Debbie. Appreciate it. That's great Well, thank you for your bravery. I appreciate that It's deep. It's deep. It's deep. Uh, oh goody. Jeff Jones is here. We've got another male in the house We're already started here and I'm so glad you're here to represent the testosterone part of the We're just I'm going to fit you in right here, which is What happened? How did you hear the call for this anthology and what inside you? What was the heart song that connected you to the call? To write a chapter that said I need to be a part of this book Wow. Yeah Yeah, well the title Really the title I am still here really really touched me because You know, I am still here what I thought about was the journey and You know having been through quite a bit and and and still being connected to that journey And I you know right away just when I've read that Was raising my hand inside I think it's interesting When You are putting something out into the world and I'm sure I'd love to hear from entrepreneurs So anyone who's listening and watching feel free to write comments or send them in But I do think it's very interesting when you're putting something out in the world to watch how people navigate that There are definitely there that contingency of people Who hear I'm offering this and almost before you're done. They're already on the landing page by And that's like so cool, right? And I can point some of you out who were that you were like, all right Where go? Right, there are other people who take time. They're digesters, right? they have to hear the information and go away and And consider it and then come back and they're actually usually a hell yes So I got to just tell you I'm a digester, right? I I am somebody I'm even that way if you're going to say, you know, something happened the other night How did you feel? I don't know that I'll know but I can go away and come back and like have a lot of clarity So this is so cool because that when you're an entrepreneur putting stuff out in the world I think you have to have a lot of A wide berth For everybody and the way they choose to make choices That the right ones will all come around but they do it in different ways and in different timelines As long as they get in before before the deal is closing, of course so I just honor all of you for finding your way to this book and for doing the work You know, it's crazy to have started out together back in august Here we are in december and it's like you've done it, right? You've done it. The rest is just me launching and you sitting back and you know with a Champagne and cigars and and caviar and having a great time on launch that we're celebrating yourself So I I guess what I'd like to know we can really popcorn this and people can just you know, sort of raise your hand and Just speak out. I know it'll be perfect. How do you hope that this book is going to impact readers? What are you hoping that it's going to do? And hi, I'd like to share So for those of you who are listening honestly this book, it's all about getting uncomfortable It's all about being your authentic self and saying i'm okay with that I'm okay with being my authentic self and to be able to share that with others No matter what judgments or what the judgments that we sometimes think that others may have When it comes to ourselves because really and truly at the end of the day the judgments are just a reflection of them and not you So, yeah Beautiful, we're going to come back and get more feedback from the authors on this. Why why read this book? Why to go to amazon and get iam through here? I would suggest that You take take stock of this first. You're listening to dare to dream podcast and tv Go to demi dashinger and get my free gift to you. It's a report Information for your being your business in your book and it's called publicity How to become the go-to expert and be interviewed on media So d e b b i d a c h i n g e r go there and get your free report And if you're just tuning in to the show or just watching the show, this is demi dashinger and dare to dream And i'm interviewing the amazing authors from iam still here trials turn into transformation It's an international bestseller and it's available on amazon get your e-book or a print book today So let's keep going and you don't really have to raise your hands although that was kind of cute. I liked it Stop for an insane like why why would you even why would you give this out as a gift for a birthday for just because for a Holiday, why would you tell your friends and family and database like really you want to read this? What are they going to get from it? I know for me personally I There's a side of my story that people don't really know unless you are literally my best friend or my my my parents so And people there's a handful of people that know my story and the greater circle You know the people that you interact with the network They don't know the whole they don't know the other side of erica. They see the The happy networking. Let's you know, let's talk about business and all this, you know all the time and They don't know that there was a moment where Erica didn't think she was going to pull through So there's uh that hope of giving others Again that hope, you know that while my story is not All that unique that others do go through it and there is a lot at the end of the tunnel It's so powerful The labels that we put on people and the suppositions that are completely erroneous I go to every three to four months There's a this amazing party that was created by this couple specifically grassroots to help people and planet And the most talented people get up they sing they tell poetry beyond the beyonds they Speak about stuff that is just like I mean, they're amazing people They're being interviewed by the new york times and so forth and we're so lucky to be in their company And one of the things that blows me away The most is when you see somebody and no matter what it is you thought Just by looking at someone and how they look That you that you knew about them is when they start lowering the barrier and pulling back to curtain and sharing like for real Whoa, and the stories that come out. It's like, you know, it makes you just so compassionate It's a level playing field out here on the planet There's a lot of people in humanity going through a lot of stuff and you don't know what you don't know So please don't judge each other, you know, and I want to say just uh as an aside Like 10 years ago. I used to do a Workshop, I'm not going to mention it doesn't matter. I used to do this big workshop I did it every year for 10 years. I went constantly Um, and it's not access curry. It's it's completely Don't worry, but you know, there was a bunch of us used to get together There was a fellow Who was gay and I thought he was so funny and I really liked him and I always wanted to be friends with him And he was a big part of this crowd I hung out with but every time he went somewhere He was so cold to me and I could you know at some point you just go You just can't figure out what the hell So I just stopped trying and I just connected with who I was connected with and years later They were showing a video that they had distributed worldwide And it was people talking about this workshop. I'm somebody who had been interviewed for it Little did I know that out of like the Tens of thousands of people involved in this outfit They were going to choose my interview to be the feature and I mean this thing went out all over the world I Strangely a star like I was a speaker for them and I really wasn't I was just being genuine But it what the point is it really elevated my visibility in a very unexpected way And identified me immediately with people. Well, one day we were doing work in this workshop specifically on labels And what we put on people Didn't even belong to them belong to us But we put on people and then we viewed them and interacted with them literally through that filter And we were taking a break and I was walking through because it's giant. There's probably 5000 people who attend and He came right up to me and said I owe you the biggest apology And I said really why is that and he said, you know For years I put a label on you and I said She's just like Pamela Anderson and I had a lot of judgments about who and what Pamela Anderson was And so I related to you through that filter And I've been treating you really poorly because of my judgment of her My judgment of that label and then sticking it on you and I Not only all these years have you shown me something completely different But then seeing this video just now like I'm embarrassed I'm so embarrassed and I was like, oh my god He's so much for telling me Because I never understood what was going on and it was so strange You know, so then I stuff my boobs out in my blonde hair Spitting image You know But it is so powerful what we do and so I really love what Erica just said because it speaks to that You know, she's out in the world as a beautiful woman as a professional as a young latina Representing and like nobody would know so you gotta buy the book to find out her Right Exactly, right. There's a full human in there feel there is she's not a machine. I swear I Okay, so who else wants to say why this book? What are people going to get out of a curry? I got to go to you I feel you right now Well, I am so in agreement with Erica Because the life I've lived has been kind of out in front of a lot of people You know, I've been front page news in a terrible lawsuit, etc, etc And I have kind of kept my own personal life guarded And what I share is some of the real difficult times I had being a single mom and I actually Didn't realize that that was something that could connect with people and I'm really grateful that I've walked into a time in my life You know when you become 60 all of a sudden What other people think isn't quite as important anymore I'm so grateful for the And I'm grateful for you Debbie and so, you know exposing The really tough times and I'm still here and just wait for the next 10 20 30 All right, thank you so much. Hey mark. Welcome. It's so great. You can join us. Thank you. Thank you So I I got to thinking about When I wrote the piece about you know, my life and kind of what what's happened so far I thought, you know, the hardest thing I think we have to do sometimes is just being truly authentic And just honestly just sharing everything from the heart No matter what somebody thinks or feels about it but sharing it from your heart because That's where for me the real connections are found And I've noticed as I network Um, you know, we have the past to think of but we also can be hopeful for the future And I think by writing what we did here We've provided that link for others to connect that way So they have hope for their futures by seeing some of you know The things that have happened to some of the authors As well as and then and then also to be grateful for the opportunity To share it in such the way that we have So I'm I'm just really thankful to be a part of this and to really Feel like I was able to share my authentic self In a in a short paragraph That really defines, you know, what it means to me as well as I hope that there's that same Desire for others to to make that connection with others to their own authentic self. So I've had the really good fortune of reading everybody's story of reading the book from cover to finish and I can promise you that I was incredibly moved and somewhat awestruck learning about everybody and Amazed at how you could gather 13 people and without asking Each one completely different stories. I mean So awesome Right and points of view and stuff and I mean it's just like this A beautiful weaving of a tapestry of inspiration. So I can promise you I I spent Like a weekend just sitting there and reading that's what I love about anthologies too You can do a chapter and put it down and digest and put read a chapter and digest So yeah, I really love all of you and as each of you are sharing I know intimately what you're talking about. So it's very exciting And who else wants to say why this book like why would you give it to somebody? What was the element or piece that you feel You know would really be meaningful to people out in the world to really serve them For me it was basically sometimes you might have to get out of your own way, you know things happen to us for a reason I had four or five different major things go wrong in about less than a hundred days And from there I had to find a way to come back and I still think that that whole journey is still being challenged and put in front of you But what it did do is then change my concept of practice And when you start to practice What you want to achieve and the skill sets that have to come along with that Then the successes that you'll get They they just grow and they continue to grow for the rest of your life And that's what a lot of people after after success, but it's really the the changing of themselves to meet that success Spike tell everybody how early you get up every morning and very quickly. What do you do each morning? I get up at five o'clock each morning from there. I go through a ritual. I call it my divine night It's a process of meditation exercises visualizations and Stepping on rocks and all that sort of stuff you see people do Then I walk down the beach. I normally hit the beach between six and five past six And I'll walk nine to ten thousand steps And I have um when I was practicing my ted talk and all the other stage talks that I do I practice them in various Guises different modes All those steps so i'm on the beach I'm the guy waving his arms around talking sometimes screaming sometimes whispering Sometimes being angry and mad And they go, oh no, there's enough enough What that's done for me is that's put me on stages with you know people like bowiesom Met people like deb She's giving me a ted talk already. Oh, that was on number one bestseller and that was in less than 18 months And please mention how much weight you lost Oh, all right 44 um pounds It's so freaking awesome and by so what so what he's saying is that's as a As a result of the trial he went through and the new choices he made once he was somewhat like totally on the other side And uh, Brenda, I want to go over to you speaking of weight How much weight have you lost? Please let us know and that was part of your journey too like I just I knew you were going to come to me after that. I just Oh dear I've lost them. I lost them almost six stones. Uh, just Under 90 pounds in five months Basically something similar really that and I I experienced so much loss Uh, my parents my two middle sisters and um, and then I I was seriously ill and all happened in a very short period of time And I was working in a very toxic um environment as well But particularly I think the the last thing that that almost tick me over the age is that I I almost Uh, well, I wouldn't be here. I'm still here because I nearly wasn't here and that event really just propelled me to realize that um, if I didn't if I didn't kind of listen to myself to the voice and and really do some mindset work, um and And listen to what the the message is from the universe about what what my life purpose was about Then there would be no point in still being here and basically I started walking. I started power walking I healed myself through power walking and And spike is a pity that we're not in the same country because I could beat you down the beach Because unfortunately I don't have I don't have the luxury of a beach. I'm out I wake up three o'clock in the morning By four o'clock. I've done all my affirmations. I've done my pilates inside the house And as soon as it's like London, unfortunately, it's not like california or whatever you are. We don't have sun You know, it's He's from Australia, but he lives in new zealand. We don't have an accent The point is he's got more sun than me, but you know, you sort of spike different parts of the globe Sorry the different end of the globe, but I do everything that you you know spike was talking about I'm also waving and I count is whatever it is. I'm practicing about and our community Nature talk to trees. So I do all of that in a park You know a national very green very leafy park. I do all and I tell you I found the strength the inner strength The real the kind of tremendous mindset Transformation through that kind of work with myself nobody but myself in my head And I don't know who said somebody else said earlier Get out of your own way because I was fantastic. I had an MBA in being in my own way, you know, I would I'm gonna fix it for it because then I was in my own way And and I suffered you I just said one thing after another and I realized that it's because I was Wait, I was pushing upstream, you know, don't push the river. It does not need it doesn't need pushing You know It doesn't it doesn't ask you to you know, don't push the river Just go go with the flow and as soon as I began to do that Weight loss I had been I had been A star dieter, you know, you name a diet, you know, I've done it, you know, when I was younger And I never would actually sustain the weight loss as soon as I go out of my own way I've lost I lost the weight two years ago I'm still the same way that you know, everybody's just my own sister didn't recognize me You know at the airport when I came back and she just looked at me and she was going to go past I had to again say it's your sister Hello, hello So, yeah, I get up to your own way And really and I think this book that is for me This is the one message from this book that you know, everybody is on The same journey you just happen to be at different stages of that journey We are we are on the journey to transformation We are on the journey to actually be you know, be aligned with our life purpose as soon as you align with your life purpose once you actually stop trying to To do things that are not in alignment with who you are your authentic self Everything becomes a lot easier Everything, you know, it's things just become a lot easier things that is to take me I don't know a whole day to do I do that now and now and people just look at me while I'm trying to put all this energy this terminal this vitality What are you taking people to ask me what little means do you take and I say the same ones that everybody takes Nothing, you know, not much. Yeah, I think you take yes vitamins Brenda because when people read your story And they realize like she was completely incapacitated like she was told she'll never walk again I was so when she says oh, I walking in the park and I wake up at 4 a.m And me and spike are doing a boot camp together We're talking about somebody who could have been a total victim to her circumstances But you know the beauty is and I'll give them another little secret about your story is that you knew And you actually knew the truth before you did what you did in surgery So it's also a story about not listening to your intuition But then no matter what happened your hell yes to life into yourself and creating what you preferred instead So who else who else has not yet gone to answer this question and let's popcorn I'll speak up. I'll speak up. This is Kim And I you know, I guess I'm feeling impelled to speak up because My story was really about um Almost ending my life when I lost my spouse to cancer And after 20 years, um being together And I I don't know what it I just I'm feeling really impelled and I felt impelled to write this story for people who are going through tremendous grief and and that Just the message that you you will get through it You will never forget your beloved or or you know, if you've lost someone and you felt like going with that person but There's something that happens when like you're saying you say hell yes to life And it's it's like you are being moved on this river to get through that depth of sorrow and grief and I I I really um I felt impelled because for those of the people out there are who are going through that amount of grief Just to give the message that you will get through it I mean, so that that's really the main thing I wanted to put forth and gosh I don't even recognize the person that I was even in that relationship. It's interesting Um, I have done so much transformation and I don't know how it's come about But I think it's just like everyone's saying like Brenda was just sharing It's just like you put one foot in front of the other you say hell. Yes, and you just it just happens So I I guess it's a really a message of hope Yeah Um, I haven't said anything Debbie Go for it. That was beautiful. Yeah, that was beautiful. Yeah, beautiful, you know, um To that I listened to all of your stories and I'm so humbled by them And I think to myself. Wow, I can't wait. I can't wait to read them all So, you know, so the question is why would anybody want to read this book after watching this video It's like why wouldn't you want to read this book? I want to read everybody's story You know, I'm I literally I'm so humbled by it and one of the things for me is it takes a lot of courage To write your own story because you know, you're going to be judged by the people who know you Because your story is your story. It's your perspective how you saw it how you lived through it What your frame of mind was while you're going through it? So other people the onlookers who know you when you were going through it have a different perspective maybe You know, they might be like, oh, she's just saying that it wasn't like that You know, and and so the courage is yeah, it's my story to tell you this is this is my truth Right, this is my truth. It may not be your truth, but I lived it Totally so that takes a lot of courage for all of us to come out and say This is my truth and you know now it's out there and I can't retract it Everybody knows so thank you Debbie for that. Oh my god. Thank you so much to say I just want you guys to go and say your piece because I'm really resonating here Who hasn't shared yet? Please speak up louise. Sing out louise And jenna you're probably trying to talk I had to mute you because wherever you are got very loud So I'll unmute you and please let us know what what Why should people pick up this book? We already heard why wouldn't you like exactly like after? Who's not curious what what else? Why is this book magical? Yeah, I really appreciate the opportunity You know, I I agree so much with what so many people are saying here and appreciate vulnerability and Sorry where I am is the noisy place. I'm trying to go to a quieter spot, but it's still a little bit noisy where I am um, you know, I think in in our world today, there's So much information that we get that's really filtered through social media And through the space that we're wanting to present and the truth is that we are all going through something We are all suffering through something that uh, we may be Intolerable or seem to be unlivable, you know, and and that has been my experience as well that's like I don't know if I'm going to live through this. They genuinely don't know um, and so Go get that hope that you're going to survive And that things will get better It's really a spiritual journey in a lot of ways to be able to create that kind of faith while holding hands with All of these magnificence and really exceptional human beings have been through their own version of human suffering Provide it and come to a better place on the other side And now in many ways we can make light of it and enjoy our lives and not only to be survived But we're thriving and having a great time and enjoying one another and going Going deep into the truth of it we are going deep into the truth of it going deep into who we really are and and releasing, you know, some of what we would have is How we would most like to be seen but rather to say like this is my inside and really only my best friends know about this But you can have the opportunity reading this book to really get um Intimate with some human beings who are who are triumphant and braves and um willing to share really authentically Yeah, uh, Totally inspiring and I love what you just brought up man. What a good point, you know social media It's the world of look at me selfie My life is great eating tacos Went to Japan and everybody's sitting back and going man, does my life suck? She's been married quite some time. She's adorable. I love her husband, but you know, they have problems sometimes They're great together, but they also have problems sometimes and her thing with social media is He sees the posts people make about Uh, let's say my somebody's husband has a birthday and it's like, oh my beloved You've changed my life. I would be nowhere without you. You complete me You know the day I met you Boy does it to the girl the girl does it to the girl the girl does it to the girl the boy does it to the boy Whatever the partnership is and she's sitting back going. I don't have that. I don't have that like mama. It's social media It's all hype anyway, you know And it's so easy today to like have that disparity And then my god if you're going through real life circumstances and having real life feelings It's like it's true Like you want to stick it with your inner circle that you know has your back and you can nest in Because outside of that it can be uncomfortable. I totally relate to what you're saying and I think it's actually A phenom that is everywhere right now. So more Karma points a million karma points to all of you for superseding that Still telling your story and moving forward there So now I think we still have sally and jeff to share so sally How about you? Why why this book? Why now? Well, this is a story that I've never really gotten to tell Because everyone else has told me their side of it But it was so It was a very tender place for me for a long time And I had to go through a lot of barriers in my life To be able to really freely express it So for me, this has been amazing to hear all the other authors because I resonate with a different part of each person's what what they're saying And what their challenge was but I think for me what this book offers is for people who are in a struggle and don't See the hope don't see a positive outcome. Don't know what to do next These stories will inspire them to have the courage to see it through To know that all they have to do is keep hoping and stay on their journey of hope And they will get through it and they will be stronger than they were before they begin Whatever struggle they're going through whatever their challenges If you stay in it with hope and love you get stronger Yeah, it's like the choice to just do one more day Even total suckage Or even one more minute Or one more thing one tiny little thing when it's overwhelming Just stay with it and believe there's hope to just do that thing and then look at the next step And that can be so powerful when you're trying to get through something really tough And I think it helps to know that you're not alone and other people have been through big challenges and you can make it We all need that encouragement from each other now and then and I think this book Is an amazing place to get that so I think it will really touch a lot of people and inspire a lot of people So for that reason, I think it's a great book for everybody Thank you We are here And Jeff, how about you? Why this book? Why now? Yeah, so great question The first thing I thought of with this book is It allows people to look through a new lens and the stories that they're reading and they identify with they had the opportunity to See how someone else dealt with a problem perhaps similar to what they're going through and I I mean Myself what I think of is This thing that I've been stuck in for many times. I'm not the only one but it it's kind of like The belief systems from the past and out of that comes my thinking and And that drives my behavior and then I have feelings about my life situation that Go back and reinforce this old belief system and so I I and I think everybody has probably done this circular round and round kind of thing and For me the reason why to read this book is to see how different people Got out of that cycle for themselves. What are the factors? Yep Has everybody gone Debbie I'd like to add one more factor why now and why this book are you gonna want another 40 pounds? No, well, I can do But it it actually comes down together with the positiveness that you've actually put towards the people in the book And your own growth and where you've been to actually guide us along that path And it's really something that's come out throughout all these videos and chats So I think we should all give you a big hand as well because I don't think it'll be As big a success if we had someone different that didn't have the positiveness and the outlook that you do Absolutely, I agree. Absolutely. Yeah, me too. Absolutely amazing. Thank you Yeah, it's been a pleasure working with you Debbie. Thank you Oh Oh my god, thank you. That's very kind. I really appreciate it I want to echo a lot of what I've heard here and just say that For the listeners for the viewers that I came into this just merely to hold a container for authors and The interesting thing is that this was completely inspired by something that almost wiped me out Not quite two years ago About three months shy of two years ago And I literally landed and said I cannot believe I'm still alive I cannot believe that I'm still here like that's all I could think is like I am still here So a lot of what you heard is was so true for me that I went through Just the worst breakup like I wouldn't wish it on anybody And it slayed every area of my life, you know, and you when one goes through that you give me something god Give me something to hang out. It's like a rope. Uh, you know, send me a vest The choppy waters are taking me down And like that was not going to happen like seriously clients money where to live every my health And the ending of that relationship ripped open an original wound for me that Although I've done a tremendous amount of healing work. I mean this got so core And it was terrifying for me to take on because the bottom line was abandonment and can I take care of myself And I never believed any of those So I had to step up to the plate But I mean to do so with all those other factors going on it was dark And I didn't want to be here. I totally didn't want to be here So the interesting thing is I came just as a container for everyone else I went to write the intro thinking. Oh, you know, welcome to the book sort of And my spirit had something else in my My story just started rolling out of me and it surprised me so much But I thought wow, I guess this is this is really momentous for all of us like I have to also say This was the truth of that time for me And I so relate to this because today I feel so much joy. I feel so happy. I was going to bed last night like giggling to myself just me and my dog in bed And I'm happy, you know And there's so much to look forward to I've such an amazing tribe that loves me I god didn't give me all those things for seven months But what god goddess all that is gave me was healers Tons of healers you can't imagine people coming up to me in the middle of workshops and saying I don't really know you and I don't know why but I'm just hearing I have to gift you with like three months of services. I'm like, okay I received Like that sometimes overlapping or one one healer would leave in a whole nother potent healer would come in and I sat back and went Okay, I am loved. You do see me. You do know, okay I get it. I have to let go of work. I have to let go of money. Oh my god. This is so scary and take care of myself So it was such a journey for me as well And the the bottom line for me was you know, and you it's so hard to tell someone while they're in it Like this sucks. This is so dark. This probably feels like it will never get better How will you ever get out? How will your heart heal? How will you feel love again? How will you feel hopeful how will you wake up and want to be here or feel joy and not have that cloud Always over you but man. It's so true when they say time heals all things You put that one foot in front of the other and it's just amazing the resilience that we are So for those of you who are tuning in this is debbie dashinger on dare to dream This is the podcast and tv. I'm interviewing the I am still here authors the subtitle is trials turned into transformational It's an international bestseller available on amazon and I have a popcorn here And I literally would like to ask you for anywhere from one to three words and just shout them out each This is dare to dream. So what are you next dare to dream? What are your future dreams and goals? Where do you go from here? Give me some words international Yep bestseller bestselling author international gut educator global thought leader global thought leader and international bestseller I like that too I Facilitating others in creating a new reality and creating a new earth and a new reality for everyone on it But did you say dreamer of great inspiration and joy? Bringer of great Of great a hope inspiration joy Transformational Possibilities Awesome, thank you. Wow this is I have two words shifting possibilities Is that everyone? I have two bonus words And gives two knives. What is it? healing and heart Healing and heart It seems to me that love is the answer always Love is the answer healing heart and you know for all of you I hope that what you have Chosen the steps you've taken to be so successful here That this is already done You know, this is you just stepping into your future self that this is already like and of course And you just expanding enough to fill that new container because I see that truth easily And profoundly for all of you. I want to thank you for being who you are I want to thank you for being courageous and courage means in spite of fear and courage is a french word By the way for heart So thank you for having the courage to step into your future self and write a chapter and really help those who are going to read I am still here Because for all of us together holding hands going through this coming out the other side and helping the others to pull them up as well It's like when you talk about possibilities This is where you start. This is where you start really showing up for others So it wasn't really for us although it started out for us But it became about you the readers and so this is our dedication and our book to you So authors, thank you so much for joining me today and for your brilliance Today our dear to dream. Thank you And I end with this quote from oscar wild Never love somebody who makes you feel ordinary In the next weeks on dear to dream. I'm featuring jerry sergeant dr. 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